Season 4 Episode 17: “You Don’t EFFing Need Permission!”

In this episode, we speak with Scarlett Longstreet, a madre of 3, who said EFF IT and decided to get out of her marriage before she thought she would. She had known it was over for a one time but was determined to stick through it till her kids graduated from high school. But she realized that she wasn’t able to be the good mom that she always wanted to be because she was in a marriage that she knew was over. So, she got out of it, and even though it was hard, she knew it was the best decision she could make for herself and her kids. What would you do if your child came to you with the same issue that you are currently having? We want the best for our kids, but for some reason, sometimes, we don’t give ourselves that same grace that we need. It’s so important that we follow the advice that we would give our kids! To follow Scarlett, give her a follow at @scarlettlongstreet. 

In this episode, we are flashing back to one of our badass madres, Linda Garcia, who said EFF IT and decided to write her book WEALTH WARRIOR: 8 Steps for Communities of Color to Conquer the Stock Market. Prior to writing this book, she didn’t know about the stock market, but decided to teach herself all about it after an old colleague of hers showed her his stock portfolio. After gaining all this valuable knowledge, she knew she needed to shared it with her community, and so her book and her Wealth Warrior course were born.  You just have to EFFing follow your internal guidance system, and if you are feeling fear, you are on the verge of something. It’s up to you to decide to run from it, or run towards it. But chances are, when you run towards it, your life will change for the better. You can purchase her book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, your local book store or on her website, www.inluzwetrust.com. You will also be able to find Wealth Warrior: The Course, on her site as well. And, be sure to follow her accounts, @inluzwetrust and @luzwarrior on Instagram. Lastly,  if you want to be part of Linda’s community, go to Patreon to join.

In this episode, we speak with Elise Grey, a madre of a little girl, who decided to say EFF IT and went on a trip to Europe that had been planned before she got pregnant. The trip date was set for 2 months after her due date, and although they heard it from everyone in regards to their opinions on whether or not she should still go on this trip or not, she decided she was gonna do it anyone, no matter how different and sometimes difficult traveling with a newborn can be. But, since doing that, she and her family continue to travel, and their daughter has adapted to change very quickly since she’s been doing it since she was 2 months old. Don’t let having kids stop you from living life. Make sure to still make time to do things that you enjoy, and travel if that’s something you love. Because if you are happy, your kids and family will benefit from it! 

We love our flashbacks! We are flashing back to a past episode with an inspiring Madre. We love to revisit past episodes that a lot of you enjoyed. So, here’s a flashback to our interview with Erin Patten. Please be sure to give her a follow on Instagram at @iamerinpatten.

In this episode, we speak with Augie Duke, a madre who decided to say EFF IT when she was getting dismissed by her doctors in regards to a concern  that she had, and decided to keep seeking out other opinions because she just felt in her gut that something was wrong. And, geez, was she right! Had she not said EFF IT and continued to seek out other opinions, the blood clot that she ended up having could’ve taken her life and that of her unborn child, which she had to deliver early due to this concern. And, funny how the universe works, aside from this concern, she also was terrified of the fact that she could possibly not work again as an actor after becoming a mom. But, 5 weeks after having her son, she got an audition for a one time spot, that ended turning into 15 episodes.  Seems like divine timing to us! You just have to trust your gut when something feels off, and believe that you can keep doing what you love, even if it seems impossible. To follow Augie, check her out on Instagram at @dukeaugie, and on Twitter and FB at Augie Duke. 

In this episode we speak with Chanita Fondacaro, a madre of two, who said EFF IT, and decided at 41, to have another child, even though she had thought she would be One and Done after having her first child at 21. It wasn’t an easy go around the second time, but it happened and now has an amazing daughter who’s about to start second grade. Her advice is to just not listen to what society might say if you are older and wanting to start a family. Do what’s best for you, not what’s best for others. To follow Chanita, give her a follow on Instagram at @chanibaby.

In this episode, we speak with Jaime “The Hurricane” Hayes, a madre of two, who said EFF IT and decided to hang up her boxing gloves after over 30 years to focus more on her kids and their life paths. Jaime was able to still follow her passion, despite how hard it was to juggle her career, her kids, their sports and everything else.  She wanted to show them what had hard work looked like, an le that they should never give up on their dreams, no matter what people say. Despite what people may say, keep EFFing going after what you want or need that fills you up. Because if you don’t do that for yourself, you are doing not only yourself a disservice, but to everyone around you as well. To check out Jaime’s gym, please visit www.ontheropesri.com, and don’t forget to give her a follow on Instagram at @jaimethehurricane.

In this episode, we speak with Gila Pfeffer, a madre of 4, who said EFF IT and had a preventive double mastectomy because of the history of cancer in her family. But, it turned out that preventative surgery became life saving because they found early aggressive breast cancer in one of her breasts.  Following her gut in all her preventive measures saved her life, despite how aggressive her approach seemed to others. But it ended up saving her life. You just have to EFFing trust your gut, and do whatever you need to do for you and your family, despite what others might think. Especially, when it comes to saving your life! To get a copy of Gila’s book, “Nearly Departed: Adventures in Loss, Cancer and other Inconveniences, you can go to any retailer where you buy your books (i.e. Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, etc.) or on her site at www.gilapfeffer.com. Also, please give her a follow on Instant at @gilapfeffer. 

In this episode, we speak with Tara Trask, a madre of 2 grown kids, who said EFF IT, and instead of wasting time on dating apps, or getting wrapped up in relationships that can be consuming, she decided to explore the world of male escorts because….why the hell not?! Moms have sex drives, too!  And, sometimes getting it the conventional way just doesn’t fit in someone’s lifestyle.  Men do it, so why can’t women?!  You just have to EFFing do you.  Will you get judge? Probaby.  But, whose life are you living? Yours or theirs?  Remember that! To follow Tara, check her out on Instagram and TikTok at @tara_trask.  And, to check out her daughter’s latest single, “Fallin’,” follow Berta Bunch on Spotify.

In this episode, we are flashing back to some of the amazing Madres, we have had on the show and focus one of the last we ask,  which is “What’s your advice that you would give to another mom or your younger self?” Can all use some effing advice, sometimes, especially from some incredible moms that have gone through some hard, wild, life-changing moments. We hope that it leaves you feeling inspired, and you’re able to take on what whatever advice resonates with you most!