Is It Lust or Love? - 5 Ways to Tell

Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose one of the most misunderstood realities in marriage: the difference between lust and love. Wives know the difference, and they can feel when they are cherished and when they are being used. And if men don’t learn this distinction, it erodes trust, poisons communication, and slowly kills intimacy. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book on The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exorcisms have been around for millennia within the Church. No one outside the Catholic Church has the authority to cast out demons. In this episode, John Heinen sits down with Charles Fraune to talk about the spiritual war most men never see, and the unexpected allies exorcists call on to help them win it. These aren’t tricks or hacks within their toolkit. These are real accounts from modern-day spiritual battles, where demons rage at the names of certain saints and physical relics cause real torment. Charles shares what he’s learned from working with exorcists, what the Church teaches about the saints’ ongoing mission, and why every man needs to claim spiritual warriors to fight for him and with him. You don’t need to be possessed to need a saint. You just need to be in the battle, and we all are. Get the book: The Most Powerful Saints in ExorcismsUse code Gentleman20 for 20% off at checkout. 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men underestimate the war being waged against them. The Devil doesn’t just tempt from a distance; he enters your home, seeking to pull you off your vocation as a husband and father, drown out the voice of God, and divide your marriage. Scripture, the saints, and even modern exorcists confirm it: this is how the enemy works. Yet the vast majority of men are unarmed and frankly unaware. Only 5–10% of Catholic men are even praying daily. Is it any wonder the family is crumbling? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt break open The Rule to expose three subtle but devastating ways demons attack men. We’ll name what’s really happening, why it matters for husbands and fathers, and how you can resist. Get Devin’s new book The Rule: Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

He was a successful trial lawyer, fighting every day in the courtroom and climbing the ladder of prestige, until God spoke two simple words to him: “Just leave.” God also spoke to his wife as well! In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen sits down with Mike Pacer to uncover the No. 1 lesson every husband needs to hear. From leaving behind worldly success, to praying daily for his wife, to finding strength in weakness, Mike shares the raw story of how a man becomes more than a provider. His lived experience is a lesson for us all. And it will change the way you listen to God, the way you love your wife, and the way you lead your family. Find Out More from Mike Pacer Books by Mike Pacer Prayers for Catholic Men Mercy and Hope⁠ The Three Comings of Christ - Daily Meditations for Advent 5 Stones weare5stones.com Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When words don’t work, agreements seem impossible, and distance grows, there are practices every man can begin today, hidden ways that rebuild trust, create clarity, and change the way you lead in every relationship. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John and Devin reveal four hidden ways to win your wife’s heart every time. These principles apply to friendships, family, and work, but they work best where it matters most: in your marriage. They’re not gimmicks or tricks, but the kind of invisible leadership Christ Himself modeled. They never teach this… but it works. 📖 Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many husbands confuse authority with control, and it’s slowly killing trust in their marriages. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack why your wife resists your leadership, how control is a counterfeit of true authority, and why authority, rightly lived, is a God-given responsibility that blesses and gives life. You’ll hear practical examples of the appropriate use of authority versus control over your spouse in spiritual life, finances, and parenting, along with the deeper fears that drive men to dominate or withdraw. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to lead with sacrificial love, preserve your wife’s dignity and free will, and rebuild trust even when your leadership has been rejected. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠ 🔴 Join Catholic Gentleman+ – 30 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 30 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, John and Sam are excited to announce a new host to our show, Devin Schadt. He will be joining us weekly to answer the tough questions that men face and add to the depth of knowledge and discussion. This week we talk about warning signs that your wife is not feeling loved. We open up about what we have each learned about truly loving our wives and the many ways that we have failed. We then go into the importance of this topic and how by understanding the nature of women, we can be the husbands they need and the husband God is calling us to be.  Finally, each week we are going to answer one of your questions during the podcast. This week we have a question from a father about how to be present to his kids after a long and exhausting day at work. If you have any questions, please, record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip to ⁠[email protected]⁠. Or just send us your question and we will read it on air.  Warning Signs - https://catholicgentleman.com/2023/01/your-wife-doesnt-feel-loved-8-warning-signs Watch all 1h 40mins of episode 130 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 FREE HANDMADE ROSARY THIS MONTH ONLY (This in addition to the book, leather keychain, and incredible content) Catholic Gentleman+ - https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 🔴 Help Support the Catholic Gentleman - https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many men think staying in the marriage is enough. They don't cheat, they provide, they avoid conflict, but is this all there is to marriage? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the silent drift that leads so many marriages to die long before anyone leaves. They unpack what 73% of divorcing couples identify as the root issue, and redefine it in light of Scripture, covenant commitment, and the honest purpose of marriage. The conversation dives deep into what it truly means to lead, to suffer with, and to sanctify through your vocation as a husband. If your marriage feels stunted, strained, or disconnected, let's discuss how marriage can be your ultimate glory. Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive access to 29 sessions on marriage, fatherhood, prayer, and spiritual warfare:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when every conversation with your wife seems to go sideways, even when you're trying to do the right thing? John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down to expose the hidden habits that slowly destroy communication within marriages. With spiritual clarity and lived experience, they unpack how small patterns, like avoidance, assumptions, or rushed “fixes/hacks", can consistently unravel trust between husband and wife. Instead of playing defense, this episode shows men 5 ways to take responsibility for the tone, clarity, and direction of the most important conversations in their home. We discuss how resentment breeds in the silent darkness of unmet needs. Because a Catholic husband doesn’t just talk, he leads. And that starts with the next conversation. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the biggest threat to your family isn’t outside your home? John Heinen sits down with Andrew Laubacher, musician, speaker, and Executive Director of Humanality, to expose how your smartphone has been reshaping your attention, your memory, and your children’s brains. With billions of dollars behind it, Big Tech wasn’t designed to serve you and your family. It was built to capture your time, shape your habits, and replace real relationships with curated digital ones. In addition to helping you protect your family from these devices, we also discuss how to protect them from your own temptations (distraction, pornography, passivity, and escape). Instead of giving in, Andrew offers a path to reclaim attention, rebuild you and your home’s culture, and start living again. From flip phones and dopamine detoxes to tech-free dinners and digital plans of life, this episode challenges every man to lead his family out of this trap and into reality. Explore Andrew’s mission – https://www.humanality.org QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠ 🔴 Join us inside of Catholic Gentleman Plus – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices