EP 32: Greg Tomchick - How Do I Create Self Trust, Healing & Resilience After an Identity Shift?

There are so many nuances that come with dating and today on the Aligned Love Podcast, matchmaker and coach, Nora DeKeyser joins us to discuss her career, her dating life, and somatic therapy! Tuning in, you’ll hear about our incredible guest’s business, what her coaching sessions look like, the dating culture shock she experienced when she moved from the city to the South, and so much more! Noa even shares some tips for women in their mid-30s looking to make connections on dating apps before sharing the impact of somatic therapy. Finally, our guest tells us what aligned love is for her and what we can expect from her in the future. Thanks for listening!Key Points From This Episode:Welcoming today’s guest, Nora DeKeyser. Her career as a matchmaker and deciding to pivot into coaching. What coaching typically looks like for Nora.Nora tells us about the culture shock that comes with dating in the South. Some tips for women navigating dating apps in their mid-30s.Nora shares the deep impact somatic therapy has had on her and dating. What being in aligned love means to Nora.How to connect with her and what’s next in her career. Quotes:“[Coaching is] like magic. That’s what it feels like. It’s just so much fun.” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:05:20]“Be so specific – on your [dating] profile!” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:20:19]“For me, [aligned love] means my heart is open enough to be guided by something bigger than myself.” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:28:51]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Nora DeKeyser on LinkedInNora DeKeyser on InstagramNora DeKeyser on XNora DeKeyser on TikTokNora DeKeyser Email AddressThe Aligned Love Attraction FrameworkLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

Have you ever felt drawn to someone based on their appearance but can’t quite put your finger on why? Well, today’s guest on the Aligned Love Podcast, Brian Galke, is a facial decoding expert who joins us to share exactly what our facial features reveal about compatibility. In this conversation, you’ll find out what you can tell about someone from their facial expressions, how that relates to attraction, why you need to understand what your face says about you before trying to decode others, and more! We also dive into how you can tell if a couple is a good match based on expressions. There is a lot of shame around physical augmentation, and in this episode, it’s a must listen.Key Points From This Episode:What our faces and facial expressions tell us about people. How these expressions relate to being attracted to people. The importance of understanding what your own face projects.How to tell if a couple is a good match based on facial expressions. Deciding how you want to be portrayed through your appearance. The four basic human needs we all want to meet. Links mentioned in todays episode:Brian Galke on LinkedInBrian Galke on InstagramBrian Galke EmailSubtle SkillsSubtle Skills Courses and ResourcesGet your FREE Subtle Skills Cheat SheetLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

There is freedom in letting go of the life and love you imagined for yourself and allowing your dreams to evolve as you do instead. In this episode of the Aligned Love Podcast, Christin Henke joins Lauren to discuss her new dating life and some lessons learned throughout her years of searching for “the one.” Tuning in, you’ll hear all about what dating has been like for Lauren since the end of her last relationship, how vastly that differs from dating five years ago, why she’s abandoned her dating checklist, and more! We dive into the universal fear of not finding love and the life you envisioned for yourself and talk about what it means to let that go. You don’t want to miss this one so be sure to tune in now!Key Points From This Episode:Welcoming Christin Henke back to the podcast. Lauren tells us what it’s been like to get back into dating. A story about Christin’s neighbor, sex, spiders, and salmon. The dangers of dating someone based on a checklist.How Lauren’s attitude towards dating has changed recently. Signs that you are breaking your dating patterns. Why we’re always evolving and the importance of a lifelong student mentality. The universal fear of not finding the love and life you think you will. Breaking out of a pattern of misery and surrendering to peace.Quotes:“Do I want a life that looks good or do I want a life that feels good?” — Christin Henke [0:19:27]“There are so many people in the personal development space who preach that they have it all figured out and the truth is, nobody has it figured out!” — Christin Henke [0:34:51]“It’s not giving up on your dream to acknowledge that we are going to keep moving, [growing, trying, being curious, asking questions, and evolving] even if we don’t get that thing.” — Christin Henke [0:41:13]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Christin Henke on InstagramChristin Henke on FacebookChristin Henke SubstackLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

So many women are waiting for a man to give them a ring! But they’ve also done a lot of healing work to come home to themselves. How beautiful would it be if a woman could design her own legacy piece? Following on from her last visit to the podcast, jeweler Margot McNaull designed a Legacy Ring for Lauren. The ring is deeply personal to Lauren, representing a letter she received from her grandmother about being a strong woman. Join us as we discuss the deeply meaningful act of buying long-lasting jewelry for yourself, and why women need to know that they deserve it. Hear all about the process of creating a piece for yourself that is representative of your journey, and why it’s not a replacement for any ring you might receive from a man, but a deeply personal act of self-love to pass along to generations of women to come. Thanks for tuning in! Key Points From This Episode:The Legacy Ring that Margot and Lauren created together.How Lauren and Margot first met. Why Margot’s approach to jewelry is so personal. Lauren’s experience of receiving her Legacy Ring from Margot. The letter and thoughtful packaging of the ring’s delivery.What it really means to have a legacy and why a ring can be representative of this.Margot’s insights on the Indian tradition of women's purchasing journey for themselves.Her dedication to changing the narrative around self-love What Lauren and Margot are working on together.Who a legacy piece is for and where to get started with yours.Why the process is so personal and meaningful. Understanding that it isn’t a replacement for a wedding ring, but something for yourself. Where to see the amazing piece that Margot created for Lauren. Quotes:“What’s really beautiful about this experience [is] that I’ve always seen into people. They come to me for a piece of jewelry, but I actually see them.” — Margot McNaull [0:04:02]“One of the definitions of a legacy is taking from the past what you want to bring into the future.” — Margot McNaull [0:08:49]“I’ve designed a lot of wedding rings, but this is my favorite design concept, because I think women deserve to do this for themselves.” — Margot McNaull [0:09:38]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Join the Legacy WaitlistMargot McNaullMargot McNaull on InstagramStor by Margot on InstagramLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

For many of us, our most cherished pieces of jewelry are passed down to us from our mothers and grandmothers, imbuing them with a deep emotional connection. But what if those legacy pieces were also designed by the women who wore them? Joining us today is Margot McNaull, a fine jewelry designer specializing in ring design and founder of Stor By Margot, where she offers custom design processes for her customers. She tells us about the exciting new legacy jewelry design experience that she is working on and how it will empower women to create legacy pieces through a more meaningful design process. Discover what women can expect from this experience, what inspired Margot to create it, and why being able to pass down an item like this is so meaningful. Don’t miss out on our follow-up episode where Margot will be revealing Lauren’s custom legacy ring!Key Points From This Episode:Introducing today’s guest, jewelry designer, Margot McNaull.The custom design process at her company, Stor By Margot.Why they prefer it when the wife is included in the selection process.Turning the jewelry design process into a more meaningful experience.The exciting legacy jewelry design experience that Margot is working on.What she wants women to feel during and after the experience.The feelings of unworthiness that inspired Margot to create this experience.Questions to ask yourself if you’re interested in this experience.The power of giving yourself permission to treat yourself.What being in an aligned relationship means to Margot: being whole as yourself.Quotes:“[Lauren] gave me this great idea of turning the jewelry design process into a grander experience for people and especially for women who really deserve that and need that.” — Margot McNaull [0:02:02]“Even in the wedding world, most of my clients came together. I would say about 90% is a couple shopping together for the engagement ring. Honestly, when a man comes alone – we panic a little because we really care about the woman and what she's getting.” — Margot McNaull [0:03:41]“I was already married, and I have a wonderful husband, and I love him very much, but I didn't feel worthy in my marriage of who I am, and it caused a lot of problems between us. I was the girl who didn't feel worthy, even though I was married.” — Margot McNaull [0:15:45]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Stor By MargotMargot McNaull on InstagramMargot McNaull on FacebookSofia SundariLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love Collective: Find Your SoulmateThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

Do you love what you see in the mirror? Keri Lea is a Cosmetic and Plastic Surgery Nurse who is passionate about helping women to feel beautiful. In this episode, Keri shares her holistic approach to enhancing natural features and the energy she intends to bring to every patient’s experience. We also get into the reasons behind bad filler, and how Keri identifies when it needs to be removed. She shares her energetic approach to connecting with patients, focusing on the positives instead of fixing the negatives. You’ll also hear about Lauren’s journey with Keri, restoring her natural beauty and repairing previous work that was not in alignment with her goals. Don’t miss this insightful conversation. Key Points From This Episode:The intention for this episode: empowerment. Keri’s mission and philosophy.Lauren’s story of visiting Keri for the first time.When negative conditions usually arise from getting filler. Keri’s energetic approach to focusing on the positives and enhancing natural features.Considering the impact of cortisol and the nervous system.How filler migrates over the age of 35 and when it needs to be removed.Approaching conversations with women who want work done but have hesitation around it.Distortion in the face shape through filler injections.How Keri identifies the tipping point between enhancements rooted in self-love and a patient who wants to mask themselves.More on Keri’s deepest mission: to be part of creating major shifts in the industry.Her definition of being in an aligned relationship with someone else.The healing journey that Keri went on while Neil came into her life.Two kinds of healing: alone and in partnership. Lauren’s journey as a patient. Quotes:“My philosophy and mission, when I talk to my patients in the room is, I want you to love what you see in the mirror.” — Keri Lea [0:02:39]“The energy we have as patient to provider has to be respected. You need to be educated and taught where things could have gone wrong and why.” — Keri Lea [0:07:22]“If you’re only seeing the things you hate, you’re never going to see the things you love.” — Keri Lea [0:15:08]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Keri Lea on InstagramA Woman Like You PodcastHatef AestheticsLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

In this episode, Lauren Zoeller sits down with Dr. Nicole Pensak, a clinical psychologist specializing in postpartum mental health, to explore the often unspoken challenges that new mothers face. Dr. Nicole shares her personal and professional insights on why it's crucial for mothers to prioritize their mental health, the common struggles that many women experience but seldom discuss, and how building a postpartum support team can make a significant difference. Whether you're preparing for motherhood or supporting someone who is, this conversation sheds light on the importance of self-care during one of life's most transformative journeys. Tune in to discover practical advice and compassionate guidance for navigating postpartum mental health.Links mentioned in todays episode:Dr. NicoleRattled the bookDr. Nicole WebsiteLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

Knowing how to network is a hugely important skill, even for your love life! In fact, some of your most meaningful romantic relationships could come from professional connections who have introduced you to someone they respect. Joining us today to explore the power of networking is Stacy Harris, a master networker and consultant, who helps entrepreneurs grow their network by building solid, lasting relationships. Stacy also shares her advice on how your network can help you meet quality people, particularly if you’re single and dating, mastering the art of following up, and why it’s okay to ask for help. Tune in to hear all of Stacy’s expert insights and transform your approach to networking and relationships!Key Points From This Episode:How Stacy’s network supported her and her husband during their greatest time of need.The first thing to do if you want to expand your network: change your mindset.Asking “How can I help others” instead of “What can I gain from this?”Tips for introverts on how to conserve energy at networking events.How to reach out to your network to help you meet quality people if you’re single and dating.Why it’s okay to ask for help: an inspiring reminder that people want to help others.Practical advice for effective follow-ups after networking events.Quotes:“When you're an entrepreneur, you are the CEO and the head bathroom cleaner. It's juggling all of those things. And I was like, ‘These are my people. They understand what I'm going through.’” — Stacy Harris [0:03:59]“All of these relationships – these people that stepped up to support us in our greatest time of need – were people that I had met through networking.” — Stacy Harris [0:07:41]“When it is a real relationship, it's not hard to ask people or help.” — Stacy Harris [0:15:52]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Stacy Harris ConsultingStacy Harris on LinkedInStacy Harris on FacebookNetwork in ActionLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

Lauren’s guest today firmly believes that being in an aligned relationship requires first being aligned with yourself. How can we build trust with others if we haven’t first built trust from the inside out? Greg Tomchick, born into a military family and a former professional baseball player, has drawn on valuable lessons from baseball and business to reinvent himself as a cybersecurity coach and author. As the CEO of Valor Cybersecurity, he now serves individuals and organizations worldwide. In their conversation, Lauren and Greg discuss his journey from professional athlete to cybersecurity coach, how he discovered his new identity post-career, and his concept of the Connected Mindset and how you, too, can shift into it. Tune in now to hear more from this insightful conversation.Key Points From This Episode:How Greg went from being a professional athlete to working in cybersecurity and coaching others on mindset.Greg unpacks the journey of discovering his identity after his baseball career.We dive into the Connected Mindset and how to start the shift into it.Showing up for the identity you envision. Greg’s thoughts on an ideal relationship and what that looks like.Building trust from the inside out.Why he believes every relationship should have a clear purpose.More about Greg, what he does, and where you can find out more. What it means to Greg to be in an aligned relationship.Quotes:“We’re always most qualified to serve that past version of ourselves.” — @Greg Tomchick [0:03:11]“Trust is the glue and [it] comes from the inside out.” — @Greg Tomchick [0:20:04]“Every relationship has to have a purpose!” — @Greg Tomchick [0:24:20]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Greg TomchickGreg Tomchick on InstagramGreg Tomchick on LinkedInGreg Tomchick on XGreg Tomchick on YouTubeThe Connected MindsetValor CybersecurityLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast

Many of us would like to be more intentional when it comes to relationships and dating, especially once we’ve left our twenties. But without a trusted process, how can you be sure you’re on the right track? That’s where today’s guest, Dr. Taylor Burrowes, comes in. Dr. Burrowes, is an acclaimed vetting specialist, with a PhD in Marriage, Couples, and Family Counseling, who is using her years of experience to help singles prepare for their ideal relationship. We dive into the details of her vetting approach, why she values quality over quantity, the power of patience, and how to avoid the pitfalls of urgency in relationships – especially for those in their late 30s and 40s. Join us today as we explore transformation, awareness, and intentionality in relationships, and find out how Dr. Burrowes’ approach can help you connect with the right partner!Key Points From This Episode:Setting the intention for today’s episode: a feeling of clarity and inspiration.Dr. Burrowes’ professional background and how she became a vetting specialist.The big shifts she underwent in her personal and professional life to find alignment.What you can expect from the vetting process (and why patience is key!)How Dr. Burrowes is teaching people to be their own vetting specialist.Tapping into your intuition; why it’s such an important skill to harness and nurture.How deception in marketing and social media is undermining our intuition.Quality over quantity; why vetting should be a slow and intentional process.The importance of embracing trust and patience over urgency, even though it’s difficult!Dr. Burrowes’ definition of aligned love: harmonious relationships that thrive on both similarities and differences.Quotes:“The way that I define vetting is a process of discovery. It’s figuring out who you are [and] learning who someone else is, but then also, how do you work together.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:08:25]“Vetting can seem really hard to a lot of people because it's so intentional, and it's a lot slower paced. It’s not quantity, it’s quality.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:24:57]“I see alignment as part of [the] whole package, where you've hit that sweet spot on all the essential things. You don't have to be perfect in order to be in an aligned relationship. You just need to have sufficient levels of all the essential things.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:32:58]Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Dr. Taylor BurrowesDr. Taylor Burrowes on YouTubeDr. Taylor Burrowes on InstagramDr. Taylor Burrowes on XLauren ZoellerLauren Zoeller on LinkedInLauren Zoeller on InstagramLauren Zoeller on XLauren Zoeller on TikTokLauren Zoeller on FacebookThe Aligned Love CollectiveThe Aligned Love Podcast