68: How Quantum Physics Can Change Your Relationship

In this episode, we discuss the three principles of quantum physics as laid out in Dr. Laura Berman's book Quantum Love. Did you know that your energy can change your relationship? And that your heart is a powerful influence on your family? If you'd like to learn more, you can also visit this blog on my website. Download The Princess and The Peeve Emotion Assessment here.

My guest today is Kari Cravalho, a coach for working moms and moms looking to return to the workforce. Through 1:1 and small group coaching, she offers moms a place to show up as is and explore what they truly want and need as they balance motherhood, career, and self. I loved what she had to say about finding our essence and using those interests and goals as a guide while we navigate work at home and outside the home. Summary: Career Paths and Life Transitions Beth and Kari had a detailed discussion about their career paths and experiences. Beth shared her expertise in coaching women undergoing transitions, particularly working mothers. Kari, on the other hand, talked about her background in human resources, her MBA from Kellogg, and her roles at healthcare tech companies and Adobe. Both agreed on the importance of discovering authentic life and work paths, as well as the role of challenges and transitions in shaping these paths. Kari also shared her experience transitioning from an HR leader to a stay-at-home mom and then starting her own coaching business to support working women. She emphasized the satisfaction and challenges of her roles and how having a coach helped her find her purpose again. Beth ended the conversation by asking about Kari's methods for helping clients balance their career choices and aspirations based on her own experience and the example of a client in the medical field. You can find Kari here: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/kari.bratzler IG:  @kari_cravalho_coaching website:  www.cravalhocoaching.com LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/kari-cravalho-mba-certified-coach-1177a7/ Link to Schedule a Complimentary Fitting Call:  https://calendly.com/karicravalhocoaching/15-min-fitting-call

Are you working (from home or not), handling the kids school schedules, going to their events, doing all the household chores, and feeling invalidated, lonely, and exhausted? Have you told your husband (or wife), "I need you to show me that you love me every day by little things and making me a priority,"? I've been there too, and what I discovered was surprising. In this episode I discuss what to do if you feel like your spouse doesn't validate or prioritize you. As always, go to theauthenticwifeandmom.com to learn more or visit happilyeveraftercoach.com if you're ready to save your marriage.

Many of my clients had critical mothers. They inherited many "shoulds" and dumped who they really were to win her "love" -- which was really just her approval. Critical mothers pass on the pain of their own rejected selves to their daughters, if they don't do the inner work to heal first. In this episode, after giving you permission to take your ability to receive even deeper as I am currently doing, I discuss exactly how you can begin to heal from this kind of upbringing. As always, you can learn more at bethrowles.com or go straight to learning about my marriage coaching program at happilyeveraftercoach.com Thanks for listening!

We all have days where we just don't like our spouse or even our kids, even if it's for a fleeting moment. Before you get on that downward spiral and plan the divorce, let me share with you that these thoughts are normal and to be expected in a family where you're with the same humans day after day. Get yourself a big cup of grace and love on the part of you that is struggling. It's going to be ok! (If you'd like to double-check that it's really going to be ok, visit my website at bethrowles.com and let's set up a time to chat!)

Do you WANT to grow old with your husband? AI Summary Lost Sight of Intentions: Beth's Marriage Advice Beth had a heart-to-heart talk, where she shared her belief that many marriages end due to losing sight of the original intentions. Beth emphasized that couples often forget their initial dream of growing old together, sharing life experiences, and the promise to stay together till death. She noted that when conflicts arise, instead of focusing on the positive aspects of the partnership, people tend to subconsciously look for reasons to leave, which can lead to ruining the marriage. Beth encouraged her audience to be mindful of their initial intentions and to look for reasons to stay together rather than reasons to leave. Focusing on Partner's Positives Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive aspects of our partner and not just highlighting their flaws. She encouraged to acknowledge the reasons why we chose them in the first place and to remember that they are different from us, which is often one of the reasons we are attracted to them. Beth also reminded that this applies to our children as well, who are a mix of both parents, and this diversity is what makes them whole and beautiful. Dangers of Relationship Exit Focus Beth warned against focusing on reasons to end a relationship, emphasizing that doing so can manifest conflict and unhappiness. She noted that even if one isn't explicitly expressing negative feelings, the other party will still pick up on them, potentially leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of conflict and disconnection. Beth emphasized the importance of striving for peacefulness, safety, and happiness, and the potential dangers of seeking reasons to leave. Relationship Ending Discussion Beth had a discussion about ending a relationship and its implications. She warned about the dangers of looking for negative aspects of a person, which could lead to seeing those traits more clearly. Beth also mentioned the need for a person to be present with their children. She ended the discussion by noting that she was done and wanted the other parties to settle down. Intentions: Shaping Our Experiences Beth explained how powerful intentions can be in shaping our experiences. She used examples from hiking, vacations, and dining out to illustrate how setting an intention to enjoy or find the good in a situation can change our perspective and experience. Beth emphasized that when we set intentions, we can direct our experiences and find growth opportunities, rather than focusing on what's wrong. Intentional Marriage: Staying Power Beth emphasized the power of intention in marriages. She highlighted that without a conscious intention to stay together, a marriage will inevitably fail. Beth cited the example of a person named Jason Duncan who gained fame after saying in a podcast interview that he and his wife refuse to consider divorce as it is not in their vocabulary, due to their commitment to stay together forever. Beth challenged those present to consider whether they want to stay on the "struggle bus" or the "drama triangle" or choose to adopt the intention of staying married. Positive Growth and Proactive Mindset Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive, personal growth, and being proactive in creating good outcomes. She encouraged others to adopt a teacher's mindset, grounded in what they want and how they can make it happen.

Do you have a busy mind, making it hard to be present with your family? My guest today is coach Rich Lewis. Rich has published articles for numerous publications, including Contemplative Light, Abbey of the Arts, Contemplative Outreach, EerdWord, In Search of a New Eden, the Ordinary Mystic at Patheos, and the Contemplative Writer. ​ Rich’s newest book is titled, Sitting with God: A Journey To Your True Self Through Centering Prayer. He teaches centering prayer in both his local and virtual community and offers one-on-one coaching through his website www.SilenceTeaches.com. In this episode, Rich shows us how to use a meditative practice known as Centering Prayer to gain control over our thoughts and help us be more present with ourselves and others. I especially loved this schedule of practicing in the morning and then doing a "second sit" mid-afternoon as a way to recharge for the second half of the day! I asked him how it helped him to be a better dad and he shared, "So I think it helped me be better in that I was more patient with each one of them and would slow myself down and let go and try to give each kid what they each need, because they're each unique. So what works for one doesn't work for the other. Just to give each of them kind of the one on one space they deserve, which is going to be very different."

Has your husband or child been diagnosed with ADHD? While I go into much more detail on my website, I wanted to give you a brief overview today of dopamine's role in ADHD and addiction so you can understand why your loved one may have addictive behaviors. I talk about how our bodies can keep us stuck in patterns even when we want to change, and why pleasure is fleeting unless it's coming from within. To apply for coaching, visit bethrowles.com/coaching-application or to learn more about my program visit happilyeveraftercoach.com

My guest today is betrayal expert Dr. Debi Silber. She's the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, host of her podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough, and the author of Trust Again, The Unshakable Woman, and From Hardened to Healed. Her recent PhD study about how we experience betrayal made three groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal, which is amazing. She's also an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals. In this episode, Debi shares the 5 Stages of Post Betrayal Syndrome, the symptoms we might experience before we heal from a betrayal, how to rebuild trust, and what it means if your partner or husband cheats again. Note that this work may pertain to you even if you haven't experienced betrayal with your husband -- you may feel like your parents' divorce was a betrayal or have a similar traumatic event in your past. She said that either 1) the betrayal repeats or 2) the wall goes up in individuals who haven't used the betrayal to heal and transform. Dr. Debi also points out how someone can get stuck during the healing process, especially if they're commiserating on the betrayal with others rather than healing holistically. Visit https://thepbtinstitute.com/ to learn how to work with Debi or to take her quizzes: Post Betrayal Syndrome or Healed or Hardened. You can also find her on Instagram at @debisilber

I recently had an aha moment at the vet's office when she told me that what my family does or doesn't do with our new puppy changes her perception of each person in the house. I realized that this has happened in our home with the kids as well and that one of my biggest frustrations wasn't necessarily that my husband wasn't DOING the thing; it was that my kids were viewing me as the sole leader in our family. I wanted the pressure off. Can you relate? I also share a few observations from working with kids this week as a substitute. To start your Happily Ever After journey, visit happilyeveraftercoach.com If your application is approved, you can choose to pay with PayPal and take advantage of their financing offers!