263 What You Should Be Looking for in a Life Partner, Pt. 5—Look for Synergy NOT Similarity

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?   Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.   In final installment of the series, we face an important question: What is the healthiest reason to seek a relationship in the first place? And the answer is "synergy."   Synergy means, "the whole is greater than the sum of its parts." We should seek, therefore, to be with a partner that makes us better than we would otherwise be alone, a partner who's mere presence makes us more likely to fulfill our potential and express deepest gifts.   When you find that person, scoop them up! And hint: BE that person, and you'll be scooped up, too. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.  

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?   Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.   In part four of the series, the focus is on how we respond to the inevitable that occur in relationships. The options are simple: We can either claim responsibility for our experience, or we can be blame others for what's occurring.   This podcast describes why you should be looking for in a life partner that claims responsibility rather than blaming others for the problems they're facing.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?   Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.   In part three of the series, you'll hear something radical. We shouldn't be focused on falling in love, but "falling in like." And that's because love is a very mysterious feeling. It's often the result of chemicals in the body or a psychological response to unmet childhood needs. But finding some you genuinely like, someone you deeply enjoy, is a far better way to evaluate a relationship.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?   Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.   In part two of the series, we're encouraged to look not for "boys" or "babes" but rather to look in the mirror, at ourselves. We're called to look for the barriers within ourselves, because that is far more important than focusing on who we'd like to meet and how we might meet them.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?   Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.   In part one of the series, the focus is on what we should be most concerned with, which are shared commitments rather than shared chemistry. Too many of us think that having great chemistry means we're right for each other, and nothing could be further from the truth.   This podcast describes what you should be looking for in a life partner—and it's not sexual in nature.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?   Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from self-ing to be-ing.   In this episode, you will learn: ·      Why you are suffering from a severe case of mistaken identity; ·      Why your self is causing unhappiness; ·      The 10 benefits of not self-ing; ·      A simple process to recognize the true self; ·      And much, much more!   There really isn't a more important topic than this one, so don't miss this episode and series. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.  

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?   Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from knowing to curiosity.   In this episode, you will learn: ·      The ego's least favorite 3-word sentence; ·      How knowing is keeping you single; ·      Why your mind can't be trusted completely; ·      Why curiosity leads to happiness; ·      And much, much more!   There really isn't a more important topic than this one, so don't miss this episode and series.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?   Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from recalling to forgiving.   In this episode, you will learn: ·      How the past creates unhappiness; ·      3 simple steps to letting go of the past; ·      What puppies can teach you about forgiveness; ·      How to open your heart and trust again; ·      And much, much more!   There really isn't a more important topic than this one, so don't miss this episode and series.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?   Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from attachment to trust.   In this episode, you will learn: ·      About the "sticky finger" problem; ·      How recognizing impermanence leads to happiness; ·      The true meaning of "this too shall pass"; ·      How to enjoy without attachment; ·      And much, much more!   There really isn't a more important topic than this one, so don't miss this episode and series.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

When it's all said and done, happiness and freedom is what we all ultimately want. But what path should we follow? There are many to choose from. Is it meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else?   In the previous episode, Roy explained that the best path to happiness and freedom must be (1) in your control, (2) available now and (3) something that makes sense to everyone.   And none of the most popular paths to happiness—relationships, intimacy, money, health, family, fame, religion, or even a combination of them!—meet that criteria.   In this episode, Roy begins exploring "The 5-Fold Path to Happiness & Freedom," and he starts with the first step, which is to shift from resistance to acceptance.   You will learn: ·      What resistance actually means; ·      The most common ways we resist reality in life and relationship; ·      Why resisting will steal your happiness and freedom; ·      Some baby-step suggestions on how to shift from resistance to acceptance; ·      And much, much more.   There really isn't a more important topic than this one, so don't miss this episode and series.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.