Habits That Are Ruining Your Confidence

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    You know that sinking feeling when you know exactly what to do, yet can’t make yourself do it. You’ve lined up accountability partners, downloaded habit trackers, given yourself pep talks, and muscled through with willpower, and still, nothing sticks. If motivation keeps ghosting you, this one’s for you.   Here’s the reframe most of us were never taught: this might not be a discipline problem. It could be a delightful problem. When growth feels like punishment, it never lasts. And when willpower runs out, and it always does, only joy keeps you moving. Real delight.   Today, we’re rethinking discipline from the ground up..not with more pressure, another color‑coded system, or more “try harder” energy that exhausts you before you start. We’ll use a smarter, kinder, more sustainable way to build consistency, one that works with your real life.   By the end, you’ll know how to create rhythms that feel lighter, habits that feel supportive, and a version of discipline that finally carries you forward.   Timestamps: (01:59) - Why Discipline With Delight Is How Real Change Actually Sticks (03:21) - Discipline Isn’t Broken. Your Approach Might Be. (04:38) - The Brain Science Behind Delight-Driven Transformation (06:26) - Wait, Isn’t Discipline Supposed to Feel Hard? (07:32) - Simple, Real-Life Steps to Build Delight-Driven Change WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era - Join Alli's Substack Alli’s Product Recommendation - Voraiya Light Therapy Lamp Automate Your Life: The Secret to Getting More Done with Less Effort Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift!   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo,   Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    Today I’m sitting down with Erin Port—one of my brilliant business coaching clients and a dear friend—to discuss her new book, Tiny Tweaks, Happy Life. If you’re tired of empty promises, burnout, and overwhelming advice, you’ll relate to our conversation.   Here’s what I know about you: you don’t need permission to rest or rise. You need a strategy that fits your life—something that helps you enjoy your days rather than just get through them. That’s what Erin offers. She shows how small tweaks create momentum you didn’t know you needed.   This is how high performers stay consistent without burnout. They don’t overhaul their routines or lives. They adjust, optimize, and move forward with intention.   Timestamps: (06:04) - Why Tiny Tweaks Beat Big Life Overhauls Every Time (08:02) - The One Question to Ask Before You Start Anything New (12:48) - The Happiness Square: A Simple Framework for More Daily Joy (17:14) - The Tiny Tweaks Erin Made That Quietly Paid Off Big (22:54) -  Why Celebrating Tiny Wins Changes Everything WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:  Join Alli's Substack - Wise Woman Era Erin’s Book: Tiny Tweaks, Happy Life Erin’s Song Recommendations: Goodness of God, Brave, Feel This Moment. & Fight Song Erin’s TV Recommendation: When Calls the Heart Erin’s Book Recommendation: Garden City Erin’s Product Recommendations: Wite Out Correction Tape & Sweet Loren’s Cookie Dough The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    It’s not always the big, dramatic failures that shake your confidence. Those are obvious—you see them coming and can move on. It’s the small, unnoticed habits that quietly undermine you, suggesting you’re not enough before you’re even aware of it.   Many women think their confidence struggles are from unachieved goals—the promotion they didn't win or the self they aren’t yet. But the true cause of low confidence lies elsewhere.   Your confidence isn’t gone; it’s worn down by unnoticed, repeated patterns—small, automatic habits that appear normal yet slowly erode self-belief.   In this episode, we expose the quiet habits that diminish confidence, using compassion and honesty. If you feel stuck or discouraged, this conversation will help name the real issue and offer a way to break the cycle.   Once you see the pattern, you can change it. So take a moment now to notice your patterns—and decide how you want to shift them. When you do, confidence stops being something you chase and becomes something you live from.   Timestamps: (02:42) - The Truth About Confidence No One Warns You About (03:04) - The 4 Everyday Habits Quietly Killing Your Confidence (09:24) - How God Renews You from the Inside Out: Thoughts, Habits, Rhythms (10:34) - 3 Simple Habits That Build Quiet, Unshakable Confidence   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:  Wise Woman Era - Join Alli's Substack Catalyst Mastermind Alli’s Product Recommendation - Earring Back Replacements Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift!  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars—it means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    Today I’m sitting down with Dr. Steven Gundry — world‑renowned cardiothoracic surgeon, gut‑health pioneer, and multiple New York Times bestselling author. His work has completely reshaped the way I think about health, energy, and the real roots of many of the symptoms women navigate every day.   In this episode, we dig into why your gut is running more of your life than you realize. We discuss hidden inflammation, brain fog, mood swings, decision fatigue, and energy drains you may have written off as “just life.” More importantly, we explore what you can start doing today to feel clearer and more like yourself.   There is fascinating new science emerging in gut health, and Dr. Gundry makes it simple, practical, and doable. No overwhelm. No extremes. Just smart, grace-filled insights to help you understand your body, calm inflammation, and get your brain and energy back online.   Timestamps: (02:24) - The Everyday Habit Most Women Don’t Realize Is Wrecking the Gut-Brain Connection (02:54) - “Healthy” Foods That Are Quietly Sabotaging Your Gut (08:16) - How Your Gut Bacteria Shapes Your Personality (14:50) - Who’s Really in Charge of Hunger? How the Gut Signals the Brain to Start and Stop Eating (24:22) - How Long It Actually Takes to Heal and Rebuild Your Gut Microbiome WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era Catalyst Mastermind The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars—it means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo,   Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    Most women don’t need more goals. They need fewer obligations. That might feel countercultural. But if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and still feeling behind, this episode gives language to what you’re carrying. The issue isn’t motivation—it’s overload.   This isn’t just about doing less to recover; it’s about choosing what truly matters. Growth comes from intentionally letting go of roles and habits that drain you, not from pushing yourself harder.   For 2026, remember: breakthrough won’t come from new planners, tighter schedules, or more hustle. It will come from releasing what no longer serves you and making room for what matters most.   Timestamps: (01:00) - Why Some Goals Need to Be Quit (04:13) - Letting Go of the Need to Prove Yourself (06:31) - Why Being Available to Everyone Is Costing You Everything (08:13) - Quitting Emotional Over-Functioning for Other People (09:46) - Stop Shrinking Yourself in Rooms You’re Meant to Grow In (11:24) - Practical Action Steps for Quitting What’s Holding You Back in 2026   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Method - Join Alli's Substack Catalyst Mastermind Alli’s Makeup Recommendation - REVLON ColorStay Multiplayer Liquid-Glide Eye Pencil Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo,   Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    You know what changes everything? When spiritual practices shift from duties we think we owe God to rhythms that help us encounter Him in our everyday, ordinary, and imperfect lives. That’s the transformation we’ll explore together in today’s episode.   I gathered practical wisdom from Beth Moore, Sheila Walsh, Pete Greig, Havilah Cunnington, and Mark Batterson—voices who live what they teach. We discuss real ways to recognize God’s voice, pray boldly, engage Scripture deeply, and notice His presence in everyday moments—even the blurriest ones.   Spiritual growth isn’t a performance. It’s a relationship—a faithful choice to show up, lean in, and build habits that make space for God already inviting you closer.   Let these conversations inspire you and reveal how possible it is to build a life rooted in spiritual practices that truly connect you to God.   Timestamps: (01:15) -  The Four Ways God Speaks (and How to Recognize Them) (04:32) - Studying the Word and Stepping Into Your Calling (09:36) - Hearing God Through Scripture: A Simple Lectio Divina Practice (12:43) - How to Put the Power Back in Your Prayer Life (16:33) - Seeing and Understanding the Everyday Miracles Around You WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Catalyst Mastermind The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. Alli on YouTube Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars—it means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo,   Alli

Subscribe to Alli’s Substack - Wise Woman Method https://wisewomanmethod.substack.com/  Last week in my Catalyst Mastermind, a disciplined woman showed her color-coded 2026 planner, every goal mapped out. Then she quietly admitted: “I’m doing all the right things, but I still don’t feel like the right person.”   Maybe you’ve felt that too—checking every box, hitting every deadline, but still feeling something’s missing. Here’s what I told her, and what I want to tell you: The problem isn’t your plan. It’s thinking you can do your way into a new life, when you actually need to become your way into it   Doing and becoming are not the same. Achieving isn’t transforming. We spend years chasing goals but rarely ask: Who am I becoming?Today, we're moving beyond last week's conversation. Not "What am I accomplishing?" Not "What am I fixing?" Instead, who am I becoming—and is she who I want to be?   This is the identity shift that unlocks real transformation in 2026. Let’s dive in together—take a moment right now to reflect: Who are you becoming, and what is one action you can take today to align with her?   Timestamps: (01:50) - Why Identity Has to Come First (03:38) - The Real Problem With Traditional Goal-Setting (05:14) - The Daily Practice of Becoming (07:14) - Uncovering Who God Has Created You to Be (08:45) - Three Practical Steps to Becoming   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE Links to great things we discussed:  Catalyst Mastermind Alli’s Product Recommendation - Spindrift Drinks Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! Subscribe to Alli’s Substack - Wise Woman Method https://wisewomanmethod.substack.com/  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars—it means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    Welcome to 2026! I’m starting the year with two best-of episodes focused on identity, confidence, and discovering who God made you to be. These truths are the foundation for everything you’ll face this year.   Today, I’m sharing key moments from recent solo episodes—practical, scripture-based strategies to help you let go of limiting beliefs, build confidence, and pursue your biggest dreams. True leadership begins with knowing who you are.   Use this episode as your guide to real identity work. Apply what fits, revisit as needed, and let these insights transform your self-view for 2026.   Timestamps: (01:28) — What Self-Compassion Is & the Three Key Components That Change Everything (07:38) — The Confidence Myth and How God Created Us to Renew Our Minds (13:03) — Stop Playing Small and Start Showing Up Like You Mean It (19:45) — How to Stop Letting Old Stories Run Your Life and Rewrite the Narrative WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Catalyst Mastermind The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo,   Alli

Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method    You don’t need a better planner, a 4 a.m. alarm, or a fresh pack of highlighters to change your life this year. What you really need is something deeper—a vision that pulls you forward instead of pressuring you from behind. A vision that’s worth changing for.   Resolutions fixate on doing more, being better, running faster. They’re rooted in lack, in the places you feel behind, in everything you think needs correcting. But vision? Vision shapes who you’re becoming. It invites growth instead of shaming you into hustle.   And that one reframe changes everything. Today, we’re diving into how to build a God-given vision that lasts longer than February and doesn’t burn you out in the process. Not the white-knuckle kind, but the kind God grows in you step by step—steady, faithful, and full of hope.   Timestamps: (00:20) - Why Resolutions Burn Out & Vision Actually Sticks (03:03) - Resolutions Chase Results, Vision Shapes Identity (03:42) - Why Your Nervous System Pushes Back Against Massive Overhauls (04:24) - How Vision Creates Alignment Instead of More Hustle (07:25) - Practical, Doable Steps for Building a Meaningful Vision   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Catalyst Mastermind Alli’s Makeup Recommendation - Sephora Colorful Waterproof Eyeshadow & Eyeliner Multi-Stick Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! Subscribe to Alli's New Substack - Wise Woman Method  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo,   Alli

Sign up for FREE COACHING with Alli – https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching    I felt a little nudge to talk about Chapter 9 of Fierce Faith. Back in 2017, I titled that chapter “What If Things Fall Apart?”, and honestly, I don’t think anything could be more relevant right now.   It feels like so many of us are wandering through our own wilderness—feeling lost, lonely, and afraid. Afraid of what’s ahead. Afraid of what could be. Afraid of what our anxiety says about us. Afraid of what happens if things really do fall apart.   That’s why I’m sharing this chapter with you today. My prayer is that it brings peace about the future and reminds you to find your own stones of remembrance—those markers of God’s faithfulness that anchor us when fear tries to take over.   At the end of the episode, I’ll not only share practical tools and encouragement to help you fight fear, but I encourage you to take one specific step: pick a stone of remembrance today, write it down, and let it remind you of God’s faithfulness as you step into 2026 with greater confidence.   Timestamps: (03:38) - Fear of the Unknown: How It Keeps Us Stuck in Our Own Wilderness (13:00) - Focusing on God’s Faithfulness: The Shift That Frees Us From Fear (17:17) - We Will Always Face New Giants (and How to Meet Them with Courage) (23:35) - How to Stop Catastrophizing Before It Derails Your Peace (26:11) -A Battle Plan to Fight Your Fear of the Future with Strength and Clarity WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Catalyst Mastermind The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. Sign up for FREE COACHING with Alli – https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching