#130 - Debbie's Drift Part 1 - The Challenge

In this episode, Tabbin offers a practical toolkit for navigating party season alcohol-free, including that familiar question: "Why aren't you drinking?" She explores why people may ask, from simple curiosity or a host wanting you to feel included to discomfort about their own drinking. Tabbin also recognises why answering can feel daunting, particularly when you're worried about judgement, stigma or sharing more than you're ready to. You don't owe anyone an explanation, Tabbin emphasises. If you do want to respond, she suggests keeping it brief and confident, then moving the conversation on. She shares a range of possible replies, from "I'm not drinking tonight" to explaining that you feel happier without alcohol, and considers how much to share with friends, family, colleagues or strangers. The episode also covers what to do if someone keeps pressing you to drink, how to prepare for a party, and why it can help to have an alcohol-free drink in hand, an exit plan and a treat lined up for the next morning. Tabbin reassures listeners that the questions usually become less frequent over time - and that being open about your choice may help someone else reconsider their relationship with alcohol. Highlights: (02:00) Why people ask about what's in your glass (10:15) Handling fears of judgement, gossip and stigma (18:30) Keeping your answer short and changing the subject (25:00) Possible explanations, from a health kick to sleeping better (32:45) Responding to pressure without getting drawn into an argument (40:00) Preparing for a party, from your first drink to your exit plan (48:00) Planning a morning-after treat and helping others feel less alone Tabbin has created a free Party Season Phrase List. Send her a DM to request a copy. Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com Find out more about Tabbin's coaching, the Unstuck programme and her course, Escaping Alcohol, on her website. You can also book a free discovery call.  

In this episode, Tabbin continues her conversation about "Debbie's Drift" and explores practical ways to keep momentum after changing your relationship with alcohol. Building on the idea of entropy, she explains why old habits can return when we stop giving change our attention—and why that is a natural process, not a personal failure. Tabbin offers a simple plan for staying on track, centred on four areas: the information you take in, the people who guide you, the companions who support you, and your connection with yourself. She encourages listeners to identify what drift looks like in each area, then choose one active and one passive way to maintain progress. The episode also explores intentionality: getting clear about what you want to protect, reconnecting with your values, and choosing enjoyable activities that support an alcohol-free life. Tabbin shares practical ideas, from making plans with supportive friends and preparing for social occasions to revisiting early notes, restarting small habits, and finding new experiences to look forward to. When momentum fades, Tabbin encourages listeners to notice it without judgement, get curious about what may be driving the urge to drink, and reconnect with people who understand. Her message is that drifting is not proof you cannot change; it is an invitation to choose again and give your progress the care and attention it deserves. Highlights: (02:00) Planning ahead and the four areas that can help prevent drift (10:15) Active and passive ways to stay supported and on track (18:30) Intentionality, values and what you want to protect (25:00) Choosing enjoyable activities that support an alcohol-free life (32:45) Making intentions visible and planning for social situations (40:00) Noticing drift without judgement and reconnecting with your "why" (48:00) Community, high-risk occasions and finding new things to look forward to Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com Find out more about Tabbin's coaching, the Unstuck programme and her course, Escaping Alcohol, on her website. You can also book a free discovery call.

In this episode, Tabbin explores "Debbie's drift" — the loss of momentum that can happen after someone has changed their relationship with alcohol and is feeling much better. She explains why the early excitement of change can naturally fade, and why old thoughts about drinking may quietly return. Drawing on the concept of entropy, Tabbin shows how habits tend to drift back towards their familiar patterns unless we keep tending to the changes we want to make. This, she stresses, is not a sign of weakness or failure. Through Debbie's story, Tabbin considers how life's transitions and difficult emotions can make alcohol seem appealing again. When Debbie's youngest child left for university, loneliness and a sense of loss brought back the urge to drink. Tabbin encourages listeners to treat that urge as information: a signal that something may need attention, whether it is rest, connection, support or space to feel an uncomfortable emotion. The episode offers a compassionate perspective on getting back on course, emphasising that lasting momentum comes from maintenance, not willpower. Tabbin also previews next week's episode, which will explore practical ways to overcome drift and stay on track. Highlights: (02:00) What "Debbie's drift" means and why momentum can fade (10:15) The pink cloud and adjusting to a new normal (18:30) Entropy and why habits can return without ongoing attention (25:00) Old beliefs about alcohol and the importance of support (32:45) Debbie's experience of loneliness after her youngest left for university (40:00) Treating the urge to drink as information, not failure (48:00) Self-compassion, maintenance and finding your momentum again Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com Find out more about Tabbin's coaching and her book, Bottling Up Trouble, on her website. 

In this episode Tabbin engages in a deep conversation with Dr Bill Quateman, the International Director of Advanced BioCell in Los Angeles, as they explore the intriguing world of high dose ozone therapy. With a curious and open-minded approach, Tabbin delves into the process of this therapy, discussing its claims, evidence, and potential role in holistic health, particularly for those recovering from the effects of alcohol consumption. Bill shares his extensive experience in holistic health, emphasising the interconnectedness of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. The discussion highlights the importance of energy in health, the impact of lifestyle choices, and how ozone therapy can help restore balance to the body by enhancing oxygen levels and improving metabolic function. The episode also touches on the significance of addressing underlying emotional traumas that may contribute to unhealthy drinking habits, reinforcing the notion that true healing involves a comprehensive approach to health. Tabbin and Bill's conversation sheds light on the potential benefits of ozone therapy and how it fits into a broader framework of functional medicine. Highlights:     (02:00) Introduction to high dose ozone therapy and its claims     (10:15) The role of energy in health and the impact of lifestyle choices     (18:30) Understanding the holistic approach to well-being     (25:00) The connection between emotional trauma and drinking habits     (32:45) Exploring the benefits of ozone therapy for recovery     (40:00) How ozone therapy can improve metabolic function     (48:00) The importance of a comprehensive approach to health and recovery   Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com  If you're interested in exploring your relationship with alcohol and its impact on your health, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin.  Connect with Bill Quateman: https://www.advancedbiocell.com

In this episode Tabbin explores the complexities of breaking free from alcohol. She delves into the common struggles faced by those who know the negative effects of drinking yet find themselves unable to stop. Tabbin emphasises that the issue is not a lack of willpower or discipline, but a deeper disconnect between knowledge and action. She explains how alcohol interacts with our brains, highlighting the science behind its effects as a depressant, its impact on sleep, and the way it alters our pleasure responses. Tabbin shares her personal journey with alcohol, including a pivotal moment that changed her relationship with it forever. She discusses the importance of understanding the subconscious mind and how it influences our choices, especially in moments of stress or discomfort. Throughout the episode, she encourages listeners to look beyond the surface of their drinking habits to uncover the underlying feelings that drive their behaviour.  As she introduces her new course, "Escaping Alcohol," Tabbin outlines a structured approach to understanding both the facts about alcohol and the personal insights necessary for lasting change. She emphasises that true freedom from alcohol comes not just from knowledge, but from a compassionate understanding of oneself and the emotions tied to drinking.  Join Tabbin as she unpacks the nuances of alcohol consumption, offering insights that could transform your relationship with drinking and lead you towards a more fulfilling life without it.  Highlights:       (02:00) The disconnect between knowing and doing regarding alcohol       (10:15) The science of alcohol as a depressant and its effects on the body       (18:30) Personal anecdotes and the impact of knowledge on behaviour       (25:00) Understanding the subconscious mind and cognitive dissonance       (32:45) The importance of addressing underlying emotions behind drinking       (40:00) Introduction to the "Escaping Alcohol" course and its structure       (48:00) The role of coaching in achieving lasting change  Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com Find out more about the new Escaping Alcohol course: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/escaping-alcohol Free 31-day break course: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/31-day-break-1-892a9ec6-0f7a-406e-b2ea-37a4fe597242  If you're seeking to explore your relationship with alcohol and its impact on your life, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin.

In this episode, Tabbin welcomes Oliver Hubbard, a remarkable individual who has been sober for over 30 years. Oliver shares his incredible journey, beginning in the late 90s when he faced the reality of his alcohol consumption and the impact it had on his life.  He recounts the pivotal moment when a colleague encouraged him to seek help, leading him to his first Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Initially reluctant and filled with doubt, Oliver reflects on how the experience transformed his understanding of himself and his relationship with alcohol.  Throughout the conversation, Oliver delves into the societal pressures surrounding alcohol, discussing the misconceptions that often accompany sobriety. He shares a poignant story about a family gathering where his mother, well-meaning but misinformed, suggested he sit at the children's table to avoid alcohol, highlighting the stigma that still exists around those who choose not to drink.  Oliver also explores the deeper roots of his addiction, tracing it back to his infancy, and discusses how understanding these origins has shaped his recovery journey. He emphasises the importance of recognising addiction as a response to life experiences rather than a character flaw.  This insightful discussion not only sheds light on the complexities of addiction but also serves as an inspiring testament to the power of resilience and self-discovery. Join Tabbin and Oliver as they navigate the intricate relationship between alcohol, identity, and personal growth.   Highlights:      (02:00) Oliver's journey to sobriety and the pivotal moment of seeking help      (10:15) The societal pressures and misconceptions surrounding sobriety      (18:30) A memorable family gathering and the stigma of non-drinking      (25:00) Tracing the roots of addiction back to infancy      (32:45) The importance of understanding addiction as a response to experiences      (40:00) Reflections on personal growth and the positive changes post-sobriety      (48:00) The ongoing conversation about alcohol and its role in society    Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com If you're interested in exploring your relationship with alcohol and its impact on your health, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin. Connect with Oliver on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliver-hubbard-acc-5460796/

In this episode Tabbin welcomes Dr. Jason Schumard, a chiropractic and functional medicine practitioner from San Diego, to explore the intricate relationship between alcohol consumption and type 2 diabetes. They delve into the common misconception that managing blood sugar levels is the sole focus in diabetes care, highlighting the importance of understanding the underlying causes of insulin resistance.  Dr. Schumard explains how the consumption of alcohol can lead to cellular damage and inflammation, which in turn can exacerbate insulin resistance and contribute to the development of type 2 diabetes. He discusses the role of GLP-1 receptor agonists, a class of diabetes medications that not only help regulate blood sugar but also appear to reduce alcohol cravings, thereby offering a potential pathway for those seeking to change their relationship with alcohol.  Throughout the episode, Tabbin and Jason examine the broader implications of lifestyle choices on health, including the importance of nutrition, exercise, and stress management in reversing chronic conditions. They also touch on the significance of the gut-brain connection and how emotional and physical health are intertwined.  This conversation sheds light on the necessity of a holistic approach to health, emphasising that simply cutting out alcohol is not enough; individuals must also address the root causes of their health issues to achieve lasting change.  Highlights:     (02:00) Introduction to Dr. Jason Schumard and his expertise in functional medicine     (10:15) Understanding insulin resistance and its relation to alcohol consumption     (18:30) The role of GLP-1 receptor agonists in diabetes treatment and alcohol cravings     (25:00) The impact of lifestyle choices on chronic health conditions     (32:45) Exploring the gut-brain connection and its effects on mental health     (40:00) Strategies for reversing type 2 diabetes and improving overall well-being     (48:00) The importance of a holistic approach to health and wellness  Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com If you're interested in exploring your relationship with alcohol and its impact on your health, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin. Jason can be found here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jason-shumard-853658140/ https://www.youtube.com/@drjasonshumard

In this episode we welcome Paddy Burtt, who shares his transformative journey with alcohol and the innovative rural reset retreats he hosts for men in the UK. Paddy reflects on his year-long sobriety, the challenges he faced upon returning to drinking, and the emotional complexities surrounding alcohol use disorder. Join us as we explore the importance of self-discovery, emotional expression, and the healing power of nature in Paddy's retreats, designed to help men reconnect with themselves and each other. Chapters: (00:00) Introduction (00:30) Paddy's Journey with Alcohol (15:00) The Impact of Sobriety (30:00) The Rural Reset Retreats (45:00) The Role of Nature in Healing (50:00) Conclusion Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com If you're interested in learning more about the intersection of pharmacology and alcohol recovery, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin.   Paddy can be found here: https://theruralreset.com/      

In this episode, Tabbin welcomes Professor Ashwin Danda, a leading expert in liver medicine, to discuss the intriguing potential of GLP-1 receptor agonists in addressing alcohol use disorder. Originally developed for diabetes management, these medications have garnered attention for their appetite-suppressing properties, which may offer new avenues for those struggling with alcohol dependency. Professor Danda explains the mechanisms by which GLP-1s operate, including their effects on insulin release and appetite regulation through interactions with the brain's reward systems. He highlights how these drugs could help mitigate cravings for alcohol, providing a critical window for individuals to engage in psychological therapies and make lasting lifestyle changes. Throughout the conversation, Tabbin and Professor Danda explore the implications of using GLP-1s in individuals with alcohol use disorder, particularly focusing on those with existing liver damage. They discuss the ongoing clinical trials aimed at assessing the safety and efficacy of these treatments in a population that urgently needs effective interventions. This episode sheds light on the promising intersection of pharmacology and psychology, emphasising the need for comprehensive support systems alongside any medical treatment. Join Tabbin and Professor Danda as they navigate this complex topic, offering hope for a healthier future for those affected by alcohol use disorder. Highlights:     (02:00) Introduction to GLP-1 receptor agonists and their original purpose     (10:15) Mechanisms of appetite suppression and potential effects on alcohol cravings     (18:30) Current clinical trials and their implications for alcohol use disorder     (25:00) The importance of psychosocial support in conjunction with medication     (32:45) Risks and considerations for using GLP-1s in individuals with alcohol use disorder     (40:00) Future directions and what the trials aim to uncover     (48:00) Reflections on the potential impact of GLP-1s on liver health and addiction recovery Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com If you're interested in learning more about the intersection of pharmacology and alcohol recovery, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin.

In this episode, Tabbin dives deep into a common belief held by many regarding alcohol and sleep, using the fictional case study of 'Henry'—a composite of real clients. Henry's story reveals his reliance on a bottle of red wine each night to help him sleep, a narrative that many listeners may resonate with. Tabbin explores the seductive nature of this belief, discussing how alcohol can initially induce sleepiness but ultimately disrupts the quality of sleep by triggering stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol in the early hours. Throughout the episode, Tabbin highlights the psychological aspects of this dependency, including the concept of confirmation bias—how our minds seek evidence to support our beliefs. By challenging Henry's narrative, Tabbin encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the deeper emotional stories that may be at play. The episode provides valuable insights into the science of sleep, the importance of self-compassion, and the necessity of addressing underlying emotional issues rather than using alcohol as a coping mechanism. Join Tabbin as he guides listeners through practical takeaways for breaking the cycle of reliance on alcohol for sleep, fostering curiosity about one's emotional landscape, and ultimately paving the way for a healthier relationship with alcohol and improved sleep quality. Highlights:     (02:00) Introduction to Henry's story and common beliefs about alcohol and sleep     (10:15) The science behind alcohol's impact on sleep quality     (18:30) Understanding confirmation bias in personal narratives     (25:00) The role of self-compassion in addressing emotional challenges     (32:45) Practical strategies for breaking the alcohol-sleep cycle     (40:00) The importance of seeking support in the journey to change     (48:00) Reflections on the journey towards restful sleep and emotional well-being Connect with Tabbin: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com If you find yourself relating to Henry's story, consider reaching out for a free discovery call with Tabbin to explore your relationship with alcohol and sleep.