Chemistry vs. Compatibility: Which One Really Matters? EP 716

Today's episode is sparked by Host Steve V's new app, Connect & Confidence. Download it and get 20% Off now through Black Friday: Studio.com/stevev/connect In queer dating, do we overvalue chemistry and undervalue compatibility The hosts share what was at play when they met their partners...chemistry, compatibility or both... The hosts share when chemistry played the only factor and how that worked out for them Why queer men often confuse sexual magnetism with relational potential. Have you ever felt chemistry with someone who wasn’t good for you at all? Chemistry can grow with emotional connection, trust, vulnerability, and quality time. Hot Topic: Kevin Spacey says he's struggling financially post allegations of sexual assault... Hot Topic: The Queen of Versailles with Kristin Chenoweth is closing amid awful reviews and the community turning against her... Hot Topic: Matt Rogers hard launches new relationship with a Bravolebrity at Bravocon and getting some undo backlash from the gays... Advice: We're sharing our favorite ways to ask a guy out...Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevevFollow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Lincoln on IG: @madlincoln Follow Protein Bakery on IG: @proteinbakery Rate and Review us!Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The hosts share personal stories of how they showed up for past dates when they were younger and not as confident as they are now... Confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real, relaxed, and present The misconception that confidence = being bold, loud, flirty, or dominant Internalized fear of rejection and its impact on confidence How dating confidence is really about clarity, boundaries, and comfort Showing up as ourselves not the version we think they want... Confident behaviors that attract the right guy... Tips that work on a date like flirting, listening and sharing... Hot Topic: 3rd lawsuit filed against Ursaline High School in Ohio involving Football players harassing a gay student... Hot Topic: Adult MAGA performer Cory Mendelsohn is arrested for assaulting husband and boyfriend... Hot Topic: What does a Top actually smell like and what fragrance if any do Tops where...? Hot Topic: Colman Domingo feels sexier than ever at 55...we discuss Advice: Only 28% of Straight Men feel comfortable seeing two men kiss.... Advice: A guy loved bombed another for 5 dates and now has ghosted him out of the blue... Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why meaningful connection is becoming the new currency of queer dating How your 20s dating patterns shift by 30s, 40s, and 50s Releasing relationships — sexual, romantic, or social — that drain rather than nourish How to meet people from a place of confidence rather than survival mode The importance of intention in sex (energetics, emotional clarity, reciprocity) How Host Steve V's new app, Connect & Confidence supports all of this with tools, daily practices, and guidance. Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect The reality that queer adults are redefining love and partnership on their own terms Hot Topic: Ariana Grande's ambusher is jailed and says he would do it again... Hot Topic: Man defeats ban on 'gay' license plates... Hot Topic: How gay sheep have become the hottest ticket in fashion.. We give our picks for holiday viewing... Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Where did the term slut come from and how has it been used for our gay community throughout our history? We discuss our varied history with sex, sexual freedom, HIV epidemic and how PrEP and Doxypep have changed the game on how we view sex and practice sex today. Reframing: the difference between validation-seeking sex and expansive, connected sex. Think back to a time you felt free after sex — not guilty, not anxious, but free. What was different about that experience? We discuss and share... Being a slut with intention — turning desire into a mindfulness practice Different types of Sluts: Tender, Curious, Sacred, Healing Hot Topic: Tish Hymann confronts a CA Senator as a Lesbian who says 'men' not Trans Women are using the bathroom and putting women in harms way... Hot Topic: Cheyenne Jackson says gay men are on the spectrum when it comes to 'gay voice'... Hot Topic: The tale of the Sniffies 'Bush' appreciator...we discuss deeper kinks... Advice: If you could tell your 30 year old self something what woudl it be? Advice: So you wanna meet up with a 'Dom' guy...what you should know and what to ask.... Thirst Trap: Which NSFW photo gets our pick and why... Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Host Stevie V shares a bit from his recent wedding to Diego and the co-hosts share their insight... The Supreme Court denies Kim Davis's request to challenge Marriage Equality! A story of a recent couple that did not make it down the aisle leaving 170 guests waiting for the marriage with a pretty dismal ending... New study shows that marriages that end in divorce are about half for Hetersexual couples, 72% for lesbian couples and only 28% for gay men...we discuss Why do gay men have a better chance to have a successful marriage...we discuss The ins and outs of a gay marriage including how sex may look different plus the possibility of open relationships... Hot Topic: Khallid responds to criticism from fans who say he is too gay now... Hot Topic: We're sharing our best sex stories from people we met on Craigslist personals... Hot Topic: Puerto Vallarta to host its first 'Collab Week' and they are including fans as well! Advice: When to call someone your 'partner'...is it a thing? Advice: When to make your beau into a relationship..? Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Master Joshua talks about his upcoming retreat in Easton Mountain "Reclaiming the Divine Masculine" Nov. 13 - Nov. 16 Visit: Reclaiming the Divine Masculine L.A.: Body culture, shirtless hikes, influencer thirst traps, the “branding” of gay identity N.Y.: Edge, wit, creative energy, attitude, and fast-paced flirtation. Debate which city wins when it comes to chemistry versus aesthetics. What's a typical date look like in both cities? The hosts share their personal stories on what they like to do on a date and what doesn't work... Both are big cities so does that make it easier or harder to find a man? What does a hookup look like in both LA vs. NY? The hosts play a fun quick fire on who wins...NY Gays vs LA Gays... Hot Topic: New Study finds straight guys and gay guys view cheating very differently... Hot Topic: Gold Gym in Weho is the latest debate about who can use what bathroom when singer Tish Hyman throws a fit claiming 'men' are in the women's bathroom... Hot Topic: Jonathan Bailey is the first gay celebrity to be named People Magazine's Sexiest Man Alive.. We're reviewing two new series: "Boots" and "All's Fair".... Thirst Trap: Who took the sexiest NSFW photo of the week and why...? Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Master Joshua on IG: @masterjoshuanyc Follow Teddy on IG: @teddyalexis Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Do you think we all have a little exhibitionist in us? We discuss The hosts share stories of what exhibitionism looks like to them The underlying psychology: validation, control, vulnerability, and arousal through attention. Host Stevie V shares working with both exhibitionism as a go-go dancer and assisting in Will Tantra's class at a recent VACAYA resort trip What is Tantra? Using the techniques of Tantra to experience longer solo sessions and for connected sex Hot Topic: A recent inquiry asks the questions what is the secret sauce to making a relationship work... Hot Topic: Is same sex marriage going to be heard in the Supreme Court...? Hot Topic: John Waters on why "queer" can be so controversial... Hot Topics: Jonathan Van Ness says he is no longer body positive after losing over 70lbs.... Advice: Feeling alone after a fun filled sex vacation.... Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Lincoln on IG: @madlincoln Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The “comedown” from sexual or emotional performance — when you’re lying next to someone after sex and the roles drop. What it’s like to be seen without the persona you used to seduce someone. The post-sex vulnerability hangover — do we crave closeness or distance? Why authentic intimacy can feel scarier than the sexual performance itself. Hot Topic: Brent Corrigan reveals the medical emergency that kept him off the internet for 3 years Hot Topic: King Charles reveals memorial to gay military veterans Hot Topic: Homophobic is you're against Bad Bunny performing at the Super Bowl... Hot Topic: What's a slutty 'chat' bottom? Advice: Breaking down over work stress and family was unsupportive... Advice: Two young friends hookup and have a situationship but now one has a boyfriend... Follow Teddy on IG: @teddyalexis Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Gay sexuality is often described in terms of roles — top, bottom, dom, sub, masc, femme — but what happens when those labels feel more like performances than authentic expression? In this episode, the hosts unpack how desire, attraction, and identity get tangled up with performance — from the bedroom to the bar to the apps. Where do our sexual performances come from? How much of our sexual role is natural vs. narrative? The “masc4masc” phenomenon and its roots in performance and insecurity. Lukas Gage says he killed off the flamboyant sides of his life for years....can we relate? The crazy things people say on Grindr...we share Advice: Bottoms: How long do you want a top to last? Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn about Scrotex for your balls and how to actually increase size - it's possible! Learn the difference between a little touch up for your appearance and more dramatic procedures you can try to look your best Matchmaker Cheryl Maida talks about Matchmaking.com from the client perspective and how she helps men find love that lasts Tips on dating for gay men that work Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.