Swingers and Scarcity: Overcoming FOMO, Settling, and Playing Smart

In this important episode, Cate speaks with Steve Gagne, owner of Wicked Fun Club, a private members-only lifestyle venue in Connecticut that has recently been issued a cease and desist order by the Town of Plymouth. Only five months into a three-year lease, the club is now in the midst of a legal and political battle that raises serious questions about privacy, zoning laws, and stigma against non-monogamous communities. Steve shares what really happened, how it’s affecting the club and its members, and what the community can do to support. This episode goes beyond local politics—it's a wake-up call for everyone in the lifestyle. “This story isn’t just about one club in one town—it’s about how adult freedom, privacy, and community values clash in the real world. Whether you're in Connecticut or California, we all have a stake in the lifestyle's right to exist safely and respectfully.” ~ Cate, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast In this episode, we cover: What Wicked Fun Club is and who it serves The zoning issue and cease and desist order Tensions between the club, the landlord, and the neighboring church The broader impact on lifestyle members and safe spaces The current appeal process What support is needed from the non-monogamous community How this story affects the lifestyle space nationwide Links and Resources: Wicked Fun Club Website: https://wickedfunclub.com News article on the shutdown: NBC Connecticut Reddit review thread: r/Swingers discussion Learn about club rights: https://ncsfreedom.org Stay Connected: Instagram: @swingingdownunder Twitter: @swingdownunder Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, share, and leave us a review wherever you listen. Your support helps amplify important conversations like this one.

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories In this thought-provoking episode of Wanderlust Swingers, Cate and Darrell dive deep into the Scarcity vs. Abundance mindset in the swinger lifestyle. Are your decisions driven by FOMO, settling, or a fear of limited options? From personal stories to juicy Reddit replies, we’re unpacking how scarcity might be shaping your lifestyle journey—and how to play smarter. Here’s what you’ll hear: Scarcity in Action: We explore real-life examples of scarcity driving decisions, like late-night hookups or compromises in smaller communities. Is it really scarcity, or just circumstance? Reddit’s Take: Hear insightful comments from the swinger community, from taking one for the team to how the internet changed the game. Cate & Darrell’s Journey: Personal stories about early scarcity-driven decisions and how they’ve embraced abundance over the years. Playing Smart: Practical tips for shifting your mindset, setting boundaries, and finding joy in the journey—whether you’re new to the lifestyle or a seasoned swinger. Plus, life updates! Cate’s got new boobs, travel plans to the USA for Christmas, and some cheeky listener messages that’ll make you smile. Links: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Wanderlust Swingers: www.wanderlustswingers.com Miami Libertine Event: libertineevents.com/miami Ready to overcome FOMO and embrace abundance in your lifestyle journey? Join us for another sexy, fun, and insightful episode! Tags: Scarcity Mindset, Swinger Couples, FOMO in Swinging, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Lifestyle Tips, Swinger Podcast, Open Relationships, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Swinger Events, Non-Monogamous Adventures.

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Join us for a cheeky bonus episode of Wanderlust Swingers! Darrell has been up to mischief, creating a Feeld dating profile as Cate, and now he’s sharing all the juicy details. This hilarious and insightful episode uncovers the secrets to navigating Feeld for hotwives in the swinger lifestyle. Here's what you’ll hear: The Feeld Experiment: Darrell dives into his surprise project, managing Cate’s profile on Feeld and filtering through over 1,300 likes. Learn how he whittled down the matches and what got some users instantly unmatched. Top Tips for Men: Darrell shares the do’s and don’ts of crafting a Feeld profile that stands out, from avoiding boring bios to ditching the gym flex shots. The Hotwife Dynamic: With two dinner dates lined up for Cate, the couple reviews the remaining suitors to decide who’s worth chatting with, dating, or more. Did Darrell nail Cate’s taste? Tune in to find out! Links: YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers  Wanderlust Swingers: www.wanderlustswingers.com Miami Libertine Event: libertineevents.com/miami Want more sexy stories and lifestyle tips? Check out our events and podcast for your next non-monogamous adventure! Tags: Hotwife Lifestyle, Feeld Dating Tips, Swinger Couples, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Adventures, Feeld Secrets, Open Relationship Stories, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Lifestyle Dating Apps, Non-Monogamy Profiles.

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Join us for a jam-packed episode of Wanderlust Swingers as we dive into the highlights from the Libertine Events San Antonio Senses takeover! This episode features three incredible interviews with special guests who share their unique perspectives and experiences from the event. Jason and Sarah: Midwest-based hosts who joined Libertine for the first time as guest hosts. Hear about their role in hosting mingle games, how Sarah embraced a daring electric play demonstration with over 100 participants, and their tips for resetting energy at high-energy lifestyle events. Ed and Phoebe from Swinger University Podcast: Reflecting on Libertine's growth since Palm Springs in 2022, Ed and Phoebe share their impressions of the event's vibe, their favorite playrooms, and what sets Libertine Events apart in the lifestyle community. Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching: A specialist in coaching for non-monogamous individuals, Kel and her partner Meshai hosted an engaging edutainment session on crafting elevator pitches and handling rejection with grace. We discuss balancing work and play at lifestyle events and preview their upcoming jealousy workshop in January, focusing on dynamics with play partners. From electric play to meaningful connections, this episode offers a deep dive into the experiences that make Libertine Events so memorable. It’s a longer episode filled with insights, laughter, and a touch of sensual energy, thanks for hanging in there and listening to us! Jason and Sarah: [01:58] Mingle games and crowd energy Electric play demonstration highlights Tips for recharging your "power bar" Ed and Phoebe: [00:33:31] Libertine Events' evolution since 2022 Event atmosphere + the feel of the group Their favorite playrooms Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching: [1:00:35] Crafting elevator pitches and handling rejection Balancing hosting duties and personal enjoyment Sneak peek into the January jealousy workshop  Links Jealousy Workshop with Expansive Connection https://mailchi.mp/2116d78e5e3b/jealousyworkshop Swanky Unicorn Lifestyle Shirts https://swankyunicorn.com/  Swinger University website https://www.swingeruniversity.com/  Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Want to connect with like-minded couples? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/   Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, Libertine Events, DTF Couples, Electric Play in the Lifestyle, Swinger Boundaries, Open Communication, Sex-Positive Adventures, Non-Monogamy Coaching, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Playroom Etiquette   Thank you for listening to Wanderlust Swingers!

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories The DTF Spectrum: Are Down to F*ck Couples Just More Fun? In this solo episode, Cate dives into a hot debate among swingers today: the phenomenon of “DTF” couples. Inspired by a lively discussion on Reddit, Cate unpacks the various interpretations of being “down to fuck” and how it impacts connections in the lifestyle. From couples who prefer a straight-to-the-fun approach to those with a selective DTF style, Cate explores why some embrace the label while others feel it’s misunderstood. Episode Highlights: What Does It Mean to Be “DTF” in the Lifestyle? Cate explores what it truly means to be a DTF couple, sharing both her thoughts and feedback from the lifestyle community on why this term is more complex than it sounds. The Red & Green Flags of DTF Couples Cate breaks down red flags that DTF couples should watch for, along with green flags that suggest this style may be the perfect fit. She shares insights into keeping experiences positive and aligned with personal values. How to Avoid Common Pitfalls & Clarify What You Want Clear communication is key in the swinger lifestyle. Cate provides tips on avoiding common DTF pitfalls, explaining how to openly define what you’re looking for to save time and find the right connections. Lessons Learned: Whether you're new to the concept or an experienced DTF couple, Cate highlights how to find your sweet spot on the DTF spectrum. This episode offers a fresh, judgment-free look at spontaneity, selectiveness, and the power of clear intentions. Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Want to connect with like-minded couples? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/   Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, DTF Couples, Spontaneous Swingers, Lifestyle Pitfalls, Navigating Non-Monogamy, Red Flags in Swinging, Swingers Boundaries, Open Communication, Sex-Positive Lifestyle, Wanderlust Swingers

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Having Sex In A Maze, Swingers Café + Kama Sutra Beurs In this adventurous episode, Cate and Darrell finally attend the sex-positive Kama Sutra Beurs in their hometown of Utrecht, diving into an experience that’s both eye-opening and outrageous! After years of planning to attend, they explore every part of the convention, from a bustling Swingers Café to a surprise maze encounter that gets steamy. Cate and Darrell share each hilarious and unexpected moment as they navigate this European sex convention and its anything-goes vibe. Episode Highlights: The Swingers Café and Convention Scene Cate and Darrell give their impressions of the event, including shopping for unique finds (costumes made from used tires, anyone?) and an intriguing encounter at the café where anything goes. Exploring the Maze They step into a maze filled with dark corners, hidden rooms, and unexpected surprises. Things heat up as Cate and Darrell put the secluded spaces to good use, and D shares his thoughts on the curious onlookers. Sex Conventions in Different Countries They compare the Netherlands' open atmosphere to conventions in Australia and the USA, reflecting on the unique setup and freedom found at European sex-positive events. Lessons Learned: Whether it’s surprising moments in a sex maze or learning about different swinger cultures, this episode is packed with laughs, honest observations, and real-life stories from the world of sex-positive gatherings. Cate and Darrell share what it’s really like to explore a European sex convention and enjoy the freedom to be themselves. Conclusion: Tune in to join Cate and Darrell on their latest adventure, filled with humor, a little public play, and their favorite highlights from Kama Sutra Beurs. And stay tuned for the next episode for more lifestyle tips and stories from your Wanderlust Swingers team! Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Ready to join the action? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/ Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, Sex Convention, Sex Maze Adventure, Swingers Café, European Sex Positive Events, Kama Sutra Beurs, Exploring Swinger Culture, Public Play, Netherlands Sex Convention, Non-Monogamy, Lifestyle Stories

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Episode Title: Failures at Being a Swinger; Failed Pool Parties, Ghosting, and More   In this playful yet candid episode, Cate and Darrell tackle the less-than-glamorous side of the swinger lifestyle, where best-laid plans don’t always work out! From a last-minute pool party flop to a local single who ghosted us on a date, we’re digging into what happens when expectations don’t match reality. Join us as we explore how swinging can sometimes go sideways, and how to handle those “swinger fails” with humor and grace.   Episode Highlights: The Pool Party That Wasn’t: We recount our experience at the last Naked Pool Party of the season at Fata Morgana in the Netherlands. Spoiler alert: the vibes and crowd were a bit different from what we’re used to! Ghosted and Let Down: We were stood up by a local single Darrell arranged a date with, and we’ll share our take on handling lifestyle no-shows, plus a few laughs about Cate betting Darrell that he’d still try to message afterward. Finding Our Place in the Lifestyle: How meeting a new, young couple reminded us of our early days and the highs and lows of finding your footing in the scene.   Handling Swinger Fails: Not every event will be perfect, and that’s okay! We’re here to help you embrace the unpredictability of the lifestyle with some real-life lessons, stories, and tips for bouncing back. Whether you’ve been ghosted, found yourself at a dud event, or just need a reminder to laugh at the unexpected, this episode is all about learning to go with the flow and keep things fun.   Conclusion: Tune in for the good, the awkward, and the downright hilarious moments that make the lifestyle unforgettable. And, as always, stay tuned for more stories, tips, and adventures from your Wanderlust Swingers team!   Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Ready to join the action? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/   Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, Pool Party Fails, Ghosting in the Lifestyle, Swinger Date Etiquette, Finding Your Tribe, Swingers Community, Lifestyle Realities, Humor in Swinging, Handling Disappointment, Swinger Podcast, Non-Monogamy, Events in the Lifestyle

Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Guilty By Association In The Swingers Lifestyle In this eye-opening episode, Cate teams up with Mickey and Mallory from Casual Swinger to dive deep into the lesser-known pitfalls of the swinger lifestyle. Ever wondered how social media connections or your choice of friends could impact your reputation in the community? This episode covers it all. From unknowingly outing yourself on Facebook to navigating the fine line between finding your tribe and being guilty by association, we explore how your social circle can shape your swinger journey—both positively and negatively. Get ready for practical tips, wild stories, and some hard truths about protecting your privacy and reputation in the lifestyle! Episode Highlights: Outing Yourself on Social Media: Cate, Mickey, and Mallory discuss how social media algorithms can expose your swinger connections to your vanilla friends, and what you can do to protect yourself from accidentally outing your lifestyle choices online. Staying Safe Online: Tips on managing privacy settings, using separate profiles for the lifestyle, and avoiding the common mistakes that can get you “outed” on Facebook and other platforms. Your Tribe IS Your Vibe: Finding your tribe in the lifestyle can be empowering, but what happens when your tribe’s reputation is less than stellar? The trio dives into how being associated with the wrong group can tarnish your image and limit your opportunities at events. Event Etiquette & Rule-Breakers: If your friends break event rules, you might face the fallout, even if you did nothing wrong. Cate, Mickey, and Mallory discuss how to navigate tricky situations and distance yourself from bad behavior, ensuring your reputation stays intact. Guilty by Association – Lessons Learned: Whether it’s online privacy, social group dynamics, or event drama, this episode is packed with tips and insights on how to steer clear of being guilty by association in the swinger lifestyle. Cate and the Casual Swinger duo share their best advice for maintaining your individuality and protecting your standing in the community. Conclusion: Don’t let your connections define your reputation. Tune in to hear real-life stories and strategies for thriving in the swinger lifestyle while keeping your privacy and reputation intact. Be sure to check out upcoming episodes and events for more tips and sexy stories from the Wanderlust Swingers team! Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Ready to join the action? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort March 29-April, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/      Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, Social Media Risks, Swinger Drama, Event Etiquette, Finding Your Tribe, Swingers Reputation, Rule-Breaking, Privacy Tips, Guilty by Association, Swinger Podcast, Non-Monogamy, Friends in the Lifestyle

Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Cocksucking Train, Electrical Play & More with Jason and Sarah Cate sits down with Jason and Sarah, a couple from the Upper Midwest, who share their bold journey into the swinging lifestyle after ten years of monogamy. From a surprising encounter with a stripper in Las Vegas to getting yanked into their first threesome, this episode covers all the bases of a wild and memorable adventure. Jason and Sarah get candid about how they embrace sensory play, including electrical stimulation, and why Jason calls himself an overthinker, but still manages to dive headfirst into all the excitement. Get ready for foam pits, sexy trains, and a few life lessons along the way! Episode Highlights: Their First Threesome: Hear the details of how Jason and Sarah were suddenly pulled into a threesome for their first lifestyle experience, and how it all went down. Foam Pit Fun: A line-up of men, a foam pit, and a cock-sucking train—Jason and Sarah spill the details on this unforgettable experience. Sensory Play Exploration: They open up about their love for sensory play, including using violet wands, flogging, and spanking, sharing how these experiences have deepened their connection. Lifestyle Events in the Upper Midwest: How do lifestyle events in their region differ from others across the country? Jason and Sarah talk about hotel takeovers and their favorite sexy travels. Sexy Stories & Sensory Play: From steamy playrooms to sensory explorations, Jason and Sarah give listeners a peek into their bold and daring experiences at lifestyle events, along with a few sexy mishaps that taught them valuable lessons. Lessons Learned: Overthinking in the lifestyle? Jason, the self-proclaimed A+ overthinker, talks about how to quiet those thoughts and dive into bold new experiences. Plus, the couple shares the importance of learning from your "oops" moments and how it has shaped their approach to the lifestyle. Conclusion: Would they recommend taking the plunge into swinging for other couples? Jason and Sarah offer advice for newcomers, and Cate wraps up with some great tips for those interested in sensory play. Join us for this wild ride and don’t forget to check out more upcoming episodes and events! See more of Sarah and Jason here on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder    Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Looking to experience a hotel takeover? Join Libertine Events for upcoming takeovers in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami 16-19th May, 2025 https://libertineevents.com/miami/  Join us in France 8-13th July, 2025 https://libertineevents.com/france/  Follow the Wanderlust Swingers podcast for more sexy stories and event news! www.wanderlustswingers.com   Tags: Sensory Play, Cocksucking Train, Swingers Lifestyle, Threesome Experiences, Foam Pit Fun, Violet Wand, Electrical Play, Overthinking in the Lifestyle, Swinger Adventures, Upper Midwest Lifestyle, Hotel Takeover Events, Non-Monogamy, Swinger Podcast

Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Unicorn Hall Pass Spicy Island In this episode, Cate takes us on a wild adventure as she heads to Spicy Island for a full island takeover in Croatia, embracing her role as a unicorn with a hall pass. From cheeky playroom encounters to naked swims under the stars, this episode is packed with fun stories, poolside masturbation, and flirty moments. But was Cate as slutty as she and Darrell had hoped? Let’s find out! Episode Event Highlights: Poolside Fun: Masturbation, cheeky playroom kisses, and a magical naked swim under the stars. Steamy Encounters: Kissing a guy in the playroom... Unicorn Vibes: Cate danced solo during Steampunk Night before friends joined in, and she enjoyed playing games like motorboating and card games. Two days of sun-soaked fun on VIP beds, with Cate kissing multiple partners and even using a communal vibrator poolside. Sensual touch games, including ice and kisses, plus the frustrations of people not participating in a fun conga line. Conclusion: Would Cate Go Back? Hear her thoughts on whether she’d return to Spicy Island and who she would recommend it to. Is It Worth the Money? Cate breaks down the value of the event and offers tips for future attendees. Exclusive Bonus Content - Hear what Darrell had to say to Cate before she left for Spicy Island, join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder  2025 European Events Spicy Island Week 1 https://www.spicymatch.com/events/50000/?edc=Libertine  Spicy Island Week 2 https://www.spicymatch.com/events/50001/?edc=libertine  Join Cate and Libertine as they takeover France and Cap D'Agde https://libertineevents.com/france/  New Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com     Tags: Unicorn Hall Pass, Spicy Island, Swingers Island Takeover, Swingers Lifestyle, Poolside Masturbation, Naked Swimming, Steampunk Party, Spicy Match, Swingers Tips, Hotwife Lifestyle, Island Takeover Review, Swingers Adventure, Swingers Event in Croatia, Hall Pass Experience.