281 - Demystifying Self-Sabotage

If food is the highlight of your day and overeating feels like your only source of joy, relief, or excitement, this episode is for you. We're diving deep into why so many of us give overeating multiple jobs - from being our reward system to our only form of relaxation. You'll discover why treating overeating as the problem might be keeping you stuck, and why calorie counting alone never addresses what's really going on. This conversation goes way beyond typical weight loss advice to explore what happens when food becomes your entire life. Click here to join vibe club  

This episode is a rapid-fire mashup of my greatest rants from the past 4.5 years — no fluff, just the truth that actually helps women lose weight without dieting. If you're new here, this is the one to start with. If you’ve been around, you’ll hear the messages that hit hardest — again. Click here to join vibe club  

Do you have PCOS, menopause, or insulin resistance and feel like weight loss is completely different for you? You've probably joined Facebook groups, read books, and followed experts who told you exactly what to expect with your specific condition. But what if the beliefs you've borrowed from these communities are actually shaping your experience more than you realize? In this episode, we dive into how the stories we tell ourselves about our bodies might be creating the very struggles we're trying to solve. Get ready to question everything you think you know about why weight loss feels so impossible. Click here to join vibe club 01:09: Why People Think Weight Loss Won't Work Common beliefs about why conditions like PCOS, menopause, and insulin resistance make weight loss impossible. 03:30: How Online Communities Shape Your Beliefs The danger of adopting limiting beliefs from Facebook groups and influencers about your diagnosis. 10:00: It's Still About Overeating Real client examples showing that addressing overeating solves the problem, not the diagnosis itself. 18:30: Question Everything You've Been Told Why you should be careful about accepting beliefs from experts and be willing to test them yourself. 24:00: Your Beliefs Create Your Experience How what you think about your condition impacts you more than the condition itself.

Behavior change is hard - really, really hard. In this episode, Maggie gets real about why changing your habits feels impossible and shares her own current struggles with nervous system regulation. She explains how your brain and body will literally fight you when you try to change, throwing what she calls "the biggest tantrum" to keep you stuck in familiar patterns. But here's the thing: understanding why your brain does this actually makes the whole process less terrifying and more manageable. If you've ever wondered why you keep going back to old habits even when you know better, this episode will help you understand what's really happening inside your head. Click here to join vibe club 02:54: It's No Longer About the Trauma, It's About the Choices 08:36: The First Week Was Brutal 11:33: Your Body Will Throw the Biggest Tantrum 13:45: Retraining Your Body Like a Wild Animal 19:27: You Have to Go All In - No Dipping In and Out

Ever feel like you're crushing your weight loss goals for weeks or months, then suddenly find yourself right back where you started? You're not alone - this frustrating cycle of progress followed by what feels like "self-sabotage" is one of the most common struggles people face. In this episode, we dive into why your brain seems to work against you just when things are going well, and why that success can feel so dangerous and unpredictable. We'll explore what's really happening in your mind when you revert to old eating patterns, and challenge some of the dramatic stories we tell ourselves about why this happens. If you've ever wondered why you keep "going backward" despite your best intentions, this episode will give you a completely different way to understand what's really going on Click here to join vibe club 02:42: What Self-Sabotage Really Looks Like 07:30: How Your Brain Creates Habits 11:30: Why "Self-Sabotage" is a Loaded Term 16:00: The Real Reason You Revert to Old Patterns 21:25: Summer Weight Loss and Vibe Club

Rachel shares her remarkable journey of losing 40 pounds while navigating the challenges of moving countries and pregnancy. After trying countless diets including keto, Whole30, and Weight Watchers without lasting success, she discovered a completely different approach that finally worked. Join us as Rachel reveals the unexpected mindset shift that made losing weight on vacation possible for the first time in her life. She offers a refreshing perspective on maintaining progress during major life transitions and how her relationship with food transformed during pregnancy. This conversation is packed with insights for anyone who feels like they've tried everything without finding lasting success. Click here to join vibe club 01:46 Rachel's history with weight loss attempts 05:18: The turning point: losing weight on vacation  09:00: The power of focusing on one problem  14:30: How Rachel's relationship with urges changed  20:00: Seeing success through major life transitions  24:39: Rachel's experience with pregnancy  33:27: The unexpected exercise mindset shift  44:45: Final advice for those struggling with weight loss

You’ve learned how to sit with your emotions instead of eating through them—but now what? In today’s episode, Maggie explains why staying stuck in negative emotions can become its own form of sabotage. You'll learn how indulging in drama keeps you from real change, and how to shift your perspective to start feeling better without needing your circumstances to change. This conversation is a wake-up call to stop rolling around in the shit and start moving through it. If you’ve been feeling stuck, this is the nudge you’ve been waiting for. Click here to join vibe club  00:00 – Why we don’t coddle the drama 01:30 – What it means to “sit in the shit” 04:00 – Allowing emotion vs. avoiding with food 06:30 – When allowing becomes indulgent 08:45 – How stuck emotions become your identity 11:00 – Questions to shift your mindset 13:00 – Coaching examples of “I can’t” thinking 15:00 – The drama spiral: 30 things vs 3 18:00 – Changing your life by changing your story 21:00 – Final takeaway: Don’t sit in the shit too long

Ever wonder why you can listen to weight loss advice but still struggle to make progress? You might be missing something crucial that your own brain can't recognize. Despite your best efforts, hidden thought patterns could be sabotaging your progress without you even realizing it. Discover why having someone else look at your thinking patterns makes all the difference in finally breaking through weight loss plateaus. This episode exposes the gap between learning information and actually implementing it effectively. Click here to join vibe club 05:45: Why your brain has blind spots you can't see on your own 13:15: How avoiding triggers (like the scale) actually delays growth rather than helping it 19:21: Setting effective weight loss goals versus avoiding them due to past negative associations 34:30: When you might need one-on-one support versus group coaching for your weight loss journey

Ever notice how easy it is to spot what's wrong instead of what's right? In this episode, Maggie and Ryan discuss our tendency to focus on problems and complaints rather than beauty and joy. Our brains seem wired to notice the negative, making complaints and judgment our default mode. This negative focus impacts not just our personal happiness but also our relationships with others, as we bond over shared complaints rather than genuine connection. Learn why changing your perspective requires intentional daily practice and discover why this mindset shift might be the most important work you'll ever do. Click here to join vibe club 03:18: Clarification that Vibe Club is not an MLM and explanation of what their coaching program actually offers. 11:06: Ryan shares an inspirational quote about choosing between focusing on what's wrong or embracing what's right in life. 15:15: Maggie discusses how we weren't built to handle the constant negative information overload of modern life. 21:24: A powerful story illustrating how perspective determines what we see in our surroundings - we miss beauty when focused on problems. 29:57: Discussion about interrupting negative thought patterns and choosing healthier perspectives for your mental wellbeing.  

In this deeply personal episode, Maggie shares her transformative experience attending a week-long Dr. Joe Dispenza meditation retreat. After struggling with chronic health issues for 18 months, she found herself immersed in a powerful environment of healing and connection. Maggie opens up about the challenges of intense meditation sessions, the beautiful community she discovered, and how this retreat pushed her beyond her comfort zone in unexpected ways. Whether you're familiar with Dr. Joe's work or simply curious about meditation's potential impact on health and mindset, this vulnerable conversation offers a glimpse into one person's journey through darkness into a more peaceful state. Click here to join vibe club