305. "I Just Want Him to Leave Me Alone": Stalking Bailee

When it comes to stalking, obsession, and criminal psychology, few understand both sides like Dr. Shiloh. She's a California-licensed psychologist working with Los Angeles law enforcement on clinical support, crisis negotiation, and the psychological toll of the job. Before that, she was Officer Shiloh — a patrol cop, background investigator, and terrorism liaison. Now a forensic psychologist, she specializes in high-risk offenders and the minds behind violent crime, with over a decade studying why people cross the line and how victims can protect themselves. Today, she's here to break down how stalkers think — and what survivors need to know to stay safe. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] GUEST LINKS https://www.instagram.com/lanotsopodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/LAnotsoconfidential https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtvmmYgrZ-hSbw7sWuzC9rQ?view_as=subscriber https://www.la-not-so-confidential.com/ https://www.patreon.com/join/lanotsopodcast  OTHER LINKS Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

When Timothy divorced his ex-husband, he thought the nightmare was finally over. But it was only the beginning. The messages started first — threats that crept into every corner of his life. Then came the hacking, the impersonation, the total loss of privacy. And his stalker didn't stop with him. He went after Timothy's family, his friends… even tampered with his mother's medical care — determined to destroy everything that mattered. Now, Timothy is speaking out. He's sharing how his ex turned technology into a weapon — and how he's fighting to take his life back. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

For years, Bailee has been hunted by a man who refuses to let her go. He's torn apart her home, attacked her friends, and forced her child to grow up in constant fear. No matter how far she ran, he always found her. But Bailee refused to break. Now a wife and mother, she's still standing — proof that survival is stronger than obsession. Bailee is speaking out to set the record straight: stalking isn't about love, or persistence. It's about power, control… and the fight to stay alive. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

When the messages started, Kate felt a chill she couldn't explain. Anonymous threats. Cryptic notes. Someone out there was watching her — or so she thought. Each message pulled her deeper into fear and confusion. Her friends were being dragged into it, her life unraveling one text at a time. But the truth was far darker than she imagined. The person tormenting her wasn't a stranger hiding in the shadows…it was someone much closer. Now, Kate's telling her story — how she uncovered the horrifying secret that her stalker was the man she thought she loved. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000

The Knife is a weekly true crime podcast from producers Hannah Smith and Patia Eaton. You might remember Hannah as the original host of The Opportunist! The Knife is a show about people who've been dropped into a story they didn't start, but are left to finish. In-depth interviews take the listener behind the punchy headlines to hear what really happened from the people who lived it. The Knife reveals the ripple effect of crime. Through empathetic, solution-oriented journalism, Hannah and Patia find the untold stories of people who've been touched by crime. Episode description: Patia and Hannah speak with Cassie, who attended a Halloween party at an Oregon State University fraternity in 2008. The night started with costumes, loud music and a crowded basement full of college students. By the end of the night, Cassie was in the ER, holding a bag that contained her bloodstained costume. She soon found herself in a police interview recounting what happened. The state brought charges, and the case went to trial. Cassie's story is a personal account of navigating the legal system after reporting a rape. She did everything "right" but still faced a long, painful process. Her experience echoes the questions we've wrestled with in high-profile campus sexual assault cases: What does justice actually look like?  Links: Apple Podcasts Spotify Instagram

When Joseph became the target of a cunning stalker, he had no idea who was behind it. The stalker was a master manipulator — framing others, spinning lies, and weaving himself deeper and deeper into Joseph's life, all while remaining unseen. By the time the truth came to light, the reveal shocked everyone. The stalker was finally arrested — but freedom only fueled his obsession. That's when a stranger named Matt entered the picture. At first, their lives had nothing to do with each other… until Matt uncovered something chilling: the stalker's own confession. What happened next would unravel the web of deceit, connect two men who had never met, and expose a relentless predator — bringing him, at last, to justice. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

Jennifer Gentile Long is the CEO and co-founder of AEquitas, a nonprofit transforming how sexual violence, trafficking, intimate partner violence, and stalking are prosecuted. She began her career as a Philadelphia Assistant District Attorney, fighting for victims of abuse and demanding justice in the courtroom. Over time, her mission grew beyond one city—leading national efforts to change how prosecutors handle these crimes. Today, through AEquitas, Jennifer works with prosecutors and policymakers around the world, bringing innovation, accountability, and compassion to the pursuit of justice. She's here to share how she and her team are changing systems, empowering survivors, and reshaping what justice can look like. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] EPISODE LINKS For more information on the prosecution of stalking crimes please visit AEquitas' Resource Page The Stalking Protection, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC) a project of AEquitas, and listen to Stalking in the Digital Age on Just Champions, The AEquitas Podcast. If you'd like more info about AEquitas visit: https://aequitasresource.org/ or email us at: [email protected]. Follow AEquitas on Instagram @aequitas_resource https://aequitasresource.org/ https://www.stalkingawareness.org/ https://www.stalkingawareness.org/external-resources/ OTHER LINKS Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

Tori is a hairstylist, a single mom, and a survivor. For two long years, her world was consumed by stalking, harassment, and terrifying violence—ending in a brutal fight for her life that she barely escaped. Her abusive ex, the father of her child, was finally arrested and locked away. But even with felony stalking charges, he's serving just two years. And Tori knows—that's nowhere near enough. Today, she's breaking her silence. Urged by her best friend—who was also one of his victims—Tori is sharing her story to protect other women and expose the darkness he left behind. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

Ro is a mother, educator, and survivor whose world was shattered by not one, but two terrifying stalking ordeals. First, a stranger from her son's football club began sending threats — and eventually tried to run her child down with a car. Then came a neighbor, leaving sinister notes, watching her daughters, and trespassing onto her property. When the system failed to protect her, Ro was left to do it herself — fighting to keep her family safe and pushing for real change in Australia's stalking laws. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] GUEST LINKS RO https://www.instagram.com/one.ro.many.roads/# OTHER LINKS The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000  

Molly is a licensed clinical social worker whose job turned into a nightmare when a client began stalking and terrorizing her. Despite early warning signs and escalating aggression, her pleas for help were dismissed by supervisors and law enforcement. The stalking intensified, leading to a violent workplace attack and a court-issued protection order. Years later, just as she thought it was behind her, Molly's stalker resurfaced - sending a threatening letter from Japan and triggering an FBI investigation. Forced out of the career she loved, Molly has rebuilt her life with heightened security and a new mission: to raise awareness, fight for therapist safety, and empower others to speak out when they feel unsafe. HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED STALKING?  LET US KNOW: [email protected] OTHER LINKS lovelustfear | hosted by Jake Deptula Apple Podcasts | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283?uo=4 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Amazon Music | https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ Submissions | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe to The Last Trip - https://audioboom.com/channels/5119581-the-last-trip Follow The Last Trip on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thelasttripcrimepod/ And Subscribe for all the updates on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheLastTripPodcast Instagram: @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000