Why We Choose Toxic Love #127

We explore how early attachment wounds can lead to love addiction and toxic relationships, and we share practical tools to build secure connection from the inside out. Sherry Gaba offers clear signs of toxicity, explains trauma bonds and love bombing, and outlines somatic ways to heal.• how insecure attachment forms and drives partner choice• why love bombing hooks the nervous system• signs you are in a toxic relationship• jealousy as a symptom of insecurity and past betrayal• difference and overlap between codependency and love addiction• somatic, polyvagal, and parts work for self-regulation• breaking trauma bonds and pacing intimacy• transgenerational trauma and epigenetics as context• resources, books, and next steps for supportIf anybody is struggling right now and they are looking for a therapist, I do 15-minute consults for freeI also have a free ebook for anybody if they want to go to sherrygaba.com forward slash npquizSo if you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. And also follow the show, of course.Send a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We dig into strategic dating, secure attachment, and the skills that turn chemistry into commitment. Valerie Greene shares questions, scripts, and a four-part roadmap for inspiring commitment and creating a win-win culture at home.• defining vision, values and relationship culture• writing profiles that show values, not just hobbies• first-date questions that reveal growth and integrity• safe haven and secure base behaviors for security• anxious attachment tools for belief change and self-soothing• meeting avoidants with empathy while keeping standards• the four-part roadmap to inspire commitment• needs vs strategies for true collaboration• assessing partners when calm, not when triggeredIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We speak with Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud about rethinking male desire, building safer consent, and turning pressure into genuine connection. He shares his journey into ethical nonmonogamy, how families can make open structures work, and why porn isn’t the enemy—shame and bad sex ed are.• desire is not a need and how that changes connection• consent as the double green light and clear intentions• shifting from entitlement to offering pleasure• therapy with hetero, gay, mono, and poly clients• personal path from affairs to ethical nonmonogamy• cohabiting, parenting roles, and house domains• book insights on testosterone myths and emotion skills• stress, libido, and dating with safety in mind• porn, shame, and mental health drivers of compulsion• early exposure, sex education gaps, and resources• how to contact Eric and work within CaliforniaIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We explore single-parent dating, the realities of being a sex therapist on the apps, and what it really takes to talk about sex without shame. Keri Green shares tools for mismatched desire, sexual timelines, and opening tough conversations with care and consent.• single mom dating constraints and filters• clarifying what sex therapy is and is not• handling disrespect and myths on dating apps• mismatched desire and starting where comfort is• using a sexual timeline for insight and healing• orgasm intensity, letting go and aftershocks• squirting basics and reducing stigma• conversation tools and yes/no/maybe lists• ethical non-monogamy foundations and boundaries• recommended books and resources• how to connect with KeriGreenIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and follow it as well, read it as well, tooSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Some breakups end; others turn into a campaign of control fought through motions, money, and your children. We invited Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out and a certified domestic violence advocate, to walk us through the reality of legal abuse and how to regain power when an ex weaponizes the system. She shares how abandonment triggers can fuel rage, smear campaigns, and endless filings—and why the smartest response is a steady, documented, and strategic one.If you’re navigating a high-conflict divorce, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to white-knuckle it. Listen, share with a friend who needs it, and subscribe for more candid, expert-backed conversations. If this helped, leave a review so others can find it too.Send a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We explore how practical neuroscience and somatic work can clear stuck patterns in love and life without rehashing trauma. Riana Malia shares a three‑phase method to replace old wiring, define non‑negotiables, and claim a new identity with speed and compassion.• conscious versus unconscious mind and the body as storage • what talk loops reinforce • Clear to Create methodology and three phases • values, non‑negotiables, and clean decisions • reverse‑engineered goals and RAS installation • quantum time release• high achievers’ blind spots in intimacy • alchemical forgiveness and agency • client transformations and measurable shifts • how to work one‑on‑one with RianaIf you love this episode be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We explore how to stop having the same fight. Greg Stevens shares how repairing 36 past relationships taught him that insight only matters when it becomes a habit.• why repeated arguments persist without a foundation• how psychological safety unlocks hard conversations• mutual respect and mutual purpose as safety levers• using clarifying questions to reach the real hurt• defining respect and setting repair agreements• rapid cleanup with the “stained carpet” mindset• shifting from nice to effective truth-telling• work skills that improve home relationships• men and women as different operating systems• production vs attraction as a useful lensIf you love this episode be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We sit with Nikki Corbett to explore why she ended an affair she still cared about, how that choice led to The Scarlet Edit, and what it takes to rebuild self-worth without carrying shame. We unpack attraction, situationships, gendered needs, and the power of clear boundaries.• starting a focused show to tackle affairs, divorces, and dating dynamics• ending a relationship you love to choose self-respect• emotional needs, appreciation, and reigniting attraction• why affairs fascinate us and what we rarely discuss• the hidden cost of situationships and hookup culture• boundaries, patterns, and dating with intention• polyamory, swinging, jealousy, and consent• coaching women toward confidence and standards• where to find Nikki’s work and communityIf you love this show or this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well Send a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Looking for love without the burnout? We sit down with Cheryl Maida, Director of Matchmaking at Matchmaking.com, to explore how high-quality, values-driven introductions can replace endless swiping with genuine connection. Cheryl has spent nearly 16 years guiding singles through a noisy dating landscape, and she lays out a clear path from fatigue to fit: fewer introductions, deeper screening, and coaching that helps you focus on what actually sustains a relationship.We dig into the real tradeoffs between dating apps and professional matchmaking: speed and volume versus trust and compatibility. Cheryl explains how her team interviews every client, screens for core values, life goals, and personality, and crafts concise bios that go beyond photos. You’ll hear why long checklists sabotage momentum, how to narrow to your three or four non-negotiables, and what happens when you challenge assumptions about age and body type. Her story about revealing age last—after interest sparks from substance—shows how often we’re drawn to energy and lifestyle over a number.The conversation also tackles the modern mess: scams, ghosting, and even AI-generated profiles that make it harder to trust what you see. Cheryl shares practical ways to meet people offline with intention plus small social habits that make you more approachable. We cover who can join her database, why women are free and men are clients, the firm boundaries she holds with misaligned expectations, and the expanding niches her team supports, including a fast-growing community of gay men and professionals across the country.If you want a smarter strategy for dating—one built on clarity, compatibility, and credible introductions—this conversation offers a hopeful reset. Subscribe, share with a friend who’s swiped out, and leave a review to tell us which dating “rule” you’re ready to rethink. Then, if you’re curious about curated matches, visit matchmaking.com to connect with Cheryl’s team.Send a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Dating shouldn’t feel like an HR interview. We dive straight into how personhood forms through early bonds and how those patterns quietly script who we chase, who we avoid, and why some relationships feel like home while others feel like work. Jack Bohanan, certified Somatic relationship coach, brings a grounded, experiential approach to attachment that moves beyond labels and into lived change—where the body, boundaries, and honest feedback reshape your style of relating.We unpack the classic anxious–avoidant loop in plain language and talk about how to build secure behaviors without turning your identity into a diagnosis. Jack explains why Somatic’s client-centered, experiential sessions can feel “more therapeutic than therapy,” including consent-based touch, explicit boundary practice, and practitioner ownership of projections. You’ll hear simple but powerful skills—receiving a compliment without deflecting, pausing for regulation, and making small specific requests—that create a new internal map you can carry into love.Then we zoom out to culture. Jack shares a vivid story from Colombia that contrasts U.S. dating with unfiltered feminine expression and examines the current tug-of-war between gender essentialism and neutrality. Biology matters, but it isn’t destiny; roles evolve with safety, technology, and independence. The goal isn’t to cosplay retro polarity, but to meet as two whole people whose energy fits because both are present and real. Expect honest nuance, practical takeaways, and a humane path toward connection that feels alive and steady at the same time.If this conversation sparks something, tap follow, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review. Your words help more people find the show and build relationships that actually work.Send a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077