#94 Your Fighting is Actually a Sign You Care!

Send us a textEver noticed how the person you love most can trigger your worst reactions? That's no accident—it's attachment in action.Couples therapist Figs O'Sullivan joins us to reveal the surprising truth behind relationship conflicts: we don't fight because we don't care, but because we care deeply. Drawing from his journey from childhood dysfunction to creating a loving family, Figgs shares the three-pillar framework that guides his transformative approach to couples therapy.At the heart of his method lies attachment theory—the understanding that humans need emotional connection from birth until death. When we perceive threats to our bond with a loved one, our nervous system goes into protection mode. Combined with systems theory, we see how couples create feedback loops where one person's defensive reaction triggers the other's fears, escalating conflicts despite their best intentions."We're not a threat to each other," Figs explains, "we're just two threatened people having a hard time." This perspective shift is revolutionary—transforming how we view our partner's annoying behaviors as fear responses rather than intentional attacks.Ready to transform your relationship dynamics? Visit Empathi.com for free resources, including an app to identify your attachment patterns, or explore working with Figgs and his specialized team of couples therapists.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDating coach Mark Rosenfeld pulls back the curtain on why modern dating feels so frustrating despite our unprecedented connectivity. Drawing from his own journey overcoming social anxiety to become Australia's leading women's dating coach, Mark delivers refreshingly practical wisdom about finding meaningful connections."We're so connected, now more than ever, and yet we all feel so disconnected," Mark observes about today's dating landscape. His approach balances strategic action with emotional intelligence, helping women navigate both online platforms and in-person opportunities. Rather than exhausting yourself with marathon swiping sessions, Mark recommends consistent, small daily actions that prevent burnout while maximizing genuine connections.The conversation explores the surprising truth about "high value" partners - they're rarely who we initially imagine them to be. While many daters fixate on status markers like appearance or profession, true relationship compatibility stems from emotional safety, mutual respect, and relationship skills that only become visible over time. This explains why many of Mark's clients end up happily partnered with someone who didn't match their original checklist but makes them feel deeply understood.Perhaps most illuminating is Mark's expertise on attachment dynamics, particularly the anxious-avoidant dance that characterizes so many struggling relationships. He shares practical techniques for managing emotional dysregulation during conflicts, including creating agreements in peaceful moments that prevent harmful escalations when triggers arise. His insight that "resentments are unspoken expectations" unlocks a simple yet powerful path to reducing relationship friction through clear communication.Throughout the episode, vulnerability emerges as the bridge to authentic connection. Whether you're navigating online dating algorithms or trying to communicate needs to a partner, leading with emotional honesty creates the foundation for meaningful relationships. Curious about transforming your approach to dating? Mark's program "Make Him Yours" and his online resources offer pathways to develop both the strategy and emotional intelligence needed to thrive in today's complex dating world.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if love isn't just a mysterious emotion but something that follows predictable patterns? Relationship theorist Zoey Charif joins us to reveal how her groundbreaking research can actually predict relationship success with mathematical precision.After experiencing heartbreak during her criminology studies, Charif spent 18 years developing a revolutionary formula that measures relationship compatibility. She explains how we can calculate our "self-score" by rating ourselves on our top five values—things like family, purpose, and dependability. This self-evaluation creates a numerical representation of our self-respect and self-love, forming the foundation for healthy partnerships.The magic happens in the numbers. Through extensive surveys of 300 couples, Charif discovered that successful relationships consistently show a fascinating pattern: partners view each other approximately 4% higher than they view themselves. This slight elevation creates a sustainable dynamic of mutual admiration and respect that allows relationships to thrive. Couples who demonstrate this pattern stay together, while those with misalignments eventually separate.Charif also breaks down relationship personality types, distinguishing between "practical" individuals who prioritize values and "emotional" types who emphasize feelings and attraction. She warns against extreme emotional tendencies that romanticize obsession and fantasy—patterns often reinforced by Disney movies and pop culture narratives about "love at first sight."Whether you're struggling to understand why past relationships failed or seeking to strengthen your current partnership, Charif's formula provides a revolutionary framework for relationship success. Her book "Love Can In Fact Be Calculated" offers a complete guide to applying these principles in your own life. Follow our podcast for more insights that challenge conventional wisdom and provide practical guidance for navigating the complex world of modern relationships.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if everything you thought you knew about male sexuality was incomplete? Beyond the cultural messaging that men should "get up, stay up, and get off on command," lies a rich landscape of physical, emotional, and mental dimensions rarely explored in mainstream conversations.In this revealing episode, Caitlin V—renowned men's sex and relationship coach with nearly 900,000 YouTube subscribers—shares her revolutionary approach to addressing erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety. Rather than reaching for a pill or viewing these challenges as permanent conditions, Caitlin guides us through her holistic framework that begins with physical health but extends far beyond.We explore how our internal narratives create either freedom or limitation in the bedroom, how unprocessed emotions manifest as physical symptoms, and why relationship dynamics directly impact sexual satisfaction. Caitlin debunks the common advice to "spice things up," suggesting instead that deep presence—truly being attentive to every touch, breath, and sensation—creates more profound sexual experiences than novelty alone.The conversation takes fascinating turns through topics like contemporary sex education, emerging sex technologies, and the neuroscience of touch. Did you know specific nerve cells in our skin respond exclusively to gentle stroking, releasing bonding hormones that create the foundation for intimacy? Or that changing how you self-pleasure can dramatically improve sexual stamina?Whether you're struggling with sexual difficulties, seeking to deepen your intimate connections, or simply curious about the complexity of human sexuality, this episode offers practical wisdom and a refreshing perspective. Caitlin reminds us that healthy sexual expression is our birthright—not just for personal fulfillment, but as a contribution to a better world. Taking the next step in your sexual journey, whether through education, communication, or seeking support, might be one of the most transformative choices you make.http://trygroovething.com/caitlinvSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDivorce hits men particularly hard, doubling their suicide risk while offering them fewer support resources than women typically receive. Dr. Eran Magen, Assistant Clinical Professor at Yale School of Medicine, draws from both professional expertise and personal experience to address this crisis through his work at DivorcingDads.org.The conversation explores why men struggle so profoundly after divorce - often isolating themselves rather than seeking support, feeling like failures, and facing challenging custody situations. Dr. Magen breaks down his comprehensive approach built on four essential pillars: navigating legal matters (especially custody arrangements), developing effective co-parenting strategies, strengthening practical parenting skills, and rebuilding a fulfilling personal life.We dive deep into the complexities of dating after divorce when children are involved. When should you start dating again? How do you introduce new partners to your children? What conversations should you have with kids of different ages? Dr. Magen offers thoughtful, practical guidance grounded in child development and relationship psychology.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if the path to healing your deepest wounds lies in unexpected territory? Mistress Mia Payne, a professional dominatrix and certified therapeutic BDSM practitioner, reveals how controlled power exchange can unlock profound emotional release where traditional therapy falls short.Beyond Hollywood's misrepresentations, therapeutic BDSM creates safe spaces for processing trauma, anxiety, and depression through physical experiences that engage the body where emotions are stored. For some clients, it's about reclaiming power after abuse or trauma. For others—particularly high-achieving professionals—sessions provide rare moments of mental quiet when they temporarily surrender the burden of constant responsibility. From age regression therapy that nurtures the inner child to sensation play that triggers healing neurochemical releases, these modalities address needs as unique as the individuals seeking them.Shame emerges as the silent barrier to personal growth and intimate connection. Whether rooted in religious upbringing, strict parenting, or societal judgment, shame creates what Mistress Mia calls "a ribbon that runs through everything." By creating environments where all aspects of self are accepted, clients learn to integrate both shadow and light—a crucial step toward authentic living. "When we fully accept ourselves in all our parts," she explains, "then we can fully accept other people."Having recently completed certification with the Therapeutic BDSM Collaborative Network, Mistress Mia now partners with therapists to design customized experiences for clients who feel stuck in traditional healing approaches. She emphasizes finding skilled practitioners who understand not just techniques but human psychology, as this vulnerable work requires trustworthy guidance. For those curious about exploring this cutting-edge healing modality, visit paynewithpurpose.com to learn more about her self-development dungeon and services.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textRelationship conflicts often seem to revolve around surface-level issues—unwashed dishes, someone coming home late, or disagreements about money. But what if these everyday arguments are actually symptoms of something deeper? Nick Brancato, personal development coach and author of "Prioritize Us," joins Tamara to reveal how most relationship tension stems from misaligned priorities that remain invisible until deliberately examined.Nick's journey to relationship coaching took a fascinating path through careers as a Microsoft systems engineer, high school teacher, and professional poker player. While coaching high-stakes poker players, he discovered that relationship troubles significantly impacted their decision-making abilities during tournaments. This insight, coupled with his own experience navigating his wife's schizophrenia diagnosis, led to a breakthrough realization: when priorities align, relationships thrive even through extreme challenges.The conversation delves into Nick's innovative system that identifies ten core life priorities and measures alignment between partners. He explains the crucial difference between values (long-term beliefs) and priorities (what matters now), offering practical examples of how couples can bridge their differences. Through compelling case studies, Nick demonstrates how simple rituals around shared priorities—like morning meditation or nightly device-free check-ins—create anchors that help navigate misalignments in other areas.Most powerfully, Nick reveals how his Total Difference Score (TDS) serves as a "relationship credit score" that objectively quantifies alignment. He emphasizes that successful relationships don't require identical priorities—in fact, moderate differences allow partners to complement each other—but they do require understanding, intentional conversations, and meaningful adjustments.Ready to transform your relationship? Download Nick's free ebook at nickbrancato.com or follow him on Instagram @personaldevcoach to learn how making the invisible visible can prevent unnecessary conflict and deepen your connection.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textYour gut isn't just about digestion—it's the command center for your entire wellbeing. What if those "normal" symptoms like heartburn, bloating, or irregular bathroom habits are actually signals that something deeper needs attention?As a functional medicine certified health coach, I've seen how transformative proper gut health can be. When your digestive system thrives, everything improves—from mental clarity and skin appearance to your effectiveness in relationships. This episode breaks down the fundamentals of gut health that conventional medicine often overlooks but that could revolutionize how you feel every day.I share my personal journey with gut healing, including how an elimination diet helped me lose 10 pounds (twice!) and finally understand my digestive patterns. You'll learn about powerful testing options like the GI Map that can reveal hidden parasites and bacterial imbalances, why shopping the perimeter of grocery stores matters, and how to decode nutrition labels to avoid the 65 different names for sugar that might be sabotaging your health.The connection between gut health and seemingly unrelated issues like ADHD, unexplained weight gain, and even mold exposure might surprise you. Whether you're struggling with specific symptoms or simply want to optimize your health, these practical approaches can help you build a foundation for overall wellness.Curious about your own gut health? Try the simple elimination protocol outlined in this episode, or explore the testing options mentioned. Your body might be trying to tell you something important—and finally listening could change everything. Text me using the number in the episode description with your questions, and don't forget to share this episode with friends who might benefit from this information too.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the keys to building healthy, fulfilling relationships with insights from our conversation with Sonnet Daymont, a seasoned marriage and family therapist. Gain a deep understanding of the complexities of toxic relationships and learn to spot harmful patterns that can impede personal growth. Sonnet shares her journey from working with children to specializing in complex trauma and abuse, offering a wealth of knowledge on the "dark triad" of personality traits often linked to abusive behaviors. We emphasize the importance of self-awareness and identifying personal needs to ensure consistent kindness from partners, guiding you toward relationships that uplift and empower.Our discussion doesn't shy away from the challenges of online dating, especially for older adults. Drawing from Anderson's revelations in "Love Fraud" and "Senior Sociopaths," we highlight the ongoing risks posed by individuals with dark triad traits. Recognizing manipulative tactics like "love bombing" and understanding their roots in past trauma form a crucial part of our conversation. We also explore therapeutic avenues like bibliotherapy and trauma-informed massage therapy, providing actionable steps for healing and growth. With a focus on reparenting and self-care, this episode aims to equip you with the tools to transform your relationship landscape and nurture self-love.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the groundbreaking insights of Dr. Elliot Justin, the visionary CEO and founder of FirmTech, as he challenges long-held assumptions about male sexual health and its link to cardiovascular wellness. This episode promises to transform your understanding with revelations about nocturnal erections being more than just a quirky phenomenon—they're a potential early warning system for heart health. Say goodbye to outdated views and embrace a new era where technology and personalized care redefine sexual health for men and their partners.Prepare to be enlightened as we explore how data-driven approaches are revolutionizing our grasp of sexual wellness across genders. Dr. Justin unpacks how FirmTech's wearable technology offers a more nuanced and accurate assessment of erectile health compared to traditional methods. Learn about the surprising stability of nocturnal erections post-40 and why this metric is a vital yet overlooked indicator of men's health. Through a wealth of data, we advocate for a shift towards personalized care that accounts for lifestyle, medication, and other contributing factors to erectile dysfunction.In an engaging conversation, we dive into the transformative power of technology and therapies in enhancing intimate relationships, especially for long-term couples. We discuss the significant benefits of using rings to boost men's confidence and sexual performance, while also highlighting how hormone replacement therapy can redefine sexual health for postmenopausal women. This episode is a treasure trove of practical advice, urging listeners to set clear goals and measure outcomes for a more fulfilling sex life. Tune in for a thought-provoking session with Dr. Justin, filled with expert insights that promise to elevate your sexual wellness journey.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic