# 108 Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last, They Just Show Up Weird

Send us a textDating doesn’t need more tricks—it needs better fundamentals. We sit down with Sharp Game, the creator behind Love Can’t Wait, to pull apart the universal relationship principles he learned while traveling the world in the Navy and coaching millions online. Across cultures and personalities, three forces keep showing up: grounded leadership, mutual respect, and a felt sense of safety that lets people be themselves. When those are present, dates are lighter, conversations are clearer, and attraction grows without posturing.Sharp Game also breaks down the myths that hold men back. Assuming an attractive woman has it “all figured out” keeps too many guys from saying hello. The “nice guy” problem isn’t kindness—it’s manipulation disguised as generosity, with early gifts and performative sweetness that don’t match real character. We cover why many men benefit from marrying after 35. Finally, we explore why you should take words with a grain of salt and read consistency over declarations—people often soften truths to spare feelings, and interest shows up in behavior.If you found this conversation useful, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review to help more listeners find the show.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWe dive into how soul contracts, energy healing, and the Akashic Records shape dating, sex, and self-worth, anchored by Kanika’s moving story of loss and awakening. Practical tools help you break toxic patterns, calm inner critics, and choose partners from alignment, not fear.• co-creation with the universe vs control• grief as a portal to purpose and truth• spotting signs, synchronicity and energetic nudges• soul contracts and lessons in key relationships• breaking cycles of toxic partners by healing patterns• root and sacral chakras for safety, desire and creativity• working with inner critics and archetypes, not against them• a short guided yes/no practice for clear next steps• resources to continue healing with meditations and coachingBe sure to check out her website and her social media handlesIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textBreakups can turn smart people into amateur time travelers—looping through the past, bargaining with memories, and mistaking longing for a plan. We sit down with author and podcaster Paul Bauer to unpack that spiral and chart a way out. Paul shares how a rough divorce and a second hard breakup pushed him to confront the real constant—himself—and why inner game, not tricks, determines whether attraction lasts.We dig into the difference between being a good man and a “nice guy,” exploring covert contracts, boundary setting, and why approval-seeking reads as instability. Paul breaks down the painful math of chasing an ex: fixed narratives, harder tests, and the near-inevitability of relapse into old patterns. Instead of looping back, he lays out a clean framework for moving forward—no-contact done right, grief without bargaining, rebuilding routines that restore purpose, and practicing selection with intent. The goal isn’t to win her back; it’s to get yourself back so you can date from strength.From there, we shift into practical tools for attraction and long-term desire. Paul explains how leadership, playful tension, and everyday physicality revive intimacy—especially in “dead bedroom” dynamics—and why waiting until bedtime to ask for connection sets everyone up to fail. We talk about the captain–first officer model, how to lead without steamrolling, and how to keep relationships fun without slipping into complacency. Whether you’re wrestling with one-itis, navigating divorce, or trying to bring spark back to a long-term bond, you’ll leave with clear steps and a steadier frame.If this conversation helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review. Your support helps more people find the show and start moving forward with confidence.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textYour “stress” might have a name—betrayal—and a roadmap out. We sit down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, to unpack why betrayal is unlike any other trauma and how a clear, five-stage process can move you from shock to a stronger, wiser self. Debi shares the research behind post-betrayal syndrome—those stubborn triggers, sleep issues, gut problems, and trust wounds that linger for years—and explains why time alone doesn’t close this chapter. You’ll hear the stats that stop you in your tracks and the mindset shifts that get you moving again.We trace the journey from discovery day to survival mode, then through the crucial pivot into a “new normal” where you start setting boundaries, dropping what no longer fits, and choosing relationships that match your standards. Debi makes the trap of Stage Three unmistakable: it feels better than chaos, so you camp there, collecting sympathy and repeating your story. The way out is willingness. When you choose progress over familiarity, you turn down the stress response and open space for real change. By Stage Five, your body has energy for self-care, your mind runs on healthier rules, and trust in yourself becomes the foundation for trusting others wisely.Debi also details support at The PBT Institute for betrayed partners, betrayers ready to change, and practitioners seeking certification to guide clients through predictable transformation. If you’ve wondered why you still feel stuck—why triggers hijack your day or why walls won’t drop—this conversation gives you language, structure, and hope you can use today. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find their way from survival to renewal.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if the fastest way to heal your relationship is to change the environment of your mind? Larry Bilotta joins us to unpack a counterintuitive truth: a marriage can pivot when even one person moves from fear to love. Not as a platitude—but as daily, trainable energy you carry into every moment. Larry’s story runs through 27 hard years before he fell in love with his wife by first learning to like himself. He shows how a simple writing practice, clear self-inquiry, and two personal word lists—fear on one side, love on the other—can rewire choices, tone, and presence.You’ll hear practical steps to shift your state—writing to make meaning, building love-word lists that you actually feel, and learning to admire love more than fear so behavior changes naturally. We also talk about the role of spiritual foundations in holding these practices together under stress, and why “childhood makes marriage” is a powerful lens for understanding both friction and repair. If you’re a man wondering whether you can lead change on your own, Larry’s insights, including the 21 signs you’re losing her heart and his book “This Is Not the Woman I Married,” will give you direction and hope.If this conversation helps you, share it with someone who needs it, hit follow, and leave a rating or review—then tell us: which love word will you practice today?Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWe explore modern dating challenges with guest Padmini Pandya, who shares her unique perspective from working in tech, creating a dating app, and dating across different countries and cultures.• From organizational psychologist to tech executive in Asia for a decade• Dating internationally after divorce at 31 compared to dating in America• Looked into creating a dating app based on empathy and charitable causes• Why dating apps often fail to create meaningful matches• The irreplaceable aspects of in-person chemistry that technology can't replicate• How pitch-a-friend events and other in-person alternatives are gaining popularity• Why post-breakup periods can be the most serendipitous and growth-oriented times• The problem with "situationships" and half-relationships that waste time• Padmini's YouTube channel "Pieces of Miss Mini" sharing life lessons through personal storiesIf you liked or loved this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it, rate it, and follow the show.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textCommunication is a skill that requires practice, and effective communication can transform personal relationships. Corine LaFont, communications specialist and podcaster, shares insights on navigating communication challenges in everyday life.• Everyone can improve their communication skills with practice• Authentic communication starts with discovering your personal strengths• Understanding your audience is crucial for effective communication• People communicate through their preferred love languages• Frame sensitive conversations within your partner's love language• Walking away from conflict temporarily can prevent regrettable words• Maintaining calm during conflict helps defuse tense situations• Our intuition serves as an internal warning system and is never wrong• We often ignore our intuition because we're drawn to familiar patterns• "Between the Lines" podcast helps decode hidden meanings in communication• Building a relationship with your intuition leads to more authentic connectionsFind Corine on LinkedIn or visit her website at beyondthelineslearningstore.com for courses, resources, and more information on her podcast "Between the Lines."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textThe chemical dance between testosterone and oxytocin might be the most overlooked factor in your dating life. Andre Paradis returns to the podcast to unveil the biological realities that shape our romantic interactions, particularly around sex and intimacy.Andre explains how men and women operate on fundamentally different chemical systems. Men, fueled by testosterone, thrive on competition and challenge, receiving dopamine and endorphins that regulate their nervous systems when they accomplish goals. Women, however, are primarily oxytocin-driven, finding balance through connection, touch, and communication.This distinction becomes critical when examining modern dating patterns. Women working in competitive environments experience approximately six times the stress men do in identical situations. Without testosterone to fuel them, these "boss babes" operate on adrenaline, which creates cortisol—depleting their energy, femininity, and emotional resources. The resulting oxytocin deficiency makes maintaining healthy boundaries around physical intimacy exceptionally difficult.Ready to understand the chemical dynamics affecting your relationships? Contact Andre at [email protected] for a free consultation or to receive his workbook "The Five Feminine Qualities High Value Men Find Absolutely Irresistible."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDavid Prosper shares his journey to becoming a clarity advocate and how finding clarity transforms our approach to relationships, dating, and self-worth. His mission began while observing capable people in his community failing to reach their potential due to lack of clarity about navigating life intentionally rather than reactively.• Growing up in the projects of Fort Lauderdale inspired David to help others find clarity in their lives• Clarity isn't about having everything figured out, but identifying your next right step• Difficult conversations lead to deeper relationships when approached with truth and grace• Many people struggle to articulate what they want in dating because they're focused on avoiding past hurts• The best intimate experiences come from clear communication about wants and needs• Self-worth builds when we follow through on commitments to ourselves, even small ones• Progress looks different every day - sometimes it's 10%, sometimes 100% - but celebrate all progress• David's book "Finding Clarity" will be released in August 2025You can reach David directly at davidbprosper.com or find him on Instagram @iamprosper1_.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhen someone you trust deeply hurts you in a way you never expected, how do you move forward? Dr. Bruce Chalmer, couples therapist and author, joins us to unravel the complex journey from betrayal to forgiveness.Dr. Chalmer challenges common misconceptions about forgiveness, offering a perspective that might surprise you: "Forgiveness is an inside job." Rather than focusing on whether to restore your relationship with someone who hurt you, true forgiveness is about your internal healing process. The conversation distinguishes between forgiveness and trust, making it clear that you can forgive someone without ever trusting them again. For those considering rebuilding trust after betrayal, Dr. Chalmer emphasizes the crucial role of accountability. Without genuine accountability from the person who caused harm, trust becomes virtually impossible to restore.We also explore how healthy relationships require balancing two fundamental needs: stability and intimacy. Stability provides security, while intimacy fuels growth and connection. As Dr. Chalmer explains, "Roots provide stability, but intimacy is the energy for growth." When couples sacrifice intimacy for too long in pursuit of stability, the relationship becomes vulnerable to betrayal as someone inevitably tries to "crack the sidewalk."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic