#103 From Tech Executive to Dating App Creator: One Woman's Journey

Send us a textYour “stress” might have a name—betrayal—and a roadmap out. We sit down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, to unpack why betrayal is unlike any other trauma and how a clear, five-stage process can move you from shock to a stronger, wiser self. Debi shares the research behind post-betrayal syndrome—those stubborn triggers, sleep issues, gut problems, and trust wounds that linger for years—and explains why time alone doesn’t close this chapter. You’ll hear the stats that stop you in your tracks and the mindset shifts that get you moving again.We trace the journey from discovery day to survival mode, then through the crucial pivot into a “new normal” where you start setting boundaries, dropping what no longer fits, and choosing relationships that match your standards. Debi makes the trap of Stage Three unmistakable: it feels better than chaos, so you camp there, collecting sympathy and repeating your story. The way out is willingness. When you choose progress over familiarity, you turn down the stress response and open space for real change. By Stage Five, your body has energy for self-care, your mind runs on healthier rules, and trust in yourself becomes the foundation for trusting others wisely.Debi also details support at The PBT Institute for betrayed partners, betrayers ready to change, and practitioners seeking certification to guide clients through predictable transformation. If you’ve wondered why you still feel stuck—why triggers hijack your day or why walls won’t drop—this conversation gives you language, structure, and hope you can use today. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find their way from survival to renewal.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if the fastest way to heal your relationship is to change the environment of your mind? Larry Bilotta joins us to unpack a counterintuitive truth: a marriage can pivot when even one person moves from fear to love. Not as a platitude—but as daily, trainable energy you carry into every moment. Larry’s story runs through 27 hard years before he fell in love with his wife by first learning to like himself. He shows how a simple writing practice, clear self-inquiry, and two personal word lists—fear on one side, love on the other—can rewire choices, tone, and presence.You’ll hear practical steps to shift your state—writing to make meaning, building love-word lists that you actually feel, and learning to admire love more than fear so behavior changes naturally. We also talk about the role of spiritual foundations in holding these practices together under stress, and why “childhood makes marriage” is a powerful lens for understanding both friction and repair. If you’re a man wondering whether you can lead change on your own, Larry’s insights, including the 21 signs you’re losing her heart and his book “This Is Not the Woman I Married,” will give you direction and hope.If this conversation helps you, share it with someone who needs it, hit follow, and leave a rating or review—then tell us: which love word will you practice today?Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWe explore modern dating challenges with guest Padmini Pandya, who shares her unique perspective from working in tech, creating a dating app, and dating across different countries and cultures.• From organizational psychologist to tech executive in Asia for a decade• Dating internationally after divorce at 31 compared to dating in America• Looked into creating a dating app based on empathy and charitable causes• Why dating apps often fail to create meaningful matches• The irreplaceable aspects of in-person chemistry that technology can't replicate• How pitch-a-friend events and other in-person alternatives are gaining popularity• Why post-breakup periods can be the most serendipitous and growth-oriented times• The problem with "situationships" and half-relationships that waste time• Padmini's YouTube channel "Pieces of Miss Mini" sharing life lessons through personal storiesIf you liked or loved this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it, rate it, and follow the show.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textCommunication is a skill that requires practice, and effective communication can transform personal relationships. Corine LaFont, communications specialist and podcaster, shares insights on navigating communication challenges in everyday life.• Everyone can improve their communication skills with practice• Authentic communication starts with discovering your personal strengths• Understanding your audience is crucial for effective communication• People communicate through their preferred love languages• Frame sensitive conversations within your partner's love language• Walking away from conflict temporarily can prevent regrettable words• Maintaining calm during conflict helps defuse tense situations• Our intuition serves as an internal warning system and is never wrong• We often ignore our intuition because we're drawn to familiar patterns• "Between the Lines" podcast helps decode hidden meanings in communication• Building a relationship with your intuition leads to more authentic connectionsFind Corine on LinkedIn or visit her website at beyondthelineslearningstore.com for courses, resources, and more information on her podcast "Between the Lines."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textThe chemical dance between testosterone and oxytocin might be the most overlooked factor in your dating life. Andre Paradis returns to the podcast to unveil the biological realities that shape our romantic interactions, particularly around sex and intimacy.Andre explains how men and women operate on fundamentally different chemical systems. Men, fueled by testosterone, thrive on competition and challenge, receiving dopamine and endorphins that regulate their nervous systems when they accomplish goals. Women, however, are primarily oxytocin-driven, finding balance through connection, touch, and communication.This distinction becomes critical when examining modern dating patterns. Women working in competitive environments experience approximately six times the stress men do in identical situations. Without testosterone to fuel them, these "boss babes" operate on adrenaline, which creates cortisol—depleting their energy, femininity, and emotional resources. The resulting oxytocin deficiency makes maintaining healthy boundaries around physical intimacy exceptionally difficult.Ready to understand the chemical dynamics affecting your relationships? Contact Andre at [email protected] for a free consultation or to receive his workbook "The Five Feminine Qualities High Value Men Find Absolutely Irresistible."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDavid Prosper shares his journey to becoming a clarity advocate and how finding clarity transforms our approach to relationships, dating, and self-worth. His mission began while observing capable people in his community failing to reach their potential due to lack of clarity about navigating life intentionally rather than reactively.• Growing up in the projects of Fort Lauderdale inspired David to help others find clarity in their lives• Clarity isn't about having everything figured out, but identifying your next right step• Difficult conversations lead to deeper relationships when approached with truth and grace• Many people struggle to articulate what they want in dating because they're focused on avoiding past hurts• The best intimate experiences come from clear communication about wants and needs• Self-worth builds when we follow through on commitments to ourselves, even small ones• Progress looks different every day - sometimes it's 10%, sometimes 100% - but celebrate all progress• David's book "Finding Clarity" will be released in August 2025You can reach David directly at davidbprosper.com or find him on Instagram @iamprosper1_.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhen someone you trust deeply hurts you in a way you never expected, how do you move forward? Dr. Bruce Chalmer, couples therapist and author, joins us to unravel the complex journey from betrayal to forgiveness.Dr. Chalmer challenges common misconceptions about forgiveness, offering a perspective that might surprise you: "Forgiveness is an inside job." Rather than focusing on whether to restore your relationship with someone who hurt you, true forgiveness is about your internal healing process. The conversation distinguishes between forgiveness and trust, making it clear that you can forgive someone without ever trusting them again. For those considering rebuilding trust after betrayal, Dr. Chalmer emphasizes the crucial role of accountability. Without genuine accountability from the person who caused harm, trust becomes virtually impossible to restore.We also explore how healthy relationships require balancing two fundamental needs: stability and intimacy. Stability provides security, while intimacy fuels growth and connection. As Dr. Chalmer explains, "Roots provide stability, but intimacy is the energy for growth." When couples sacrifice intimacy for too long in pursuit of stability, the relationship becomes vulnerable to betrayal as someone inevitably tries to "crack the sidewalk."Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textEver wondered why your relationships follow the same frustrating patterns? The answer might lie in your attachment style—a psychological blueprint formed in early childhood that shapes how you connect with others throughout your life. In this eye-opening episode, certified relationship and attachment trauma practitioner Bev Miteleman, M.A. reveals how these unconscious patterns dramatically impact our sex lives.What makes this conversation so powerful is how Mitelman connects the dots between our earliest bonding experiences and our adult sexual behaviors. She expertly breaks down the four attachment styles—secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—explaining how each approaches intimacy differently. The anxiously attached person who initiates sex primarily to feel emotional closeness. The avoidant who enjoys physical pleasure but avoids overnight stays and deeper connection. The securely attached who naturally integrates physical and emotional intimacy. These patterns explain so much about why we behave the way we do in relationships.Perhaps most fascinating is Mitelman's explanation of why anxious and avoidant people frequently find themselves attracted to each other, creating relationships where one partner constantly seeks closeness while the other pulls away. As she notes, "Attachment styles are not gendered"—contrary to popular memes, these dynamics can appear in any relationship configuration. But there's hope in her message too. These patterns, formed through emotion and repetition in childhood, can be rewired using those same mechanisms. With awareness and consistent effort, anyone can develop more secure attachment and experience deeper, more fulfilling connections.Whether you're struggling with relationship patterns that leave you feeling unfulfilled or simply curious about the psychology behind intimacy, this episode offers invaluable insights into how we love and connect. Check out Securely Loved on Instagram, YouTube, or at securelyloved.com to learn more about healing attachment wounds and creating healthier relationships.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textHave you ever wondered what it would feel like to show up completely authentically in your relationships? To strip away the masks, scripts, and expectations that keep you playing small?Intimacy coach Hani Cheng takes us on a profound journey into radical honesty and deep connection. She introduces the concept of our "infinite being" – that part of ourselves that exists beyond our physical form and sees the bigger picture of our lives. By connecting with this expanded self, we can discern our true desires from the conditioning and external influences that often drive our choices.The magic happens when we learn to trust these authentic desires, even when they seem unconventional or taboo. As Hani explains, "Feed yourself with things that light you up from deep within. That's the most pleasurable and exploratory, rewarding experiences." This alignment creates a magnetic quality she likens to becoming a "lighthouse" – radiating your unique energy and naturally attracting compatible relationships and opportunities.But what about when subconscious patterns interfere with our authentic expression? Through a fascinating live demonstration, Hani guides us through energy work techniques to identify and clear these blocks. She teaches us to distinguish between what's truly ours and what's "hijacking" our expression.For couples seeking deeper connection, Hani offers practical wisdom on creating a relationship vision grounded in values like respect, freedom, and truth. She introduces revolutionary approaches to intimate communication, including tuning into the wisdom of the body as a source of guidance. "What is the truth of what my genitals want today?" becomes a pathway to presence, pleasure, and profound connection.Ready to transform your relationships through radical honesty? Listen now and discover how authentic self-expression can lead to the connection you've always craved. https://tantrasingapore.com/Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if the path to profound sexual connection begins long before anyone enters the bedroom? Christian de la Huerta, author of "Conscious Love: Transforming Our Relationship to Relationships," reveals how emotional awareness creates the foundation for sacred sexuality and deeper relationship satisfaction.Most of us are surprisingly clueless about our emotions, suppressing them until they either erupt volcanically or manifest as physical ailments. Christian walks us through practical approaches to developing emotional intelligence, including a simple grid method to check in with yourself throughout the day. This awareness creates choice in how we respond rather than react, allowing us to take responsibility for our feelings instead of blaming others.The conversation takes a fascinating turn as we explore how historical and cultural factors have separated sexuality from spirituality. In many ancient traditions, sexuality was considered sacred—a pathway to transcendence and union. Christian challenges the artificial divide between physical and spiritual realms, offering practical ways to reclaim the sanctity of sexual connection. He shares a delightful framework comparing sexual experiences to food—from "junk food sex" to "gourmet sex".Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic