EP 154 | Stop Performing Pain: Share Your Story With Power (Not Trauma)

Leslie Jones spent decades locked in performance mode, coaching leaders while battling her own stage anxiety and podcast fears. Then something shifted two months ago that changed everything about how she shows up. The creator of the Spiral Method reveals why the billion-dollar self-help industry keeps us trapped in hungry ghost syndrome, and how real transformation happens not through weekend workshops but in sustained community containers. She's dismantling 20 years of mental frameworks to get back to something simpler: real people having real conversations about being human together. This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about remembering what we've forgotten about authentic connection and why the future of leadership depends on our ability to create psychological safety in an increasingly artificial world. Key Timestamps [00:06:12] The shift from stage anxiety to podcast ease [00:11:30] Why Leslie targets white male leaders specifically [00:22:18] Cultivating conditions for magic and miracles in community [00:35:20] Creating containers for authentic vulnerability [00:41:15] The fear of entering community and social anxiety About Leslie Jones: Leslie is passionate about assisting leaders seeking a balanced, holistic approach to life and business while having a huge impact on the companies and people they lead. As a lifelong learner and entrepreneur, Leslie has started numerous businesses over the past 25 years, including Leslie Jones Coaching, Jones Associates, Let's Go Live, the InnerActive Institute, and SpiralMethod. As a master executive coach, Leslie helps other entrepreneurs, medium-sized businesses, and Fortune 500 companies uncover the underlying obstacles that prevent peak performance. She has developed proven systems that work to resolve issues and create dramatic increases in income, productivity, personal power, satisfaction, and work/life balance. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spiralmethod LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesliejonescoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SpiralMethod/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8a0l_jJuvp01Jxpp-uIj1g Website: https://spiralmethod.com/leslie-jones/ Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! ⁠https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a⁠ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the most transformative stories God gives us aren't meant for the masses. In this intimate prayer episode, we seek divine guidance on the delicate balance between testimony and sacred silence, between opening our hearts and guarding our tongues. There's profound tension in knowing when to speak and when to stay quiet, when to use the megaphone and when to hold something in the sacred container of privacy. This prayer covers the listener in protection as she navigates the enemy's attempts to pervert her words while growing in discernment about God's timing for her truth. Key Timestamps [00:00:30] Prayer for discernment between testimony and privacy [00:01:15] Protection prayer against enemy interference [00:02:00] Closing prayer for guarded heart and tongue Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a razor-thin line between authentic vulnerability and damaging overshare. Most speakers get this wrong and it destroys their impact before they even realize it's happening. Rae reveals the costly mistakes she made while building her brand - from trauma-dumping in public to swinging so far toward privacy that she lost all connection with her audience. The solution isn't what you think. It's not about finding balance or following content formulas. It's about taking your stories to God first and letting Him decide what serves His mission. When you stop performing your pain and start sharing from a place of complete healing, everything changes. Key Timestamps [00:02:15] The privacy vs. public brand dilemma [00:06:45] The painful swing to surface-level content [00:15:30] Stories that need time to season and mature [00:23:30] Morning challenge: Asking God how to serve through your story Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rae Irelan opens this episode with a heartfelt prayer, setting the intention for listeners to discover new levels of freedom in their life and business. The conversation with former television reporter-turned Signature Story Strategist Molly Gomez promises to deliver blueprints for creating not just time, location, and financial freedom, but spiritual freedom within business and relationships. About Molly Gomez Molly Gomez is a former television reporter turned international speaker and Signature Story Strategist who helps leaders find their voice, own their authority, and build personal brands that stand out in any room. She equips entrepreneurs and executives with the storytelling, communication, and on-camera presence they need to become powerhouse speakers and the go-to voices in their industry. 3 Pillar Exercise to Gain Clarity with Your Story: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/JFSEInKnqej67FgwSBVb?notrack=true Website: www.signaturestoryco.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/molly_trotter   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Molly_gomez Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rae Irelan had everything the world calls success: a nationally touring band, amphitheater stages, and recognition everywhere she went. But behind the spotlight, she felt like a slave in her own life. The night she drove her car off a cliff changed everything. In this raw conversation, Ray shares the divine encounter that shifted her from suicidal despair to building a seven-figure business while living nomadically around the world. She reveals the three-step framework that transformed her identity crisis into unshakeable worthiness, and why vulnerability became her secret weapon for creating true freedom. This isn't just another entrepreneurship story. It's about the moment when God's vision collides with human willingness, and what happens when you choose to chase promises that seem impossible from a jail cell. Key Timestamps [00:03:45] Rae's background as a performing artist and touring musician [00:08:12] The injury that ended her dance career and shifted her identity [00:18:45] The divine vision of marriage, family, business and impact [00:28:15] The three pillars: Dream, Create, Impact About Molly Gomez Molly Gomez is a former television reporter turned international speaker and Signature Story Strategist who helps leaders find their voice, own their authority, and build personal brands that stand out in any room. She equips entrepreneurs and executives with the storytelling, communication, and on-camera presence they need to become powerhouse speakers and the go-to voices in their industry. 3 Pillar Exercise to Gain Clarity with Your Story: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/JFSEInKnqej67FgwSBVb?notrack=true Website: www.signaturestoryco.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/molly_trotter   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Molly_gomez Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the most powerful moments happen before we even begin speaking. In this intimate prayer opening, Molly Gomez calls down a breakthrough for every listener struggling to find their authentic voice in a world full of noise and comparison. This isn't just another prayer; it's a declaration over the voices that need to rise up right now. Molly speaks directly to the shame, the chains, and the fear that keep so many gifted people silent when the world desperately needs what they have to offer. Key Timestamps [00:01:15] Prayer for unlocking God-given voices [00:02:00] Breaking chains and demolishing shame About Molly Gomez Molly Gomez is a former television reporter turned international speaker and Signature Story Strategist who helps leaders find their voice, own their authority, and build personal brands that stand out in any room. She equips entrepreneurs and executives with the storytelling, communication, and on-camera presence they need to become powerhouse speakers and the go-to voices in their industry. 3 Pillar Exercise to Gain Clarity with Your Story: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/JFSEInKnqej67FgwSBVb?notrack=true Website: www.signaturestoryco.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/molly_trotter   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Molly_gomez Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Success can become its own cage. Former TV reporter Molly Gomez thought she had found her voice behind the anchor desk until the industry fired her for refusing to dim her light. Now she helps high-achieving women break free from the performance trap that keeps them playing small, even at seven and eight-figure levels. This conversation cuts deep into the difference between being a good communicator and being a truth teller. Molly reveals why delegation isn't just about time management, it's about identity management. She shares the viral moment that changed everything and why the stories that terrify us most are often the ones that set us free. Key Timestamps [00:06:12] The photo that got her fired from TV news [00:15:45] The difference between offense and defense in storytelling [00:25:30] The freedom that comes from sharing your truth [00:32:45] The delegation trap that keeps leaders small [00:43:30] The "It's Bigger Than Me" philosophy About Molly Gomez Molly Gomez is a former television reporter turned international speaker and Signature Story Strategist who helps leaders find their voice, own their authority, and build personal brands that stand out in any room. She equips entrepreneurs and executives with the storytelling, communication, and on-camera presence they need to become powerhouse speakers and the go-to voices in their industry. 3 Pillar Exercise to Gain Clarity with Your Story: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/JFSEInKnqej67FgwSBVb?notrack=true Website: www.signaturestoryco.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/molly_trotter   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Molly_gomez Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every voice carries a unique vibration, as distinct as a thumbprint or snowflake. In this powerful prayer moment, we're reminded that the stories we've walked through aren't just personal experiences—they're divine gifts meant to echo throughout history. The question isn't whether you have influence, but whether you're preparing for the moment when God uses your story to reach thousands of people you may never see. This isn't about becoming a celebrity; it's about recognizing the seed that's already been planted and stepping into expectant, heart-centered preparation. [00:01:15] Stories as echoes throughout history [00:02:15] Expectant heart-centered space Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your audience loved your story, felt connected, but walked away empty-handed. The feedback stings because you know you had something powerful to share, yet somehow it didn't stick. Rae reveals the brutal truth about why even our most passionate messages fail to create the ripple effect we're desperate for. The human mind can only hold three things at once, but most speakers ignore this reality. Through her own stage experience and the stories that people still repeat back to her years later, Rae breaks down the difference between messages that die in the moment and those that echo through generations. This isn't about perfecting your delivery - it's about understanding why simple, clear stories become the foundation of true legacy leadership. Key Timestamps [00:04:30] Jesus' story as the ultimate example of repeatable messaging [00:06:45] The mountain echo principle for amplifying impact [00:09:20] Understanding your audience to identify their three key needs [00:14:15] The boring story paradox - why repetition builds legacy Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the most powerful moments come in the quietest spaces. Sarah Fuentes opens this episode with a prayer that cuts straight to the heart of human worth and divine perspective. In just one minute, she addresses the universal experience of feeling discarded while pointing toward a radical shift in how we see value. This isn't just about sustainability or waste management; it's about recognizing treasure where others see trash, both in materials and in people. About Sarah Fuentes Sarah is the Founder and President of Smart Waste, a women-owned startup focused on waste technologies and zero-waste programs. She serves as Chairwoman of Women in Cleantech and Sustainability (WCS) and co-hosts the Trash Magic! podcast about the circular economy. Before entering the waste industry in 2020, Sarah worked with special needs children and at-risk youth, bringing her caregiving heart to environmental stewardship. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saraevefuentes LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-eve-fuentes-6a620422 Website: https://www.womenincleantechsustainability.org/ Smart Waste: https://smartwasteusa.com Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting:⁠ www.evolvedpodcasting.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices