Polyamory, Monogamy & the Tantra Myth

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a sexual issue that affects approximately 1 in 3 men aged 18 to 59 in North America. It occurs when ejaculation happens sooner than desired during sexual activity. PE is considered the most common sexual disorder among men and can lead to depression, low self-confidence, erectile dysfunction, and relationship problems.Conventional definitions describe premature ejaculation as a sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation that "always or nearly always occurs before or within 1 minute of penetration" and the inability to delay ejaculation in nearly all instances of intercourse. This often results in stress, frustration, and sometimes avoidance of sexual intimacy.Many men and their partners believe they have PE if they cannot last more than a few minutes, and we agree with this perspective! We define premature ejaculation as having little to no control over when or if one ejaculates. In short, if you consistently ejaculate before you want to, it becomes an issue for both you and your partner.Fortunately, PE is one of the more straightforward sexual dysfunctions to address, provided you understand the underlying causes and have effective methods to tackle it.This episode of Sex Is Medicine outlines:The definition of PE and how to know if you have itCommon causes of PEPros vs Cons of conventional remedies for PE Holistic methods to last longer and how they workCuring PE naturally and safely Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Did you know that men and (PWP) are capable of experiencing over 11 different types of 0rg4sm? That's right—there are more than 11 unique forms of 0rg4smic ple4sure available to you through g3nital stimulation!Unfortunately, most men typically only experience one or two types of 0rg4sm, leaving a vast world of pl34sure unexplored.In this episode of Sx Is Medicine, Devi and Alaina break down the more than 11 different 0rg4sms that men and PWPs can experience through breath, connection, and mindful m4sturb4tion.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

In this episode, Alaina and Devi draw on their combined 27 years of expertise to answer a very common question: "Is it normal not to feel him inside you?”While it's true that many, many women and V-owners experience a lack of genital sensation, this doesn’t mean it's normal. Common? Yes. Normal? Not at all! Unfortunately, in the quest to boost body positivity, creators can sometimes unintentionally overlook sharing valuable insights that can help us all maximize our pleasure.This episode explores:The science around genital innervationWhy genital numbness occursHow to use pleasure as medicine to dissolve the numbness and pain that result from unprocessed trauma and emotional wounding. Tips for cultivating a sacred sensual healing session for yourself!Learn more about our tips for resensitizing your beautiful body at https://holisticsexologyinstitute.com/blog/Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Welcome back to Sex Is Medicine, your number #1 resource for holistic sex education. In this episode, Alaina and Devi draw on their combined 27 years of expertise to answer a listener's question: "Can you practice tantra as a same-sex couple?" The answer is "Of course!", and here are a few things to consider:It's essential to distinguish between authentic, lineage-based Tantra (real Tantra) and Neo-Tantra. Authentic, lineage-based Tantra involves energy body yoga and meditation, whether practiced sexually or non-sexually, and whether done individually (solo)  or in partnership. The concept of "polarity" in Neo-Tantra creates a lot of confusion for Queer folks. The concept of "polarity" is not found in authentic, Buddhist lineages of Tantra. The concept of "Polarity" as it relates to sexuality was introduced to the Neo-Tantra industry by author David Deida. David Deida's teachings are not sourced from or associated with an authentic Tantric lineage. In short, the concept of polarity is not a concept present in authentic Tantra. It has no relevance in the practice of actual Tantra. Same-sex relationships are very congruent with the original roots of Tantric Buddhism, which were revolutionary, transformative, and transgressive. In examining the roots of Tantric Buddhist sexuality, studies reveal the concept of "Pandikas"—people who are trans, gender non-conforming, or engage in same-sex relationships. There is a historical reference recognizing non-cis, non-heteronormative relationship structures. In some cultures, such as Chinese Taoist, women-to-women relationships were well-supported and celebrated. In contrast, in others, such as Roman and Spartan societies, male-to-male relationships received similar acknowledgments.Authentic, lineage-based Tantra for same-sex couples can incorporate all of the same methods and practices as used for heterosexual couples.Same-sex couples can use meditation, yogic breathwork, communication, and pleasure methods to enrich, balance, and heal the energy and physical. For queer men, women, and non-binary folks, heart-centered tantric practices can help improve relationships by healing wounds inflicted by Patriarchy, allowing individuals to foster loving relationships with themselves, their partners, and their environment.Tantra is a spiritual technology that has been transmitted from one human heart to another for millennia. Tantra is designed to support the liberation of body, mind, and sex for all human beings, without a single exception.Check out our Tantra Healing Program if you'd like to learn Tibetan 5 Element Tantra for Holistic sexual healing.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

This episode clearly breaks down the overt and intentional lies told by Nicole Daedone regarding the origins of Orgasmic Meditation (OM).It highlights how these falsehoods were used to manipulate and coerce clients, employees, and the general public into practicing OM. The misleading narrative suggested that OM was a legitimate esoteric method of spiritual realization, supposedly transmitted by a Buddhist monk to OneTaste founder Nicole Daedone.These lies form the foundation of the OneTaste brand and its primary methodology, Orgasmic Meditation. They directly challenge the core of the OneTaste trial defense, which claims that the plaintiff and OM participants were always in “full consent.”  However, one of the basic tenets of abuse recovery is recognizing that you cannot consent to a lie. Withholding or omitting the truth, as well as intentionally deceiving people about the origins of a method to manipulate their perception, are hallmarks of abusive behavior. This is crucial because OM was, and still is, promoted as a method for “healing sexual trauma,” yet the very foundation of the practice was built on an extensive and deliberate lie propagated by Nicole Daedone through multiple media outlets.Fortunately, the US justice system agrees with this perspective. On Monday, June 9th, 2025, after less than 2 days of deliberation, a federal jury convicted the Founder and former CEO of OneTaste, Nicole Daedone, and her former head of sales, Rachel Cherwitz, of forced labor conspiracy. After hearing 5 weeks of testimony from former employees and clients of OneTaste, based on the evidence presented, it took less than 48 hours for the jury to determine that the defendants, Nicole Daedone and Rachel Cherwitz, subjected their victims to: economicsexualemotionalfinancialand psychological abuseas well as surveillanceindoctrinationand intimidation They are each facing up to 20 years in prison. Read more at https://holisticsexologyinstitute.com/the-deliberate-deception-of-orgasmic-meditationom/.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

It's back! Sex Is Medicine PODCAST -  your number one resource for Holistic Sex Education- is back!Sex Is Medicine is serving up sex-ed info rooted in 27 years of combined expertise! Alaina Salks and Devi Ward Erickson share the most cutting-edge and accurate information to answer your questions about holistic sexual wellness, helping you integrate body, mind, spirit, and sex.Brand-new episodes of Sex Is Medicine drop every Thursday morning, so be sure to like and subscribe on all your favorite listening platforms so you don't miss a single dose of Sex Is Medicine.This week's dose of Sex Is Medicine is served with tea…Alaina and Devi spill ALL the tea about WTF is happening with IATE, why the Authentic Tantra Certification Program is ending after a DECADE on the market (RIP ATCP!), + WTF catalyzed the radical changes behind the scenes of IATE.We invite you to grab a cup of something delicious, get cozy, and tune in to turn on your heart, mind, spirit, and sex!In this episode, Devi and Alaina shareDevi's experience of evacuating her home hours before it was consumed by an out-of-control wildfireThe difference between "bad" karma and "intense" karmaThe transformative power of FIRE elementThe reality of spiritual alignment and spiritual integrityWhy authentic Tantra is NOT for everyoneClarifying the difference between Tantra and Holistic SexologyWhy Holistic Sexology opens so many more doors of possibilitySex Is Medicine is an award-winning podcast that launched in 2013 as "Better Love and Sex". In 2015, BLS rebranded as "Sex Is Medicine" and, in 2021, won the 2021 AASECT award for Best Sexuality-Based Podcast.We are grateful to be back with all of you! Make sure you like and subscribe on all of your favorite listening platforms so you don't miss your weekly dose of Sex Is Medicine REBOOT.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Join us on our new podcast Tantra Talks with Devi and Chris where we talk about everything Tantra!Tantra Talks – Episode 4 with Devi Ward Erickson & Dr. Chris Erickson (Listen wherever you get your podcasts!)If you’ve been anywhere near spiritual Instagram lately, you’ve probably seen it:Aubrey Marcus, polyamory backlash, and hot takes galore.The ongoing conversation around non-monogamy has made one thing very clear: People are craving more nuance around love, sex, and spiritual growth.Which is exactly why this episode of Tantra Talks couldn’t have come at a better time.In Episode 4, we dive into one of the biggest myths in the Western Tantra world:Do you have to be polyamorous to practice Tantra?Short answer: No.But we go way deeper than that.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

Join Devi Ward Erickson and her panel of certified Experts for the final episode of 2021!Devi and her crew answer listeners questions about:* Keeping and maintaining and erection with new partners* How to find time to practice Tantra* The reality of wet dreams* Why Gspot vibrators are a SCAMJoin us for the last episode of the season and make sure to subscribe to Sex Is Medicine in iTunes, Spotify, and YoutubeThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

There are many articles written about “toxic masculinity”, but how does “healthy masculinity” show up? And in a culture rooted in largely toxic values with very little pleasure and connection-based sex education available, how do cisgender men learn how to be healthy, loving, compassionate, and EMPOWERED Men?Join Devi Ward Erickson and Certified Sex Educator, Kristopher Lovestone as they discuss his new book Conscious C*ck: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men.Find out:* What Healthy masculinity for cishet men looks and feels like* Boundaries & consent as a self-empowerment practice* Sex education for men* Communication tools for relationship success* Building intimacy through authenticity* How this information is relevant to men of colorJoin us for this lively and activated conversation!Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina

How do you integrate the practice of Tantra without absorbing potentially harmful cis-heteronormative narratives?This episode is for radical anti-assimilationists, those who want to get past the trauma stories of linen pants, and those who know enlightenment doesn't happen by turning a blind eye to pain, suffering, and the oppressed.Join Devi Ward Erickson and her guest TK as they discuss Queering Tantra and what that looks like.In this episode find out...-queering the language of tantra - deciding whether we want to use terms like feminine/masculine, top/bottom, receiving/giving-how to integrate body pleasure and ways of dealing with dysmorphia-how kink can help-deliberate immediate presence vs open empty space-what it means to be fiercely vulnerable with language you choose-how to create and use your own terms-tantra as an integrated lifestyle: breathing life and presence into all you doThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Do you have a question you want answered on air? We are delighted to answer!Send your questions to [email protected] more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comFind out more about our government-accredited Holistic Sexology Certification Program. See you next week!With Love,Devi and Alaina