Why Marriages Should Fight

What happens when you discover the roots of your marriage conflicts go back to childhood? In this vulnerable conversation, Lady A's Hillary Scott and her husband Chris Tyrrell join Rebekah and Gabe to share how facing their origin stories transformed their relationship. Chris bravely discusses how addressing childhood wounds of loneliness helped Hillary see his intense reactions not as a "scary grizzly bear" but as a hurt teenager seeking connection.Learn the importance of making time for reflection, naming emotions rather than recycling blame, and committing to "return" after conflict. This honest discussion shows how looking backward with curiosity rather than blame creates pathways to healing, bringing redemption to even the most difficult marriage moments.Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriageTake the What's Your Dance Quiz:rebekahlyons.com/quiz

Why do we need to look back at our past to move forward in marriage? In this meaningful episode, Rebekah and Gabe explore how unresolved childhood experiences shape our marriage conflicts today. They share that the number one trigger in marital fights is actually tone—not words—because "we sense before we make sense" of what our spouse is saying. The Lyons vulnerably discuss how Gabe's counselor once told him he communicated "like an Excel spreadsheet"—all facts with no heart—revealing how childhood trauma had caused him to shut down emotionally.Drawing from their book "The Fight For Us," they introduce Dr. Chip Dodd's eight primary feelings (hurt, loneliness, sadness, anger, fear, shame, guilt, and gladness) and explain how confessing these emotions transforms them from impairments into gifts. When loneliness is shared, it leads to intimacy; when fear is named, it builds faith. The episode closes with a beautiful blessing for couples willing to be vulnerable and trust each other, especially when it requires risk.Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriageTake the What's Your Dance Quiz:rebekahlyons.com/quiz

How do successful couples work together without losing their connection? In this conversation, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons welcome longtime friends Willie and Korie Robertson (Duck Dynasty) who share their 33-year journey from teenage sweethearts to partners in both marriage and business. They share how they've navigated their different strengths and personalities—from Willie's love of cooking to Korie's organizational skills—and how they've learned to battle through disagreements with respect.You'll learn about honoring each other's unique gifts, abandoning rigid gender roles, and giving each other permission to change and navigate through different seasons of life. Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriage Take the What's Your Dance Quiz:rebekahlyons.com/quiz

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same frustrating cycle with your spouse? In this episode, Rebekah and Gabe explore the four "dysfunctional dances" that couples fall into during conflict. They reveal that half of marriages operate in an intense dance (where both partners have strong opinions and high energy), while many others retreat into silence, anxiety, or avoidance.Whether you're dealing with hurt that triggers stonewalling, anger that leads to shouting matches, fear that creates walking on eggshells, or guilt that keeps everything surface-level, this conversation helps identify your unique pattern. Hear personal experiences of how these unhealthy cycles keep couples emotionally disconnected and how naming your dance is the first step toward breaking free. You'll learn why summer is particularly challenging for marriages and how to reset your relationship before the most stressful seasons hit.Take the What's Your Dance Quiz:rebekahlyons.com/quizOrder The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriage

Ever feel like your spouse is the villain in your marriage story? In this honest conversation, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons sit down with pastor Jonathan Pokluda ("JP") who challenges that narrative with a powerful truth: the real enemy isn't who you think it is. JP vulnerably shares how he and his wife Monica found themselves stuck in a dysfunctional dance after 21 years, and how a conversation with Gabe and Rebekah became "literally life-changing" for their marriage.You'll learn how the enemy's favorite tactic is getting you to believe your spouse is "crazy" or the problem, while the path to healing comes through confession, prayer, and fighting for—not against—each other. Whether you're experiencing an intense, silent, avoidant, or anxious marriage, this conversation offers hope that you can overcome what divides and build a marriage that thrives.Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriage

In this heartfelt season opener, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons introduce their new series "The Fight For Us" based on their upcoming book. After 28 years of marriage, they share why they're passionate about helping couples move from fighting against each other to fighting for their relationship. Drawing from their own struggles and healing journey, they explain how the Christian marriage covenant isn't just about staying together but thriving together. They preview upcoming conversations with guests including Hillary Scott and Chris Tyrell from Lady A, Willie and Korie Robertson, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, and more who will address topics like emotional connection, community support, and maintaining intimacy. This season offers practical tools for couples in any stage of marriage to discover deeper connection.Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fFree Gifts when You Order Now:Get Our Free Masterclass, Growth & Connection Toolkit, Emotional Health for Marriages Course and More at https://rebekahlyons.com/marriage

In this episode of Rhythms for Life, Rebekah Lyons has a conversation with Tori Hope Petersen, speaker, Bible teacher, and bestselling author of Fostered and Breaking the Patterns that Break You. Tori shares her inspiring journey of living in 12 different homes in the foster care system, highlighting the challenges, triumphs, and lessons she learned along the way. Rebekah and Tori discuss the importance of advocating for foster care and the power of community support. Tune in to hear how Tori's personal experiences have shaped her work and mission to not only empower foster youth, but help people identify and overcome destructive patterns in their lives. This heartfelt discussion is filled with wisdom and practical insights that you won't want to miss!RESOURCES:Check out Tori’s work, including her books:Fostered: One Woman’s Powerful Story of Finding Faith and Family through Foster CareBreaking the Patterns that Break You: Healing from the Pain of Your Past and Finding Real Hope that Lasts. Create a free THINQ Account to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com.Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom:Participate in THINQ’s “Let’s Talk Tech Detox.” Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church.Sign up for THINQ Summit 2025 in Nashville, TN.More from the THINQ Podcast Network:THINQ Media Podcast with Gabe LyonsThe InFormed Parent with Suzanne PhillipsNextUp with Grant SkeldonNeuroFaith with Curt ThompsonUnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons

In this episode of Rhythms for Life, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons sit down with Zach Meerkreebs, author of Lower: Igniting Spiritual Awakening Through Radical Humility.Zach shares how he and tens of thousands across the world experienced the presence of God through the Asbury Outpouring in February, 2023, putting him on a path to discover how radical humility and authentic love collide.Listen in as Zach gives insights on how to go “lower” as a daily practice to behold God in a powerful way.RESOURCES:Check out Zach’s book, Lower: Igniting Spiritual Awakening Through Radical Humility.Learn more about the Asbury Outpouring.Check out more resources mentioned on humility in this episode, including Andrew Murray’s book Humility: The Journey Toward Holiness and Tim Keller’s book The Freedom of Self Forgetfulness: The Path to True Christian Joy.Create a free THINQ Account to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com.Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom:Participate in THINQ’s “Let’s Talk Tech Detox.”Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church.Sign up for THINQ Summit 2025 in Nashville, TN.More from the THINQ Podcast Network:THINQ Media Podcast with Gabe LyonsThe InFormed Parent with Suzanne PhillipsNextUp with Grant SkeldonNeuroFaith with Curt ThompsonUnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons

In this episode of Rhythms for Life, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons sit down with Darren Whitehead, pastor of Church of the City and author of The Digital Fast. Together they discuss navigating a digitally saturated world.Darren shares his experience with a "Digital Fast" experiment he initiated at his church, which aimed to reduce digital distraction and address our growing dependence on technology. The conversation touches on how digital devices impact mental health, relationships, and community connections— especially among the first generation raised in the era of social media.As you head into the holiday season, this episode will help you intentionally disconnect from digital media and create new rhythms to purposefully connect with family, friends, and God.RESOURCES:Participate in THINQ’s “Let’s Talk Tech Detox.” Sign up for Rebekah’s Family Tech Detox Guide.Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church in the New Year!Check out more from Darren Whitehead, including his new workbook, The Digital Fast Workbook: Detox Your Mind and Reclaim What Matters MostRhythms Retreat is November 21-22 in Franklin, TN. Reserve your spot now and use code RFL100 to save $100.Create a free THINQ Account to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com.Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom:Sign up for THINQ Summit 2025 in Nashville, TN.More from the THINQ Podcast Network:THINQ Media Podcast with Gabe LyonsThe InFormed Parent with Suzanne PhillipsNextUp with Grant SkeldonNeuroFaith with Curt ThompsonUnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons

In this week's episode of Rhythms for Life, Rebekah and Gabe sit down with Lisa Bevere, author of The Fight for Female: Reclaiming Our Divine Identity. Lisa's calling is to help women navigate today’s complex moral and cultural issues.Lisa talks about empowering women by reclaiming a sense of divine identity and purpose. She elaborates on her belief that modern conversations, especially about gender and faith, can become politicized even when fundamentally moral.Listen in as they reflect on the importance of strong female voices in shaping society and the need for open, honest dialogue. You won't want to miss this episode as they dive into the role of faith in navigating modern issues and uplifting encouragement to stand firm in your beliefs.RESOURCES:Check out more from Lisa Bevere, including her book, The Fight for Female.Rhythms Retreat is November 21-22 in Franklin, TN. Reserve your spot now and use code RFL100 to save $100.Create a free THINQ Account to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com.Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom:Catch the Next Gen Summit livestream, now on-demand.Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church throughout the month of January or March.More from the THINQ Podcast Network:THINQ Media Podcast with Gabe LyonsThe InFormed Parent with Suzanne PhillipsNextUp with Grant SkeldonNeuroFaith with Curt ThompsonUnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons