Why You're Still Not Over It: Healing After Divorce, Separation or Betrayal

Send us a textClarissa Rayward is a wife, mum to two, accredited specialist family lawyer, and lover of chocolate, coffee, and anything colourful and also the Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre, a multidisciplinary practice where lawyers work alongside counsellors and financial experts to provide holistic support to clients navigating divorce and separation.Connect with Clarissa:WebsiteInstagramSplitsville BookSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textThinking you "should" be over it by now?You're not behind or doing things wrong. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet.In this episode, I share why healing from divorce, infidelity or separation takes more than time, and what your body actually needs to feel safe again.Drawing from neuroscience and nervous system wisdom, I explore how you can start giving yourself the proof your body needs to believe: it’s over. You’re safe. You’re home now.Tune in to hear:Why time alone doesn’t heal the nervous systemWhy your mind can move on, but your body can still feel stuckThree simple, practical ways to create safety and healing from withinHow to begin speaking to yourself with kindness, not judgmentWhat it really means to rest (and why it’s essential to healing)Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textNicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s relationship has been splashed across headlines lately, with speculation about separation, divorce, and division of assets.But... their relationship - whether they stay together, separate, or divorce - is none of our business.And yet, the way the media frames these stories reveals how we expect divorce to look: messy, high conflict, destructive.But what if it isn’t?What if separation can be kind? Respectful? Even collaborative?In this episode I share: ✨ Why divorce is, at its core, a human and emotional experience (not just legal and financial) ✨ What “conscious uncoupling” really looks like in practice ✨ How I work with couples to turn down conflict and co-create solutions that work for the whole family ✨ Real words from clients who’ve moved from fear and doubt to hope and possibility ✨ Practical tips if you want a calmer, future-focused separationDivorce doesn’t have to be a win-lose battle. Uncoupling Coaching, Collaborative Divorce offers another way.If you’re ready to explore this for your family let's chat - DM me directly or book a free intro call (link below)Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of intimate partner violence and abusive relationships. Please take care while listening.In this powerful and tender conversation, I’m joined by Cat Dunn award-winning OBM, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left.Cat shares her lived experience of leaving an abusive relationship and the deep healing journey that followed. Together we explore:How childhood experiences shape the way we love and choose partners as adultsWhat life is really like inside an abusive relationshipWhy leaving is so much harder than it seemsHow to create emotional safety for yourselfLearning to trust your own judgement againCat’s story is one of honesty, resilience, and reclaiming power. If you’ve ever doubted yourself, felt trapped, or wondered how to rebuild after leaving, this conversation will offer insight, validation, and hope.Connect with Cat:InstagramFacebookLinkedinWebsitePodcastSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textParallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns.In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice.We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this approach can bring more peace, stability, and boundaries to co-parenting after divorce or separation.And, how it can be the instigator of a new, more peaceful and co-operative parenting model for you and your family.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textDiscover how personal stylist Lisa Stockman helps people through life’s biggest transitions - from divorce to dating again - with styling that rebuilds confidence, identity, and ease.In this episode, I welcome back Lisa, for a deeper conversation about how style can anchor us through life’s biggest changes.Lisa has been styling people of all different shapes, sizes, life stages, and budgets for over a decade. Working with clients across Australia and internationally, she understands how hard it can be to know what to wear — especially during times of transition like divorce, a new job, dating again, post-baby, post-surgery, or ageing.Together we explore how personal style can rebuild confidence and identity after big life shifts.Lisa reminds us that styling is never just about clothes - it’s about reclaiming who you are and showing up as the most aligned version of yourself.Connect with LisaInstagramWebsiteLinkedInSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textMost people imagine co-parenting as two exes attending school events together, making decisions hand-in-hand, and communicating smoothly.But for many separated parents, that ideal isn’t realistic or possible, and forcing it can actually increase conflict and stress.In this episode, I bust common myths about co-parenting, explain why what you think you know might be wrong, and share practical ways to protect your wellbeing while staying fully present for your kids.What You’ll Learn:Why the “perfect co-parenting” fantasy can be harmfulThe difference between co-parenting and parallel parentingSigns you might not actually be co-parentingHow to reduce conflict and redefine post-divorce parenting in ways that make sense to your familyIf you want clarity, confidence, and strategies for healthier post-separation parenting, this episode is for you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textStarting over after separation or divorce often means rethinking not just your love life, but your career too. In this episode, I’m joined by Career & Life Coach Annique Teycheney to explore why job hunting feels a lot like dating - and why the key to both is knowing yourself first.We talk about values, boundaries, green & red flags, and how to recognise the roles (and relationships) that are truly the right fit for you.If you’re navigating career change, job seeking, or dating after divorce, this conversation will help you see the parallels, avoid common pitfalls, and take your next steps with clarity and confidence.Follow Annique on LinkedIn and Instagram @anniquecoachingSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textFor anyone stuck in survival mode, deciding whether to stay or go, or rebuilding after divorce.How to rewire your beliefs, release what’s weighing you down, and create real change after separation or divorce.If you’ve been stuck in divorce survival mode—burnt out, overwhelmed, and carrying the weight of your divorce (or your should-I-stay-or-go decision) on your shoulders—this episode is your wake-up call.Manifestation alone won’t get you out of this cycle.You don’t need another vision board, affirmation, or crystal to change your life. You need clarity, rewiring, and action.In this episode, I’ll walk you through three simple but powerful exercises to uncover your own answers and create a pathway out of survival and into steady, grounded thriving.Whether you’re deciding to stay or go, navigating separation, or creating a post-divorce life you love, this is your personal call to action.Because if you want different results, you can’t keep doing the same things. You have to become different. And just sitting on the couch waiting for the universe to deliver won’t get you where you want to be.Rio Richards - Somatic PracticesBianca Marics - Managing Stress & BurnoutSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textDivorce can keep your nervous system on constant high alert -  heart racing, mind spinning, emotions all over the place. In that state, clear, calm, strategic communication feels almost impossible.In this episode, I’m sharing why nervous system regulation is the communication superpower during separation and divorce. You’ll learn:What dysregulation actually is (and how it hijacks your communication)The signs your body has taken over the driver’s seatPractical, simple regulation tools you can use in the moment, anywhere, anytimeHow you can access these tools and build your communicaiton superpower to protect your energy, keep the long game in mind, and show up as the version of you who can handle whatever comes next.Listen in and start building your regulation muscle, so you can communicate in a way that protects your peace and your future.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.