Courage & Connection After Divorce - Finding Joy Beyond Your Comfort Zone

Send us Fan MailThere comes a moment in many relationships when you ask yourself:“Am I ever going to be enough for them?”It’s not always about insecurity or worthiness.Sometimes, it’s about exhaustion.Exhaustion from trying harder.Exhaustion from hoping you’ll be met.Doing all the emotional labour.From reshaping yourself to make the relationship work.For years, we can bend, accommodate, and compromise,  believing that if we just love harder, try harder, or adjust ourselves enough, things will finally click.And then one day, quietly, the truth arrives:You can’t force the fit.In this short episode, Sallyanne explores the moment when you stop trying to become someone else for someone else and start choosing yourself instead.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailA guided companion to help you disentangle after divorce.Loosen attachment, ease your anxiety around decisions - those already made or yet to be made - reclaim yourself, and move forward with clarity.You don’t have to “get over” your ex. You don’t have to force "closure".You’re not doing it wrong, or behind.Sometimes the best way to move forward is to ask better questions.In this bonus episode, I guide you through 36 questions to help you:See the relationship clearlySeparate reality from fantasyProcess emotions without judgmentRelease attachment gentlyReclaim your identity and vision for the futurePerfect for journaling, reflection, or listening when you need grounding and clarity. And answers to the questions you're asking:Should it feel "better" than this?How do I know I made (or I'm making) the right decision?Should I be "more together" by now?I don't want them back, but I still really miss themGo gently.SallyanneSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send a textWhen the relationship is over but the attachment isn’t - and why it’s harder than you think, even if you chose it.Why is it so hard to move on after divorce, even when you know it was the right decision?Why do you still miss them… question yourself… replay the good moments… or wonder if you made a mistake?In this episode, we explore the emotional reality no one prepares you for:The relationship can be over in every way - legally, practically, logically, romantically, sexually - and the attachment can still feel very much alive.Whether you chose the divorce or it was chosen for you, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate way to move forward - without rushing closure, denying grief, or shaming yourself for still caring.If you’re navigating divorce, separation, heartbreak, or the long emotional aftermath of a relationship, this episode will help you begin unwinding - gently, honestly, and at your own pace.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailCOURAGE. CONNECTION. JOY.What happens when you step outside your comfort zone can transform your post-divorce life more than any legal document or co-parenting plan ever could. In this episode of RR&L, I share a personal story of stepping outside my comfort zone, into new spaces, meeting strangers, and discovering the connection, joy, and possibility that waits on the other side.Whether you’re wondering if you’re brave enough to leave a marriage, navigating separation, rebuilding your life, or seeking community after divorce, this episode shows how courage opens doors and connection creates magic.Let this episode be your reminder that joy is waiting for you too, in the places you haven’t stepped into yet.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailLeaving a long-term relationship is more than just a breakup. It’s a complete reset. You’ve invested years of your life - and now you’re navigating a new space, a new version of life, unsure who you are without them.In this episode, we talk about the hard truths of starting over:The emotions no one warns you aboutRediscovering your identity and reclaiming your lifeWhat it really takes to rebuild, redefine, and restart after years of shared historyIf you’re stepping into life after a long-term relationship, or maybe wondering what life could look like after divorce, this episode is for you. Honest, practical, and unapologetically real about the journey of starting over.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailYou can be deeply hurt and still have work to do. Even if your partner left, had an affair, blindsided you, or if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, even if you know it was the right choice.In this episode, we talk about what radical personal responsibility really means, why it doesn’t equal blame or shame, and how facing your own patterns can free you from repeating them.Learn how to:Take ownership without self-judgmentHeal in a real, embodied way (no spiritual bypassing)Build emotional sovereignty andChoose your life consciouslyThis is the work I do with clients after a break-up or divorce, when they’re ready to shift out of shame or blame, stop going through the motions, and start consciously choosing.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailNB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed.I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.”I talk through:Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years laterWriting a polite reply versus a truthful oneHow writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trustAttachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excusesWhen compassion turns into self-abandonmentAnd how closure is something we create, not something we’re givenThe episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity.If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this final episode of the year, I’m sharing a powerful set of reflection questions to help you look back with compassion, honour your growth, and step into 2026 with clarity and intention.Whether you’re navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, identity shifts, or simply a season of change, these reflecton prompts will help you understand yourself more deeply, release what no longer serves you, and choose what comes next.Reflect. Release. Reset.Download your copy of the reflection questions HERESallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore.You’ll hear: • What the “quiet exit” actually looks like • How belief without change becomes burnout • Why hope without action becomes a cage • The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more • What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to his under-functioning • The next steps when you're done, tired, and stepping into clarityIf you feel this… if you know this… if this is you... or it's becoming you... this episode is your reminder that you’re not cold, crazy, or asking too much. You’re honouring yourself.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate. You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power.We explore: • Why these comments land so deeply • How to separate their words from your worth • Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately • How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-ledThis episode helps you stay steady, reclaim your emotional space, and stop letting your ex’s words pull you back into an old version of yourself.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.