Why Smart Men Get Addicted to P*rn (and what you need to heal for good)

Quit in 21 days or less: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/The Four Masculine Archetypes: A Path to Healing Porn AddictionPorn addiction is often seen as a shameful secret, but what if understanding masculine archetypes could transform this narrative? In this video, we delve into the four primary masculine archetypes: Warrior, Lover, Magician, and King. We also look at their shadow sides and the understanding that holds the key to healing. Discover how early exposure to porn is related to the Magician archetype and learn how to achieve balance by integrating other archetypes. This transformative insight can be a key to healing your brain and becoming a fully integrated, powerful man.Check out the article referenced in the beginning: https://thevale.substack.com/p/the-porn-addicted-magicianJoin my newsletter to get exclusive content for free: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/Watch this next: https://youtu.be/m6G4PmragEYChapters:00:00 Intro00:35 The Addicted Magician01:22 The Masculine Archetypes02:26 The Warrior02:54 The Lover03:27 The Magician04:06 The King04:18 Your Core Archetype04:48 My Experience With Archetypes05:42 How to Use the Archetypes06:38 Archetype Shadows06:56 The Shadow Warrior07:24 The Shadow Lover08:20 The Shadow King08:41 The Shadow Magician09:29 The Shadow Magician & The Internet12:10 Recovering Innocence13:13 Finding the Light Side15:09 Become the Integrated Man

Quit in 21 days or less: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/Unlock Your Potential: How P*rn Addiction Can Lead to Personal MasteryRelated videos:The "Accept the Quest" video: https://youtu.be/4ch0g_lqrQUHow porn use makes you spiritually numb: https://youtu.be/XLv7STkghuUHow to Heal: https://youtu.be/6kLDX56sUzsStop making things unnecessarily hard for yourself: https://youtu.be/eQg36z3F2vAIn this episode, I share insights from years of helping men overcome porn addiction through the QuitByHealing approach. Discover why most self-help and NoFap material misses the mark and learn how to view your addiction as a unique opportunity for growth. By understanding the concept of reality's polarity, you can see that deep suffering implies the potential for equally profound joy and empowerment. I'll share my personal transformation journey and practical steps to move from passive victimhood to active mastery. Embrace this call to greatness, and turn your struggle into a path to personal excellence.Chapters:00:00 Intro00:40 Your Hidden Potential01:52 We Live in a Polar Reality02:44 The Secret this Unlocks04:24 Health is More then Absence of Sickness05:46 Better Than You Ever Thought Possible07:29 The Healing Journey08:44 Where the Journey Led Me10:10 The Comfortable Life Doesn't Lead to Mastery11:06 How to Walk the Path12:33 Flip the Switch(es)14:32 Stop Hating Yourself for Your Addiction15:13 Self Discovery: Make Your Own List16:53 Every Step a Victory18:18 The Challenge (Do this Next)19:12 One Final TipJoin the newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/

Quit for good: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/If you feel like your sexual urges are a dangerous animal that you have to constantly fight, cage, or keep on a tight leash, this video is for you.Most men try to beat addiction and build discipline by suppressing their instincts, but this often leads to a frustrating cycle of repression and relapse. In this episode, I share the "Story of the Three Dogs" to reveal a forgotten secret about becoming an integrated man.What you'll discover: The 3 ways men handle their primal energy (and which one actually works).Why suppressing your "inner animal" kills your drive and life force.How to break the relapse cycle by integrating, not shaming, your desires.Practical tips to cultivate discipline with love instead of abuse.Resources:Why QuitByHealing is not NoFap: the truth about self pleasureHow Integrity changed my life completelyExercise consistency matters more than your workout programChapters:00:00 Intro00:22 Why You're Stuck in a Cycle01:23 The Story of Three Dogs01:52 Dog Number 102:32 Dog Number 203:18 Dog Number 304:41 Your Inner Animal06:44 The Integrated Man07:31 Life Force Energy08:37 What Integration Really Means09:38 This Goes Far Beyond Addiction10:12 This is Not Just Theory12:02 Cultivate Discipline (the right way)14:18 Discipline With a Twist15:21 Build on the Foundation of Discipline16:21 Intuitive Movement17:16 Self Pleasure19:18 Conclusion

Get the QuitByHealing Program: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/The Numbing Effects of P*rn Addiction: How Awareness Can HealIn this episode, I discuss the pervasively numbing effects of p*rnography addiction on physical, mental, and spiritual levels. Discover how addiction traps you in a downward spiral that worsens over time and how awareness helps you break free from this cycle. By drawing parallels with physical fitness, I explain how addiction, like a lack of exercise, creates self-reinforcing negative spirals. I delve into the specific ways in which porn addiction numbs the body and mind, while also numbing one's spiritual drive toward meaningful experiences. I shed light on the fears and escapism that fuel addiction and stress the importance of embracing life's challenges and risks as part of the healing journey. Tune in to understand the harmful impacts of porn addiction and discover actionable insights to regain control over your life.Here's the video about the 5 levels of addiction:https://youtu.be/yLnDilkqGQAChapters:00:00 Intro01:30 Understanding the Downward Spiral03:59 Make the World Unfair in Your Favor05:03 Physical Numbness07:09 Mental Numbness08:29 Spiritual Numbness09:50 Not for Consumption11:08 Every Man Feels the Fear12:34 The Safe Choice but at What Cost?15:10 Pursuits Worth Failing At16:58 Fear Keeps You from The Best of Life19:30 Conclusion

Develop unfakable masculine integrity: https://shanemelaugh.com/integrity/Everyone who gives advice about how to become a better man is parroting the same checklist:Get rippedGet richCold showersWake up at 5amBut here's the problem: if you do this, you're not becoming a man, you're becoming a clone. What's worse, you'll probably FAIL at the attempt to become a cookie-cutter alpha male clone.In this video, I break down why most masculinity advice is just projection from guys who happened to be good at something. And how blindly following them is not only ineffective, it's unmasculine.Then, we look at exactly what you can do to avoid the "template masculine" trap and forge your own path instead. How to find what actually works for youWhy real confidence comes from mastery, not mimicryThe 3 domains every man should develop (and how to do it with 100% authenticity)Why all of this makes you WAY more attractive than the average manChapters: 00:00 Intro01:00 Copy-Paste Masculinity Advice01:32 What Makes it Un-Masculine02:26 The Archetypal Masculine04:00 What Gymfluencers Don't Tell You06:04 Bodybuilding vs. Public Speaking?08:39 It's About Affinity09:02 Become the Explorer09:49 Physical Mastery10:39 Follow Your Curiosity11:18 Try and See What Sticks12:29 The Truth About Physical Attractiveness13:50 Doing Your Own Thing is Attractive14:28 Intellectual Mastery15:15 What Fascinates You Makes You Fascinating16:51 How to Stop Having NPC Vibes17:24 Develop an Awareness/Vibes Skill18:49 Warning - this makes you extraordinary20:02 Stop Being NeedyStop wasting your life, follow your curiosity: https://youtu.be/SnR38xy10fIDo this if life feels totally meaningless: https://youtu.be/o9hM7s7xzG0

Do you crave real, deep friendship in your life? Do you want to have men around you whom you can trust, who've got your back, who help you grow and challenge you to keep going? In other words: do you want high quality friends?Let's talk about exactly what it takes to make this happens. In this video, you'll discover why building this kind of friendship requires leadership. And why the world needs men like you to step up into greater social leadership.You'll see what's been going wrong in the world that leads to such loneliness and disconnection as we're experiencing now and we'll go into the practical steps and tools you can use to change your own social life and the social lives of everyone you touch. By the end, you'll know exactly how to change your social life and you'll understand how this topic relates to the deeply masculine qualities of taking leadership and responsibility.Chapters: 00:00 Intro00:54 I had to learn this from scratch01:45 Relational Leadership03:05 Overstimulated & Addicted04:21 Get clear about what you want05:43 Apply the Filter07:58 Where to Find the Right People08:38 Be Proactive09:06 The Texting Rule10:11 Create the Perfect Meetup11:40 Activation Energy14:10 A Matter of Practice17:35 Cultivating Deep Connection19:23 The World Needs You More than You KnowRelated videos:- Honesty & Courage: https://youtu.be/Tv10XZXwMy4- Communication skills every man needs: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0- Communication skills, part 2: https://youtu.be/ijVGplE45gIAlso, check out this article I co-authored about how I quickly gather awesome people around me when I arrive in a new place: https://thisistbh.substack.com/p/more-friends-wont-make-you-less-lonely

Get the QuitByHealing Program: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/Join the newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/There's a lot of talk about semen retention in the men's advice and nofap worlds. Unfortunately, almost everything people are saying about this is plain wrong. Really just entirely missing the point and probably doing more harm than good.If you're going to do this, do it right and avoid the pitfalls and mistakes that I explain in this video. Here, you'll learn about the Taoist and Yogic roots of the idea of semen retention, why there are stories of people gaining superpowers from not nutting for a while and what you should and shouldn't do if this is a path of spiritual development you want to take.Chapters:00:00 We need to talk about this...00:41 A quick disclaimer02:01 What semen retention is NOT about03:42 What semen retention IS about04:50 "Moving Energy"05:58 Okay, but how?07:56 The Real Thing vs. The Side Effect09:43 Why it does more harm than good11:19 Don't Abstain(?)12:27 Mistake Number 114:57 Mistake Number 216:17 What it SHOULD Feel Like18:33 Do this instead19:39 My personal experience20:32 Get out of the Struggle Cycle23:26 The World Needs Good MenRelated videos: - Why it's harmful to expect benefits/superpowers on a specific timeline: https://youtu.be/bIdb60GrI18- Don't get stuck in your masculine development: https://youtu.be/nLsEGUF3JUg- How to develop a healthy masculine communication style: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0

Join the newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Get my Introspective Writing Course: https://shanemelaugh.com/iw/ How do you build self respect? The only good answer to that question is: become a man you respect. Change your behavior so that it is in line with your values. But how exactly do you do that? Unfortunately, most guys do this wrong. Especially young, ambitious men tend to fall into the "trap of perfection". That's why I've come up with a simple tool you can use to build your habits and build self respect much more effectively. Use this approach to outperform all the average guys around you (who are constantly aiming for perfection and always falling short). 00:00 Simple But Powerful Question 01:20 How You're Doing it Wrong 02:26 The 3 Questions 02:59 Example 1: Gym 05:21 Example 2: Dating 08:14 Example 3: Relationship 10:25 How You Will Outperform 12:10 The Exception: When to Aim for Mastery 13:30 How Generalists Win 14:52 Try this Challenge

Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ What do you do when you are struggling with addictive urges? How can you stop yourself from compulsively doing things you later regret and falling back into bad habits? The most effective tools I've found to deal with these issues are the 2 awareness tools I'm presenting in this video. I call them Spotlight Awareness and Embodiment. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:49 When your bad habit have the most power over you 01:26 Tool 1 - Spotlight Awareness 02:11 Checking in with Thoughts and Emotions 03:09 Keep following the thread 04:23 Underlying emotions leading to addictive behavior 06:03 Arriving at resolution 06:48 Turn it into a new habit 07:20 Tool 2 - Embodiment 07:50 How it Works 08:30 What to do if embodiment feels difficult to access 09:06 Focus on what is most noticeable 10:13 Learning to drop from your mind to your body 11:42 Rest your awareness with sensations 12:28 Why resistance doesn't work 14:30 How to combine these tools 15:37 Practicing awareness 15:58 Use these tools to make real progress 17:22 Conclusion

Join my newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ The better your self control, the more successful you'll be. It's people who are good at delaying gratification that end up more successful, happier, better off and wealthier, compared to people who have low self control and act impulsively. Common sense, right? Well, it turns out that almost everything you've ever been told about self control is actually a misunderstanding. Many studies have shown that people with "high self control" do indeed end up healthier, happier and better off... but when you look closer, "self control" is actually a mis-labeling. What from the outside might look like self control is actually a combination of completely different characteristics. What's worse, if you want to join this group of successful individuals, trying to exert more self control is actually making things worse, not better. So let's dig into it and see how this applies to building habits, breaking bad habits and addictions and being smart about improving your life. Chapters: 00:00 It all started with a marshmallow 02:20 False Conclusions 03:17 Delayed Gratification = Success? 04:59 "Self Control" is the wrong label 07:29 Trait vs. State 09:40 Self Control is for Losers 11:21 Key to Success 1 14:26 Key to Success 2 17:56 Key to Success 3 21:40 Summary 22:51 Believe Your Own Experience Sources: - https://docs.iza.org/dp14920.pdf - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39096668/ Footage from: - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8M7Xzjy_m8 - https://youtu.be/4L-n8Z7G0ic