THIS Is Why Avoidants Seem Fine After A Break Up

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=youtube It’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=podcast Have you ever wondered why dismissive avoidants often struggle with long-term commitment? Learn about their relationship history, common challenges, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful connections. In today’s episode, Thais Gibson delves into the relationship history of the dismissive avoidant attachment style, highlighting patterns shaped by childhood experiences and emotional neglect. Learn why dismissive avoidants struggle with vulnerability and long-term commitment and discover actionable steps to bridge these gaps for healthier connections. Listen now to uncover insights into attachment theory, emotional healing, and building fulfilling relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Exploring Relationship Patterns 00:01:10 – How Childhood Shapes Relationship Expectations 00:02:03 – Emotional Neglect and Repression of Feelings 00:03:37 – Understanding Emotions as Feedback 00:05:10 – Impact of Independence vs. Interdependence 00:07:17 – Misconceptions About Compromise in Relationships 00:09:03 – Patterns of Short-Term Relationships 00:10:27 – The Six Stages of Relationship Development 00:12:15 – The 6-Month and 2-Year Breakup Patterns 00:14:30 – Importance of Vulnerability and Communication 00:16:30 – Vetting Partners and Personal Growth Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-07-24&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and cohost, Mike DiZio, dive deep into the world of fearful avoidant attachment styles. Together, they explore the triggers that often arise in relationships for those with this attachment style, such as trust violations, unmet expectations, and feelings of emotional overwhelm. Thais, a former fearful avoidant turned secure, shares invaluable insights from her personal journey and professional expertise. Listeners will gain a better understanding of: The internal world of a fearful avoidant. Why small incongruities can feel like major trust breaches. How childhood experiences shape hypervigilance and relational patterns. Practical strategies to foster trust and communication in relationships. Whether you're navigating these challenges yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable tips to create healthier, more secure connections. Tune in for a candid conversation filled with relatable stories, expert advice, and the tools to transform attachment patterns. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 01:58 - FA Triggers: When Trust is Broken 03:57 - Developing Hypervigilance as a Coping Mechanism 11:20 - Sharing Phone Access with Your Partner 22:00 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 24:28 - FA Triggers: People Having Expectations for Them 28:41 - Finding Comfort in Chaos 34:52 - Feeling Seen and Less Alone 39:44 - FAs and Rights of Passage Fears 43:26 - Reassuring the FA When They're Feeling Afraid 47:26 - FA Triggers: Feeling Unimportant or Like They Don't Matter 52:35 - Conclusion  Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-07-24&el=podcast Join Thais Gibson in this insightful episode as we dive into the complexities of healing after a breakup, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style. We explore the emotional impact, practical healing tools, and strategies for creating healthier patterns in relationships. Whether you’re navigating the immediate aftermath of a breakup or looking to reframe your approach to dating, this episode offers valuable guidance to support your journey. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:45 - How Anxious Preoccupieds Feel After a Break Up 12:13 - Healing After a Break Up 16:21 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 17:02 - Healing Tools to Heal from a Break Up 26:23 - Vetting Consciously When Dating 31:01 - Meeting Your Own Needs 36:35 - The Cost of Staying in the Relationship 48:21 - When an AP Reaches Out 57:18 - Conclusion  This episode is packed with tools to empower you in rebuilding your sense of self and creating a healthier approach to love and connection. Don’t miss the free trial mentioned in the episode for additional resources to support your healing journey! Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-05-24&el=podcast Do you find yourself seeking constant reassurance in relationships? Discover how to break free from the cycle of neediness and cultivate emotional independence in today’s transformative video. In today’s episode, Thais Gibson explores the underlying reasons for neediness in relationships and how to overcome it with practical strategies. Learn the difference between codependency, hyper-independence, and interdependence while discovering actionable steps to build emotional security. Listen now to master effective communication, meet your own needs, and create healthier, lasting relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Why Do You Feel Needy in Relationships? 00:00:09 – The Cycle of Needing Constant Reassurance 00:00:35 – Understanding Root Causes of Neediness 00:01:05 – How Fear of Abandonment Shapes Relationships 00:03:00 – Secure People vs. Anxious Attachment Styles 00:04:40 – The Empty Gas Tank Analogy 00:07:00 – Interdependence: The Balance Between Needs and Self-Sufficiency 00:10:15 – Meeting Your Own Needs vs. Codependency 00:13:30 – The Importance of Clear Communication 00:15:25 – How Subconscious Conditioning Affects Relationships 00:18:10 – Positive Framing in Communication 00:21:05 – Summary and Next Steps for Emotional Independence Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-03-24&el=podcast Are you confused about why your partner keeps avoiding commitment? Learn the hidden fears driving dismissive avoidants and what you can do to create clarity and deeper connection in your relationships. In today’s episode, Thais Gibson delves into the psychology behind why dismissive avoidants prefer casual relationships over-committed ones. Learn how fears of vulnerability, emotional neglect, and subconscious conditioning contribute to their behavior, and discover actionable steps to navigate these dynamics effectively. Listen now to uncover how communication and self-awareness can transform your approach to relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships 00:00:33 – The Frustration of Feeling Stuck in Limbo 00:01:01 – The Three Core Reasons Avoidants Avoid Commitment 00:01:22 – Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant’s Fear of Vulnerability 00:02:05 – Emotional Neglect and its Long-Term Impact on Attachment 00:03:37 – How the Subconscious Mind Drives Avoidant Behaviors 00:05:12 – Misconceptions About People-Pleasing in Relationships 00:06:16 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Fear Feeling Trapped 00:08:44 – The Role of Self-Sabotage in Avoidant Dynamics 00:10:01 – Avoidants’ Search for Perfection to Avoid Conflict 00:13:15 – How to Break the Cycle: Communication and Inner Work 00:15:25 – Final Thoughts: Finding Closure and Certainty Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcast In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio explore the inner world of the fearful avoidant attachment style during and after a breakup. Whether you're a fearful avoidant or someone trying to understand a partner with this attachment style, this episode sheds light on the complexities of their behavior and provides actionable strategies for healing and rebuilding trust in relationships. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 02:13 - How Fearful Avoidants Process a Break Up 08:02 - Reconnecting with an Ex 10:40 - Expressing Needs and Vulnerability 14:58 - Relief After a Break Up 19:33 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 20:23 - After Breaking Up with an FA 23:17 - On-Again, Off-Again Relationships 28:02 - Love Languages and Expressing Needs 37:36 - Mike and Thais’ Shares on Love Language Needs 37:36 - Translate Expectations to Needs 47:01 - When to Reconnect with an FA Ex 51:00 - How Long Does the Reconnection Last? 52:43 - How They Seem VS How They Feel 54:53 - Conclusion Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcast In this episode, we dive deep into the dismissive avoidant attachment style and uncover why they often seem cold and unaffected after a breakup. Hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio share personal insights, real-life examples, and professional expertise on attachment styles, discussing the intricate dynamics behind dismissive avoidance post-breakup behavior. Learn about the emotional boomerang effect, the role of subconscious conditioning, and how different attachment styles cope with breakups. They also explore key strategies for healing, whether you’re navigating a breakup or working toward secure attachment. If you’ve ever felt confused or hurt by a dismissive avoidant partner’s behavior—or wondered how to move on effectively—this episode provides both clarity and actionable tools. Listen now for a compassionate, insightful conversation that sheds light on attachment styles, personal growth, and the path to fulfilling relationships. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 01:35 - Going through a Break Up (Mike) 04:33 - The Break Up Boomerang Effect 20:48 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 21:39 - How DAs Feel After a Break Up Over Time 38:05 - Opening Up and Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone 41:24 - Making Deeper Connections 45:24 - Why DAs Don't Appear to Struggle After a Break Up 51:28 - If You're on the Receiving End 55:28 - Conclusion  Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-25-24&el=podcast In this episode, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio explore the journey of healing an anxious attachment style. They break down six crucial pillars of transformation, including self-soothing, meeting your own needs, regulating the nervous system, and fostering healthy communication and boundaries. Packed with tangible tools and relatable analogies, this deep dive empowers listeners to move from anxiety to secure attachment. Whether you’re navigating relationships, self-growth, or emotional balance, this episode offers actionable strategies to rewrite your subconscious patterns and embrace meaningful connections. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:59 - 6 Pillars to Become Secure 04:21 - Healing Anxious Attachment: Spend Time With Yourself 13:33 - Self-Soothing Techniques (Mike) 19:39 - Self-Soothing Techniques (Thais) 25:54 - Putting Others on Pedestals 30:22 - AquaTru 32:37 - 6 Human Needs 41:59 - Opening Up About Needs & Imbalances 43:10 - Reactive Communication 49:13 - When You Have an Unmet Need 57:58 - Conclusion  Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and use code 'THAIS' at checkout. Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and her co-host, Mike Di Zio dive into the healing journey of avoidant attachment styles, focusing on how to recognize if a dismissive or fearful avoidant is making progress in their emotional growth. Join Thais and Mike as they break down the key signs of healing, such as the avoidant's gradual reconnection with their emotions and body. They discuss practical tools and strategies for avoidants, like journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices, to help them process suppressed feelings and reduce their instinct to avoid vulnerability. The episode also explores the common misconception that avoidants are emotionless, revealing how they often numb themselves rather than confront their inner experiences. The hosts share personal stories and provide real-life examples, including a powerful analogy comparing emotions to a "check engine light," signaling unmet needs. They offer insights on how avoidants can begin to recognize these signals and respond with self-care rather than avoidance. The conversation highlights the importance of routines, physical activity, and reducing technology use to help avoidants stay grounded and connected with their emotions. Listeners will gain actionable advice on how to support a partner with avoidant tendencies, including how to create a safe space for open communication and ways to encourage vulnerability without pressure. This episode is essential for anyone looking to better understand avoidant attachment patterns and support loved ones on their path to healing. Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Introduction: Healing Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 00:01:00 – Why Discomfort Leads to Growth 00:02:15 – Core Wounds and Rewiring Negative Beliefs 00:04:00 – Meditation and Emotional Awareness 00:06:00 – Emotional Feedback and Recognizing Needs 00:08:30 – Self-Soothing vs. Self-Numbing Explained 00:11:00 – Setting Boundaries: Survival vs. Nuanced Approaches 00:13:15 – The Six Pillars of Secure Attachment 00:15:30 – How to Rewire Negative Patterns Through Practice 00:18:00 – Communicating Needs Effectively in Relationships 00:20:15 – Building Emotional Resilience and Vulnerability 00:23:00 – Key Triggers for Dismissive Avoidants in Relationships 00:26:00 – Importance of Emotional Safety and Trust 00:29:30 – Understanding Loneliness and Quality Connections 00:33:00 – Rewiring Beliefs About Independence and Dependence 00:36:30 – Responding to Feedback Without Defensive Behaviors 00:40:00 – Shifting from Avoidant to Secure Attachment Dynamics 00:45:00 – Developing Deeper Emotional Awareness Over Time 00:50:00 – Practical Tools for Breaking Avoidant Patterns 00:55:00 – Final Steps for Healing and Building Secure Relationships Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-21-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-21-24&el=podcast Are you stuck in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable or avoidant partners? In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, dives deep into the subconscious patterns that draw us to these dynamics. Learn the three critical reasons behind this pattern and discover actionable steps to break free and create meaningful, fulfilling relationships. Thais combines her expertise in attachment theory, the subconscious mind, and neuroplasticity to uncover the hidden comfort zones that shape our connections. She also shares a transformative exercise to help you rewire these patterns and shift your attraction to healthier dynamics. Whether you're seeking emotional closeness, clarity in your standards, or better boundary-setting strategies, this episode offers valuable tools and fresh perspectives. Tune in to start your journey toward lasting connection and personal growth. Subscribe, rate, and share to support your personal development journey! Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices