S3E8 | True Love or Trauma Response? How the Challenges of Black Womanhood Can Influence Unhealthy Connections w/ Shena Tubbs

Podcaster and business strategist Christine Job talks moving abroad as an avenue to more options, building community as an expat and things seldom mentioned in conversations about finding love in a new place. 

Building onto last week's episode, in this interview we discuss Dr. Nikki Coleman's experiences doing couples therapy. Oftentimes she witnesses Black women overcompensating for their male partners' lack of empathy, accountability, emotional intelligence, etc. We talk about the toll this takes on both women and men as well as what this could mean for your intimate connections.  Show notes: https://wp.me/p8IkFe-rt

Surprise! I'm finally back for the rest of season 4. Find out what kept me away, what I learned from going viral in the meantime and what's in store for this season.  Show notes: https://wp.me/p8IkFe-rl  

Kicking off season 4 with a conversation with my mama! Get to know more about the lady responsible for the lady behind Not The Wifey Type. Welcome back and Happy Mother's Day!

Last episode of the season!!! Just in time for the New Year in case you need to give someone the gift of goodbye, I talked with breakup coach Daphne McGee about what it was like being in an abusive relationship, how women are conditioned not to trust ourselves and what to do when you think you want to leave.  Four ways I'd love for you to support the show while it's on break and/or be informed when it returns:  1. Rate and review on apple podcasts! 2. Sign up the the mailing list here: www.notthewifeytype.com/links (I do not spam folks!)  3. Follow me on IG @notthewifeytype 4. Complete this survey which will help me make future seasons even better! https://hello864601.typeform.com/to/ptGZgVTb Love you! Mean it! 

Moya Bailey, coiner of the term "misogynoir," speaks on anti-Black misogyny in different contexts, her 2021 book Misogynoir Transformed: Black Women's Digital Resistance, and why it's important to center queer and trans Black women.  

Licensed therapist, love addiction expert and creator of Black Girls Heal Shena Tubbs joins me to talk about what led her to create a space for healing from unhealthy love practices. She talks about her own experiences with love addiction and explains how some of the ways we've learned to love are a result of trauma. 

In the last solo episode of the season, I talk about discovering how ill-equipped I was for dating and the lessons I've learned along the way.  Referenced article: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/11/10720237/single-black-women-love-decolonized  

Youtuber Oh! Stephco talks about the reaction to her viral video about pretty privilege, why taking a break from (online) dating was necessary and what it means that she may never be partnered. 

I sat down with the co-founder of Femmebnb, Yaa Birago, to discuss our experiences as Black women solo travelers. She shares what she's done to overcome challenges and how she wants to make solo travel safer and easier for other women.  To stay up to date on the travel memoir and other forthcoming projects, sign up for the email list here: notthewifeytype.com/links