Lessons Learned from a Failed Negotiation with William Ury, Ep #437

According to Dr. Abbie Maroño, someone judges whether or not they can trust you within 33 milliseconds of meeting you. Once they’ve made their observation, they’ll spend every interaction looking for cues to confirm what they felt (correct or not). So how do you convey trustworthiness? Through nonverbal communication. Dr. Abbie Maroño shares her #1 starting place for appearing more trustworthy through nonverbal communication in this fascinating throwback episode of Negotiations Ninja.   

Dale Carnegie is a global training organization with 200 operations in 86 countries. Its instructors teach the Dale Carnegie course following the model he developed over 100 years ago.  Joe Hart took the course as a young lawyer, and it changed the trajectory of his life. He left law and went into business, and the course helped him see a different vision for his future. Joe and Michael Cromm wrote “Take Command” because they were profoundly impacted by the Dale Carnegie principles and program. Joe shares how you can implement some of those principles immediately in this episode of Negotiations Ninja.  Outline of This Episode [1:39] Learn more about Joe Hart [4:27] Self-confidence is a mindset shift [9:12] The importance of building good habits [14:32] Taking command of your relationships [17:20] Why you need to stop criticizing others [20:11] Being an intentional leader Resources & People Mentioned “Take Command” by Joe Hart and Michael Crom Connect with Joe Hart Connect on LinkedIn Connect With Mark Follow Negotiations Ninja on Twitter: @NegotiationPod Connect with Mark on LinkedIn Follow Negotiations Ninja on LinkedIn Connect on Instagram: @NegotiationPod Subscribe to Negotiations Ninja

How do you handle stressful conversations? Do you know how you’re likely to react? Do you default to being aggressive or combative? It’s crucial that you understand how you react—i.e. your “style under stress”— in tense situations to change how you show up in the moment. Navigating these conversations is Joseph Grenny’s specialty. He shares where to get started in this throwback episode of Negotiations Ninja. 

Is there one right way to negotiate? Is one methodology superior to the other? For the last 30+ years, “Getting to Yes” was the book on negotiation. More recently, “Never Split the Difference” has become the book on negotiation.  The vast majority of people read the top-selling book(s) in a category and think they’re fully educated. That’s just impossible. In this episode of Negotiations Ninja, Andreas Winheller, a negotiation consultant and trainer, shares why no one way is the “best” way.  Outline of This Episode [1:48] Learn more about Andreas Winheller [2:28] The cultural differences at play [4:32] The two main approaches to negotiation [8:47] The economic-grounded negotiation approaches  [12:14] Rational versus irrational negotiation [20:18] Account for decision fatigue  [25:47] The upcoming training with Gary Noesner Resources & People Mentioned Misbehaving: The Making of Behavioral Economics Experiencing Physical Warmth Promotes Interpersonal Warmth Extraneous Factors in Judicial Decisions Connect with Andreas Winheller Connect on LinkedIn Verhandlungs Performance Connect With Mark Follow Negotiations Ninja on Twitter: @NegotiationPod Connect with Mark on LinkedIn Follow Negotiations Ninja on LinkedIn Connect on Instagram: @NegotiationPod Subscribe to Negotiations Ninja

Every culture has different foundational beliefs. We may recognize the same brands and use the same products worldwide but we behave far differently. Eliane Karsaklian learned this firsthand from living in different countries. In this throwback episode, she shares how negotiating with different cultures has to start with a mindset shift. The best way to see success is through working with an expert in that culture. She shares why that’s the key in this conversation.

How do you find the right stories to tell? Matthew Dicks is a phenomenal storyteller. He’s written several novels and non-fiction, including “Story Worthy.” He owns “Speak Up Storytelling” and “Story Worthy MD” to help people learn to become better storytellers—because everyone has stories to tell, they just don’t know it. He simplifies the story-gathering process in this episode of Negotiations Ninja.  Outline of This Episode [2:33] Learn more about Matthew Dicks [4:30] Everyone has stories to tell [6:20] Speak on theme, message, or meaning [8:30] Homework for life: gathering stories [14:15] Why location and action are important  [19:02] How to weave stories into conflict resolution  [23:49] How to make sure your stories connect [27:51] Have we lost the art of storytelling?  Resources & People Mentioned Matthew’s “Homework for Life” TedTalk Storytelling Courses & Workshops Storyworthy The Moth The Bluest Eye Connect with Matthew Dicks Matthew’s Website Connect With Mark Follow Negotiations Ninja on Twitter: @NegotiationPod Connect with Mark on LinkedIn Follow Negotiations Ninja on LinkedIn Connect on Instagram: @NegotiationPod Subscribe to Negotiations Ninja

One of procurement's roles is to achieve cost savings while balancing the needs of the company. Predictive procurement starts with defining things like: What has to be true for the prediction to be accurate The level of confidence of the person making the prediction If something changes, is the prediction invalid? Predicting cost savings isn’t easy. That’s why Edmund Zagorin leverages technology. Learn why you should invest in predictive procurement technology in this throwback episode of Negotiations Ninja.

Logic and rational thinking don’t always work to convince someone to do something. People hear “Storytelling” and think of novels, movies, TV shows, etc. They don’t see it as what it is: A skill. Intuitively, people connect through stories. It’s how we make sense of the world. Storytelling moves someone toward action. And storytelling increases credibility. Mark Carpenter shares how to craft a simple yet compelling story—and shares how they boost your credibility—in this episode of Negotiations Ninja.  Outline of This Episode [2:31] Learn more about Mark Carpenter  [4:13] Storytelling increases credibility [7:15] What do great stories include? [10:39] Simplify your storytelling  [15:02] How to get comfortable telling stories [17:17] How to turn an experience into a story [20:41] Learn more about Story-catching Resources & People Mentioned  The Hero's Journey: Joseph Campbell on His Life and Work Master Storytelling Connect with Mark Carpenter Get Mark’s FREE resource: Story Catcher  Master Storytelling Connect on LinkedIn Connect With Mark Follow Negotiations Ninja on Twitter: @NegotiationPod Connect with Mark on LinkedIn Follow Negotiations Ninja on LinkedIn Connect on Instagram: @NegotiationPod Subscribe to Negotiations Ninja

When it comes to tense emotional situations, getting a commitment from the counterparty can be tough. We know that a commitment usually leads to positive outcomes. So how do we leverage emotion to help people make logical commitments? Svitlana Kalitsun—a Ukrainian negotiation expert and lawyer—shares her thought-process in this throwback episode of Negotiations Ninja.   

William Ury is one of the most well-known—and experienced—names in the field of mediation and negotiation. He’s worked around the globe in every circumstance imaginable. In this episode of Negotiations Ninja, we talk about what he’s learned throughout his storied career, including what he’s learned from the failures.  Outline of This Episode [2:43] Learn more about William and his career [5:11] The negotiation that impacted William’s life [8:22] Who influenced William’s career [11:17] What William learned from a failed negotiation  [22:23] How artificial intelligence is impacting negotiation  [26:28] The art of what’s possible  [31:24] What’s next for William  Resources & People Mentioned Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict Connect with William Ury Connect on LinkedIn Follow on Twitter Connect With Mark Follow Negotiations Ninja on Twitter: @NegotiationPod Connect with Mark on LinkedIn Follow Negotiations Ninja on LinkedIn Connect on Instagram: @NegotiationPod Subscribe to Negotiations Ninja