10-Minute Boundary Reset: How to Protect Your Energy from Office Drama (Without Shutting Down)

Many people think I'm a negotiation coach, but I'm really a practitioner of change working at the intersection of ancient Eastern philosophy and modern Western neuroscience.The Science: Quantum physicists like David Bohm and Zen masters in the mountains agree: Everything you think is "solid" (your desk, your body, your obstacles) is actually 99.9999999% empty space. Similarly, neuroscientists like Michael Gazzaniga have found that there is no singular, fixed "I" in your brain. You are a "Society of Mind," an aggregate of different parts negotiating conflicting and inherently empty impulses in real-time. The Philosophy: In Zen, this is encapsulated in a single character: Mu (無). It often gets translated as “empty,” but it can also reference a kind of boundlessness.The Intersection: When you realize matter is mostly space, the "solid" walls in your mind begin to soften. You realize you are not your self-talk, the very thoughts that lie at the root of professional stress. Instead, you are the boundless potential behind the action. What you'll learn in this episode: 02:15 – The Humble, Good News: Why you don’t need a PhD or to become a monk to benefit from these fundamental truths04:30 – Your "Society of Mind": How the illusion of being a fixed, singular "I" is dismantled by both modern neuroscience and ancient wisdom. 06:50 – Tyranny of Self-Talk: Getting to the root of all professional stress when external circumstances don't seem to go your way. 07:45 – The Liberation of "Mu": What becomes possible when new perspectives enable new ways of thinking, feeling, and responding to circumstance beyond our control. 09:30 – The 3 Stages of Change: A roadmap through Dissolution (of negative self-talk), Mental Rehearsal, and Embodied Brave Action.11:00 – The Fortress of Trust: Why true trust comes from realizing your "self" is not a fragile, solid thing that can be broken.12:15 – Creator & Masterpiece: When tangible results like getting promoted and better paid are the byproduct of accessing a deeper truth of who you really are. To learn more about working with me 1:1, come on over to https://www.jamieleecoach.com/apply Text me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

When I sat down to record this conversation with M. Cristina Alcalde, Ph.D., ACC, last December, institutional biases hadn't yet turned as blatantly fatal as they have in the aftermath of Operation Metro Surge.But truth be told, systemic exclusion leading to institutional violence has never been news for BIPOC and immigrants.The endlessly "moving goalposts" is just one of many ways BIPOC professionals experience institutional bias in the workplace. My guest Dr. Cristina Alcalde is an anthropologist, author, leadership coach, and professor of Global and Intercultural Studies at Miami University in Ohio.In this episode, we explored: Beyond "Us vs. Them": Why addressing institutional whiteness isn't about attacking people, but about fixing the hidden systems that block everyone from equity.The "Illusion Bubble": Why the status quo feels so "natural" to some, while creating moving goalposts for high-achieving women of color.Feminist Curiosity: How to stop being "complicit" and start asking the risky question: "Who actually benefits from the status quo?" Agency in the Heavy Moments: Navigating institutional hate while holding onto our internal authority and resistance.Connecting the Dots: How historical exclusions—like redlining—continue to build the workplace barriers we see today.Mentioned in this episode: Connect with Dr. Cristina Alcalde on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/m-cristina-alcalde-ph-d-24b71b8b/Dr. Cristina Alcalde's Faculty Webpage: https://miamioh.edu/profiles/cas/m-cristina-alcalde.htmlDr. Cristina Alcalde's Website: https://www.crisalcalde.com/Donate to Support our St. Paul Public Schools Community Fund https://my.cheddarup.com/c/support-our-st-paul-public-schools-community/itemsLearn more about Jamie's Executive Coaching Services: https://www.jamieleecoach.com/applyText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

Have you felt the crushing weight of otherization as the only woman or person of color in the room? Or maybe you've been told you’re "too intense," "not assertive enough," or some other maddening combination of subjective, conflicting feedback at work?In this episode of Risky Conversations with Jamie Lee, we dive into why these experiences are not personal failings, but symptoms of the systemic injustices we swim in every day.As a South Korean immigrant living in the U.S., I feel the tension of both: I've gained advantages by understanding how global workplaces function, yet I've also experienced the invisible barriers many marginalized people face, working harder than most, only to be undervalued.In this episode, you’ll learn:The Truth About Intersectional Feminist Coaching: Why traditional "think positive" coaching fails women of color, and how to embrace the paradox of systemic reality versus personal agency.The Biology of Bias: How systemic inequities and "otherization" trigger your nervous system and create inherited belief systems that lead to over-functioning.Real-World Case Studies: How a woman in the male-dominated construction industry reframed "intensity" into leadership; how a single mother successfully challenged the assessment that she wasn't "technical enough"; and how a BIPOC woman transformed her income and impact by choosing to believe in herself when no one else at work would.The Three Votes Strategy: A practical framework to regain your agency—voting for yourself, voting with your tribe, and voting with your feet.To learn more about my coaching philosophy, process, and pricing, come on over to www.jamieleecoach.com/apply Text me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

Earlier today on January 13, 2026, LinkedIn published an article The 2026 job market: What to know about hiring, confidence and opportunity. The data is mixed: U.S. job growth is sluggish and many job seekers are feeling stuck where they are but not prepared for the job hunt. Plus, with a bulk of the growth in the economy happening in the AI infrastructure space, a forward-thinking professional can't help but wonder, "Will I be replaced by AI?" I'm answering this question head-on in this episode. I talk about what AI is excellent for and what it can't do, and what it means for smart leaders planning ahead. What you'll learn: 00:00 – AI cannot fully replace human coaching and the value of human insight01:30 – A quick case study on uncovering human blind spots and parlaying them to build generative intelligence07:30 – The 2026 job market challenges and the push for AI-integrated skills12:00 – Importance of discerning wisdom and cognitive agility for future career success16:30 – Doubling down on humanity and bridge-building as a competitive edge18:30 – Reflective questions for listeners about uncertainty and growth through human conversationsText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

Are you a high-performance leader feeling "allergic" to the slow, constrained pace of your current office? In this episode, I share the "Ferrari on a Golf Course" metaphor—a perspective shift that has been a game-changer for my 1:1 executive coaching clients. As we enter the Year of the Fire Horse in 2026, it’s time to stop trying to "fix" your engine and start finding the right track.In this episode, you’ll learn:The "Shush" Factor: Why high-achieving women are often told to "tone it down" and how to handle it.The Fire Horse Connection: Why 2026 is the year to embrace your capacity, ideas, and intensity rather than apologize for it.The Difference Between Identity and Environment: How to stop blaming yourself for the "bumpy ride" caused by a misaligned workplace.Real-World Success Stories: How two leaders (one in entrepreneurship and one in a corporate reorg) moved from being undervalued to being fully utilized, promoted and better paid.Three Truths for the Misaligned Leader: A framework to help you decide your next "Risky Conversation."Key Quotes:"A Ferrari doesn’t need to be fixed; it needs a track.""The bumpy ride isn't your fault; it's the grass.""Everything worthwhile is on the other side of a risky conversation."Resources Mentioned:Book a free 1:1 coaching consultation with Jamie HEREText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

In this episode, I talk with Neelam Patel, who left a 22-year tech executive career to follow her passions for poetry, dance, and performance. We dive into the risks and rewards of creative self-advocacy, how joy and anger can guide personal transformation, and what it really means to rebuild a life around authenticity. If you’ve ever felt the pull between convention and creativity, this conversation will inspire you to reclaim your own voice.Featured in this episode:  Neelam's Instagram account @dancewithneelamNeelam's website: tailoredpoetry.comNeelam's book: Burning It Down: Dancing Through the RubbleJamie's 1:1 executive coaching practice: https://www.jamieleecoach.com/applyTimestamps:[00:00] — Introduction and Neelam’s background: Jamie Lee opens the episode, introduces Neelam Patel, and they discuss Neelam’s journey from tech executive to poet and artist.[04:21] — Tech career and personal transformation: Neelam describes how improv and creative pursuits influenced her growth (and promotions) in the tech world.[10:47] — Risky conversations and work-life negotiation: Neelam shares stories of honest, risky conversations at work, including advocating for her creative needs.[34:36] — Anger as an ally: Neelam and Jamie discuss the power of anger, addressing repression, shame, and channeling anger into advocacy.[48:04] — Life after “burning it down” and current work: Neelam gives an update on her creative career, including her dance residency and ways listeners can connect with her (Instagram, website).Text me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

For many women of color, excellence became a survival strategy long before leadership did. So when a board, team, or decision-maker starts tugging on the rope—questioning, nitpicking, shifting expectations—it feels almost impossible to let go.In this episode, we explore what happens in your body during these moments, how your nervous system tries to keep you safe by pulling harder, and the subtle art of releasing the tug-of-war without losing your grounding or authority. You’ll learn a simple somatic practice, a decision-making framework, and real-world scripts to help you “drop the rope” with clarity, calm, and confidence.If you’ve ever felt over-responsible or emotionally hijacked in leadership, this episode is for you.Text me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

In this quick episode, I guide you through a 10-minute Boundary Reset designed to help you protect your energy from office drama and difficult coworkers — without shutting down or over-functioning.As an executive coach for high-achieving women, I know how draining it is to deal with demanding personalities, rapid-fire requests, or sometimes-subtle, sometimes-in-your-face workplace tension. This short, powerful practice helps you stay grounded, calm, and clear so you can show up as the leader you want to be.The guided portion is 10 minutes long — perfect to use before a meeting, during a stressful workday, or anytime you feel pulled into someone else’s urgency. You’ll learn a simple body-based anchoring technique to return to self-trust and regulate your nervous system in real time.If you ever struggle with setting boundaries, overthinking, feeling pressured, or absorbing other people’s stress at work, this episode is for you.Mentioned in the episode: Neuroscience-Based Trance: Three-Brain Alignment for LeadersDetails on 1:1 Executive Coaching with Jamie LeeText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

Jamie Lee is an executive coach who helps women and marginalized leaders get promoted and better paid—without playing politics or throwing anyone under the bus. Risky Conversations is about the messy, brave, and brain-based side of leadership growth.--In this episode of Risky Conversations, I sit down with Dr. SD Shanti—pediatric dentist, clinical psychologist, and founder of the World Love Forum—to explore how we can prevent violence and promote well-being on a global scale. Dr. Shanti shares her non-linear journey from academia to activism, and together we discuss the power of self-compassion, the importance of empowering women, and innovative ways to create lasting social change.We discussed:• The staggering global impact of violence: 1 in 3 women and 1 in 2 children are affected.• Why Dr. Shanti left a secure career to pursue her mission of preventing suffering.• The founding and vision of the World Love Forum: launching a global campaign for love and violence prevention.• How entertainment-education (like soap operas) can reach millions and shift cultural norms.• The critical role of empowering women as agents of social change.• Practical self-compassion techniques—both “tender” and “fierce”—to help manage emotions, set boundaries, and prevent burnout.• The science behind why kindness and compassion are essential for leadership and personal well-being.Tune in to be inspired by Dr. Shanti’s story and discover actionable tools for creating a more compassionate world—starting with yourself.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:40 - Dr. SD Shanti’s Risky Career Pivot08:37 - The Birth of the World Love Forum15:22 - Shocking Global Violence Statistics21:05 - Solutions: The Blueprint for Hope30:48 - Self-Compassion: Tender & Fierce Techniques39:56 - The Power of Loving-Kindness Meditation41:49 - Compassionate Leadership & Workplace Well-being44:45 - Closing Thoughts & How to ConnectMentioned:• Dr. SD Shanti LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sdshanti/• Dr. SD Shanti's World Love Forum https://worldloveforum.org/• Dr. SD Shanti's Brush Your Mind Blog https://brushyourmind.org/• Jamie’s website:  https://www.jamieleecoach.com/• Jamie’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leejieunjamie/• Jamie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamieleecoach/Watch this interview with Dr. SD Shanti on YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hS18sggJuAkText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]

Jamie Lee is an executive coach who helps women and marginalized leaders get promoted and better paid—without playing politics or throwing anyone under the bus. Risky Conversations is about the messy, brave, and brain-based side of leadership growth.--In this episode of Risky Conversations, I sit down with Tara May, CEO of Aspiritech, to talk about inclusion, neurodiversity, and what it really means to create better workplaces. Tara shares her personal journey, the power of embracing differences, and actionable advice for leaders and professionals alike no matter where you are on the spectrum.Key takeaways and timestamps:0:00 - Jamie Lee and Tara May Introduction 1:26 – Tara May’s story: Donating a kidney and leading with heart8:19 – What does Aspiritech do? Tech services with a neurodiverse team14:27 – Overcoming challenges: Confidence building and imposter syndrome19:46 – Communication tips for neurodivergent and neurotypical teams22:38 – Addressing autism, vaccines, and debunking myths29:09 – Embracing and celebrating differences in the workplaceIf you’re passionate about inclusion, leadership, or just want to hear an inspiring story, this episode is for you! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment with your thoughts.Mentioned:Aspiritech website: https://aspiritech.org/Jamie Lee Coach website: https://www.jamieleecoach.com/Watch this interview with Tara May, CEO of Aspiritech on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwcTta0M6FcText me your thoughts on this episode!Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me Book a free hour-long consultation with me. You'll leave with your custom blueprint to confidence, and we'll ensure it's a slam-dunk fit for you before you commit to working with me 1:1. Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at [email protected]