92: Part 2 - The Transformative Power of Conflict Resolution with Your Teen

A very special 100th episode! Thank you to all of you, our amazing listeners. Whether you’ve been with us since the beginning in 2020, or you’re just tuning in now, you’ve helped make our podcast the success it has grown to be. I am grateful for your continued support of our programming! I can’t think of a better guest today than the person I’m about to introduce. She has been by my side on this parenting journey, my incredible wife, Suzanne. In addition to being an amazing mom, she is the Director of Customer Experience & Channel Marketing at Revolution a REV UP BRANDS Company; a leading B2B organization that serves dance studios and educators world-wide. She has a passion for leading growth, innovation, and change. Suzanne has been published in over 100 business articles for Dance Teacher Magazine’s "Ask the Experts" as a contributing columnist for over a decade. She regularly speaks and presents workshops at leading dance industry conferences and events. Suzanne earned her undergraduate degrees in Psychology and Child Development from Colby-Sawyer College. She has an MBA from the University of New Hampshire with a specialization in Growth & Innovation. She is also a Certified Change Management Professional, CCMP. This past July, we celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary! Each child is so different and the way we communicate with them needs to be too. How we open up the dialogue with them to communicate can be done in a variety of ways. Keeping family values in the forefront is essential in building a foundation for communication. Asking open-ended questions, then listening to what they share, can help you know how to support them. Are you giving advice, coaching them, or just listening? Every child’s stage of development is at their own pace. There is no “finding balance” as a parent, it’s about going with the ebb and flow of activity, seasons, sports, interests, and hobbies of each child. How to recalibrate when your teen gets too involved. There’s no one way to parent, we’ll make mistakes, we’ll learn. It takes a village. It’s important to apologize to your teen if you’ve not been at your best. Help them leverage with what they’re great at! There is so much we can learn from our teen’s. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Book: How To Raise An Adult Book: The 5 Love Language’s

Elaine is a Master Certified Coach and co-founder of the global coaching resource for parenting neurodiverse kids, ImpactParents.com. The co-creator of Sanity School® for Parents, she is passionate about guiding parents of complex kids and the professionals who support them with training and coaching. A mom to three complex young adults, she is the author of Parenting ADHD Now! and The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and More. By teaching adults to take a coach-approach that is informed by a simple understanding of brain development, Elaine guides parents to let go of judgement, access compassion, set realistic expectations and dramatically improve the way they communicate with teens. What’s different about parenting teens? They are growing and exploring; this is an exciting time! As a parent, are you Directing or Collaborating with your teen? "Whose agenda is it?" Become more interested in their agenda than your own. Help is only helpful if it’s on their agenda. Transferring fear onto your teen. Why the coach approach? As a coach, create a place for your teen to explore by asking questions and guiding them into their own insights. What you need to know about the teenage brain. The ways in which parents and kids tend to fall out of trust with each other, and with themselves. When we know better, we do better. Self-care is vital in parenting teens. Elaine shares insights to help you be a calm & loving parent. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Resource Guide: 12 Fool-Proof Tips to Parent a Complex Teen - Resource Guide Website:  https://impactparents.com/ Podcast: https://impactparents.com/podcast

Today I have the incredible honor to talk with a true visionary of the world of science and health. Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D., former medical school professor, and epigenetic science pioneer, is the bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, Spontaneous Evolution, and The Honeymoon Effect. Bruce received the prestigious Goi Peace Award (Japan) in honor of his scientific contribution to world harmony. For over ten years, Bruce has been listed in the top 100 of “the world’s most spiritually influential living people” by the United Kingdom’s Watkins Journal. Our lives are stressful, and they seem to get more and more stressful as the years go by. It can be a lot to deal with, but there are ways that we can make ourselves happier, and improve our overall well-being at a fast, and efficient rate. It comes down to the concept of energy psychology. We all know what psychology is, but what about energy psychology? Essentially, it is an approach to psychotherapy that involves coaching and healthcare treatment to work on the important mind-body connection. This is helping a lot of people worldwide deal with things like trauma, stress and more. Living in harmony with all living things, changing the way we interact with nature Parents are shaping the future of our civilization by the culture in which they raise their kids 95% of kids are experiencing life based on their earlier programming up to the age of 7 Bruce shares insights on the power of the conscious and subconscious mind How what we think becomes the message we send our body which in turn creates the chemistry to carry out that thought Helping your teen create a new set of beliefs from old programming Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.brucelipton.com/  Resources: https://www.brucelipton.com/resources/ 

Brandon Slade struggled with academics throughout high school, but in college, he recognized that his brain did not work like his peers. After receiving an ADHD diagnosis, Brandon aims to better understand how the ADHD brain works. After teaching special education for 12 years, he started Untapped Learning. Untapped's mission is to help students with executive function challenges—specifically ADHD and dyslexia. Brandon’s expertise addresses the challenge of executive function difficulties in teens, particularly those with ADHD and dyslexia. We help parents, teachers, and coaches understand and support students who struggle with organization, time management, planning, and procrastination. Our approach aims to transform misconceptions about these students' motivation and abilities, reducing academic frustration and family tension while building life skills. Explore executive function challenges: time management, procrastination, impulse, emotional regulation, and organization Discuss what it is like growing up with ADHD A family doctor can assess if your child has ADHD and dyslexia Understand why kids struggle with organization, time management, and academics Debunk myths about laziness and lack of motivation in these students Learn innovative strategies to reduce family tension and foster student independence Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@untappedlearning Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/untappedlearning/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/untappedlearning Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-slade-ef/ Website: https://untappedlearning.com/

As parents we all want to see our kids grow into capable, strong, individuals who can lead themselves and others with purpose. In this podcast, we explore actionable steps that parents can take to nurture the leader within their teen. Joining us today is Alan E. Nelson, Ed.D. who is a leadership development specialist, trainer, speaker, and Lecturer of Management at the Naval Postgraduate School (www.nps.edu). He previously taught at USC, UCI, LMU, and Pepperdine. Dr. Nelson founded KidLead Academy, the world’s first online course to train parents how to develop their child’s leadership potential (www.kidlead.com). He also founded LeadYoung Training Systems, designing organizational leadership curricula for 3-23-year-olds (www.LeadYoungTraining.com). He is the author of 40 books and over 200 articles on personal growth and leadership and the founder of KidLead Inc., a nonprofit focusing on young leader development. Alan has a doctorate (Ed.D.) in leadership from the University of San Diego. During the first half of his life, he was an entrepreneurial leader in the social sector. In midlife, he concluded that leadership development could have a better return on investment by focusing on leaders while they’re moldable, not moldy. Since 2008, Alan’s been a pioneer in young leader development, designing age-n-stage curricula for 3-23-year-olds. Dr. Nelson has traveled to a variety of countries to train people with his curricula, along with interacting with 1000s of preteens and teens, as part of his research. What can parents do to develop their child’s leadership potential? What are early indicators of leadership aptitude? Alan talks about key leadership qualities: persuasive, propelled, planner, power. Is a person born as a natural leader or can they develop into a leader? What are the benefits of developing your child’s leadership potential? How do parents inadvertently shut down their child’s leadership ability? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.kidlead.com/ Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanenelson/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KidLeadAcademy/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC280RZ3neguOVOPHNLmVq2Q

Many of us know how stressful this time can be. One big challenge is to step back and let your teen take the lead. It’s natural to want to be involved in all stages of the admissions process to selecting the college, having a heavier hand in the student college application essays, etc. How do we as parents let go of those rigid expectations and meet our teen where they are at and what is best for them. Stacy Hernandez is a College Admissions Advisor and has been working on admissions since 1999. Stacy served as an Undergraduate Admissions Counselor at Johns Hopkins University and Northeastern University where she reviewed applications and recruited students around the country. Additionally, she has worked as a College Counselor in high schools in Colorado. In 2014, she opened an independent college admissions advising business called The Best U Admissions Advising where Stacy and her partners serve families from all over the world. Also, Stacy has transformational leadership coaching and intuitive background which allows her to support students to find their authenticity. Help parents understand how they are influencing their teens and how that can impact their ability to self-discover Show up in curiosity for your teen and ask the important questions, allowing them to find their own answers Often times, parent’s opinions are not helpful and can limit their teen’s ability to explore what they truly want Parents need to be aware of their own fears in letting their teen go Helping your teen determine what they want in a school, their non-negotiables, goals, and interests Meeting their teens where they are at Tips to find ease in this process The college admissions process, what colleges are looking for, and what it takes to get into certain schools. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Follow on Instagram Follow on Facebook Website: https://thebestu.net/ The Blog: https://thebestu.net/blogs/ 1-Month Free Membership: https://thebestu.net/membership/. Use code TBUWELCOME at checkout to receive your first month of TBU Membership free and register for the webinar at no additional cost.

Tim Moore is a Master Hypnotherapist and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner who has helped people throughout the world break free from issues and limitations that prevent them from living their best, most fulfilling lives. In addition to his work in private practice as a hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, Tim is also an author, speaker, and trainer of hypnotherapy through his Hypno-Mastery practitioner accreditation program. In this podcast for parents of teens, we delve into understanding and nurturing the subconscious mind to help address common challenges faced during adolescence. We'll explore how to identify and overcome limiting beliefs, combat negative self-image, and develop resilience against bullying, as well as how the subconscious mind can help them reach their academic goals and future potential. The goal is to equip you with the tools to support your teen's mental and emotional well-being, empowering them to build a positive self-image and lead a more fulfilling life. Join us as we uncover the power of the subconscious mind in transforming the teenage experience. How the mind changes the way it receives and stores information as we grow Through our actions and best intentions, we often limit our teen's personal growth The impact of what you say and how it can create limiting beliefs in your child/teen How the root cause of a limiting belief can be transformed into a positive experience The subconscious mind, the conscious mind, and willpower The effects of social media and technology in shaping beliefs Misconceptions of hypnosis and how it can transform your reality in profound ways How hypnotherapy is one of the most powerful tools to making change, but also one of the most misunderstood. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.mindoverthebody.com Email: [email protected] Free access to my mini course “Remove Self Doubt” (which would be good for both parents and teens): https://empowerment.mindoverthebody.com

Jon Mattleman received his B.A. from Clark University in 1978, and his MS in Counseling from the University of Hartford in 1981. Jon’s workshops and presentations are geared to give participants tools they can implement immediately, strategies that work with children and youth, and approaches which have proven to be critical to building healthy relationships. Jon frequently consults with schools, parent groups, mental health organizations, and in workplace settings regarding the issues of anxiety, stress, depression, suicide, parenting, and the emotional consequences of technology. Jon is a certified trainer in QPR Suicide Prevention and has worked with professionals in schools, with state organizations such as the Massachusetts Probation Department, as well as with hundreds of parents regarding self-harm and suicide prevention. Jon is best known for his talk “The Secret Life of Teens and Tweens” and has presented this to thousands of parents all over New England. Jon has appeared on numerous radio and television shows lending his expertise on anxiety, depression, suicide, teens, and parenting. When teenagers are giving their parents an attitude, how should they deal with that? Parents shouldn’t take an attitude from their teens personally. Be Patient. Never change your expectations of your teen, however you may need to change your timeline. Parents can practice giving themselves a time-out so they don’t say something they wish they could take back. What do you do if a kid gets in trouble, for example- smoking in the bathroom at school? What do you do when you learn that your son/daughter is having sex, do you confront them? “In the dark conversations” can be very effective when having challenging conversations as facial expressions can alter the outcome. Jon talks about a teen’s brain and what motivates them at different stages, and how to prepare and recognize these shifts. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.jonmattleman.com Twitter: https://x.com/Jonmattleman

Karleen Savage, Conflict resolution expert and certified hostage and crisis negotiator shares the tools that work during an argument with our teens. As a trailblazer in the realm of parent-teen relationships, Karleen Savage’s insights are not confined to theory, but are forged in the crucible of real-world challenges and triumphs as a parent herself, and from her experience navigating complex conflicts as a crisis negotiator.  As the creator of the Savage Theory of Resolution®, a five-skill model that can be used to resolve any conflict, Karleen knows that peaceful and amicable resolution is possible. Karleen has been featured on MSNBC for her knowledge in hostage negotiation. She holds a Masters in Conflict Resolution & Negotiations, and she is a certified hostage and crisis negotiator. She has been married for more than 30 years and resides in Utah with her family. Universal skills that experts use to resolve conflict Curiosity when you and your teen don’t see eye to eye Attitude-how do you show up in conflict? Master listening-this is essential and Karleen shares how to master this Connection Reframing & phrasing: what are the words we’re using? Are you “holding” in the conversation? Over-arching philosophies: what do you want for your teen? How do you create that as a possibility in them? How to create parenting mantras and why it’s important? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: KarleenSavage.com Free Download: Get a digital download of The Confident Teen Blueprint  

Rhonda Chadwick is a trained archivist who has written a book called “Secrets from the Stacks: an archivist reveals how to store, digitize, and preserve documents to create a family archive and leave a personal legacy. She has a dual MLIS/Archives Management and MA History degree. She is the owner of a personal history business called LenaSalina Legacy Preservation. The teenage years contain some of our best times that teens will want to preserve, but also, sometimes tragedy strikes and teens may be in a position to want to save items from a loved one who has left this life too soon. Save pictures in non-proprietary format such as jpegs and word documents in pdf. Relying on the cloud for storage can be risky as the data lives on their service. It’s best to back up everything using 3-2-1: two local options (computer & flash drive) and one off-site service (cloud). What do to with all the photos on your phone: Keep photos and documents that have enduring stories. It’s a great practice to go through your saved photos on a regular basis and delete what is not necessary to save. The digital world is unstable, so printing photos is still a great idea. Social media, email, and text messages can also be saved Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Email: [email protected] Website: LenaSalina.com Information provided by the Library of Congress: https://guides.loc.gov/family-history-for-kids/preservation https://digitalpreservation.gov/personalarchiving/