148. A Yes Mom Is MORE Authentic

This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an emotion, I decided this podcast episode is the best way to respond. Discipline, boundaries and expectations are powerful in our parenting and they are a foundation for our kids to thrive. We can use each of those tools effectively, arguably more effectively, when we use them with kindness, calm authority and self-discipline. This episode has four key points in the heart of a disciple of Jesus Christ that is using discipline in parenting. I strive to be a loyal disciple of Jesus Christ and that means doing what is right even when it is hard and committing to parenting with faith over fear. All of the "what if..." theories thrown by others are fear based and I have resounding faith in following Jesus today in my parenting is the best possible outcome for our future.

Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life. Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth!Jesus Story Book Bible (I LOVE this one with my kids)Hosanna Revival NLT Bible (My first Bible I read for two years and appreciated the easy to understand language!)Study Bible ESV (My new Bible I am loving. The language is the right amount of challenge for me right now. I can still understand what it is saying and it reflects more of the traditional writings.)

I am steadfast here, friends. I've seen the truth in my own home and beyond play out time and time again. We need more positive minds, hearts and WORDS filling our homes if we want a better world. Being a Yes Mom is a standard of excellence and while it can feel difficult to fulfill and meet- it is rewarding to strive towards. I hope this encouragement reaches you warmly and with vigor. All my love, Tessa Romero

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!" Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids. We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be. Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too. I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity. All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids. I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids. I mentioned my 21 day YES MOM CHALLENGE available in my membership (access it anytime) to learn the TOOLS of Yes Language. This will decrease the time spent yelling, criticizing, arguing and breaking boundaries.⁠ Sign up here! ⁠Learn from my ⁠free "Yes Mom" content⁠ .

Exciting News: I am making a 100 day marriage journal! Yes, husband AND wife journals that build a positive and appreciative mindset in marriage- leaving behind resentment, negativity and victim mentality. Today as I worked on another round of edits (committed to the strength of each prompt and exercise) I felt stuck, so I called my husband into the office and asked for his feedback. Well, it was a GOOD TIME. Tons of laughs and true understanding about the different way we think. That's when I turned on the mic and hit record. Come share some laughs, insights and appreciation with us as we pour our love over the marriage journals in the making. These journals means so much to me as I started implementing this writing practice in my marriage 18 months ago- now I'm putting the practice in your hands.

There are times that being kind, sincere, patient and truthful feel PHYSICALLY painful. As if a bone in your body may break if you say something kind when you feel angry. What if yelling, perfectionism, people pleasing, lying, criticizing, shaming... could all be sanding off of you?This perspective of "sanding your down" will completely transform the pain of that moment to an incredibly purposeful healing experience for you. This will increase your patience, courage and discipline to do what is right even when it is hard. Here is the link to If Only I Had A Green Nose that I LOVE. Every book in this series is incredible. All my best friend, Tessa Romero

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart. Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts. THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it. All my best, Tessa Romero p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to [email protected] Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way. We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word. Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here! Tessa Romerop.s. I have a journaling email sequence where I send you short writing examples every 2 days to help you stay clear and focused on your writing.

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.I understand this to my core. Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up. This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH. I know that you can, too. The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity. I adore you, I really do. Tessa Romero Connect with me on IG Is my mindset membership a good fit for you?