The Biggest Misconceptions About Polyamory — Debunked

Most of us like our lives sorted into tidy boxes: right or wrong, healthy or toxic, fair or unfair. Real life rarely cooperates. This week, we’re leaning into the mess.We kick things off by confessing our own contradictions (some of them are not flattering), then dig into what we actually mean when we say “boundary,” and how that’s different from a rule, an agreement, or just a strong preference. We also get into what happens when a boundary you set in good faith stops fitting your life, and how the people around you can be affected, even when you’re doing exactly what you need to do.Alysia, thank you for trusting our listeners with your story. Being this open about something so personal takes real courage, and we know it will make someone else feel less alone.Pour something warm and settle in. You don’t have to land on an answer today.

Welcome back, MetaMoms family! We've been gone for three months, and boy do we have some catching up to do.In this Season 2 premiere, we're sitting down with you like old friends to share everything we've been through since we last hit record. Fair warning: there will be some ranting and raving. Between a layoff, a county complaint, a surprise septic situation, and five kids back in full swing, we've got some stories to tell (and some feelings to get out). But we promise to bring it all around to the good stuff, because there's been plenty of that too.We'll also play a few rounds of Would You Rather, share our recent wins, and give you a peek at what's coming this season, including more of your questions, more of your stories, and (finally) podcast upgrades. Grab a drink, get comfy, and come hang out with us. We've really missed you.

Whew, this is our most emotional episode yet. In this episode, Alysia finally gets to tell her story, her way. She walks us through what led to the fall out of her relationship with her dad and her experience navigating "no contact" as a result. It gets pretty heavy so if emotion makes you uncomfy, this might be your sign to catch us in the next one! Thank you to everyone who sent in stories, reflections, and advice around being no contact with family. There were so many submissions that we actually had to break this topic into two parts. Part 2 will be up soon, where we share some of those community reflections and some reflections of our own.If you are someone who is no contact and you walk away from this episode with anything, please know that you are not alone. Conditional love seems to thrive when we are simply living our truths. We see you, we're proud of you, and you are not alone in this.

You came with the heavy hitting questions and we're not ones to back down from a challenge. In this episode, we're in full advice mode, responding to your personal submissions about the moments that might be keeping you up at night. Coming out to the people you love. Moving in with a partner. Telling your family. Figuring out mental health support when your relationship is complicated. And what happens when you and your partner want different things when it comes to kids.This ones for you. Got something you need advice on? Send it in for next time. Find Resources Near You: https://www.findhelp.orgPolyamorous Therapist Rec: https://care.headway.co/providers/alexis-mcfarlin

Y'all had a lot to say.. and we listened! In this episode we're tackling the biggest misconceptions about polyamory straight from our followers mouths. The idea that it's all about s*x, that jealousy doesn't exist, that it's unstable, bad for kids, or that every polyamorous person is automatically into you. Spoiler: none of that is true. We're going deep on all of it, sharing what love, commitment, and family actually look like inside our quad and how it's unlike anyone else.

Today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood relationships in polyamory — the metamour, or your partner's partner. We kick things off with a little game of 'how well do we know each other', then we get into our own metamour journey; the messy beginning, the lessons, the unexpected beauty of it, and what we wish someone had told us at the start. We also answer your questions from Instagram. Whether you're polyamorous, polyam-curious, or just someone who loves a good story time, this one's for you.

Alysia is back, baby! 🎉 This week on MetaMoms, we’re diving headfirst into some of your unexpected relationship curveballs — monogamous and polyamorous alike. We listen to your voicemails, offer some completely unsolicited advice, and reflect on the moments that make love, partnership, and communication so unexpectedly complicated.After the first one, we get real vulnerable and paused to privately navigate a real-life trigger moment between the two of us. With a little communication, a little grace (and a lot of honesty), we worked through it and kept the conversation going — because that’s what relationships are all about. It’s reflective, funny, and deeply human and we’re proud to sit in that growth with you all. Thank you as always for being here. We love you!

This episode is a little different. Tyler and I are finally, sitting down together to unpack the ending of our PolyFamily season on TLC—an ending that left everyone (including us) with more questions than answers. We talk candidly about the re-enacted, on-camera disagreement that became a major turning point: my decision to date outside the quad. What viewers saw was only a fraction of what had really happened beneath the surface. We open up about how we navigated a major shift in our relationship dynamic, the immense fear that comes with redefining boundaries in real time, and what it feels like when the relationship structure you thought was solid suddenly starts evolving. There were growing pains. There were moments of doubt. And there were hard truths we had to face—both individually and together.This episode is about how our views on love, partnership, and commitment have changed, what we’ve learned since filming wrapped, and how we’re continuing to grow through discomfort instead of running from it.If you were left hanging by the finale…If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” of relationships…If you’ve ever had to choose growth even when it felt terrifying…This conversation is for you.No scripts. No producers. Just honesty, reflection, and the messy reality of evolving love.

It’s never too late to celebrate the people we love, so we’re finally surprising Alysia with your birthday voicemails! (Spoiler alert: she cries.)From there, we rewind a bit to share how we planned an over-the-top birthday surprise while Alysia and Tyler were in California… and how, despite our best intentions, it didn’t quite go according to plan. Because honestly? That tracks.Then we pivot from the past to the present and into a conversation we know many families avoid. We finally finished our will and trust, and we’re sharing what the process was like for us as a polyamorous family. What worked, what surprised us, what we wish we’d known going in, and why being prepared is one of the most loving things you can do for the people you care about.We walk through our experience, our recommendations, and our learning curve — with transparency, humor, and a reminder that preparation doesn’t have to be scary.⚠️ Disclaimer: We are not lawyers, and nothing in this episode is legal advice. We’re simply sharing our personal experience in hopes that it helps others start their own conversations.If you’re curious about the platform we used, you can explore it here:👉https://trustandwill.com/?utm_source=amt&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=&utm_content=Q22025Love shows up in many forms.. sometimes it sounds like birthday voicemails, and sometimes it looks like signing paperwork you’ve been putting off. This episode has a little bit of both.

This is technically a Holiday Special but not the kind you might be used to.We kick things off with a game, sharing classic family holiday traditions and unpacking which ones we keep, which ones we’ve let go of, and how they look in our non-traditional family. We reflect honestly on how the holidays actually went for us this year and the why behind some of the choices we make for our family.We talk about flexibility around traditions, extending grace when things shift, and releasing the pressure to do holidays “the right way.” We also share how we approach Christmas gifts as a quad—how we plan ahead, stay organized, and keep things meaningful without breaking the bank.We share about the recent passing of Tyler’s father and our plans to attend the funeral, holding space for grief in the midst of a season that often expects joy. And because life is never just one thing, we end on a happy note with an exciting Doug update! Apologies about the audio in advance, out WiFi was a bit unstable so we worked with it as best that we could! See you all next time ;)