Why Men Get Sex Wrong with Dr. Nicole McNichols

I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols to dismantle the biggest myths men believe about sex, attraction, and confidence. We talk about why performance anxiety kills connection, how curiosity builds real sexual confidence, and what actually drives desire in long-term relationships. This conversation goes deep into emotional attunement, power dynamics, attachment styles, and why better sex starts long before the bedroom.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - What Men Misunderstand About Attraction01:07 - The Real Role of Confidence01:25 - Porn, Netflix, and Sexual Myths03:46 - The Reality of Sex Statistics06:12 - Performance Anxiety and Spectatoring07:31 - Sexual Curiosity Explained08:02 - How to Improve Your Sex Life Tonight10:18 - Talking During Sex Without Killing Desire11:27 - Why Uncertainty Is a Myth13:52 - Self-Growth vs Distance in Desire16:09 - Planned Sex vs Spontaneity17:49 - How Confidence Is Built Sexually19:32 - The Sexual Unicorn Myth22:50 - Getting Out of Your Head in Bed24:32 - When Your Partner Says “I Don’t Know”26:44 - Desire vs Arousal29:27 - Why Bodies Don’t Always Match Desire31:54 - Power Dynamics and Erotic Differences35:57 - Madonna-Whore Complex Explained42:47 - The Hierarchy of Sexual Needs44:36 - Attachment Styles and Sex48:33 - Emotional Attunement and Female Desire52:42 - Dominance, Safety, and Masculinity59:36 - When Men’s Needs Get Deprioritized01:04:35 - What Women Can Do Better Sexually01:07:44 - The Lost Art of Seduction01:10:06 - Final Takeaways and Where to Find Nicole***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | <a...

I’ve been seeing a disturbing trend online where women claim that "incredible men are just average women," implying that men are simply playing catch-up to a female baseline. In this episode, I dive into the dangers of this "female supremacy" narrative and what I call the "Patriarchy Virus," which frames men as the root cause of every societal problem. I also break down why judging men by female metrics destroys relationships and discuss the immense, often overlooked effort it takes to chisel yourself into an exceptional man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 The "Incredible Men Are Just Average Women" Narrative01:43 Introducing the Patriarchy Virus03:09 The "One Up, One Down" Relationship Dynamic05:10 Society Values What Men Contribute, Not Who They Are06:23 Identity: Community vs. Competency08:52 Why Modern Culture Demonizes Hierarchies10:04 Applying Female Metrics to Male Psychology11:50 Misandry and the Contempt for Men14:14 The Reality of Women Who Buy Into This Narrative16:03 It Is Hard to Craft Yourself Into a Great Man***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Josh Trent to explore how marriage, father wounds, and emotional epigenetics shape a man’s inner world. We talk honestly about porn, anger, healing the mother wound, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with your partner. Josh unpacks how breathwork, mentorship, and men’s work helped him transform survival patterns into real love and leadership. This episode is raw, personal, and directly speaks to men who are ready to stop repeating cycles and start leading with truth.Check out Josh's online community: www.liberatedlife.comSHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome and setup00:31 Marriage as transformation01:13 Anger toward the feminine02:26 Injuries from childhood03:37 Unsafe relationship with women04:53 Realizing wife is not mom05:37 Breaking unconscious patterns06:36 Avoiding emotional honesty08:35 Growing up with bipolar parent10:35 Creating safety by coping11:39 Being shielded from truth13:40 Moving to Hawaii14:41 Womanizing and addiction15:47 Mission to feel feelings17:34 Hungry Ghost metaphor19:08 Dysfunction in relationships21:24 Men’s work and mentorship23:05 Masculine leadership26:24 Joining men’s communities29:32 Emotional epigenetics33:14 Containment in relationships34:33 Safe emotional expression35:36 Relationship with other men38:13 How to communicate honestly41:51 How to open up43:52 Breathwork and embodiment46:42 Middle path for men48:51 Healing financial fear50:23 Self leadership for men53:27 Porn and disconnection55:45 Why porn hooks men58:51 Escape velocity1:03:47 Healing lineage pain1:06:55 Breaking generational cycles***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on<a...

I dive into the single most important skill that many modern men have lost but that women deeply crave: containment. I discuss why mastering your own internal fire—your anger, impulses, and emotions—is the key to shifting from being perceived as a potential predator to a trusted protector. We explore how developing this capacity doesn't mean castrating your masculinity, but rather harnessing it to create a sense of safety that feels like "shade in the desert" for your partner.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction01:29 The #1 Skill Women Crave02:32 Understanding the Predator-Prey Dynamic04:30 Why Women Are Attracted to a "Dangerous" Edge06:15 Becoming a Protector Instead of a Predator08:45 Why She Needs You to Be an Emotional Container11:55 The Rule: Contain Yourself First14:15 The "Shade in the Desert" Metaphor15:45 Personal Story: Providing Containment in a Crisis21:00 How Boundaries Create Polarity***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with fertility specialist Gabriela Rosa for a blunt, science-driven conversation about what’s really happening to our reproductive health. We get into why fertility challenges are rising, how men contribute fifty percent of the equation, and the lifestyle choices that quietly sabotage conception.I also explore the emotional and relational pressures couples face when trying to conceive, along with practical steps to improve fertility before pregnancy even begins. This is one of the most eye-opening fertility discussions I’ve had on the show.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Fertility As A Health Indicator03:20 Generational Impact Of Reproductive Health08:25 Fertility Rates vs Infertility Rates14:50 How Technology Shaped Modern Family Choices17:38 Why Sperm And Egg Quality Decline24:50 The Big Lifestyle Factors Hurting Fertility27:15 How Men Dramatically Improve Sperm Quality30:55 Why Everything Starts Pre-Conception36:13 Vulnerability, Masculinity And Fertility41:30 The Cost Of Delaying Testing48:53 What Men Should Stop And Start Doing58:15 Metabolic Health And Testosterone01:03:15 Emotional Toll And Seeking Support***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

I break down how women can naturally inspire a man’s masculine energy without controlling, nagging, or pushing him. I share what actually shuts men down and what makes us come alive in relationships. I also talk about playfulness, admiration, and the subtle shifts that completely change how a man shows up. If you want a more connected, confident, and balanced relationship, this conversation will help you get there.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why Women Want to Understand Men03:20 - Letting Go of Control06:05 - The Nagging Trap12:40 - The Power of Playfulness16:35 - Tell Him What You Want20:10 - Admire His Actions24:40 - Your Way Isn’t Always the Best Way31:10 - Notice the Good in Him***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction00:35 How self-worth affects sex01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues02:03 Porn and male conditioning03:19 Nervous system and arousal04:34 Porn induced dysfunction05:37 Unrealistic expectations07:22 Shame and performance pressure07:45 Women influenced by porn08:20 Monetization joke break10:01 What men really want12:49 Why men feel pressure13:12 Saying no to sex15:18 Handling anxiety during sex16:53 Belief and awareness17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent18:29 Communication with partners19:59 Reducing pressure22:14 In the moment anxiety tools24:03 Breath control in sex25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states27:38 Arousal pacing and control29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn31:44 Self worth and performance links33:15 Where low self worth comes from34:45 Perfectionism and pressure35:16 Support and standards37:37 Using sex for validation38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions41:33 What causes ED in healthy men43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing44:30 Emotional litmus test45:35 Nervous system signals46:50 Emotional suppression47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners48:45 Self-sabotage49:39 Building sexual confidence49:58 Rituals and daily practice53:57 Letting go of control56:05 Reconnecting to the body57:48 Sex as meditation58:29 Romance novels conversation01:00:20 Where to find Alex***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the<a href="https://mantalks.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

I break down what emotional intelligence truly means for men and why so many of us get it wrong. I talk about the four traps that keep men disconnected from their emotional life and how these patterns sabotage leadership, relationships, and self-trust.I also share a simple 3A framework you can use to build real emotional mastery without losing your edge. If you’re a man who wants to lead with clarity, presence, and strength, this one’s for you.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intelligence01:07 - Emotions as Data03:37 - The Myth of the Stoic Leader06:09 - The Four Traps Men Fall Into12:44 - Understanding Empathy &amp; Boundaries15:42 - What Healthy Masculine Leadership Really Is17:20 - Seneca, Self-Conquest &amp; Misinterpretations18:25 - The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence23:30 - The Call for Modern Masculine Leadership24:53 - Adaptability &amp; Regulation for the Future25:38 - Final Challenge to Men***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Dr. Orion Taraban to break down what’s really happening in the modern dating and relationship landscape. We get into why dynamics between men and women have shifted, how power works in relationships, and what actually drives attraction today. Orion and I challenge a lot of popular narratives and get honest about what men need to focus on to succeed relationally. This one pulls no punches.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Modern dating is deteriorating04:50 Tech, AI, and dehumanized dating10:30 Double standards in attraction15:45 How the marketplace really works22:00 What makes men attractive27:40 Love vs relationship dynamics33:55 Power shifts in modern relationships41:10 Cultural narratives and ideology48:00 Optionality and relationship power55:00 What men should focus on01:02:00 Where to find Dr. Orion***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You’ll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness10:04 - How to name and address the behavior13:42 - Tools for shared accountability15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nbsp;Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram