Your 'Type' Is Keeping You Single | Matt Monday

Unfortunately, a lot of people are actually really bad at predicting what will make them happy long term. When it comes to dating, many people get stuck on a rigid “type” which is usually a checklist of traits they think their partner must have. But interestingly, research shows that while most people have a long list of qualities they want, they often end up perfectly happy with someone who only matches a few of them.So how do you figure out what will actually make you happy in a relationship?And how do you evaluate that when dating apps mostly let you filter by superficial traits like height, looks, or career?If you’ve ever wondered about this (or you know someone struggling in the dating world right now) Listen to it now, and share it with a friend who's struggling in dating right now. ---►► Watch My Free Masterclass: How To Heal From Heartbreak8 Proven Steps to Release the Past, Rebuild Your Confidence, and Thrive in Your Next Chapter: Heartbreakplan.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many people believe that finding the right partner will finally make them feel complete. But what if the real work begins before the relationship even starts?In this conversation, Matthew sits down with Humble the Poet and shares the lessons that changed the way they understand love, attraction, and self-worth. They dive deep into: why we often chase the wrong people, how childhood patterns influence who we’re attracted to, and why the ability to receive love may be just as important as the ability to give it.Whether you're single, dating, or trying to build healthier connections, this conversation will help you understand why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns. ---►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective? Matthew’s weekly newsletter dives into insights that transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Early dating can feel magical, but it’s not always a reliable preview of what a relationship will actually be like. Sometimes, emotional availability in the early stages looks like hesitation or caution. And sometimes emotional unavailability looks like fireworks, intense chemistry, amazing dates, and big talk about the future. Which means it’s surprisingly hard to tell early on: Is this genuine interest… or love bombing?That’s also why advice like “The right person will never put themselves in a position to lose you” can be misleading in early dating. So what green flags can you actually trust in those early stages? In this episode, I break down the subtle signs that someone is truly emotionally available, and how to tell the difference between real interest and something that only feels exciting in the moment.---►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s easy to get swept up by chemistry and start investing in someone before they’ve actually shown they’re committed. When that happens, we don’t just lose perspective… we start obsessing.In this episode, Matthew breaks down why we spiral in the first few weeks with someone new, and what it really takes to slow down without “playing games.” Matthew shares 3 practical shifts that help you get your power back when it feels like options are limited and this person is a rare opportunity you can’t lose—so you don’t settle for the wrong one out of urgency.---►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most important relationships in your life—with others, with yourself, and with life itself. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Becoming a dad recently made something click for me that I’d been circling for years: Choosing the right partner might be the single most important decision you’ll ever make. It shapes your finances, your health, how you parent, and how you handle life’s hardest moments. And yet, modern dating has made it harder than ever to get this right—too many options, too many clichés, too much conflicting advice. In this episode, I give you a framework I’ve developed to help you cut through the noise . . . so you’re not just following your feelings, but making a decision you’ll be proud of years from now.---►► Never Face Your Love Life Alone Again. Try Matthew AI for FREE at AskMH.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does confidence feel so fragile?You can get the date, enter a relationship, even achieve success in other areas of your life . . . and still feel like you’re “not good enough.” That insecurity can follow you through every stage: from messaging on apps, to first dates, to long-term relationships.In this episode, Matthew breaks down why so many of us tie our confidence to external “metrics” — looks, success, status, attention — and why that approach inevitably leaves us anxious and comparing ourselves to everyone around us.Matthew shares 2 powerful ways to build real confidence in dating; the kind that isn’t dependent on whether someone texts back, chooses you, or approves of you. Instead of chasing confidence through achievements, you’ll learn how to root it in something deeper: what already works about you.If you’ve ever felt insecure in dating, compared yourself to others, or worried that you’re not enough, this episode will help you shift your mindset and reclaim your power.---►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective? Matthew’s weekly newsletter dives into insights that transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do men change? I get asked this all the time . . . and the truth is more nuanced than the internet makes it sound. When I met my wife, I wasn’t looking for commitment. A couple of years later, we were engaged. So yes, change can happen. But not in the way most people think.In this episode, I break down what actually inspires someone to grow, the mistakes that keep people stuck hoping, and the 3 things that can shift the direction of a relationship—if you’re with the right person. If you’re wondering whether to hold on or move on, this will give you clarity.---►► Never Face Your Love Life Alone Again. Try Matthew AI for FREE at AskMH.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever noticed the moment it happens?You meet someone, you’re fine… and then suddenly you really like them and you start editing yourself. You become agreeable. Overly available. “Easy.” And it feels like you’re being kind… but something about it is quietly costing you.In this episode, Matthew breaks down the switch that flips when someone becomes “important,” and why the urge to be extra nice is often just high-stakes fear in disguise. He explains how people-pleasing doesn’t create closeness: it creates blandness, resentment, and relationships where you can’t be yourself.If you’ve ever felt yourself shrinking to keep someone, this episode is your reminder: real love requires you, not your performance. ---►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most important relationships in your life—with others, with yourself, and with life itself. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . . . won’t go there.” Sound familiar?Here’s the thing: I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve been the man who shut down, and I’ve been lucky enough to experience the moment that cracked me open. This episode is personal. I’m telling you two stories: one where vulnerability went horribly wrong, and one where it literally led to my marriage. If you want to understand what’s really happening when someone won’t open up—and what to do about it—you can’t miss this.---►► Get Out of Situationship Limbo with Someone and Into Exclusivity. Download Your Free Video Training at LeaveLimbo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for someone? When we carry that fear, we tend to overcorrect. We try to impress. We hide parts of ourselves. We delay vulnerability. And in doing so, we block the very connection we want.In this episode, Matthew shares how to stop looking at yourself through a lens of self-judgment and self-loathing, and instead develop real self-compassion and self-empowerment. You’ll learn how to reveal vulnerability in a healthy, attractive way, build core confidence, and create relationships rooted in acceptance rather than fear.If you’ve ever worried that someone wouldn’t love the “real“ you, this episode will change the way you see yourself.---►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective? Matthew’s weekly newsletter dives into insights that transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. Sign up for free at TheThreeRelationships.com►► 🌍 Get an exclusive 15% discount on Saily data plans when you use code LOVELIFE at checkout! Download the Saily app or go to saily.com/lovelife ⛵ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.