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Send us Fan MailEvery couple has them — the things they're curious about but have never said out loud. Today we're pulling them into the light.Deborah Kat — certified tantric educator, relationship coach, and host of the Better Sex podcast — walks us through the three categories couples are most curious about right now, and the part that matters most: exactly how to bring them up with your partner without it landing weird or killing the mood.In this episode:The three pillars of couple's play — and what each one really gives youThe difference between a kink and a fetishWhy the person in charge and the person letting go are both after the same thing: trustSimple, low-pressure ways to start tonight — using nothing but your own bodyThe exact words to introduce something new (and what to do if you get shut down)🔗 Find Deborah: https://www.deborahkat.com/ | Better Sex podcast | @deborahtantrakatDeb's Free Gift! https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab-opt🎙️ Connect with Me✨ Website: https://talksexwithannette.com📰 Substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.comSubscribe for new episodes every week, and drop a comment if this helped.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailThe A-spot, or anterior fornix, is a deep erogenous zone on the front vaginal wall that many people have never learned about. First identified in clinical research in 1997, it's associated with increased natural lubrication, heightened arousal, and deeper, more full-body pleasure. This is a complete educational guide to understanding and locating it — whether you're exploring your own body or learning with a partner.What you'll learn: ✔ What the A-spot is and where it's located, according to the research ✔ Why arousal is essential to accessing this zone comfortably ✔ How the clitoris, G-spot, and A-spot connect as a pathway ✔ Techniques, tools, and positions for exploring it safelyThis is an educational sexual-wellness video intended for adult audiences.Subscribe for evidence-based episodes on intimacy, pleasure, and connection.Here is a link to my Womanizer Duo 2 Review: https://youtu.be/a_gMOi---ZQHere is the link to the Womanizer Duo 2 use ANNETTE15 for 15% Off Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/apple/womanizer-duo-2Here is the link to my We-Vibe Rave 2 reveiw: https://youtu.be/JE_Q9F5otpIHere is the link to the Rave 2 use ANNETTE15 for 15% Off Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/apple/we-vibe-rave-2🎙️ Connect with Me✨ Website: https://talksexwithannette.com📰 Substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.comSubscribe for new episodes every week, and drop a comment if this helped.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailWhat if the woman you're with isn't "low libido" or "vanilla" at all?What if she's spent her entire life being taught that wanting sex, enjoying pleasure, or expressing desire makes her a "bad woman"?In this eye-opening conversation, I'm joined by sexologist and researcher Chanelle Jolly Marshall to unpack the hidden cultural conditioning that keeps so many women disconnected from their sexuality—and how it quietly impacts relationships, desire, intimacy, and pleasure.We dive into:Why so many women struggle to access their desireThe "Good Girl" trap and the shame surrounding female sexualityHow generational messages about sex shape your relationships todayWhy some women feel guilty for wanting adventurous or passionate sexPractical tools to reconnect with your body, communicate with your partner, and reclaim pleasureWhether you're a woman trying to understand your own relationship with desire or a partner wondering why intimacy feels difficult, this episode offers compassionate, research-backed insights that can change the way you think about sex forever.💬 I'd love to hear from you: What's one message about sex you were taught growing up that you're still unlearning? Let me know in the comments.❤️ If you enjoyed this episode, please Like, Subscribe, and Share. It helps more people find honest, shame-free conversations about sex and relationships. Connect with Chanelle Jaali Marshall  📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaali_co 🐦 X: https://x.com/jaali_co 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaalicompany 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chanellejaali🎙️ Connect with Me✨ Website: https://talksexwithannette.com📰 Substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.comSubscribe for new episodes every week, and drop a comment if this helped.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailAlmost every woman has a kinky side she's never shown you — not because she doesn't trust you, but because she's waiting to find out if it's safe. This is the cheat sheet for using your words to unlock her fantasies.What you'll learn: ✔ The opener that gets her to share the fantasy she's never said out loud ✔ Why "what if" is the most powerful two-word phrase for unlocking her desires ✔ Why feeling understood — not the filthiest line — is what actually turns her on ✔ Exactly what to say once you're in bed so she feels it twiceSubscribe for new episodes every week, and drop a comment if this helped.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailWhat if AI could actually help you heal your sex life — and have the best sex of your life on the other side?Women recovering from sexual trauma, bad relationships, and years of performing instead of feeling are turning to AI sexual companions — and what's happening is not what anyone expected. Today's guest didn't just use one. She built one. Morgan Hewett — two-time founder, former Meta, Harvard Business School grad, and founder and CEO of Devin — joins me to break down what these companions actually are, why women are turning to them, and what it does for their real sex lives with real partners.In this episode:What an AI sexual companion actually is — and how it's different from a toyWhy removing performance, faking, and pressure is uniquely healing for trauma survivorsWhat women discover about their own bodies with no one else in the roomWhat changes when she goes back to a human partner knowing exactly what she wantsThe takeaway you can use tonight — with or without the tech🔗 Find Morgan & Devin: Website: https://experiencedevin.com/ TikTok & Instagram: @experiencedevin Follow Morgan's founder journey: @morgan.pink.founderSubscribe for new episodes every week, and drop a comment if this helped.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

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Send us Fan MailShe starts avoiding sex. He takes it personally. Nobody says a word. That silence has a name — the Bedroom Gap — and the gynecologist who coined the term is here with the fix.Dr. Maria Sophocles — board-certified gynecologist with 30 years in menopause and female sexual health, author of The Bedroom Gap, and TED speaker with 1.3M+ views — breaks down exactly what's happening in her body, why his fix (the pill) made her problem worse, and how to bring pleasure back at any age.In this episode:What menopause actually does to the vagina — and why sex starts to hurtThe signs she's suffering in silence (and how to open the conversation without blame)The estrogen cancer myth that's been disproven — and the 30% stat nobody's heardVaginal estrogen, testosterone, and progesterone: what they do and who they're forThe five M's: massage, media, masturbation, mindfulness, and medicationsWhy sex is the fifth pillar of health🔗 Find Dr. Sophocles: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd/ Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/ Book: The Bedroom Gap TED Talk: "What Happens to Sex in Midlife" Coming soon: HOT! — her documentary on sex, menopause, and gender equalityJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailRound two isn't just possible — it might be the best sex she's ever had. Even if you already finished, even if you finished before she did, the night isn't over. This episode is the full playbook for the second half: the real science of the recovery window, why it's more in your control than you think, what to do the moment you soften, and the one thing to do in round one that makes going again effortless.What you'll learn: ✔ Why you naturally last longer in round two — and how to use it ✔ The 90-second mistake that sours the whole night ✔ How to keep her climbing while you come back ✔ What to do the moment you soften — so it's a switch, not a stop ✔ The one thing to do in round one that makes round two effortlessFirmtech Ring (ANNETTE15 for 15% Off): https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiWomanizer for the Enhance (ANNETTE15 for 15% Off): https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerHow to Stay Hard When You Have Slow Sex: https://youtu.be/iHqgEO1BDU0Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMistress Marley — professional dominatrix, financial domination specialist, and founder of Haus of Dominance, where she's taught over 10,000 students — breaks down what men are actually paying for, what submission really means, and how to explore giving up control in your own bedroom.In this episode:What a dominatrix actually does — and what a real session looks likeWhy the loudest "alpha males" online are her biggest clientsThe difference between submission and weaknessHow women can find their inner dominant (starting with yourself)How to bring power play into your bedroom — or find a professional the right wayFind Mistress Marley: https://www.servemistressmarley.com/More: https://www.thechocolatedomme.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailAnal is one of the most searched sex topics on the internet — and one of the least talked about in actual bedrooms. Everyone's curious. Almost nobody's saying it out loud.This episode is for both of you: the woman who's curious and never said it, and the partner who wants to ask without making it weird. The conversation (including the ten seconds that decide everything), the safety rules nobody explains properly, why her body is genuinely wired to love this, and the five steps from curious to craving it — on her timeline, built around her pleasure.What you'll learn: ✔ How either of you brings it up — and how to handle a shamey response without shutting down ✔ The safety rules that make or break it: lube, bases, one-direction, and what never to use ✔ The two-muscle anatomy that makes patience the entire technique ✔ The "wearing trick" most couples skip — and why it's the step that makes everything workSubscribe for new episodes on desire, pleasure, and becoming the partner she can't stop thinking about.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!