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Send us Fan MailMistress Marley — professional dominatrix, financial domination specialist, and founder of Haus of Dominance, where she's taught over 10,000 students — breaks down what men are actually paying for, what submission really means, and how to explore giving up control in your own bedroom.In this episode:What a dominatrix actually does — and what a real session looks likeWhy the loudest "alpha males" online are her biggest clientsThe difference between submission and weaknessHow women can find their inner dominant (starting with yourself)How to bring power play into your bedroom — or find a professional the right wayFind Mistress Marley: https://www.servemistressmarley.com/More: https://www.thechocolatedomme.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailAnal is one of the most searched sex topics on the internet — and one of the least talked about in actual bedrooms. Everyone's curious. Almost nobody's saying it out loud.This episode is for both of you: the woman who's curious and never said it, and the partner who wants to ask without making it weird. The conversation (including the ten seconds that decide everything), the safety rules nobody explains properly, why her body is genuinely wired to love this, and the five steps from curious to craving it — on her timeline, built around her pleasure.What you'll learn: ✔ How either of you brings it up — and how to handle a shamey response without shutting down ✔ The safety rules that make or break it: lube, bases, one-direction, and what never to use ✔ The two-muscle anatomy that makes patience the entire technique ✔ The "wearing trick" most couples skip — and why it's the step that makes everything workSubscribe for new episodes on desire, pleasure, and becoming the partner she can't stop thinking about.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou've felt it. That moment mid-sex when she goes somewhere you can't follow. She's still moving — but she's gone. It's called dissociation. It's not about you, it's not about attraction, and it's not permanent.Vanessa Cushing — AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and founder of Cushing Counseling and Sex Therapy Pro — breaks down what's actually happening and how to bring her back. And this one took a turn I didn't expect: men dissociate too. It just looks completely different.In this episode:The signs she's checked out — and the very different signs he hasThe five gears of touch: pinpoint exactly where she leavesThe "safe trust position" every couple needs before they need itHow to retrain your nervous system to stay presentFind Vanessa Cushing Here: https://www.cushingcounseling.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we break down the 5-step Mouth & Hands technique for blended orgasms—a simple, intentional way to combine oral and manual stimulation so the experience feels more connected, more consistent, and more intense.Most people switch between techniques instead of combining them. But when you learn how to coordinate your mouth and hands, everything changes in how her arousal builds and how her body responds.I walk you through: Why switching between techniques can interrupt pleasure  How blended orgasms work in a practical, understandable way  The 5-step method to bring mouth and hands into sync  How to stay connected to her responses instead of guessing If you’ve ever felt like you were doing a lot but not getting the reaction you expected, this episode will shift how you approach foreplay entirely.Link to the Womanizer Enhance Code ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerCatch my Edging Episode: https://youtu.be/vhuayH9cBzYGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan Mail Two bi women. One podcast. A real guide to better sex built from the inside out. Bi women know something about pleasuring women that most people never figure out. Because they've been on both sides — they know what it feels like to receive, and they know what it takes to give it well. That combination is a cheat code. And today we're handing it over.Samia Mounts — queer, non-binary writer, actor, and host of Happy Slut podcast — joins me to share what bi and pan women know about the female body, desire, and pleasure that most people spend a lifetime missing.In this episode:The insider knowledge bi women carry that nobody else has access toWhat women actually need to feel pleasure — and what most people never stop doing wrongWhat she's not telling you during sex — and whyThe specific moves bi women use that most people have never even consideredHow to have better sex tonight using what we know from both sides🔗 Find Samia: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mountshttps://samiamounts.substack.com/https://www.samiamounts.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube:Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailUp to 60% of women have fantasized about being dominated — and almost none of them have said it out loud.This one's for the men who want to deliver what she's been replaying in her head and never asked for. Five spanking fantasies, the psychology behind each, and exactly how to make them land sexy instead of awkward — including how to talk about it first, how to keep it safe, and the aftercare most men skip.What you'll learn: ✔ How to bring it up so she actually says yes — and why consent makes her let go ✔ Where it's safe, where it's never safe, and how to build intensity the right way ✔ The over-the-knee punishment-and-praise loop she craves most ✔ The anticipation move nobody talks about — and why aftercare is non-negotiableSubscribe for new episodes on desire, pleasure, and becoming the partner she can't stop thinking about.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailHe's googling it at 2 AM and erasing his search history. Because he still thinks wanting to be pegged means something about who he is. It doesn't. And tonight we're blowing that myth wide open.Interest in pegging among straight men is up 200% according to Feeld's 2025 annual report. Not in some dark corner of the internet — on mainstream dating apps. Men are putting it on their sexual bucket lists, bringing it up on second dates, and still going silent when it matters most. Today I sat down with Luna Matatas — sex and pleasure educator with over two decades of experience and the creator of Peg the Patriarchy — to talk about what pegging actually is, what men are really asking for when they ask for it, and what women get out of strapping it on.In this episode:What pegging is — and what it isn'tWhy wanting to be pegged says nothing about his sexualityThe prostate: what it is, where it is, and why men are missing outWhat women actually get out of giving it — physically, emotionally, eroticallyHow to have the conversation with your partner without killing the moodA step-by-step guide to the first time — positions, lube, pace, and what not to doWhy men who've been pegged say it makes them better lovers🔗 Find Luna: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us | @lunamatatasJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan Mail82% of women don't reliably come from penetration alone. Here's what's actually missing — and the five moves that fix it.If she's never finished while you're inside her, it's not her body and it's not yours. It's anatomy. And once you understand it, everything changes.What you'll learn: ✔ Why the clitoris has to be fully aroused before penetration even starts ✔ How to change your angle so her clitoris gets contact on every stroke ✔ Why you keep losing her right when she's about to get there — and how to stop ✔ The one thing that's been missing from penetration her entire lifeSubscribe for new episodes every week.🔗 FirmTech Tech Ring + RingMate — code ANNETTE15 for 15% off 🔗Link: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti 🔗 Slow Sex Video: https://youtu.be/iHqgEO1BDU0 Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe's not hiding her book because she's embarrassed. She's hiding it because what she's reading is giving her something her sex life isn't — and nobody's asking what that means for your relationship.Romance is the fastest-growing category in print. 51 million units sold in the last year. One in four NYT hardcover fiction bestsellers was romantasy. Women aren't casually reading this stuff. They're consuming it. Today I sat down with Carolyn Hood — certified sex therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and author of Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment — to decode exactly what's going on.In this episode:What dark romance, romantasy, and smut are actually giving her that real life isn'tWho's reading it — and why the numbers point straight to moms and long-term partnersThe porn parallel nobody wants to say out loud (but we say it)How to use her book to open a conversation you've both been avoidingWhy innuendo and anticipation are the low-effort moves with the highest return3 things you can do tonight to bring the heat from the pages into your bedroom 🔗 Find Carolyn: https://www.desireinreallife.com @desireinreallife Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailA listener wrote in: "I'm 47 years old and going through perimenopause. Previously I would orgasm with my husband 90-95% of the time. Now I only orgasm 5-10% of the time."She's not alone. Roughly half of all women experience orgasm changes during perimenopause — and almost none are told why or what to do about it. This episode covers the physiology behind the shift, the medical options most women don't know exist (including why the FDA just reversed 20 years of warnings about hormone therapy), and the five moves that bring pleasure back.What you'll learn: ✔ The three physical changes during perimenopause that directly affect orgasm ✔ Why the FDA removed the black box warning from HRT — and what that means for her ✔ How to find hormone therapy providers online, including estrogen and testosterone ✔ Why her foreplay timeline has shifted and how to adjust ✔ How to relearn her body together after decades of knowing what worked ✔ Why taking the orgasm off the table is paradoxically what brings it backJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!