One of You Wants Sex. One of You Doesn't. Here's How to Fix It

Send us Fan MailWhat if the hottest thing he could do for you was not come?That's the whole dare of Locktober, and this week I'm walking you through male chastity from the ground up. It's one of the most misunderstood kinks out there, and also one of the most magnetic, because when you stop treating his orgasm as the finish line, sex turns into a shared playground and a whole lot of couples say they've never felt closer or more connected.This one's for the curious on both sides of the lock: the person thinking about wearing the cage, and the one who wants to hold the key.In this episode, I break down:What chastity actually is, and why it's erotic power exchange, not punishmentThe science of staying turned on: why denial keeps desire high instead of killing itHow to start safely, from mental chastity to your first cage, without hurting anything importantHow key holders (usually the women) make it hotter, and why so many say it's the first time they felt truly prioritizedHow to run a full Locktober, or just a weekend, your wayBy the end, you'll know exactly how to try this without freaking out or messing it up, whether you want one night or all thirty days.Want the cage sizing and buying guide? It's in my e-newsletter, along with my discount codes and every link you need. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. In fact, I'll be holding the key to it. Cheers.Sign up for my e-newsletter here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932Want the full written guides? Read them here:🔒 How to Try Male Chastity (The Full Guide): https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/how-to-try-male-chastity/🔒 How to Do Locktober: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/locktober-male-chastity/🔒 The Male Chastity Buying Guide: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/male-chastity-buying-guide/🔒The benefits of Male Chastity with Lilith: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/benefits-of-male-chastity/My YouTube is still down. But now you can catch ALL My Videos at Talksexwithannette.comAnd Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannetteHelp me get my YouTube back! Please like and reshare my posts on X and LinkedIn and tag @teamYoutube requesting reinstatement. X: https://x.com/TalkSexAnnette/status/2093043800029741222?s=20LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annette-benedetti-b8602342b/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailOne of you wants sex. One of you doesn't. And somewhere along the way, that gap stopped being a difference and turned into a fight you keep having with your clothes on. Here's what nobody tells you: the gap was never the problem. It's the two stories you each start telling — one of you hears "you don't want me anymore," the other hears "you only want me for sex and you don't see everything I'm carrying." Both of you feel powerless. Both of you decide the other one is what's broken.This week I sit down with Tarah and EJ Kerwin — a married couple, both licensed therapists, and co-founders of Relationship Renovation. They're living proof this is survivable: two people with all the clinical tools in the world who still spent the better part of a decade finding their way back to each other after four kids in eighteen months detonated the sex life they used to have. They're not here to tell you how many times a week you should be doing it. They're here to hand you the actual way back.In this episode:Why the fight is never really about frequency — and the quality shift that changes everythingThe two stories high-desire and low-desire partners tell themselves, almost word for wordWhy the low-desire partner secretly holds all the power — and why it feels terrible, not powerfulHow to have the conversation without it turning into a fight (time, place, and the rules that keep it safe)"Safety containers" — how to rebuild touch when sex feels like too muchWhere to start tonight, and how to build back one step at a timeCome as you are, bring your partner if you've got one, and know this: there's a path back to each other if you both want it.🎧 Find Tarah & EJ at relationshiprenovation.com and on the Relationship Renovation podcast relationshiprenovation.com/podcast. My YouTube is still down. But now you can catch ALL My Videos at Talksexwithannette.comAnd Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannetteHelp me get my YouTube back! Please like and reshare my posts on X and LinkedIn and tag @teamYoutube requesting reinstatement. X: https://x.com/TalkSexAnnette/status/2093043800029741222?s=20LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annette-benedetti-b8602342b/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Head to Only Fans or https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ to join. 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailEverybody assumes wanting this says something about who he is. It doesn't. He's got a prostate loaded with nerve endings — his own version of the spot everybody obsesses over in women — and it's been sitting there his whole life while he drove right past it.This week I'm handing you the couple's beginner guide to pegging. It's up 200% among straight couples, and the men brave enough to try it are having some of the deepest, most full-body orgasms of their lives. This one's for both of you — the partner curious about receiving it and too nervous to say so, and the partner who wants to give it and has no clue where to start.In this episode, I break down:Why the prostate is called the male G-spot — and what "hands-free" really meansHow to bring it up so he says yes instead of shutting downThe prep that dissolves the fear nobody says out loudThe warm-up staircase, choosing a harness and first strap-on, the best beginner positions, and aftercare that makes him want to do it againBy the end, you'll go from a partner he'd never dare ask to the one brave enough to give him something most men never get to feel.Grab your discount codes and every toy I mention in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com — my listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.Sign up for my e-newsletter here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932Want the full written guide? Read it here:🔑 Pegging for Beginners: A Couple's Guide to His Most Intense OrgasmGuide to anal training for beginnersHelp me get my YouTube back! Please like and reshare my posts on X and LinkedIn and tag @teamYoutube requesting reinstatement. X: https://x.com/TalkSexAnnette/status/2093043800029741222?s=20 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annette-benedetti-b8602342b/ Catch ALL My Videos at Talksexwithannette.com And Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailThere are things women want in bed they'll never say out loud — not to their husband, not to their boyfriend, not to anyone who actually knows them. But they'll say them to George. Women pay him for his time, but really they're paying for something else: a space safe enough to finally name a desire they've been holding their whole lives. And the thing he does to create that safety? Anyone can learn it.This week I sit down with George Goulburn — a professional male companion who left a 25-year corporate career to do this work, trained in consent, trauma-informed practice, tantra, and kink. He's sat with hundreds of women in the exact moment they finally drop their guard, and he's telling us who they really are, what they actually want, and how to build that same safety in your own bedroom.In this episode:Who really books a male companion (almost everyone has it wrong)The 55-year-old virgin who discovered her body for the first time — and what it taught himWhy women can ask a stranger for what they can't ask a partnerHow to open the door to kink and fantasy without shame or pressureThe "three-minute game" and how to actually speak your desire out loudThree things you can do tonight to get honest about what you both wantBring a pen — and maybe your partner. This one's a jump-off point for the conversation you've been avoiding.🎧 Find George at georgegoulburn.com and @georgegoulbournofficial on socials.Sign up for my e-newsetter here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932Catch ALL My Videos at Talksexwithannette.comHelp me get my YouTube back! Please like and reshare my posts on X and Linked in and tag @teamYoutube requesting reinstatement.X: https://x.com/TalkSexAnnette/status/2093043800029741222?s=20LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annette-benedetti-b8602342b/And Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Head to Only Fans or https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ to join. 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailEverybody assumes the person on top has all the power. And sure — she's up there, she's on the throne, she's in charge. But the partner flat on his back underneath? He's the reason she wants to climb up there again, and again, and again.This week I'm handing you the giver's masterclass. If your whole plan when someone sits on your face is to hold still and hope, you're wasting the single hottest position you've got access to — because when she's up there, you get better access, a better angle, and every bit of her movement telling you exactly what she wants. You just have to know how to read it.In this episode, I break down:What face sitting (aka queening) actually is — and why so many women finish from it when they can't from regular oralThe real reason underneath is the best seat in the houseMy 5 moves to become unforgettable: setting her up to actually let go, using your whole mouth instead of a jackhammer tongue, letting her grinding be your map, leveling up with your hands and toys, and finishing without quitting earlyThe props and toys that turn a five-minute neck-cramp into an all-night throne experienceWhy eye contact from underneath is the move nobody uses — and the one she'll never forgetBy the end, you'll go from a partner the queen tolerates to the reason she wants to climb on the throne every single night.Grab your discount codes, props, and every toy I mention in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com — my listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.Sign up for my e-newsetter here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932Want the full written guides? Read them here:👑 How to Give Face Sitting So Good She Never Wants to Get Up (The Giver's Guide)👑 How to Sit on a Face Like You Mean It (The Guide for the Person on Top)Help me get my YouTube back! Please like and reshare my posts on X and Linked in and tag @teamYoutube requesting reinstatement.X: https://x.com/TalkSexAnnette/status/2093043800029741222?s=20LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annette-benedetti-b8602342b/Catch ALL My Videos at Talksexwithannette.comAnd Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannetteGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailAlmost every woman has wondered it in silence: Is my scent normal? Do I taste okay? Is something wrong with me down there? Almost none of us were ever given the information to answer — so we carry the worry straight into the bedroom, where it quietly steals our confidence and our pleasure. This week, we fix that. This is the owner's manual nobody handed you.I sit down with Wendy Strgar — vaginal microbiome health expert, lovologist, and founder of Good Clean Love, the company she started in her own kitchen to solve her own problems. We get into what's actually normal, what's not, and why understanding this body — yours or your partner's — is the foundation for everything good that happens in bed.In this episode:Vulva vs. vagina — what's what, and why the difference mattersWhat a healthy scent and taste actually are (and what an "off" one is telling you)The vaginal microbiome, pH, and why so many women get misdiagnosed for yearsThe clitoral organ system — the 10,000-nerve-ending powerhouse most of us were never taught aboutWhy partners share responsibility for her vaginal healthThree things you can do tonight to get comfortable, informed, and free in bedBring a pen — the takeaways are worth writing down.🎧 Find Wendy at https://goodcleanlove.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.strgar/Substack: https://wendystrgar.substack.com/Get 15% off when you shop Good Clean Love with code ANNETTE. Shop: https://goodcleanlove.com/ANNETTESubscribe to my e-newsletter Here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932📩 Subscribe on Substack — get every new episode sent straight to your inbox: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/💋 Want the explicit demos and deeper guides? Find me on OnlyFans — https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Head to Only Fans or https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ to join. Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailSixty percent of people have fantasized about being filled two ways at once — and almost nobody says it out loud. This week, I'm changing that.This is your complete, no-shame beginner's guide to double penetration. I'm breaking down what it actually is, the real anatomy behind why it feels so intense (there's a reason it hits differently than anything else), and why it's just as good for the giving partner as the one receiving. Then I walk you through the whole staircase — how to explore it safely by yourself first, how to bring it into partnered play with one toy, and how to build up to a third person the right way.And I'm finally saying the quiet part out loud: why women are afraid to admit they want this, why men are afraid to bring it up, and why there's absolutely nothing shameful about wanting to feel that full.In this episode:What double penetration is and the anatomy that makes it so intenseWhy the giving partner often loves it as much as the receiverThe safety rules that make or break it — lube, pacing, and the non-negotiablesHow to try it solo first, then with a partner, then with a third personThe shame nobody names — and why this is one of the most common fantasies there isThis is exactly the kind of guide I can finally give you completely now that I'm off YouTube — uncensored, in plain language, no decoding required.Help Me Get My YouTube Channel Back: https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1692988/episodes/19715188-help-me-save-talk-sex-with-annette-youtube-took-it-downProducts mentioned in this episode (15% off with code ANNETTE15 at lovehoney.com & we-vibe.com):Lovehoney Discover Gel —https://lovehoneyus.sjv.io/n4e92RFirefly Glow Trainer Kit — https://lovehoneyus.sjv.io/enxON1We-Vibe Ditto+ — https://wevibe-north-america.sjv.io/1GMG19Womanizer Blend — https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blendWomanizer Duo Nex— https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-duo-2Womanizer Next Liberty— https://www.womanizer.com/us/next-liberty▶️ Watch the full uncensored video version: https://talksexwithannette.com/double-penetration-guide/Subscribe Here: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/8a1d9ba932📩 Subscribe on Substack — get every new episode sent straight to your inbox: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/💋 Want the explicit demos and deeper guides? Find me on OnlyFans — https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

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Send us Fan MailShe holds it all together all day — the job, the kids, the house, everyone’s emotional weather. Then she gets into bed and still can’t stop managing. And orgasm requires the one thing she’s trained herself never to do: let go.This week I sit down with Regina Thomashauer, better known as Mama Gena, founder of the School of Womanly Arts, New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation, and author of the new book On Our Knees. We get into why control quietly costs a woman her pleasure, and why surrender — not submission, not collapse — is the doorway back to her own body.In this episode:Why your nervous system is stuck in “brace mode” — and how pleasure interrupts itThe medicine-cabinet of chemistry your body makes on its own (and how to open it)Why grief and erotic aliveness can live side by side — and heal togetherA live truth-tantrum practice you can do tonightThree ways to start a daily pleasure practice, no matter how “boss babe” your life isThis one got vulnerable. Bring a pen — you’ll want to write the practices down.🎧 Find Regina at mamagenas.com and @mamagena on Instagram. Get On Our Knees wherever you buy books and on Amazon📩Check out my video content at https://talksexwithannette.com/Subscribe to my FREE Substack to receive my video episodes right in your inbox every week: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/ [email protected]📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390cSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Head to Only Fans or https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ to join. 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailThere's an entire ocean of online content teaching men about sex and women — and a huge amount of it is written by people who have no idea what they're talking about. Today I'm grading five pieces of the worst advice men are being fed, and giving you what actually works instead.Savage on the advice. Kind to the men who got fed it.What you'll learn: ✔ Why "make her chase you" builds anxiety, not attraction ✔ The size-and-pounding myth, and the anatomy fact that dismantles it ✔ The lab study that proves women aren't "slower" — and what to do with those 10 minutes ✔ The grain of truth in "alpha" advice — and the part that's dangerously wrong📩Check out my video content at https://talksexwithannette.com/Subscribe to my FREE Substack to receive my video episodes right in your inbox every week: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/ [email protected]📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390cSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!