How to Top as a Submissive (Without Topping from the Bottom)

Send us a textMost people talk about threesomes like they’re either a wild fantasy or a relationship wrecking ball. But here’s the truth—when done right, a threesome can deepen intimacy, build trust, and light your desire on fire.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Ally Iseman—ICF-certified relationship coach, kink-aware educator, and founder of Passport 2 Pleasure. Ally’s work has been featured in The New York Times, and she specializes in helping couples explore their desires without losing their connection in the process.Together, we’re breaking down how to go from fantasy to follow-through—without the jealousy, awkwardness, or aftermath you’ve heard horror stories about.We’ll cover: 🔥 Why so many threesomes go sideways (and how to avoid it) 💬 The conversations you must have before you ever invite a third 🛏 How to keep connection strong during the night itself 🚩 Red flags that tell you a couple might not be ready ✨ How to navigate the afterglow so the experience brings you closer—not farther apartThis isn’t just about adding a third person. It’s about leveling up intimacy, desire, and confidence in your relationship.You can find out more about Ally Here:KAVANOS: https://partiful.com/e/XqoMPXWkQl9mrnCJHJ4IPassport 2 Pleasure: https://www.passport2pleasure.com/My full demos are on my Only Fans waiting for you here: httUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textIf she’s not coming and your first thought is “she’s just hard to please” — it’s time to rewrite the script.Arousal isn’t guesswork. It’s science you can feel with your hands.In this video, I’m breaking down the real physiological signs of arousal — including vaginal tenting, pelvic floor engagement, and breath/body shifts — so you can learn to read her body like a map and build the kind of orgasm she doesn’t forget.You’ll learn: ✨ How to recognize when her body is opening up and ready ✋ What vaginal tenting is and how to feel it 💓 How to sync your rhythm to her arousal (instead of guessing) 🫁 How breath and subtle movement give you real-time feedbackWhen you stop guessing and start listening to the body, you stop hoping for her orgasm… and start making it inevitable.👉 Want step-by-step tutorials on G-spot, A-spot, and clitoral stimulation? My How-to episodes are here:How to find the A-Spot: https://youtu.be/qRpwSKc3-qQHow to find the G-Spot: https://youtu.be/tczpp7qsttUMy full demos are on my Only Fans waiting for you here: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textCurious about the hotwife lifestyle? 🔥In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I sit down with Hot Wife and Wifey Ambassador Serenity Cox to break down one of the most talked-about relationship trends right now. We cover what it really is, how couples build trust and set boundaries, and what to know if you’ve ever been curious about exploring it.This conversation is all about consent, connection, and real-world relationship dynamics. Whether you’re partnered, curious, or just here for the deep dive, this one’s for you.✨ What we cover:What “hotwife” actually meansHow this lifestyle differs from swinging and open relationshipsConsent, boundaries, and communication tipsHow couples get started—without pressureWhy this can deepen intimacy and trustReal stories from Serenity’s experienceYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textSubmission isn’t weakness. It’s power offered—not power lost.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood dynamics in kink: how to top as a submissive.This isn’t about topping from the bottom. It’s about guiding the scene with your breath, movement, and energy — without ever taking control away from your Dominant.We’ll explore: 🖤 How powerful submissives shape the rhythm of a scene 🫧 Using breath, body language & sound to guide without leading 🕯️ The difference between topping from the bottom vs. intentional submission 🫦 Why great Doms listen to their subs — and follow their cues 🖤 How to turn surrender into the sexiest power you holdYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat if the key to fixing your sex life wasn’t more talking… but smarter tech?Whether you’re dealing with a dead bedroom, long-distance disconnect, or just feeling stuck in a sexual rut, today’s episode is all about the new generation of smart sex toys designed to help couples reconnect in ways that actually work.I’m joined by Toon Timmermans, CEO and founder of Kiiroo, the company behind the groundbreaking Luxus — an interactive couples toy built to close the pleasure gap, boost intimacy, and make communication in the bedroom easier (and hotter).We’re diving into: ✨ How smart sex toys are changing intimacy for real couples 💬 Why these tools help partners communicate better in bed 🔥 How to use technology to reignite desire and close the orgasm gap 💻 How smart toys are helping couples rebuild connection after long distance or infidelityThis isn’t about replacing your partner — it’s about giving couples new ways to feel closer, stay connected, and bring the spark back.🎁 SPECIAL OFFER Get 10% off Luxus at 👉 https://kiiroo.io/annette-luxus or https://kiiroo.io/annetteYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat if locking it up could actually unlock better sex?Welcome to Locktober 2025, the orgasm control challenge that’s helping men become more attentive, connected, and seriously better lovers. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Lilith Fox — a queer, BIPOC, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous Board-Certified Sexologist and Certified Sexuality Educator who actually practices chastity play with her partner.Together, we’re breaking down: 🔒 What male chastity and orgasm control really are (and what they’re not) 🔥 Why control and delayed gratification can heighten desire and improve intimacy 🧠 How this challenge rewires masculine conditioning and turns focus into foreplay 💋 Tips for couples curious to try Locktober together — safely, confidently, and playfullyThis isn’t about shame or denial. It’s about expanding your definition of pleasure, learning self-control, and discovering new ways to connect with your partner.So if you’ve ever wondered what the deal is with Locktober or why some men swear orgasm control made them better in bed — this one’s for you.Find out more about Lilith at: https://lilithfoxx.com/You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat if the hottest thing you could do for your partner… was not come?Welcome to Talk Sex with Annette, where we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood—and surprisingly intimate—kinks out there: male chastity. Whether you’ve seen the cages popping up all over your feed this “Locktober,” or you’re just curious what all the denial hype is about, this episode breaks down how to try chastity play without freaking out, fumbling it, or killing the mood.You’ll learn: 💥 What chastity play actually is (and isn’t) 🔒 Why so many men say orgasm denial made them better lovers 🔥 How to safely explore it with your partner—whether you’re the one wearing the cage or holding the keyAnd stay tuned—on Wednesday, Annette’s joined by a real-life keyholder who shares how locking it up unlocked more pleasure, trust, and connection in her relationship.It’s kinky, psychological, and maybe even life-changing. The question is: can you handle the cage?You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat happens when kink leaves the dungeon and hits the mainstream? From TikTok tutorials on rope play to luxury fashion houses sending models down the runway in harnesses, BDSM isn’t hiding in the shadows anymore. But has kink lost its edge—or finally become safer and more accessible?In this Kinktober special, I’m joined by Amanda Dames, kink educator, coach, and host of The Kink Consultant Podcast. Together we explore: ✨ How TikTok & social media helped normalize kink ✨ Why chastity & Locktober are exploding in popularity ✨ The rise of femdom, cuckolding, foot fetishes, and more ✨ Why some gatekeepers resist kink going mainstream ✨ How to safely dip your toes into kink this Kinktober—without shame👉 Don’t miss this conversation if you’re curious about exploring kink or just want to understand how it’s shaping modern culture.📌 Follow Amanda Dames:https://www.amandadames.com/ Instagram: @the_kink_consultant TikTok: @thekinkconsultant Podcast: The Kink ConsultantYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textReady to heat things up this October? 🎃🔥 Forget haunted houses—this Kinktober is about unlocking new thrills in the bedroom. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m breaking down 5 beginner-friendly kinks you can explore right now, with a fun challenge for each one.Here’s what you’ll learn: ✨ The science behind why spanking and impact play feel so addictive ✨ How chastity and tease/denial hack your brain’s reward system ✨ Why Dom/Sub dynamics build deeper intimacy and trust ✨ How erotic humiliation can be playful (not harmful) ✨ Ways to stack sensations for mind-blowing overloadI’ll give you easy “try it tonight” challenges, plus my favorite props and toy recommendations so you can experiment safely and with confidence.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textPremature ejaculation is the most common sexual struggle men face—yet almost no one is talking about it honestly.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I sit down with Jeff Bennett, CEO of Morari, to unpack what really causes PE and explore the many solutions men can try. From lifestyle shifts and breathwork to cutting-edge sexual health tech, we dig into how you can last longer, reduce performance anxiety, and actually enjoy sex without the pressure.Because let’s be real: PE isn’t just about control—it’s about confidence, connection, and pleasure for both partners.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why premature ejaculation is so common (and nothing to be ashamed of)The science behind PE: mind, body, and nervous systemSimple strategies you can try tonight to last longerEmerging solutions that combine technology and pleasureHow lasting longer changes not just sex, but your relationshipCheck out Mor and/or Join the research www.yourmor.com Use Code Annette25 for 25% offYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!