Dismissive-Avoidant in Bed: Why They Pull Away (and What Actually Works)

Send us a textMost men think oral sex is about fancy tongue tricks or lasting as long as possible. But here’s the truth: the #1 mistake isn’t about your technique — it’s about what you’re missing.In this episode, I break down: ✨ The biggest oral  sex mistake men make (and why it ruins connection) ✨ Common myths that sabotage you — like the dreaded “lizard flick” move 🦎 ✨ How to use your mouth and your hands together (with consent) to actually tune into her body ✨ What her body is telling you — from subtle shifts in breath to changes you can feel with your fingers ✨ Why stopping cold after she climaxes kills the vibe — and how to create a big, unforgettable finish insteadThis is about learning the psychology, rhythm, and presence that make oral intimacy unforgettable. If you’ve ever wondered why your partner doesn’t seem fully satisfied — or how to finally get this right — this episode is for you.👉 Hit subscribe for more sex and intimacy guides that are safe, science-backed, and designed to transform your bedroom confidence.Follow Me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Find me on Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette🎧 Prefer Video? Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textIf they finish… then shut down, this episode is for you. Today we break down dismissive-avoidant attachment in the bedroom—why someone can crave the physical but avoid the intimate—and what actually works to make connection (and foreplay/aftercare) easier.I’m joined by Dr. Sam Zand, holistic psychiatrist, Chief Medical Officer at Better U, and founder of Anywhere Clinic. We cover:How dismissive-avoidant shows up in flirting, foreplay, sex, and aftercareWhy intensity ≠ intimacy (and the “walls up after sex” moment)Common patterns: control kinks, porn/solo focus, skipping aftercare, substance-aided intimacyNervous system basics: safety, arousal, orgasm, and freeze responsesTangible tools both partners can use tonight: eye contact, breath syncing, clear aftercare scripts, and “safe-to-connect” micro-habits🎧 Prefer Video? Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textFemDom doesn’t have to be scary, it can be soft, playful, and insanely hot.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 5 simple steps to Gentle FemDom, so you can explore dominance without latex, whips, or dungeon vibes. Because real FemDom is about confidence, not costumes. What you’ll learn:The body language shift that makes you instantly more commandingHow to use your voice to turn requests into irresistible commandsSimple touch and rituals that make your partner crave your leadWhy praise and aftercare are the real secret weapons of dominanceIf you’ve been curious about FemDom or just want to shake up your sex life, this episode gives you the tools to lead with confidence—and make your partner melt.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textCurious about butt stuff but don’t know where to start? You’re not alone. In this beginner-friendly guide, I sit down with Tim Lagman, certified sex educator and host of Sex Ed With Tim, to break down how to make backdoor play fun, safe, and yes—seriously pleasurable.Together we cover: ✅ How to warm up the right way ✅ What lube + toys make it easy and enjoyable ✅ Tips to keep things sexy (not awkward) ✅ How to let go of shame and actually enjoy itThis isn’t about porn myths—it’s about real pleasure, confidence, and connection. Whether you’re curious or ready to dive in, you’ll leave knowing exactly how to do it right.ou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWant to last longer in bed—without numbing creams, pills, or awkward distractions? You’ve been told to count backwards, think about baseball, or change positions… but none of that actually works. And worse? It disconnects you from your partner.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’ll show you 3 science-backed moves you can use tonight to control your arousal, boost her orgasms, and turn ordinary sex into the kind she replays in her head for days.Here’s what you’ll learn:The truth about why you finish too fast (and how to retrain your nervous system)The Grind & Anchor: How slow circles can align with her clitoral network and keep you in controlThe Edge & Tease Reset: How to build anticipation while resetting your arousalThe Root Lock Pulse: A pelvic floor hack that intensifies her orgasm while giving you staminaNo gimmicks. No distractions. Just moves that make you unforgettable in her bed and her brain.By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to last longer, keep your erection strong, and give her orgasms that feel deeper and more intense.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textKinky couples are some of the most communicative, consent-savvy lovers out there—but that doesn’t mean their relationships are drama-free. Sometimes the same power dynamics that light you up in the bedroom can throw things off outside of it.In this episode, I talk with Wendi L. Dumbroff, MA, LPC, a kink-affirming couples & sex therapist, about the struggles kinky couples don’t always see coming—like mismatched appetites, shame, or when D/s roles bleed into daily life.What you’ll hear:The biggest red flags of a kink-shaming therapistWhy mismatched kinks hit harder than mismatched libidosHow neglecting aftercare can quietly damage connectionSimple ways to keep your play hot and your relationship healthyIf you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink your desires to keep the peace, this one’s your permission slip: protect your intimacy and find support that actually gets you.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textIs your intimacy starting to feel predictable? You’re not alone. Most couples fall into the same positions, the same rhythm, and the same script — and that’s when connection can start to feel routine instead of exciting.In this episode, I’m revealing the #1 move that transforms ordinary intimacy into an unforgettable experience — the kind your partner can’t stop thinking about afterward. Backed by science and packed with real-world techniques, you’ll learn how to:✅ Use brain chemistry to spark anticipation and desire✅ Apply the “Interrupt & Intensify” method during foreplay and penetration✅ Turn predictable moments into powerful, crave-worthy encounters✅ Avoid the common mistakes that make intimacy feel boring or forgettableWhether you’ve been together for years or just started something new, this technique will help you reconnect, build more intensity, and leave your partner craving more.✨ For my orbiting demo subscribe to my OF✨ Don't miss my  episode on the Cowgirl position: https://youtu.be/srwXCqB5l8MYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat happens when kink becomes the key to healing religious shame? In this raw and redemptive episode I sit down with Lauren Elise Rogers, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator who grew up in a high-control religion. Together, we unpack how purity culture distorts sexuality—and how kink can actually be a path to freedom, power, and deep healing.Lauren shares her personal story of leaving behind religious indoctrination, rediscovering her body, and exploring kink as a way to reclaim desire. We break down:The four cornerstones of eroticism and how they show up after religious traumaWhy fantasy, taboo, and power dynamics can be healing (not harmful)How writing and playing out a kinky “scene” can renegotiate traumaThe difference between reenacting pain and reclaiming power through playHow to identify safe vs. unsafe partners or spaces for explorationWhether you’ve lived through purity culture, survived religious trauma, or love someone who has—this episode gives you tools to rewrite your sexual story and step fully into your pleasure.👉 Stay tuned to the end for a powerful exercise on creating your sexual values mission statement—a game-changer for anyone reclaiming their erotic power.Find Lauren Here: https://sexedforyou.com/You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textQuickies don’t have to be rushed, sloppy, or forgettable. In fact, when you know what to do, a 10-minute quickie can be hotter, more intense, and more memorable than an all-night session.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m breaking down the science of why urgency and anticipation heighten arousal, the mistakes most people make that ruin quickies, and the exact step-by-step moves that will make any quickie feel like the best sex of her life.You’ll learn: ✅ The brain chemistry that makes quickies so powerful (dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin) ✅ The biggest quickie mistakes that kill desire instantly ✅ How to prime her body and mind so she’s ready fast — without rushing or skipping arousal ✅ The best quickie-friendly positions for maximum sensation in minimum time ✅ How to stack sensations to make 10 minutes feel like 60 ✅ Why the afterglow is the secret to making her crave the next oneWhether you’re short on time or just want to inject more passion into your relationship, this episode will give you the tools to make quickies unforgettable.Watch what to do after sex to make her crave the next time: https://youtu.be/_fWyLBt3xJoYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a text What’s the “right” size to satisfy a woman? How often should you really be having sex—or masturbating? And is it weird if you’re into something like ball-busting? Today, I’m joined by certified sexologist Dr. Susan Milstein to tackle the most-searched, most-avoided questions men have about sex, performance, and pleasure. We’re breaking down the myths, the science, and the real answers you won’t get from late-night Googling—no shame, no judgment, just straight talk (and maybe a few surprises) about how to actually be great in bed. Check out Dr. Sue's podcast here: https://milsteinhealthconsulting.com/Check out my podcast on small penis sizes: https://youtu.be/6ftr82bpJ_QCheck out my podcast on how larger Penis sizes affect pleasure: https://youtu.be/SAuCBBnqaqkYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!