6 Reasons She Fakes Orgasms: & What To Do Instead

Send us Fan MailIs he a sex addict — or does he just want it more than you? The term gets thrown around constantly, but most people have no idea what it actually means. In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Kate Logan — who specializes in compulsive sexual behavior at the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles — to finally draw the line between high libido, kink, and genuine sexual compulsivity.We get into:What separates a sex addict from someone who just really loves sexWhy infidelity doesn't equal addiction — and why that label can do real damageHow shame and secrecy fuel compulsive sexual patternsThe kink vs. addiction confusion that's quietly destroying relationshipsWhat's actually underneath sex addiction (it's not what you think)What treatment looks like — and why the goal is never abstinenceIf you've ever wondered whether your own patterns — or your partner's — cross a line, this episode gives you the framework to actually figure it out.Find Kate Here: Kate Logan, AMFT - CENTER FOR HEALTHY SEX📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe's thought about faking it. Statistically, she probably has.Between 58–80% of women have faked an orgasm — not once, but regularly, with partners they actually cared about. Most of those men never knew. If you want to be the exception, this episode is for you.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding what actually creates faking — and the specific things you can do to change it.What you'll learn: ✔ The 6 real reasons women fake it (none of them are what you think) ✔ Why "just ask her what she wants" is not actually a solution ✔ The specific moves that make honesty feel safe enough to happen ✔ How to stop being the man she performs for and become the man she actually wants📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMen's sexual shame doesn't look like what you think. It's not about a secret kink. It's the guy jackhammering away thinking that's what success looks like. The one who won't make eye contact. The one who avoids dating entirely — not because he doesn't want connection, but because his nervous system won't let him get close.I sit down with Alex Gear — men's intimacy anxiety coach who never experienced sober sex until he got sober three years ago — to unpack what sexual shame is actually doing to your sex life and what you can do about it starting tonight.In this episode:Why "lasting longer" and "going harder" has nothing to do with her pleasureThe porn script that's overriding what his partner actually tells himHow shame shows up as shallow breathing, no eye contact, and mechanical sexAvoidance tactics in dating and relationships — how to spot themMindful masturbation as a tool for rewiring shameWhat women can do in the moment when things stall3 takeaways to start improving your intimate life tonightFind Alex: @intimacyanxietyalex on Instagram📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe's been waiting for you to figure this out.For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.What you'll learn:5 specific ways to submit that she'll never forgetWhy real submission requires more confidence than dominanceHow to give her control without losing yourselfThe psychology behind why this creates intense desireSafety, consent, and nonverbal signals for power exchange📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe didn't lose her desire. She quietly quit it. Sex therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr joins Annette to break down why women emotionally and erotically check out of relationships long before anyone notices — and what it actually takes to come back. If you've been going through the motions, or you've watched your partner disappear and had no idea why, this one's for you.In this episode:*What quiet quitting your sex life actually looks like in the bedroom*Why emotional disconnection kills physical desire — and which goes first*The real reason dead bedrooms happen (it's not about sex)*How resentment builds from the smallest swallowed moments*The one question that cracks a relationship back open*How to know if quiet quitting has gone too far — and the signs it's not too late*Three things you can do tonight to start coming back🔗 Find Colette and Her Book: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe every time.And she's decided you'll never know — because asking feels impossible, and hoping you'll figure it out on your own hasn't worked.This episode is about the five dominance moves women consistently fantasize about and almost never get. Not because their partners wouldn't do them, but because no one ever taught them what real dominance actually looks like.This is for the men who want to be the person she feels safe enough to surrender to. And for the women who've been waiting for someone to just… lead.What you'll learn: ✔ 5 specific dominance moves that bypass her overthinking entirely ✔ Why most men never try these (and how to do them without being told) ✔ The exact mechanics — where to put your hands, what to say, when to stop ✔ Why dominance isn't about being rough — it's about being deliberate 📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send a textShe didn't set out to build a six-figure business. She got pregnant — and discovered one of OnlyFans' most profitable and least talked-about kinks.Australian mom and content creator Emily Mai joins Annette to talk about what actually happens when a woman refuses to become sexually invisible after motherhood. We're getting into pregnancy kinks, lactation content, belly fetishes, and the real psychology behind why society loses its mind when mothers stay sexually embodied — and profitable.This one goes places most people won't.In this episode:Why pregnancy exploded Emily's subscriber count overnight — and who almost killed itWhat men actually want from pregnancy content (it's not what you're imagining)Why other mothers became her harshest critics — and her honest, unflinching take on whyHow she structures her day as a full-time creator and fully present momHer 3 tips for anyone thinking about starting their own content business🔗 Find Emily on Instagram: @shesopunny | TikTok: @emilymay 📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe a hundred times.And she's decided you'll never know.Not because she doesn't trust you — because she's been taught her whole life that wanting certain things makes her too much. This episode is about the five kinks women most commonly carry in silence, the shame that keeps them there, and what you can actually do to become someone it feels safe to tell.What you'll learn: ✔ The 5 kinks women fantasize about and rarely share — and the real psychology behind each one ✔ Why erotic shame is the actual barrier (not trust, not desire) ✔ What CNC fantasy really is — and what it is not ✔ Specific things you can do to create safety without putting pressure on her 📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send a textMost people think relationships fail because someone stopped trying, cheated, or they just picked wrong. But what if relationships follow a predictable pattern — and most of us are sabotaging them at the exact same stage without even knowing it?In this episode, I sit down with Thais Gibson — founder of Personal Development School, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on attachment theory — to break down the six stages every relationship moves through, why most collapse at stage three, and what your attachment style is actually doing to your love life, your desire, and your ability to stay.I also get personal. About the patterns I've repeated. About staying in relationships I should have left. About what it took to finally see myself clearly enough to stop.If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person — this episode is your answer.What you'll learn: Why chemistry isn't compatibility and what actually drives attraction • The six stages every relationship moves through • Where most relationships die and why • What your attachment style is doing to your sex life at every stage • How to actually change your attachment style in 90 days • Why doing the work together is the only thing that saves a relationshipFind Thais at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ — free attachment quiz at the link🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti  The viral lemon-shaped toy everyone’s talking about — get 25% off with code ANNETTE25 at https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/hello-nancy-lem 🍋  Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send a textMost men assume she just doesn't enjoy it. Most women wonder why they want to sometimes and absolutely don't other times.The truth is more interesting — and more fixable — than either of them thinks.In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind female desire, and gives you 6 specific, research-backed things you can do to shift the dynamic entirely.This isn't about pressure, persuasion, or performance. It's about understanding how desire actually works — and showing up differently because of it.In this episode:Why most men have been trying to create desire the wrong way (and what actually works)The neuroscience of the sexual "brake" — and why removing pressure is more powerful than adding stimulationThe difference between feeling wanted and feeling chosen — and why it mattersWhat the research on couples actually shows about reciprocity and desireWhy your nervous system is either creating safety or shutting her down — before you've touched herThe one move most men make the moment she starts responding — and why it kills everythingThis episode is for: ✔ Men who want to understand their partner's desire better ✔ Women who've been trying to figure out why their desire feels inconsistent ✔ Anyone who wants a deeper, more connected intimate relationshipYour Guide To Giving Her Good Oral: https://youtu.be/r7mJrSu_KRs🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tosGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Use Code EXPLORES15 at Womanizer.com for 15% off! 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!