318: You’re Not the Problem: Why Most Wellness Advice Doesn’t Work for Your Energy

What does it really mean to stop outsourcing your wellness?  In this foundational episode, we look at what defines what outsourcing looks like in a wellness context, why we do it, and how to begin reclaiming trust in your body, even if you've spent years disconnected from it. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

So many women secretly carry the shame of feeling "lazy." This episode breaks down how Human Design helps reframe what laziness really is (hint: it’s not what you think). We explore: How we came to form our beliefs around laziness, productivity, work ethic What's really at the root of these beliefs  What it looks like through the lens of Human Design And how to find sustainable energy that has nothing to do with pushing harder READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

This episode kicks off a series of foundational conversations — the kind that remind you: it’s not you. It’s the systems you were handed. We’re unpacking what happens when you try to follow all the “right” wellness rules and still feel exhausted, bloated, or like something’s off — and why Human Design offers a new way to listen, decode, rebuild, and reclaim. This is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself — and start working with your body, not against it. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY    

What happens when you stop bracing at your own reflection—and start seeing yourself clearly for the first time? In this solo, deeply personal follow-up to Episode 316, I share what actually happened when I joined The Self-Portrait Challenge with visibility mentor Lisa Haukom — and what it cracked open for me. What began as an experiment in iPhone photography quickly became a process of unpacking why I’ve spent most of my life flinching at photos of myself to softening old stories, letting go of performance, and reclaiming how I see myself now. You’ll hear me share: The quiet grief of no longer recognizing your body The power of documenting (not performing) How representation—especially as an Asian women—isn’t just about visibility, but self-trust Why learning to love photos of yourself isn’t about vanity—it’s about recognition Whether you're in your thirties, forties, fifties or beyond, if you’ve ever felt invisible in your own life or body, this one’s for you. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

If you’ve ever avoided being in photos… If you’ve ever hated how you looked in one (or all) of them… If you’ve ever wished you could just feel good being seen — this episode is for you. In this episode, I’m joined by the woman currently teaching me how to actually see myself in photos — not with filters, angles, or forced confidence, but with presence. Lisa Haukom is a visibility expert, creative director, and the founder of The Photo Club Method. She helps women shift the way they see themselves — in photos, yes, but also in life. Because hiding from the camera? Usually means we’re hiding from ourselves, too. We talk about: Why we flinch when we see ourselves on camera What it really means to reclaim your image (without changing your body) How learning to take self-portraits (not selfies) is actually a tool for self-trust And what happens when we stop disappearing from our own lives This conversation cracked something open in me — and I think it might for you too. Because you don’t need to change anything. You just need to see what’s already there. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

You know what to do. You’ve tried to do it. But for some reason, it just never sticks—and you’re left wondering if you just lack willpower.  This episode is your reminder that you’re not flaky, uncommitted, or “bad at routines.” You’re just making decisions from the wrong place.  We’re unpacking the real root of burnout and inconsistency: decision fatigue, external pressure, and ignoring your inner guidance. If you’ve ever said “I know what to do, I just don’t do it,” this one’s for you. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

You’ve followed the "food rules." Bought allllll the supplements. Checked every “should” box. And yet... you’re still exhausted, overwhelmed, and questioning yourself.  This episode is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself—and start noticing where your wellness plan is just out of alignment.  We’re breaking down: How to recognize when you’re forcing vs. flowing What Human Design can reveal about it Why the “problem” isn’t you—it’s the performance-based wellness culture we’ve all been conditioned by READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

If you’ve ever wondered why the “just wake up at 5am and grind” routine doesn’t work for you, this episode is your permission slip to stop forcing it—and start understanding how your energy actually works. You’re not broken. You’re just trying to follow wellness advice that wasn’t designed for your energy. In this episode, I’m calling BS on the performative self-care trends and hustle wellness that leave you burned out and blaming yourself and pulling back the curtain on why your go-to wellness practices might be doing more harm than good—and how Human Design gives you the blueprint to stop forcing, start flowing, and finally feel better in your body. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

In this episode, I’m joined by returning guest and personal style powerhouse, Alisa Koz — an expert in fashion psychology, sustainable style, Astrology, and Human Design. Back in Episode 275, Alisa cracked open my natal chart and started connecting the dots between my energy, my aesthetic, and my style misfires. You know the ones — → Outfits that looked amazing on Pinterest but flopped IRL → Clothing boxes that missed the mark by a mile → Makeup that matched my mom’s taste, not mine → And style quizzes that left me feeling more boxed in than inspired  Since that first conversation, I’ve been deep in Alisa’s world — and for the past three months, I’ve had the privilege of being a beta student in her brand new program, Personal Style Mastery. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on: The birth of Personal Style Mastery and how Alisa blended her expertise into a one-of-a-kind framework My experience inside the program (yes, I had aha moments around fruit metaphors and auric alignment) What we’ve both learned through this process — and why this isn’t just about looking good, but feeling deeply aligned in your skin and your clothes How to join the waitlist for the first official round of the program If you’ve ever felt like your closet doesn’t reflect who you really are — or that style advice never seems to “click” for you — this conversation is your permission slip to explore fashion in a way that’s personal, powerful, and fully aligned with your values. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY

Let’s talk about what no one else is saying. This episode is for the Projectors out there trying to live by their design while also… you know, navigating real life. The 9–5 job. The to-do list. The relationships. The “I just want to feel good in my body” moments. In Part 2 of our Projector Q&A series, I’m back with my favorite thought partner, Nadia Gabrielle, and we’re going even deeper. No filters. No fluff. Just two Projectors telling the truth. We unpack: What being a Projector in a 9–5 actually requires (spoiler: it’s not pretending to be a Generator) Deconditioning in real time—what it looks like when it’s messy and unsexy Planning your week as a Projector (yes, you can still get sh*t done) Navigating relationships without losing yourself or your energy Supporting your health + nervous system in a world that wasn’t built for your rhythm It’s part guidance, part myth-busting, and part “you’re not broken—you’re just deconditioning in a Generator world.” If you’ve been trying to do it all “right” but still feel off… This one’s gonna land. READ THE SHOW NOTES WORK WITH ME CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM JOIN THE COMMUNITY