The Myth of Doing It Alone

Could the way we measure contributions at work miss the very things that make people most valuable? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with Jacob D. Chase to discuss pressure, performance, leadership, and the human side of data. Jacob's journey takes us from Wall Street and hedge funds to entrepreneurship and people-centered performance, where he began asking a question many leaders struggle to answer: how do we really understand someone's value inside an organization? Jacob shares the moment that challenged his leadership thinking, when he realized that one high-performing employee's contribution could not be fully captured by salary bands, job descriptions, or a single leader's perspective. That experience led him to rethink how organizations gather perspectives, recognize hidden value, and connect individual contributions to business results. We also talk about what it means to become unshakable from the inside out. Jacob opens up about learning to separate his inner peace from other people's opinions, the importance of staying aligned with who you are, and why resilience often comes down to knowing you can keep going even when circumstances feel uncertain. This conversation is a thoughtful look at data, leadership, feedback, and self-leadership. It raises an important question for every leader: are we measuring what truly matters, or only what is easiest to see? What do you think makes someone truly valuable inside an organization, and how should leaders recognize it?  

Have you ever convinced yourself that strength means handling everything on your own? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with the incredible Crystal Washington, Hall of Fame speaker, futurist, and someone whose wisdom always leaves a lasting mark. From walking away from corporate America after recognizing social media would change everything, to building a thriving business and becoming one of the most respected voices in leadership and foresight, Crystal shares a journey built on courage, trust, and listening to that inner compass. What stood out most for me in this conversation was our honest discussion around self-leadership and the false belief that becoming strong means doing life alone. Crystal talks openly about therapy, boundaries, rest, family support, and even the powerful role our ancestors play in shaping our resilience. Her perspective on standing on the shoulders of those who came before us was one of those moments that makes you stop and think differently about your own story. We also talk about her decision to take the entire month of December off every year, completely unplugged from work, and why protecting your peace requires the same energy we so often reserve for protecting everyone else. Her message is simple but powerful: fight for yourself like you fight for the people you love. This episode is a reminder that becoming unshakable does not come from carrying everything alone. It comes from preparation, trust, support, and knowing when to let go of control. It comes from giving yourself permission to rest, reset, and believe that asking for help is not weakness, it is wisdom. How often do we mistake self-reliance for strength when what we really need is connection? I would love to hear your thoughts.  

Why do some days feel heavier than others, even when nothing obvious has changed? In this solo episode of Becoming Unshakable, I speak directly to those moments when everything feels like a struggle. The days when motivation is low, your energy is off, and you quietly question whether you are doing enough, or even moving in the right direction. I share an honest reflection on what it means to keep going when you feel stretched, tired, or unsure, and why those moments are often part of a much deeper process. I talk about the internal pressure many of us carry, especially as leaders, caregivers, and people who others rely on. There is a tendency to push through, to stay strong on the surface, while ignoring what is happening beneath the surface. In this conversation, I open up about what it looks like to acknowledge that weight without losing your sense of self, and how small shifts in awareness can change how you experience difficult seasons. This episode is a reminder that struggling does not mean failing. It often means you are growing, recalibrating, or being asked to pay attention to something you may have been avoiding. I explore how to stay steady in those moments, how to be kinder to yourself without lowering your standards, and how to reconnect with your own resilience in a way that feels real. If you have been feeling off, overwhelmed, or quietly carrying more than you let on, this conversation is for you. What would change if you stopped fighting the struggle and started listening to what it is trying to show you?  

What does it really take to stay steady when everything around you feels uncertain? In this episode of Becoming Unshakeable, I sit down with Kisha Wynter, an executive coach and former GE leader, to explore what steadiness actually looks like in real life. Not the polished version of leadership we often see on the surface, but the kind that is built through self-awareness, difficult personal moments, and a willingness to keep returning to the work. Kisha shares how her own journey through corporate leadership, personal change, and moments of deep self-doubt shaped her understanding of what it means to lead from within. We talk openly about the difference between appearing strong and being truly steady. Kisha reflects on a defining moment in her career when self-doubt surfaced during a high-stakes interview, forcing her to confront the internal narrative many leaders quietly carry. That experience became a turning point, leading her to invest in her own development and, eventually, to support others through similar challenges. It is a reminder that leadership growth is rarely linear and often deeply personal. Our conversation also explores the role of support systems, something many leaders struggle to fully embrace. From mentors and sponsors to everyday acts of compassion, Kisha highlights how progress is often shaped by the people around us. We also unpack the idea that trying to do everything alone can quietly undermine both confidence and sustainability over time. One of the most powerful themes in this discussion is the role of gratitude as a daily practice. Kisha explains how intentionally reflecting on small moments of support and progress can shift perspective and build a sense of stability, even during uncertain times. It is a simple idea, yet one that can reshape how leaders experience pressure, setbacks, and growth. This episode is a thoughtful reflection on what it means to lead with intention, to recognize when you are off center, and to keep coming back to practices that restore clarity and confidence. It is about doing the internal work that allows leadership to feel real, sustainable, and human. How are you building steadiness in your own leadership when the pressure starts to rise?  

What does it really take to build trust in a world where skepticism feels like the default setting? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with Scott Trumpolt to unpack what trust actually looks like in practice, beyond the buzzwords and surface-level statements. Scott shares a clear perspective on why transparency alone is not enough, and how honest dialogue, even when uncomfortable, becomes the real foundation for meaningful relationships inside organizations. As our conversation unfolds, it becomes clear that trust is tested in moments of tension, not in periods of stability. We explore how leaders often underestimate the cost of avoiding difficult conversations, and how that avoidance quietly erodes credibility over time. Scott offers real-world insight into what happens when leaders choose openness instead, even when they do not have all the answers. There is a human element here that cannot be replaced by process or policy, and it shows up in how leaders communicate, listen, and respond when things do not go to plan. I also found myself reflecting on how trust scales, or fails to, across teams and organizations. Scott challenges the idea that trust can be mandated from the top down and instead reframes it as something built through consistent behavior, one interaction at a time. It is a perspective that feels both simple and difficult at the same time, because it demands accountability at every level. This conversation left me thinking about the gap between what leaders say and what people actually experience day to day. So I will leave you with this, are you creating an environment where people feel safe to speak openly, or one where silence feels like the safer option?  

What kind of energy do you bring into the room when your team needs you most? In this solo episode of Becoming Unshakable, I shared a moment from my leadership journey that challenged how I show up for others. During a period of change, I allowed my own emotional response to lead the interaction, and I could see how quickly that energy spread across the team. It was a powerful reminder that leadership is felt before it is heard. Our presence sets the tone, whether we realize it or not. I shared how emotional contagion shows up in everyday leadership moments and why self-awareness has to come first. When we are overwhelmed, frustrated, or unsettled, those signals do not stay contained. They ripple outward. I talked about learning to recognize the early signs in my own nervous system and the importance of pausing before stepping into conversations that matter. That pause can be the difference between creating stability or amplifying uncertainty. We also explored practical ways to move from reaction to steadiness. For me, that can be as simple as stepping outside, taking a walk, or shifting my focus toward gratitude. These are small actions, but they help create space between what I am feeling and how I choose to respond. That space allows me to lead with clarity rather than impulse, especially when others are looking for reassurance. This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own leadership presence. How often do you give yourself permission to reset before showing up for your team? And what might change if you became more aware of the emotional signals you are sending every day?  

What if the biggest shift in your leadership, your confidence, and your results came down to just three decisions about how you think? In this episode, I sit down with Bron Watson to explore what she calls a simple but powerful three-step mindset shift. It is one of those conversations that feels immediately practical, yet quietly challenges how we see ourselves and the situations we face every day. Bron brings a grounded perspective on how our internal dialogue shapes our external reality, and why so many of us stay stuck without even realizing it. As we talk, it becomes clear that mindset is not something reserved for big life moments. It shows up in the small decisions, the way we respond to pressure, and how we interpret setbacks. Bron shares how shifting your thinking is less about motivation and more about awareness, choice, and consistency. There is a refreshing honesty in how she explains it, especially when it comes to breaking patterns that feel familiar but no longer serve you. We also get into what holds people back from making these shifts in the first place. Fear, identity, and the comfort of old habits all play a role. Bron offers a clear way to recognize those patterns and, more importantly, what to do next. It is not about an overnight change. It is about building a new way of thinking that supports the life and leadership you want to create. By the end of our conversation, I found myself reflecting on how often we look for complex solutions when the real work starts with something far more personal. If you could change the way you think about one challenge in your life today, what might that unlock for you?  

How well do you really know yourself as a leader? And what might your team see that you simply cannot see on your own? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with pharmaceutical executive and entrepreneur Hope Mueller to explore the powerful role self-awareness plays in leadership, decision-making, and building a life that reflects who you truly are. Hope has spent more than twenty-five years in the pharmaceutical industry, working in a field driven by purpose, science, and the promise of improving patients' lives. Alongside that demanding career, she also built Hunter Street, her own publishing company, helping aspiring authors bring their ideas and stories into the world. Her journey reflects a deeper question many professionals eventually face: Who are we beyond our job titles? During our conversation, Hope shared the moment that pushed her to rethink the future. Watching several successful women in her network suddenly lose long-held executive roles forced her to confront a difficult truth. For many leaders, identity becomes tightly tied to the work they do. Hope made a conscious decision to build something beyond that identity so she would always have a next chapter waiting for her. We explore the idea that becoming unshakable is not a final destination. Hope describes it as a process of stepping into your full self, understanding what truly matters to you, and accepting the person you are becoming along the way. That kind of clarity often arrives slowly, through reflection, experience, and sometimes a few hard lessons. One of those lessons came when Hope realized she had pushed herself too far. After years of believing she had mastered work-life balance, she found herself dealing with an injury caused by overwork. That moment forced her to redesign her personal leadership toolkit. Today, she protects time for herself before the workday begins, whether that means journaling, calling her mom, or simply enjoying a quiet cup of coffee outside. Another powerful part of our discussion focuses on the limits of service leadership. Hope explains how being endlessly helpful can eventually backfire in senior leadership roles. When leaders take on too many operational tasks, others may stop seeing them as strategic thinkers. Learning where to step back and where to engage becomes an essential leadership skill. We discuss the role of support systems in building resilience. Hope credits both her husband and a trusted circle of colleagues for helping her maintain perspective and balance. Becoming unshakable, as we discuss in this episode, rarely happens in isolation. The people who challenge us, support us, and offer honest perspectives often make the biggest difference. By the end of this conversation, two powerful ideas stand out. First, every leader needs the courage to pause and reflect on where they are heading. Second, no one builds resilience alone. Whether through mentors, partners, or trusted friends, the voices around us help us see what we cannot see ourselves. So as you listen to this conversation, consider your own leadership journey. Are you creating space for reflection? And who are the people helping you see the blind spots that could shape your next chapter?  

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to remain steady when life delivers moments that feel impossible to carry? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with Rabbi Daniel Cohen for a deeply personal and reflective conversation about faith, gratitude, and the inner strength that helps people move through life's most difficult seasons. Rabbi Cohen shares the story that shaped his perspective early in life, losing his mother at a young age, and how that experience forced him to confront grief, purpose, and the deeper meaning behind the moments that shake us the most. Rather than allowing tragedy to define his path, Rabbi Cohen describes how he made a conscious choice to carry his mother's light forward. That decision eventually shaped his work as a rabbi, author, and speaker, guiding others through questions about legacy, purpose, and how we want to be remembered. Drawing on years of counseling people through loss and transition, he explains why reflecting on our mortality can become a powerful catalyst for living more intentionally today. Throughout our conversation, we explore the idea that resilience is not about avoiding hardship. It is about building the spiritual and emotional muscles that allow us to grow through it. Rabbi Cohen shares how practices like gratitude, prayer, reflection, and service to others help anchor us when life becomes uncertain. Even listeners who do not identify with a particular faith tradition will find wisdom in his perspective on purpose, presence, and the daily choice to bring light into the lives of others. We also discuss the role relationships play in resilience, why allowing others to support us can be an act of generosity rather than weakness, and how modern life, especially our constant connection to technology, can quietly pull us away from the moments that matter most. Rabbi Cohen offers a simple but powerful daily practice that combines gratitude, reflection, and human connection to help people realign when life feels overwhelming. This conversation is a reminder that becoming unshakable does not mean we will never face loss, doubt, or fear. It means learning how to meet those moments with deeper faith, a sense of purpose, and the awareness that every breath offers another chance to grow.  

What does self-care really look like when you are scaling fast, raising four kids, and carrying the weight of other people's livelihoods on your shoulders? In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with Michele Henry, founder and CEO of Face Foundry, to talk about what it actually takes to build a high-growth franchise brand without losing yourself in the process. Michele launched her flagship location in 2019 with a clear vision to franchise from day one. Within a year, the world shut down. She furloughed her entire team, slept in her warehouse during COVID, and faced the kind of doubt that tests every founder's resolve.  Today, Face Foundry has dozens of locations open, with aggressive expansion plans still ahead. But this conversation is not just about growth. It is about steadiness. Michele shares how self-care for her is not indulgent or optional. It is disciplined. Early mornings. Movement. Quiet time. Meditation. Clear routines in a world that constantly shifts. She talks openly about unlearning the belief that strength means doing everything alone, and how building a trusted team has become one of her greatest leadership shifts. For Michele, self-care also shows up inside her organization, from encouraging her corporate team to step away for restorative moments to creating experiences that reinforce gratitude and connection. We also explore the idea of seasons. Survival seasons. Scaling seasons. The importance of extracting the lesson so you do not repeat it. Michele reflects on integrity as a non-negotiable value, how alignment drives franchise success, and why consistency in an inconsistent world is one of the most powerful leadership traits you can cultivate. If you are a founder, an emerging leader, or someone navigating rapid growth, this episode will remind you that becoming unshakable does not mean being rigid. It means being clear. Clear in your mission. Clear in your values. Clear in who you are at your core. As you listen, consider this: In your current season, what does self-care need to look like so that your leadership remains steady for those who depend on you?