This is Just livin' life with BK and Nobue. A show where BK and Nobue discuss candidly the ups and downs of relationships, friendships, parenting (from their inexperienced perspective at least) and life in general.
Submission ≠ Subservience
39:39A round (well square) table discussion with our friends, Sipho and Thando Hobane, a young married couple like us, on the rather controversial topic of submission. What is it? Does it mean losing one's self? Is it unconditional or earned? Is it a thing in the 21st century? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
Vulnerability - baring one's soul!
25:39In this episode, we talk about vulnerability - baring one's soul to another, at the risk of being hurt, but in the hopes that we won't be. We review how we (often subconsciously) fail at it, and the reasons why, from personal experience. Our overall lesson is that we should do better at making ourselves vulnerable to the people we love, because vulnerability is the gateway to true companionship! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
Marriage: Expectations vs. Reality (our experience)
30:43When we look forward to marriage, we all build up these expectations about what it's going to look like, what the date nights will be like and the long weekends. Unfortunately, sometimes expectations don't become reality. In this episode, we chat about a few of our individual expectations that didn't necessarily become reality. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
You can't 'FIX' people!
21:37We've all looked at someone and thought, "I know exactly what they need, I know just how to fix them!". But do we? Can we fix people? Sadly, the answer is no. We can inspire, educate and support them towards change, but we humans simply cannot fix people. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
You've changed, as you should!
21:30In the words of Heraclitus, "The only constant in life is change." If this is true, why then are we so uncomfortable with change? Why is it so unnerving and scary to embrace and express, and yet, once done, it can be the most liberating feeling ever? In this episode, we discuss change - How it's unavoidable and bigger than that, needed. We need to change to grow and, and we need to grow to live. Nkazi's post: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10223869395715510&id=1614292868 Relatable Whispers Podcast where my mom talks about parenting: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xZmJlMmZlOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw?ep=14 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
So money ...
20:00In this episode, we discuss money. We talk about our value system, the foundation, which informs how we view and use money. We then tap into the importance of being conscious that two individuals can be at different phases of their financial lives, based on our personal experience being 6 years apart in age, and how to tackle that. Lastly, we give a glimpse into how we use and allocate our money - the system that works for us, and might work for someone else. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
Being a Couple
23:28The shift from being single and carefree to being in a relationship or from courtship to marriage with someone isn't always a natural and smooth transition. The dynamics change so quickly. Suddenly you begin to share your life with someone and you are accountable to them. Failure to transition in a healthy way can lead to disgruntlement in a relationship which may lead to premature termination of the relationship. In this episode, we explore what it means to be a couple and give a few tips that helped us with our transition. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
Navigating Long Distance Relationships
16:29Life sometimes leads us to unfavourable circumstances. A long-distance relationship is one such example. The temptation is often to throw in the towel and completely give up on the relationship but that need not be. In this episode, we explore how to navigate long-distance relationships. We can say from experience that hard as it might be, it is possible to have a beautiful and healthy long-distance relationship, it just takes being intentional. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
11:36Remember the day you first fell in love with your person? How there never seemed to be enough hours in a day for you to say all you had to say to them? Have you watched those warm fuzzies slowly dwindle? How you are both still so in love with each other but it just ain't quite the same anymore? In this episode, we explore why that is. "Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." - Bruce Lee --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message
13:24In this episode we talk about money, the ups and downs of merging your financial lives within a relationship. Enjoy, and as always be sure to leave a comment, like, share rate and review. Find us on social media: https://facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast https://twitter.com/justlivinlifePC https://instagram.com/justlivinlifeonig --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justlivinlife/message