Getting The Diagnosis: Critical Heart Defects, Processing the Unthinkable, and Entering Survival Mode

Getting pregnant, again? What could possibly go wrong?In Season Two of It's Getting Mom In Here, we’re diving into Milo’s story. In this episode, Kori shares what it was like to try again after losing her son Stanley—including a miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, and yet another unexpected congenital heart defect diagnosis.She opens up about the emotional chaos of pregnancy after loss, the rollercoaster of hope and heartbreak, and what it means to walk through it all with honesty, vulnerability, and just enough dark mom humor to survive it.If you’ve experienced baby loss, TFMR, CHD, miscarriage, or are parenting after trauma, this is the space for you.Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife Links ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): ⁠Amazon⁠ ⁠Nixit Menstrual Products⁠ 00:00 Welcome to Season Two02:06 The Journey of Milo Begins03:54 Navigating Loss and New Beginnings05:48 Experiencing Miscarriage and Heartbreak08:41 The Emotional Toll of Pregnancy Loss10:15 Finding Hope Amidst Uncertainty13:09 Facing Heart Defects: A New Challenge16:14 Understanding the Diagnosis19:02 Genetic Testing and Family Connections21:29 The Complexity of Choices22:44 Reflections on Sharing Milo's Story

Taylor is finally back on the show!! Kori and Taylor continue to dive into deeply personal and sensitive topics surrounding miscarriage, infant loss, and the emotional complexities of naming a child who is not expected to survive. They pick up where they left off last episode and talk about the stillbirth of their son, Stanley.Keywordsmiscarriage, infant loss, pregnancy, termination, depression, anxiety, personal stories, emotional journey

Taylor is finally on the show! Kori and Taylor dive into deeply personal and sensitive topics surrounding miscarriage, infant loss, and the emotional complexities of naming a child who is not expected to survive. The discussion emphasizes the importance of mental wellbeing and the heavy emotional burden that comes with these experiences. Keywords miscarriage, infant loss, pregnancy, termination, depression, anxiety, personal stories, emotional journey Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setup 02:25 The Journey to Parenthood 05:41 Facing Unexpected Challenges 09:25 Navigating Difficult Decisions 12:45 The Emotional Rollercoaster 15:40 Preparing for Goodbye 25:47 Reflecting on the Experience

Kori reflects on life after the loss of her son, Stanley. She shares how she and her husband navigated grief, from finding moments of joy amid deep sorrow to planning a meaningful celebration of life. Kori talks about family complexities, the healing power of crafting and yoga, and the importance of creating personal rituals to honour loss. This episode is a testament to the coexistence of love and grief and finding your way forward in the hardest times. ⁠⁠⁠Click here to submit a question to the podcast⁠⁠⁠ Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds, tfmr, termination for medical reasons, grief, parenting, loss, support, birth experience, mental health, family, coping strategies, postpartum, healing, yoga, crafting, celebration of life. Links ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Nixit Menstrual Products⁠⁠⁠⁠

Kori shares her deeply personal journey through the birth and loss of her son, Stanley. She reflects on the emotional complexities of motherhood, grief, and the importance of language in navigating loss. Kori discusses the support from family, the bittersweet moments spent with her son, and the challenges of returning home after such a profound experience. She emphasizes the need for understanding and compassion in conversations about loss and highlights her journey towards healing and finding purpose in her grief. ⁠Click here to submit a question to the podcast⁠ Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds, tfmr, termination for medical reasons, grief, parenting, loss, support, birth experience, mental health, family, coping strategies, postpartum, healing Links ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Nixit Menstrual Products⁠⁠ Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Context 01:58 The Birth Experience 04:24 Navigating Grief and Language 07:45 Family Visits and Support 16:50 Cherishing Moments with Stanley 24:03 Saying Goodbye 28:34 Returning Home and Coping 32:45 Finding Purpose in Grief

Kori shares her emotional journey through pregnancy, miscarriage, and the decisions surrounding the loss of her baby. She discusses the sensitive topics of infant loss, the choices she faced regarding delivery methods, and the importance of connecting with her baby during the final days. Kori also reflects on the significance of naming her child and the preparations leading up to the induction, all while navigating the complexities of grief and emotional turmoil.Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds, tfmr, termination for medical reasons Links Website Instagram Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): Amazon Nixit Menstrual Products Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Context 03:14 The Induction Process Begins 07:53 Arriving at the Hospital 09:53 Waiting and Preparing for Delivery 15:42 The Role of the Midwife 20:39 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Labour 27:32 Epidural and Pain Management 33:18 The Moment of Delivery 38:05 The Birth of Stanley 40:50 Conclusion and Reflection

Kori shares her emotional journey through pregnancy, miscarriage, and the decisions surrounding the loss of her baby. She discusses the sensitive topics of infant loss, the choices she faced regarding delivery methods, and the importance of connecting with her baby during the final days. Kori also reflects on the significance of naming her child and the preparations leading up to the induction, all while navigating the complexities of grief and emotional turmoil. Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds, tfmr, termination for medical reasons Links Website Instagram Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): Amazon Nixit Menstrual Products Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:41 Facing the End of Pregnancy 07:38 Choosing the Right Induction Method 11:49 Discovering the Baby's Gender 14:56 Creating Lasting Memories 17:27 Preparing for the Induction 22:41 Packing for the Hospital 23:59 Naming our Son 28:24 Emotional Turmoil and Final Preparations 32:41 The Call to the Hospital

Kori opens up about her emotional journey through a high-risk pregnancy, navigating the diagnosis of hypoplastic left heart syndrome for her unborn child. She shares the tough choices, family support, and medical guidance that shaped her experience, offering insight into the complexities of maternal health and the power of empathy in the face of hard decisions. Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds Links Website Instagram Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): Amazon Nixit Menstrual Products Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Recap 01:25 Receiving Devastating News 15:24 The Three Choices 21:32 The Importance of Compassion and Support 23:13 Making an Informed Decision

In this episode, Kori opens up about her first phone call with the midwife and how they started getting to know each other. She shares her health journey and some of the pregnancy aversions she dealt with. Kori also talks about the early dating scan and the thrill of seeing her baby's heartbeat for the first time. She then dives into the decision-making process around early first trimester screening and why her pro-choice beliefs were so important to her. Kori reflects on the difficult thoughts around possibly terminating a wanted pregnancy and the factors that played into their decision. She also shares the concerns that surfaced during the anatomy scan about the baby's heart. The episode wraps up with Kori anxiously awaiting the results of the echo and what the future might hold. Content Warning: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including pregnancy termination, medical decision-making, and potential complications during pregnancy. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics triggering or emotionally challenging. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife, pregnancy loss, abortion, pregnancy termination, ultrasounds Links Website Instagram Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): Amazon Nixit Menstrual Products Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:14 Meeting the Midwife 05:21 Scheduling the First Ultrasound 10:01 Making Decisions about Screening Tests 21:37 Sharing the Pregnancy News 23:41 The Anatomy Scan 36:39 Waiting for Results

In this episode, Kori shares her journey of becoming a mother, including getting pregnant, the diagnosis of her son being very ill, and ultimately losing him. She discusses the pressure to start having kids in her 30s and the factors to consider before starting a family. She talks about her experience of trying to conceive, including the emotional rollercoaster of negative pregnancy tests and the toxic nature of online forums. She also shares the joy of finding out she was pregnant and the excitement of sharing the news with her family. The episode ends with the host finding a midwife and beginning the medical side of her pregnancy journey. Keywords motherhood, pregnancy, trying to conceive, negative pregnancy tests, online forums, joy of pregnancy, sharing the news, finding a midwife Links Website Instagram Shop the things I love (p.s. I earn a small commission if you shop these links): Amazon Nixit Menstrual Products Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Season Overview 01:32 Navigating the Pressure to Start a Family in Your 30s 05:00 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Trying to Conceive 16:56 The Joy and Excitement of Finding Out You're Pregnant 22:26 Sharing the News of Your Pregnancy with Loved Ones 27:20 Finding a Healthcare Professional for Your Pregnancy Journey