24. Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire

For those who already know in their gut that something isn’t right... and for the ones who keep explaining it away, hoping it will change.In this episode, we talk about:• the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs it’s time to leave• why staying often costs more than leaving• what actually opens up after a breakup; relief, clarity, desire, self-trust, exploration, pleasure. • our personal experiences + the incredible transformations we’ve witnessed in clients on the other side of breakups.This is about choosing yourself when your body has been saying enough for a while, trusting that what's meant for you is on the other side of a hard decision.Disclaimer: This episode is for situations where communication has been attempted and both partners are capable of growth. Relationship change requires deep inner work, not just changing partners.Follow us on instagram Vanessa: Somatic Sexologist that helps you experience more pleasure & deeper connections through her signature Golden Pleasure Method;https://www.instagram.com/hookedonpleasure/?hl=enEffy: Holistic Life Coach that helps you create a life that you're OBSESSED with! https://www.instagram.com/empoweredwitheffy/?hl=en

In this episode, I’m in the hot seat! My bestie interviews me about how my business began, what’s unfolding next, and the heart behind my work as a sexologist. I dive into and explain my signature Golden Pleasure Method, who I love working with, and what lights me up most about helping women feel safe, liberated, and fully expressed in their pleasure and relationships.Enjoy our zero filter chat! Follow me @hookedonpleasure on IG for more content & updates regarding the retreat!

Effy joins me to talk about FEASTThe 4 day FREE activation starting 14th July It was born on our recent holiday in Bali together where we were crying with laughter talking about our past experiences of relationships. Times of starving in our connections, begging for the bare minimum & not feeling worthy of more. Dm me “FEAST” on instagram @hookedonpleasure to join the 4 day activation starting 14th July.You will learn to raise your standards, be open to receiving without guilt and become magnetic to aligned connections!

This episode will help you to🔥 Understand the difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire💦 Create deeper connection & hotter intimacy❤️ Navigate differences in desires with ease ⚡️ Ignite your partners desire for you!! The concept of desire styles is explained in detail within the book “Come As You Are” by Dr Emily Nagoski

Here's the tea on adding more joy to your life! Chatting with my beautiful friend & holistic coach @empoweredwitheffy

In this episode, Katy Bampton & I talk about the different ways to communicate and navigate your sexual desires. In particular, for women who are currently in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. We normalize attraction to people outside of your relationship and discuss how to figure out exactly what you are wanting to experience before you have the conversation with your partner. We explore how to communicate to your partner your sexual desires and ways to make it fun for everyone involved. We go on to discuss how to have the best experience possible with your first threesome, where to find a person that would be a great fit and keep the playfulness and novelty of it all while remaining connected to yourself.

This episode features pleasure & relationships coach Katy Bampton. We talk about pleasure beyond the sexual and how to incorporate more moments of pleasure in your busy routine. We also discuss how embodiment and pleasure can heal and allow us to reconnect to ourselves and others. You can see more of Katy's work and contact her on Instagram, Youtube & Facebook 'Katy Bampton' or on her website - katybampton.com You can see more of my work and contact me regarding my coaching services on Instagram & Tiktok 'Hooked on Pleasure'

TW: Suicide & Sexual Assault This episode will talk about how hope can saves lives and how it saved mine. I created this podcast with the intention of sharing my stories and experiences with people that need it. I am in a position now where I can talk about this objectively, as I am no longer impacted by these things. Never lose hope that things will get better and that your life will become joyful again. Your life can and will improve, and suicidality does not have to be the end of your life. Intro & life update 0:00-3:15 Start of podcast 3:15

Hey! Welcome to the beginners guide to open relating. Topics covered in today's discussion include 1) Self reflection on our own views and perspective on relationships (1:00) 2) What are different open relating dynamics and how are they different to monogamy (2:00) 3) Why do people choose to be in open relationship dynamics? (09:38) 4) The benefits of open relationship dynamics (12:15) 5) The experience of jealousy and/or compersion in these dynamics (16:00) 6) How to find these alternative dynamics or experiences as a individual or couple (18:35) 7) Conversation starters, must haves and personal mistakes of the past (22:15) 8) Resources (28:44)

This episode talks about my experience at my second ever Hedonism sex party in Perth. I talk about how it's set up and the fun I had, including my first ever fmf threesome with a couple!