How Our Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Almost Ended Us

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, in this special milestone episode, Sasha gets vulnerable and personal, breaking down the five things that nearly destroyed her own relationship—and what she did to turn it all around. 🌹She gets real about how fear of abandonment quietly runs the show in so many relationships, why a dysregulated nervous system keeps you stuck in cycles of reaction and resentment, and how expecting your partner to read your mind is setting you both up to fail. Sasha shares how she went from threatening to leave during every big argument to building a relationship rooted in security, open communication, and equal effort—and exactly what shifted to make that possible. If you've ever felt like you're the one doing all the work while your relationship keeps falling apart, this episode will show you why you are also the one holding the power to change it. 🔑Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Which pattern is silently destroying your love life?What is one thing you can do today to highlight that thing to bring it to your awareness?What is one thing you can tell your future self about this pattern?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why fear of abandonment hides in your behavior long before you recognize itHow a dysregulated nervous system keeps you reactive and emotionally distant Why expressing your needs is queen energy—and waiting for him to guess is not How not resting silently fuels burnout and resentmentWhy overgiving creates exhaustion, not connection How healing yourself creates a ripple effect that shifts the whole relationship💘Sign up for my FREE LIVE Q&A - heal your relationship patterns and through live mentoring on March 15th, 2026 with a 24 hour replay - Sacred Heart💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha breaks down the five things she wishes every woman knew about her love mindset—and why the relationship you have with yourself is the one that changes everything. 💛 She gets real about why no partner can fix what your inner child still believes about love, how your nervous system keeps you stuck in self-sabotage, and why the security you're searching for outside of you is already yours to create. Sasha shares her go-to "two things are true" reframe to break black-and-white thinking, plus why emotional safety isn't something someone gives you—it's a state you learn to live in. If you've ever felt like love is something that happens to you, this episode will shift that. 💪Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is one thing that you learned today about your own love mindset that you didn't know before?What is a self-loving thought you can start to tell yourself?How do you self-sabotage?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why your partner cannot fix what your inner child still believes about love How your nervous system determines how much love and intimacy you can hold without sabotaging it Why self-love is an energetic standard you live in—not just a mindset How anxious patterns and fear of abandonment block emotional safety Why love is a feeling you generate from within—and how to stop chasing it💘Sign up for my FREE LIVE Q&A - heal your relationship patterns and through live mentoring on March 15th, 2026 with a 24 hour replay - Sacred Heart💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives deep into why setting boundaries feels so damn hard—and what really needs to happen before you can advocate for yourself without guilt or fear. She opens up about a recent client session and gets real about the childhood conditioning that makes us abandon ourselves to avoid disappointing others. 🛡️ Sasha breaks down why you keep attracting people who cross your boundaries, how anger shows you where you've abandoned yourself, and why "protecting your peace" is empty without addressing the resentment underneath. She shares the "I promised myself" phrase that changed everything, how to distinguish between requests and boundaries, and why forgiving yourself when you mess up is essential. By the end, you'll see that boundary-setting isn't the first step—it's the last, and the real work starts with building your self-worth. 💪Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What or who are you afraid to lose if you say the thing you want to say?What is your deepest fear if you express your true needs and you set the boundary?What is safe to believe about boundaries and about guilt, boundaries and connection?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why you attract people who cross your boundaries How anger signals where you've abandoned yourself The difference between requests and boundaries How to use "I promised myself" to say no Why guilt comes with boundaries—and how to build tolerance💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets vulnerable and shares the story she's never fully told—the arrival of her firstborn and the messy, painful, beautiful journey of motherhood that followed. She opens up about an unplanned pregnancy, a devastating betrayal revealed just 48 hours after birth, and the five years of anger and disconnection that nearly defined her relationship with her son. 💛 Sasha breaks down how fear of loss kept her from bonding, why guilt kept her stuck, and the moment she realized she had to repair the small-T trauma she'd unknowingly passed on. She shares the cycles she's broken and the tools that changed everything. By the end, you'll see that it's never too late to repair, to heal, and to become the parent (and partner) you're meant to be. ✨Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is one thing that you learned about cycle breaking from this episode?What is one thing that you can forgive yourself for from the past and finally free yourself by simply deciding to say I forgive this and I release it?Who is someone in your life that you think has chosen you to be on this journey, is helping you break these cycles, is helping you do your healing work?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why fear of loss can block bonding with your child—and how to break through it The signs your child absorbed small-T trauma and how to repair it at any age Why you must regulate yourself before you can regulate your child How "connect before the ask" transforms relationships (especially at bedtime) How to set firm boundaries with kindness instead of anger💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sara Salhab is a champion of women's growth and leadership and the founder of The Sophia Collective, a transformative platform designed to help women entrepreneurs unlock their potential and navigate their way through the entrepreneurial ecosystem. This episode she is sharing a unique and inspiring story and take on creating space for self love and getting real on being compassionate to you regardless of what life throws you.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes Sara Salhab, founder of the Sophia Collective and champion of women's growth and leadership. Released just before Valentine's Day, this conversation explores what it truly means to love yourself—beyond the clichés. 💝 Sara shares her journey from 22 years in the corporate world to creating spaces where women can share their stories, be vulnerable, and grow together. From starting with banana bread and mindfulness in her neighborhood to building a transformative community, Sara opens up about brain surgery, abandonment, anger, and the evolution of self-compassion. This episode is about gentleness, boundaries, and learning to name your emotions so you can heal them.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:When was the last time you truly listened to yourself, your body, your emotions, your needs?If you were given a magic mirror and you can observe yourself 20 years older, what would you do today to fully like what you see then?What part of your healing are you ready to take gentle responsibility for?In this episode, you’ll discover:Learning to name your feelings as the first step toward true healing.Identifying your pattern within the disappointment-abandonment-rejection cycle.Why anger isn't the enemy, but a constructive tool for your boundaries.Meeting your own needs by speaking your love language to yourself.The magic of the Sophia Collective: How storytelling builds a compassionate community.Escaping the victimization trap through the power of gentle responsibility.Why slowing down your pace allows you to finally breathe and respond with truth.💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sara Salhab:LinkedInSophia CollectiveInstagramInstagramLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Description: As a worst case scenario A grade over over thinker Sasha is sharing in this short inspiring episode how we are literally working against our brain programming to decrease overthinking and how we can make progress towards the peace, pleasure and safety we deserve in us and our relationships. Heal your overthinking by digging into this episode where you will receive tangible tools to apply and feel calmer in your head.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha talks about overthinking—how it drains your energy, keeps you stuck in worst-case scenarios, and why you can't just "think positive" your way out of it. 🧠 Sasha shares her journey with overthinking, from waiting by the window as a kid to waking up from anxious dreams as an adult. She explains why you can't flip from negative to positive thoughts without regulating your nervous system first, and shares practical tools like the "I am safe" reset and the two-things-are-true reframe. Healing overthinking isn't about thinking better—it's about feeling safer first.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Where is one area in your life you're overthinking and causing yourself more pain? What two things can be true about that area? What did you learn about your brilliant brain today when it comes to why you overthink or how you get more emotional versus logical?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why your brain is wired to scan for danger (not happiness) and predict pain Why overthinking is a behavior that shows up when you're dysregulated The "I am safe" nervous system reset technique How to recognize everyday signs of dysregulationThe "two things are true" reframe for getting unstuck How to go from worst-case to best-case scenario thinking💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not for the faint hearted as we drop the labels of anxious and avoidant and tap into why we behave the way we do in triggers and how to make shifts that invite secure healthy behavior and meet our own emotional needs as functioning adults.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha tackles a topic that’s been blowing up on Instagram—why we need to stop blaming our partners for their “avoidant” behavior and start asking a better question. She breaks down what’s really happening in the brain when we’re triggered, why labels like “anxious” and “avoidant” keep us stuck, and how to create safety instead of more chaos. 🔥Sasha shares the powerful question that shifted everything in her own marriage, plus her most-used regulation tool that works in eight minutes or less. By the end, you’ll see that healing isn’t about changing your partner—it’s about understanding what safety really looks like when you’re both triggered. ✨Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Where in your life do you need this tool? Where do you need to be more regulated in your life? What would your relationship feel like if all defenses were gone?What behaviors do you think that you respond from when you’re having a hard time?In this episode, you’ll discover:Stop labeling your partner as “avoidant” and ask what’s really happeningHow the brain shuts down when triggered—and why talking doesn’t workThe powerful question that helps your partner open up instead of defendWhy meeting your own needs first shifts the entire relationship dynamicRegulation isn’t just for big moments—it’s a daily practice that transforms love​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives deep into the one piece of love lasting that we’re all missing—and it’s not what you think. She introduces the concept of the Most Generous Interpretation (MGI) and how this simple but profound shift can transform everything from dating to decades-long marriages. 🌟Sasha gets real about her own journey with MGI—from spiraling when her partner shut down to handling a dinner-time boundary violation with clarity and calm. She breaks down the difference between “giving me a hard time” versus “having a hard time,” and why that reframe changes absolutely everything. By the end, you’ll see that healing your relationship isn’t about changing your partner—it’s about choosing compassion over control. ✨Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Who do you think is one person that you could apply the most generous interpretation to today?What is that most generous interpretation? What is that interpretation that you want to hold space for?What is the most compassionate interpretation you could have of you right now?In this episode, you’ll discover:Giving me a hard time” vs. “having a hard time”—and why this reframe changes everythingWhy avoidant patterns are actually dysregulation, not personal attacksHow to take ownership without drowning in guilt or egoHow empathy softens your nervous system and unlocks your divine feminineWhy guilt and boundaries always come together—and how to feel it anyway💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes her first male guest—men’s coach Alessandro Frosali—for a raw, honest conversation about what it really means to show up as a partner. From his home in Spain, Alessandro shares the moment his wife told him she needed him to “be more of a man or I’m leaving”—and how that wake-up call became the catalyst for his entire transformation. Together, Alessandro and Sasha explore the brick walls we unknowingly build in relationships, why consistency matters more than perfection, and how owning what’s yours creates space for your partner to own theirs. By the end of this episode, you’ll see that becoming a better partner isn’t about reaching a destination—it’s about committing to the path and standing firm in the heat of emotion instead of running from it. 🌊💛Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What would it take for you to become the best husband or wife that you can be?What would it take for you to fall in love with being the best husband or wife that you can be?What would it take for you to fall in love with your life?In this episode, you’ll discover:The two pedals of relationships: owning what’s yours and loving your partner enough to trust them with theirsWhy brick walls of resentment build differently for men and women—and how to take them down brick by brickHow to separate attachment behaviors from identity so you can actually change your patternsThe three layers of mental load and why understanding emotional labor transforms partnershipWhy holding space when your partner is dysregulated creates the safety they’ve been searching for💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Alessandro Frosali: Website: https://alessandrofrosali.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alessandro_frosali Email: [email protected] Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The six lessons that will deeply resonate that as learned brought my partner and I closer and can transform your love life as you apply them and take action to integrate. Even learning of these is a powerful place to start calling in healthy love and developing deeper connection with your partner.This week on Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha invites you to slow down, soften, and consciously close out 2025 by reflecting on the love lessons that truly landed this year. Recording on New Year’s Eve from a place of joy (not obligation), she shares the six relationship truths that deepened her connection, reshaped her nervous system responses, and transformed how she shows up with her partner, her children, and herself. ✨From understanding how your partner mirrors your energy, to releasing control and learning how to feel emotions instead of talking your way out of them, Sasha walks you through the lessons that moved from “learning” into full integration. She also explores why it’s safe to change your mind, how “try again” can de-escalate conflict in real time, and why being radically honest about what you feel and need is essential for lasting love. 💛Sasha’s 6 Lessons in Love “Your partner will always mirror your energy.”“Where can you release control in your relationship and your love life?”“Stop trying to talk it out when you’re triggered and feel what you’re feeling instead.”“It’s safe to change your mind.”“Be willing to try again.”“Be a hundred percent honest with what you feel and need because nobody in your life will ever be able to guess.”💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.