48. How To Build Habits You Love w/ David Skidmore

Prepared to be inspired by this twenty-two year old who's already making waves in the media and book writing world. In this episode, Carrie Berk shares her journey as a young author and journalist while navigating the challenges of anxiety and OCD. She discusses the misconceptions surrounding these mental health issues, the importance of relatability, and how she has learned to live with her conditions. She emphasizes the significance of self-awareness and age as factors in personal growth, and introduces her book 'Mindfire', which serves as a roadmap for those struggling with mental health issues. The conversation highlights the balance between productivity and relaxation, and the power of mindset in achieving one's goals. Takeaways Carrie Berk is a young author and journalist who openly discusses her struggles with anxiety and OCD. Relatability in sharing experiences can be more powerful than reassurance. Self-acceptance is crucial in dealing with mental health challenges. The pressure to succeed can be self-inflicted, and it's important to allow oneself time to rest. Community support and sharing stories can alleviate feelings of isolation. Anxiety can be used as fuel for personal growth. You are capable of more than your anxiety tells you. Mindset shifts can lead to productive actions. Carrie's book 'Mindfire' offers strategies for mental health. You are in control of your own life and decisions. Keywords Carrie Berk, anxiety, OCD, mental health, success, relatability, self-care, New York City, youth empowerment, personal growth, New York, dreams, anxiety, self-awareness, mental health, overcoming fear, personal growth, Mindfire, Carrie Berk, motivation Carrie's New Book OUT NOW Follow Carrie More information on Carrie Berk -- This episode is sponsored by Tushbaby! Go to www.tushbaby.com and use code HABITS to get 20% OFF your first purchase! (Best investment ever! -- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠ ⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠ ⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, explores the common narrative that financial success is the ultimate goal, arguing instead for the importance of self-awareness as a foundation for true fulfillment. She highlights how chasing external success without understanding oneself can lead to feelings of emptiness and anxiety. Kayla offers personal experiences and insights on how self-awareness can redefine success, protect mental health, and foster resilience. Takeaways Chasing success without self-awareness can leave you feeling lost. Self-awareness helps define your own success, not just societal expectations. Success without self-awareness can lead to burnout and anxiety. Understanding yourself is foundational for sustainable success. Your self-worth should not be equated with your net worth. True happiness comes from within, not from material possessions. Reflecting on your journey is crucial for personal growth. Keywords self-awareness, success, financial success, mental health, personal growth, fulfillment, inner peace, emotional wellbeing, anxiety, life balance --- Follow Kayla for more inspiration: ⁠Instagram ⁠ ⁠Tik Tok⁠ Work and Collaborate with her ⁠HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*Trigger Warning" Infertility* In this episode, Kayla interviews Sarah Doner, a health and wellness coach with a nursing background, about her personal journey with infertility. Sarah's experiences with ectopic pregnancy, and the emotional and psychological impacts of her journey is what guides her passion today. The conversation dives into the struggles of trying to conceive, the challenges of unexplained infertility, and the importance of being in tune with one's body. Sarah shares insights on signs of infertility and the role of stress and hormonal health in the fertility journey. The discussion highlights the potential for personal growth through challenges and the importance of self-care and identity beyond motherhood. takeaways Mindfulness and self-care are crucial during fertility struggles. Many women experience unexplained infertility despite normal test results. Stress can significantly impact fertility and overall health. Support systems and open conversations about infertility are essential. Nutrition and lifestyle choices play a role in fertility health. Every infertility journey is unique, and hope is vital. The toxins in our environment can overwhelm our systems. Infertility can affect both partners differently. It's important to have open conversations about infertility. Women should not tie their identity solely to motherhood. Holistic approaches can be beneficial before considering IVF. keywords infertility, ectopic pregnancy, personal journey, health and wellness, women's health, mindfulness, emotional well-being, fertility struggles, unexplained infertility, hormonal balance, infertility, holistic healing, women's health, toxins, emotional support, male infertility, self-care, alternative medicine, personal growth, wellness -- Learn more and work with Sarah HERE Follow Sarah HERE Episode Reference: Krystel Clear Podcast -- This episode is sponsored by Tushbaby! Go to ⁠www.tushbaby.com⁠ and use code HABITS to get 20% OFF your first order! This episode is also sponsored by AquaTru Water Purifiers! Go to ⁠www.aquatru.com⁠ and use code HABITS for 20% OFF your order! -- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: ⁠@kaylafite⁠ ⁠@habitsyoulove⁠ ⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠ *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For anyone in a toxic relationship, trying to leave one, or healing from one... this episode will remind you that this experience was always meant to heal and reveal you, not hurt you. Take a listen <3 In This Bitesize HYL Episode... Kayla discusses the profound impact of toxic and narcissistic relationships on personal growth and self-discovery. Drawing from personal experiences, she emphasizes how these relationships can serve as catalysts for healing, revealing unhealed wounds, and awakening one's intuition. The conversation highlights the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing one's self-worth, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of love and personal empowerment. Takeaways Painful experiences often lead to self-discovery and healing. Setting boundaries is essential for self-worth. Intuition is a powerful guide in relationships. Healing from toxic relationships reveals your true self. The pain of a toxic relationship is not the end, but a beginning. You are not defined by your past relationships. Follow Kayla for more inspiration: Instagram Tik Tok Work and Collab with her HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You will lose some battles along the way.. but winning the war in your mind is a daily choice. Please share this with someone who needs to hear it! In this episode, Kayla shares a deeply personal story about losing her mother and discusses the importance of mental health awareness. She emphasizes the internal battles many face, particularly the influence of the inner critic, catastrophizing thoughts, and rumination. The conversation provides insights into how to combat these negative thought patterns and ultimately encouraging listeners to take control of their mental health and choose resilience. Takeaways Mental health struggles can affect anyone, regardless of their external circumstances. Acceptance of one's current situation is the first step to healing. Acknowledgment of personal responsibility can empower change. Building self-awareness is crucial for personal growth. Micro actions can lead to significant changes over time. You are not defined by your past; you can rewrite your story. keywords mental health, inner critic, depression, anxiety, self-awareness, coping strategies, personal growth, resilience, acceptance, mindfulness -- This episode is sponsored by Tushbaby! Go to www.tushbaby.com and use code HABITS to get 20% OFF your first order! This episode is also sponsored by AquaTru Water Purifiers! Go to www.aquatru.com and use code HABITS for 20% OFF your order! -- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: @kaylafite @habitsyoulove www.kaylafite.com *Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In This Bitesize HYL Episode... Kayla discusses the experience of reaching a plateau in life, where progress seems stagnant despite efforts. She shares three signs indicating that a breakthrough may be on the horizon. The conversation emphasizes the importance of faith and trust during these challenging times, encouraging listeners to remain hopeful and aligned with their true selves. Takeaways It's okay to feel stuck; you're not alone. Silence may not mean a no; it could be a calm before a breakthrough. Being stripped of things that no longer serve you is a sign of growth. Loss can be protection, preparing you for better things ahead. Surrendering control is essential for true faith to emerge. Restlessness can be a call to stillness and trust in the process. The quiet seasons are often divine preparation for what's to come. Don't give up; you're closer to your breakthrough than you think. Follow Kayla for more inspiration: Instagram Tik Tok Work and Collab with her HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hidden cost of perfectionism in relationships.. In this episode, Kayla goes deep into the often unnoticed impact of perfectionism on relationships. She shares personal experiences and insights on how perfectionism manifests in unrealistic expectations, emotional distance, and a fear of vulnerability. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the need to embrace imperfection to foster deeper connections and authentic love. Takeaways Perfectionism can create unrealistic standards in relationships. Fear of judgment often underlies perfectionist behavior. High expectations can lead to disappointment and resentment. Vulnerability is essential for deep emotional connections. Trying to fix partners can strain relationships. Perfectionism often stems from childhood experiences and societal pressures. Embracing imperfection allows for genuine love and connection. Keywords perfectionism, relationships, emotional distance, vulnerability, self-awareness, healing, unrealistic expectations, personal growth, intimacy, self-compassion Trigger Episode Referenced --- This episode is sponsored by Air Doctor Pro! Head to Www.AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HABITS to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, ALSO FREE! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: @kaylafite @habitsyoulove *Kayla is not a mental health professionals. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In This Bitesize HYL Episode... Kayla discusses the importance of forgiving parents who may not have had the emotional tools to support their children. She emphasizes that forgiveness is not about excusing past behavior but about freeing oneself from resentment. Kayla also shares personal experiences and insights on how to navigate the journey of forgiveness, highlighting the benefits of letting go of anger and the impact it can have on future generations. Takeaways Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from resentment. Parents can only give what they have emotionally. Letting go of resentment is for your own peace. Forgiveness can break generational cycles of dysfunction. Reparenting yourself is essential for healing. Compassion for parents can shift your perspective. Healing starts with personal responsibility. Keywords forgiveness, emotional healing, parental relationships, personal growth, self-compassion, generational cycles, emotional tools, resentment, healing journey, reparenting -- Follow Kayla for more inspiration: Instagram: @kayla.fite TIk Tok: @KaylaFite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In This Bitesize HYL Episode... Kayla emphasizes the critical importance of allowing children to be individuals. She shares personal experiences and insights on how fostering individuality can lead to greater confidence, emotional well-being, and a fulfilled life. The episode highlights the detrimental effects of suppressing a child's uniqueness and the long-term benefits of supporting their exploration and self-discovery. Takeaways Letting kids be individuals is crucial for their development. Suppressing individuality can lead to trauma and confusion later in life. Encouraging exploration builds confidence and self-worth. Children need the freedom to express themselves. Parents should support their child's interests, not dictate them. Fostering individuality strengthens emotional and mental well-being. Self-discovery is easier in childhood than in adulthood. Parents should let go of expectations for their child's path. The greatest gift is the freedom for children to be themselves. Follow Kayla for more inspiration: Instagram: @kayla.fite TIk Tok: @KaylaFite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is allll about starting now, starting messy. I know you will love this conversation! In this episode of 'Habits You Love', Kayla is joined by Lesley Logan, —a powerhouse in the fitness, coaching, and entrepreneurial space. She’s the founder of Profitable Pilates and Online Pilates Classes, the host of the Be It Till You See It podcast, and a world traveler leading fitness retreats. In this episode, we’re diving into the power of habits, the connection between mental health and movement, and how to build consistency in both fitness and life. Leslie shares her journey in building a successful Pilates business and emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and embracing the process of growth. They also explore effective strategies for forming habits that stick, highlighting the importance of kindness to oneself and celebrating small victories. takeaways Everyone has a unique purpose that should guide their habits. Boundaries are essential for maintaining focus and achieving goals. Self-doubt often prevents individuals from taking necessary actions. Understanding emotional rewards can help in replacing unwanted habits. Taking messy action is a key to overcoming perfectionism. Personal growth often involves recognizing what you don't want. Incorporating Pilates can enhance other fitness routines. Start small when forming new habits to avoid overwhelm. Celebrate every small victory to reinforce habit formation. Be kind to yourself during the habit-building process. Your fitness journey can evolve with your life changes. Embrace imperfection and focus on personal growth. keywords habits, self-identity, boundaries, self-doubt, emotional responses, messy action, Pilates business, personal growth, fitness coaching, entrepreneurial journey, Pilates, reformer, mat work, fitness, habits, personal growth, wellness, exercise, longevity, self-care Learn more about Lesley and her offers HERE Follow her HERE -- This episode is sponsored by Green Chef! Go to www.GreenChef.com/HabitsFree and use code HABITSFREE to get TWO months of FREE salads and 50% OFF! This episode is also sponsored by Air Doctor! Go to www.airdoctorpro.com and use code HABITS to get up to $384 OFF the BEST air purifier for your space! --- If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review! Let's Connect: @kaylafite @habitsyoulove *Kayla is not a mental health professionals. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research. This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices