Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Finally Start Doing Things for Ourselves? (S15 E3)

What if making 2026 “your year” didn’t require more effort, just clearer boundaries and kinder self-leadership?In this Christmas Eve episode, we explore how to protect the intentions you’ve set, why saying no is often the missing piece, and how to begin the new year gently rather than in a rush. You’ll also be guided through a short self-care ritual you can do on Christmas Day or in the quiet space between Christmas and New Year.If you’re ready to make 2026 feel more like you, this episode is your invitation to start softly.For more about Awaken Your Life and to get on the wait list: https://quietthehive.com/courses/awlTo join The Secret Society of Women Who Say No: https://quietthehive.com/product/the-secret-society/

This is your gentle invitation to begin again. In the penultimate episode of the series we pull the threads together, from boundaries to glimmers, and explore small, everyday “micro-awakenings” that help you step into a year that feels more like you. If you want to go deeper, the wait list for Awaken Your Life is open (next cohort early 2026).For more about Awaken Your Life and to get on the wait list: ⁠https://quietthehive.com/courses/awl⁠Read the 'Turning 50' edition of The Coaching Café: https://quietthehive.substack.com/p/the-one-birthday-ritual-im-keeping?r=335hz8Download the free guide to Your Guilt-Free Christmas: Create a 2026 based on joy and energy with The Retrospective

This week I’m joined by the deeply calming and quietly powerful Louise Rogers, a yoga and meditation teacher, whose presence alone is enough to make your shoulders drop.Louise has spent over three decades practising yoga, over a decade teaching it, and more recently deepening her work in meditation, nervous system regulation, and midlife emotional wellbeing. In this conversation, we explore what it means to really meet yourself, understand your emotions, and listen to the quiet inner nudges so many of us learn to ignore.Together we talk about:✨ The “speed bump” of midlife, and why so many women feel confused, exhausted or unsure✨ What happens when productivity stops being your identity✨ Why slowing down can feel confronting, and how to begin anyway✨ Reclaiming self-trust when you’ve spent years prioritising everyone else✨ Why anger often shows up in midlife (and what it might really mean)Louise also shares her beautifully honest story of discovering yoga in her twenties, her first silent meditation retreat in India, and how her practice has evolved as she’s grown, changed and (her words) “become more grown up”.If you’re in a season of rediscovering who you are, or you’re craving more grounding, compassion, and inner steadiness, this one will feel like a deep exhale.Books we mention:The Atlas of the Heart - Brené BrownSay What You Mean - Oren J SoferFind Louise:Website: https://www.louiserogersyoga.co.ukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/louiserogersyoga/Substack: https://louiserogers.substack.com/p/making-spaceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/LouiseRogersYoga/

Joy isn’t always about the big stuff, sometimes it’s the tiny ones that can make the biggest difference. This episode teaches a simple glimmer-spotting challenge to help you notice the small, nourishing moments that build resilience, joy and momentum. It also gives you the perfect reason to celebrate you (honestly - I'd SO love that!)To start your 2026 with glimmers, and build them in all along the way, join me for The Retrospective - https://quietthehive.com/product/the-retrospective-2025/Download your free guide to creating Your Guilt-Free Christmas here - https://quietthehive.myflodesk.com/guilt-free-christmasFor more about Awaken Your Life: https://quietthehive.com/courses/awlShare your glimmers with me on Instagram: @quiet_the_hive

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by two super women: Saffron Darby, textile designer, tailor and founder of Meet Make Mend, and Ali Clifford, creative mentor, sustainability champion and founder of incredibusy , and the genius behind the sustainably, UK-made Salvage Speed Loom.We talk about creativity as connection, the gentle power of hand-stitching, and how crafting alongside others opens up the most unexpected conversations. We also share the story of how my beloved learned to darn (and now carries around a mending kit), how my 13-year-old fixed his own pyjamas with a bright pink patch, and how I repaired a jumper knitted my mum made, and reclaimed the joy in having it back in my life.We get into:The beautiful serendipity of how Ali & Saffron first metThe rise of visible mending and why it mattersHow Meet Make Mend became a lifeline during lockdownWhy handiwork opens the door for deeper connectionSustainability, slow fashion and what repairing clothes teaches us about ourselvesIf you’ve ever wanted to mend something you love, or you crave more creative connection in your life, this episode will warm your heart.Find Ali: @incredibusy And for her upcoming workshop - 3rd December https://palava.co/products/mending-workshopFind Saffron: Brown in Town - https://brownintown.co.ukOn Instagram - @bumbleandbeetleAnd for a newly announced workshop in Cardiff on 15th February - https://www.bethmorrisworkshops.co.uk/guest-workshops-1/p/visiblemendingtheartofbrokenthingswithsaffrondarbyBooks and Instagram Accounts Recommended by Saffron & Ali:Celia Pym - https://celiapym.comLove Heartwood - https://www.loveheartwood.co.ukThe Art of Repair - Molly Martin - https://mollymartin.ukMending Life - Sonya and Nina Monenegro - @ThefarwoodsMarlen Meiners - @milli_and_the_beeThe Art of Knitwear Repair - Minttu Wikberg - @pawlymadeAlix Brinck - @alexandrabrinck

You can’t pour into a full cup. This week we practise letting go so you have space for what truly matters.Before you add one more intention, try releasing the things that aren’t yours to carry. In this episode we explore how letting go creates the space you need to welcome what matters, with a short exercise you can use this week. Bring your list along to The Retrospective on 16 December for some added inspiration!👉 For more about Awaken Your Life: https://quietthehive.com/courses/awl📱 Instagram: @quiet_the_hive

In this uplifting conversation, I chat with the wonderfully optimistic and creative Judy Andrews, (designer, writer, and self-belief mentor), about what it really means to believe in yourself.Judy shares how her creative journey began with post-it notes of positivity during early motherhood, and how that evolved into her design studio, Tickety Boo, her beautiful book Wonder Journey Joy, and her Self-Belief Project. Here we explore the connection between creativity and confidence, why self-belief is the foundation for everything, and how play, journaling, and vision boarding can help you reconnect with who you are.You’ll also hear how Judy’s personal manifesto became a grounding guide, and why writing your own might just be the most powerful thing you do this week.Links mentioned:Judy’s website & workshops: https://www.judyandrews.co.uk/⁠ and⁠https://www.ticketyboocreative.co.uk/⁠Wonder Journey Joy (book): https://www.judyandrews.co.uk/shop/p/wonderjourneyjoyFollow Judy on Instagram: @Judy_andrews_Connect with Judy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewsjudy/⁠Jane also mentions Naomi De Vries substack - https://naomidevries.substack.com

Are you on course for the life you actually want? This episode introduces a simple “compass check” to help you notice where you’re aligned, and where small adjustments could make a big difference. Perfect prep for The Retrospective in December.👉 For more about Awaken Your Life: https://quietthehive.com/courses/awl📱 Instagram: @quiet_the_hive

In this fascinating conversation, I’m joined by Laura Murphy, an Occupational Therapist and founder of The Sleep Shift, to explore something we all do — but rarely understand: sleep.Laura shares how her journey from psychology to occupational therapy led her to specialise in sleep, and why it’s so much more than “just rest.” We talk about the different stages of sleep, how each one affects our body and mind, and why good quality sleep underpins everything, from your mood and focus to your health and performance.We also dive into the deep stuff: how connection and creativity light Laura up, the importance of meaningful relationships (both personally and professionally), and how sleep changes through life, particularly in midlife and menopause.Whether you’re someone who struggles to sleep, wakes up at 3am every night, or just wants to feel more rested and resilient, this episode will leave you understanding why small shifts in your sleep can create big changes in your life.Find Laura:Laura Murphy, Occupational Therapist & Founder of The Sleep ShiftFollow Laura on Instagram: @the_sleep_shiftor contact with her on LinkedIn Connect:✨ Learn more about my work at www.quietthehive.com☕ Subscribe to The Coaching Café on Substack for weekly inspiration and reflection.

Why do we feel guilty when we finally start doing things for ourselves? This episode dives into the conditioning, beliefs, and quiet expectations that keep women stuck in guilt. You’ll learn how to spot when guilt is guiding your choices, and some simple, quick ways you can begin to break the cycle.Grab a ticket for Secret Society of Women Who Say No - https://quietthehive.com/product/the-secret-society/Missed it? Hop on the wait list To find out more about Awaken Your Life, head to quietthehive.com/courses/awl✨ Connect with me on Instagram @quiet_the_hive