388: 3 Weight Loss Myths Debunked with Laura Hinton

You Are Enough: Celebrating the Uniqueness of Motherhood Drawing from her personal journey as a mother, Tonya highlights moments of doubt, frustration, and guilt she has faced. Despite these challenges, she stresses the importance of recognizing and celebrating the love and effort that mothers put into raising their children. By acknowledging the sacrifices, hard work, and dedication that mothers invest in their children, they can begin to appreciate and love themselves more. The episode also addresses the common feelings of guilt experienced by mothers. Tonya suggests that instead of dwelling on guilt, mothers should embrace innocence - recognizing that their intentions are always rooted in love and care for their children. By letting go of guilt and accepting that they are doing their best, mothers can start showing themselves the same grace and understanding they offer to their children. Tune in for a touching tribute to the strength and beauty of motherhood. Talking Points: 02:26 The journey of motherhood. 05:17 Motherhood and astrology signs. 12:31 Guilt and Innocence as Options. 16:18 Your needs matter as a mom. 20:01 Embracing imperfection as a mom. Quotes: "This is the most hard and beautiful and awful and amazing journey any person could go on. That of being a mother." "Can I return her? Because right now, I don't like her." "I was a great mother. I decided that everything has happened the way it was supposed to." "Guilt is always an option. But do you know what else is an option? Innocence." "Your needs matter too." "There are times that I wish I could pack my bags and just move away. Yeah, I'd probably come back, but sometimes I fantasize about it. And that's okay." "You are enough. Really let that sink in. You are enough." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

Transforming Your Relationship with Food and Exercise: Insights from Laura Hinton Weight loss can be achieved by changing our eating habits and our relationship with food, rather than fixating on strict diets and clean eating. Laura Hinton shares her journey with Tonya Leigh of losing 50 pounds by shifting her mindset around food. She stressed that she didn't have to eat only "clean" or "good for you" foods to lose weight. Instead, she focused on consuming the same foods she had been eating but in moderation and with a fresh perspective. Laura's story underscores the importance of impartial evaluation and self-acceptance when it comes to food choices. She mentioned transitioning from self-judgment to self-love, which ultimately yielded more effective results in her weight loss journey. By approaching food with love and grace, she was able to make sustainable changes without feeling deprived or restricted. When individuals shift their focus from self-criticism to self-acceptance, they are more likely to make healthier choices, listen to their bodies, and approach weight loss from a place of empowerment rather than punishment. This shift in mindset can lead to enduring results and a more positive relationship with food, exercise, and self-image. The 3 Big Weight Loss Myths: Myth #1: Clean Eating for Weight Loss Myth #2: Exercise Intensity and Weight Loss Myth #3: Self-Criticism and Weight Loss Talking  Points: 00:51 Weight loss myths debunked. 05:44 Body image and weight struggles. 10:31 Society of immediate gratification. 14:47 Surprising lessons from weight loss. 17:43 Relationship with food changes. 26:05 Liberation from food obsession. 29:26 Debunking clean eating myth. 34:58 Exercise mindset and expectations. 38:35 Exercise as punishment mindset. 43:05 Self-love and weight loss. Quotes: "But the really pivotal moment was when I got engaged and that was 2008.  I suddenly had this fear and panic that I was going to be fat, quote unquote, for my wedding." "We want the quick fix now. We want to lose weight by the wedding. We want to lose weight by bikini season. And we have just set ourself up for this toxic cycle of white knuckling." "So 100%, the most surprising thing to me was that I'm in charge of the way that I feel." "Well, I think the biggest thing that changed for me in terms of my relationship with food is that food is no longer a source of comfort." "There aren't good or bad foods. There's just food." "In a way, it was like a dopamine hit. It was fun for the first day or two thinking about this new diet that may work." "You can still have pizza, but instead of eating half the pizza, we're gonna have two slices and see how that goes." "So many people, especially in the diet industry, they use exercise as a form of punishment." "Yeah, it makes me think of one of my favorite Abraham quotes where they say, there is no happy ending to an unhappy journey." Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/slim Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Unlocking Lasting Peace with Your Body Success should be judged beyond the scale and dress size. This episode emphasizes the importance of redefining how we measure success with our bodies. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh highlights that relying solely on the scale or dress size as indicators of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, she encourages listeners to shift their focus towards how they feel emotionally and physically. Tonya shares her personal journey of struggling with weight and body image issues, where she found herself trapped in a cycle of using external measurements to determine her worth. She explains that tying success to a number on the scale can lead to feelings of discouragement, fear, and obsession. By shifting the focus to how we feel each day and how our bodies feel, we can create a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to body success.  Join Tonya as she delves into finding beauty and joy in life, beyond the numbers on a scale. Talking Points: 02:25 Finding peace with your body. 10:18 - Rethinking Body Success Measurement 15:28 - Creating Intrinsic Body Success 18:10 - Embracing Imperfection and Gratitude 21:01 - Choosing Definitions of Body Success Quotes: "If you even look at the definition of the word slim, it's to rid of the excess, to slim down." "We have a limited amount of energy and how much of yours is going into obsessing, hating, resisting, trying so hard to lose weight?" "I have this belief that we're successful even when we fail, if we use those failures to grow us." "You'll never feel better when you've set up your world and your paradigm that you can only feel good if you look a certain way." "Wait, W-A-I-T, leads to wait, W-E-I-G-H-T. It's time to stop waiting to feel better." "You're not here to be perfect. You're here to enjoy your life, to enjoy your body, to learn and to grow."   Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/secret Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience. This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life. Talking Points: 00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth Quotes: "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things." "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option." "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?" "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling." "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are." "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves." "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward. Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.  Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives. Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention. Talking Points: 01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change  07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions Quotes: "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer." "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life." "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you." "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax." "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space 00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes 00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences 00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image 00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image 00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space Quotes: "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments." "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world." "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way." "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset. Talking Points: 03:02 Personal style transformation. 05:04 Choosing thoughts intentionally. 10:35 Upgrading your thoughts. 16:15 Couture thoughts. 20:45 Thoughts about myself. 22:11 Embracing Your Uniqueness. 29:44 Thoughts about money. 32:56 Money mindset transformation. 38:51 Life as a game. 42:59 Feeling bad cannot stop magic. 45:09 Thoughts on love and relationships. 48:46 The Royal Treatment. Quotes: "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries." "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters." "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for." "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon." "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources: The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL Join the membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth. Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment 00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect 00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care 00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care 00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy 00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature 00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom 00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop Quotes: "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?" "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities." "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you." "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins." "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources:     The Royal Treatment Workshop:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL     Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no: Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.  Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.  Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.  Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.  Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals. Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.   ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No   Quotes: "Innovation is saying no to a thousand things." "No is my new favorite word." "When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life." "I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am." "The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality." "I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying." "The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary." Useful Resources: The Guide to Saying No:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/power Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself.  Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are. By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life. ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:49 Delighting in yourself 06:52 Prioritize self-care 09:35 Making time for joyful activities 15:31 Being your own best friend 20:14 Quality alone time 21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself Quotes:  "My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace." “A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.” "You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself."  "What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader." "You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself." "There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is." Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh