How to Challenge Your Need for Control

Hi! My name is ________ and I'm a control freak. Have you ever experienced discomfort when things don’t go as planned? This emotional discomfort (anger, frustration, or annoyance to name a few) can sometimes be traced back to a desire for control. Listen in to this episode where Fem Collective gets honest about why they like control and how we could all benefit from challenging our perceived need to control situations.

Hear Mai lead Katie and Stacy in a conversation about the benefits of showing a healthy range of emotions in front of their children. Learn a little about the theory behind nurturing your childrens’ developing mind, as described in the book The Whole Brain Child. The girls talk specific strategies on how they’ve encouraged their children to have and feel emotions. This conversation is also punctuated with important discussions on why black and other marginalized communities have had more challenging considerations that may have caused a delay in focusing on emotional-centered parenting.

Hear the girls talk about their journeys and experiences with therapy, how each of them experienced acceptance or hesitancy of therapy growing up, and how a natural fear of judgment is healthy and normal. Katie spends some time talking about EMDR, while Stacy dives deeper into misconceptions about therapy. https://www.betterhelp.com Www.Psychologytoday.com www.Teladoc.com https://www.emdria.org

The second you hear the word Uvalde, a slew of strong and complex emotions rush in. For us, this mass shooting hit harder as all 3 of us are Mothers of young children. Each of us share individually how this event has and is currently impacting us. We wanted to provide the space to unpack and process what we are navigating mentally. We also discuss where we each are going to individually start to reconcile these challenging feelings, and potentially how we can impact the state of our country in a positive way. Thank you for listening and sharing this vulnerable and hard conversation with us.

Listen to the QUEEN of points and miles herself, Nancy Rachatanavin, talk about the benefits and challenges of getting in to the “points game.” In the personal finance space, you may have also heard this referred to as travel hacking. Nancy gives great advice on how to carefully begin a strategy for earning points and miles that will help offset your future travel costs. She’s traveled the world for more than a decade, using very little of her own money for flight and hotel costs. The number one rule? Make sure you pay you credit card balance off in full. Every. Single. Month. www.thepointsguy.com www.boardingarea.com

You’ve probably heard comparison is the thief of joy, because it truly is! On this episode we discuss specifically how we have compared ourselves to other moms and how that can create a sense of failure. Social media can also exacerbate this comparison dilemma even further if we aren’t intentional around our thinking when it comes to others. (Check out last week’s Social Media Episode if you haven’t already!) Your journey is unique and you bring your own gifts, talents and style to whatever it is that is on your life journey. Shine bright just the way you are and find the beauty in the unique approach you have to life. Enjoy! https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0732118X9500002X Podcaster: Who Told You That?  The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This one almost wasn’t published! Katie, Stacy, and Mai have different views on the harm and benefits of social media and how to deal with them. Using the Netflix documentary, The Social Dilemma, as the back drop, Fem Collective talks about advantages and pitfalls of social media, how to check yourself and your motivation as you move through platforms, and what’s being done more broadly to limit the negative impacts of social media on the broader culture. Center for Humane Technology: https://www.humanetech.com

One of Katie’s most cherished mentors, Dixie Claybrook, shares her insights around leading with compassion, managing the whole person, struggling and then accepting leading with her heart, why compassion makes the hard stuff easier, and why compassion is a learned skill.

Navigating a career while trying to be the best Mama you can comes with lots of challenges, but nothing you can’t handle with a little intentionality, support and grace. We share our perspectives on what’s been the hardest aspects of this balance and what we have done and are doing to manage everything on our plates. We discuss setting boundaries between work and parenting, how to approach stress and anxiety, and what’s personally worked well for us. Enjoy!  Article on Facing Anxiety head on: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-another-name-pain/202002/embracing-anxiety-the-ring-fire?amp Connect with our facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/843232663068355 Connect with us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/femcollectivepodcast

Fem Collective decided to start Season 2 discussing the Great Resignation since women are leading the charge. They discuss statistics and some reasons for the Great Resignation. The ladies address why they have chosen to stay in their place of work and share a few tips on how to survive this time and what they're choosing to do to encourage/empower those around them.  Who is Driving the Great Resignation? Number of People Quitting their Jobs Surviving the Great Resignation by Cindy Solomon