Friendship Breakups vs Relationship Breakups with Michelle Elman

This week, Reed sits down with the brilliant Michelle Elman — life coach, author, and unapologetic boundary queen. From dating without shame to grieving the loss of friendships, Michelle is here to challenge the stories we’ve been sold about love, loyalty, and letting go. We dive into her books The Selfish Romantic and Bad Friend, exploring why demanding more in dating is actually powerful, and why friendship breakups cut just as deep (if not deeper) than romantic ones. Michelle unpacks how ghosting erodes trust, why women are trained to soften their needs, and what it really takes to communicate with honesty (even when it hurts). Expect raw stories (including TV dates and friendship “mass exoduses”), laughter through the pain, and practical advice for anyone wondering: how do you heal when the person who knew you best walks away? Curious f**kers, whether you’re redefining dating, nursing a friendship heartbreak, or just craving real talk on boundaries and self-worth, this episode is going to crack you open. Follow Get to know Michelle onine @michelleelman and get to know about her books here Follow us @comecurious Follow Reed @reedamberx Produced by @bxsassy2 Rate & Review If you’ve ever felt seen, soothed, or shaken by our convos — drop us a five star, babe. Want more? Catch the full episode, behind-the-scenes extras, and support the pod on Patreon: 👉 https://www.patreon.com/comecurious Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all seen them - the porn-star-perfect O-face, the silent shudder, the dramatic gasp. But babe… is your cum face the real deal, or a total performance? This week, Florence and Reed and Florence are lifting the sheets on orgasm expressions: the ones we make, the ones we fake, and what they really say about our sex lives. We’re swapping our own cringe and glorious cum face confessions, asking why some of us go full Hollywood while others barely twitch, and digging into how porn, partners, and pressure can shape the way we “perform” pleasure. Plus: we look at why authenticity feels so vulnerable in bed and tips for unlearning performative habits so you can cum how you actually want to. Whether you’re a silent cummer, a moaner, a mascara-running-thriller-queen, or still faking it ‘til you make it - this one’s for you, curious f**kers. ERIKA LUST DISCOUNT CODE: Erika Lust creates original, cinematic adult films celebrating sexuality and championing a sex-positive world. You can explore their wide range of categories and genres, including extra goodies for kink enthusiasts. Get 45% off at ⁠erikalust.com⁠ with code COME45 Don’t miss the chance to own your pleasure - visit ⁠Erikalust.com⁠ Rate & Review If we’ve ever made you giggle mid-wank or rethink your O-face in the mirror — smash that five star, baby. Want more? Watch the full episode, get behind-the-scenes goodies, and support the podcast on Patreon: patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram: @comecurious and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence @florencebark Follow Reed @reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Florence is joined by the ultimate love duo — Asa and David, relationship coaches, partners, and parents, who are keeping it raw, real, and ultra practical when it comes to long-term love. From mismatched libidos to conflict spirals, morning routines to raising a baby, they’re spilling the kind of advice that makes you go, “Oof… why didn’t anyone tell me this sooner?” We dive into how to fight fair (without the silent treatment or full-blown meltdowns), why honesty only works if you can handle hearing the uncomfortable stuff, and how to bring back intimacy when Netflix and exhaustion have taken over your evenings. Asa and David share their own story too — from a suitcase that turned into six months of living together, to a move abroad, to parenthood — and how they built a foundation that can hold both deep healing and wild love. Expect laughter, vulnerability, and so many “aha” moments as we ask: what does it really take to keep desire, connection, and teamwork alive once the honeymoon fades? Curious f**kers, if you’ve ever thought “are we normal?” when it comes to fights, mismatched sex drives, or parenting stress — this episode is your permission slip to breathe, laugh, and know you’re not alone. ASA's Links: IG @coachwithasa The Boundary Blueprint - Asa Baav (free download): www.asabaav.com/the-boundary-blueprint/ Unapologetic 2025 - Asa Baav: www.asabaav.com/unapologetic-2025/ DAVID'S Links:  YT ⁨@TheAuthenticMan⁩  IG @theauthenticman_ Breaking The Chains of Avoidance: www.theauthenticman.net/btca-sep-2025 FREE GIFT Why You Keep Pulling Away (Even When You Don’t Want To): ⁠www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page⁠ To watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast join our Patreon! Follow us on Instagram @comecurious and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence @florencebark Follow Reed @reedamberx Produced by @_thesassyshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Florence and Reed are joined by the powerhouse that is Sangeeta Pillai — creator of the award-winning Masala Podcast, author of her new book Bad Daughter and unapologetic queen of smashing South Asian taboos. From sex and shame to pleasure and power, we’re diving into the cultural scripts that shape us — and how to rip them up (with love, sass, and maybe a vibrator or two). Sangeeta shares her journey growing up in a world of silence around sex, discovering her own voice, and now amplifying thousands of others through fearless conversations. We’re talking generational trauma, reclaiming pleasure, and why breaking taboos isn’t just radical — it’s healing. Expect laughter, honesty, and more than a few “oh sh*t” moments as we ask: how do you rewrite the rules when your culture says “don’t even talk about it”? Curious f**kers, whether you’ve battled shame yourself or just want inspo to live louder, this one’s going to hit deep. Rate & Review If we’ve ever made you laugh, squirm, or rethink your cultural hang-ups — smash that five star, baby. Want more? Watch the full episode, get behind-the-scenes goodies, and support the podcast on Patreon: 👉 https://www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow Florence: @florencebark Follow Reed: @reedamberx Follow Sangeeta: @soulsutras About Bad Daughter: https://baddaughter.co.uk/ About Masala Podcast: https://www.soulsutras.co.uk/about-masala-podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras?igsh=ZGpkNXVhZjhucGpq Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you trade “the one” for the many? This week, Reed is joined by sex educator, writer, and all-round babe Alice Lovegood to unpack the messy, magical, and oh-so-human shift from monogamy to polyamory. We’re talking first steps, jealousy wobbles, compersion (yep, that’s a thing), and the realities behind the fantasy of “having it all.” Alice opens up about their own journey - from monogamous beginnings to thriving in poly love - with all the juicy highs and awkward lows along the way. Expect real talk on navigating boundaries, building trust, and finding freedom in choosing a relationship style that actually fits. Whether you’re poly-curious, monogam-ish, or still side-eyeing anyone who has more than one toothbrush in their bathroom, this one’s for you, curious f**kers. Rate & ReviewIf we’ve ever made you laugh, squirm, or rethink your relationship labels — smash that five star, baby.Want more? Watch the full episode, get behind-the-scenes goodies, and support the podcast on Patreon:👉 www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram: @comecurious - slide into our DMs with questions, stories & voice notes! Follow Reed: @reedamberx Follow Alice: @bettersx.blog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Green-eyed monster? Babe, we’ve been there and this week, Florence and Reed are dragging jealousy out of the shadows and into the daylight. From obsessively stalking your ex’s new boo to side-eyeing your partner’s “just a friend,” we’re spilling our rawest confessions, messiest moments, and the tips that actually help you stop spiralling. We’re talking envy vs jealousy, ex etiquette, and why sometimes (don’t lie) you like it when your partner gets a bit possessive. Plus, how to handle friends who trigger you, why boundaries are inward not outward, and the little tricks that stop obsessive thoughts in their tracks. This isn’t just “don’t be jealous” nonsense - it’s honest, unfiltered, and yes, a bit unhinged. Whether you’re in a monogamous bubble, navigating non-monogamy, or still creeping your ex’s sister’s Instagram… this one’s for you, curious f**kers. Rate & Review If we’ve ever made you laugh, cry, or rethink texting your ex at 2am - smash that five star, baby. Want more? Watch the full episode, get behind-the-scenes goodies, and support the podcast on Patreon: 👉 https://www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram @comecurious - slide into our DMs with questions, stories & voice notes! Follow Florence: @florencebark Follow Reed: @reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about… PARENTING & PORN. What happens when your career is in porn — and you’re planning for parenthood? Florence is flying solo this week and sitting down with legendary erotic filmmaker Erika Lust for a juicy, no-holds-barred convo on raising kids in a world obsessed with sex but terrified of sexuality. From fighting censorship and dismantling shame to the nitty-gritty of how to actually talk to your kids about porn, we’re going deep into the messy, meaningful overlaps between pleasure, politics, and parenting. Erika shares her wisdom from 20+ years in the industry, why tech bros keep banning her, and how to raise informed, empowered (and media-literate) young people without freaking out over their screen time. Plus: ✨ Sex education that doesn’t suck ✨ Parenting through the porn panic ✨ Why pleasure is power — and why your kids need to hear that too Whether you're a parent, a porn-lover, or just a curious fker wondering how to raise a less fked-up generation, this one’s for you. Rate & Review If we’ve ever made you laugh, squirm, or rethink your browser history — smash that five star, baby. Support the podcast + watch full episodes on Patreon: 👉 www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram @comecurious @florencebark Podcast Produced by @bxsassy2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about… SUBMISSIVE MEN. 😈 Florence and Reed are joined by the magnetic dominatrix, performer, and kink educator Saint Arson (aka Arson Leigh) to dive deep into a topic that’s still drenched in stigma: male submission. From the myths of masculinity to the power of being ass-up and emotionally available, this juicy episode unpacks what it means to be a submissive man - and why that might just be the sexiest kind of rebellion. They cover everything from how patriarchy has f*cked up our ideas of dominance, to how to approach your dom with actual respect, to the shame (and secret pleasure) many men carry when exploring submission. Plus: latex fetishes, bratting, massage seduction, and why being a good sub is more than just calling someone “mommy” (spoiler: don’t call her that). Whether you’re a domme-in-training, a submissive king in the making, or just curious about kink dynamics—this one’s for you, curious f**kers. 🎙️ Support Come Curious Keep us thriving, vibing, and kink-positive at patreon.com/comecurious ⭐ Rate & Review Feel seen? Feel empowered? Give us that 5-star, baby. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Florence and Reed get curious about how our social wiring plays into horniness, hookups, and sexual satisfaction. From voice notes and sex parties to social burnout and sober raving, they’re unpacking how your being an introvert or an extrovert might just be linked to your sex life, libido, dating style - and yes, even how much you orgasm. Is being an extrovert the secret to better sex? Do introverts make better long-term lovers? And what the hell is an ambivert anyway? We’ve got juicy studies, spicy confessions, and a whole load of personal stories to break it all down. Whether you're the life of the party or a proud homebody, this one’s for anyone who’s ever wondered: is it just me, or is everyone else cumming more? Curious f**kers, let’s get into it. Rate & Review If we’ve ever made you cum, cry, or contemplate deleting Hinge — hit us with that five star, babes. 🎥 Want more? Watch our LIVE Q and A's, get bonus content, and support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/comecurious 📲 Follow us on Instagram @comecurious @florencebark @reedamberx DM us your stories, questions, and voicenotes! Produced by Bethany Burgoyne @bxsassy2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about… BREAKUPS. Heartbreak, codependency, situationships, spirals - Florence is coming to you solo this week and sitting down with her incredible friend, author, and podcast queen Kelsey Darragh (Confidently Insecure) to unpack the brutal, beautiful chaos of breakups. From sobbing through situationships to sexually addictive rebounds and emotional rock bottoms, Kelsey shares the raw reality of what happens when love crashes and burns - and how she turned her own heartbreak into a science-backed, self-loving healing journey. They dive deep into co-dependency, the power of narrative, breakup bootcamps, why we chase emotional chaos, and how to stop choosing partners who can’t (or won’t) show up. Plus, there’s chat about fertility, freezing eggs, terminating pregnancies, and the surprising turns life takes after healing heartbreak. This is one for anyone who’s ever been dumped, devastated, or just trying to piece themselves back together. Whether you're fresh out of a situationship or still haunted by a breakup from years ago — this one's for you, curious f**kers. Support Come Curious Keep us thriving, vibing, and healing in public at patreon.com/comecurious Rate & Review If we’ve helped you feel less alone in your mess — hit that 5 star, baby. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices