Why BDSM and D/S Goes Wrong So Often

In this episode, I discuss the most controversial topic in kink (I think).  The mixing (or not) of kink and sex.  What I think both sides get wrong.  What I believe the origin of this argument is and what I think we can do to live and let live with both sides!

Today I talk about what attracted me to sadism.  The origins of it for me.  As well as how I think sadists try to develop a mystique around them that often fails. 

Getting started in Rope bondage and shibari was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life.  In this episode I talk about how to get started, and the equipment needed.  Why suspension should never be a goal.  Also, consent and why sex and rope can be a problem for both sides.  Check out my book The Beginner’s Guide to Rope Bondage, which can be found on Amazon here:  https://www.amazon.com/Beginners-Guide-Rope-Bondage/dp/B088GJFNCW

Primal is one of those play styles that does not lend itself to words easily.  I try to give it words in this episode.  What it is.  How to bring it to life.  Play styles.  What makes it special. And all about it.  Check out my book called “Your Inner Primal” which can be found on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Inner-Primal-Unleashing-Animal-ebook/dp/B07R7RW1J9

No matter what you do, if you play with BDSM and especially D/s, things will go wrong.  I equate these extras in relationships to be “relationships on hard mode”.  I talk about some of the reasons why they go wrong and what to do about them. 

The concept of fake vs. real is way overused.  I have my problems with many ways that people do things and call it something its not.  But in this episode I talk about how its more a matter of matching than just painting everyone else as fake. 

DD//g goes through cycles of stigmatized and then popular.  I talk about why that is and how DD/LG doesn’t deserve that stigma at all. 

There is a common pitfall if you are in D/s and polyamorous to try and combine the two.  In this episode I talk about why that is a huge problem and how that trap is tempting but never leads to good things.  Also a little about how I found out I was polyamorous and the start of that for me and my partner.

In this episode, I talk about why D/s is kink but kink IS NOT necessarily D/s.  There are so many people who think they are required to be Dominants in the greater kink community, yet show no signs or ability to be what they claim.  So today we talk about why I believe that is an issue and my thoughts on accurate representation of one’s self. RopeTigerDaddy

In this episode, I discuss a recent writing I did called “My Laws of Negotiation”.  I talk about how consent and negotiation have become so basically defined in kink communities that no one really thinks about what it means and why we no longer talk about how to do it in a practical sense. This episode is about making it practical again.RopeTigerDaddy