Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | 19

>> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" << REGISTER HERE Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken? In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off. We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections. If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have. == TIME STAMPS 04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal 06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos? 13:58 Stay curious 17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy? 23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner 24:39 Domination fantasy 27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us 30:03 Slutty and proud 31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy 33:29 Rape play fantasy 36:26 Sex in public fantasy 36:58 Threesome fantasy 37:22 Dirty talking fantasy 38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations == Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:   >> Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify   For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

>> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" << REGISTER HERE Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One". In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour. Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves. In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change. == TIME STAMPS 04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected 08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships 12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection? 13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved 16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work 19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship 19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You 22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole 23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle 24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day == Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Apply to join our next retreat with Puja: https://www.pujalepp.com/     Join Chiara's next live workshop "Finally share your secret fantasies without shame or fear"    

>> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships. Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections. If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you. == TIME STAMPS 01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship? 02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship 06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First 07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks? 11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy? 18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers 21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious? 25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room? 29:23 It's All About Boundaries 29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You? == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Send us your questions here == Deeper Lovers on the web: www.deeperlovers.com   Next FREE LIVE workshop on sharing secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

Secret Fantasies FREE LIVE workshop ALERT! Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy? In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you. They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker. They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory. For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage. Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy? 03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it 04:09 Is your relationship ready for this? 07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them 09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner 11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely 17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after 19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps? 23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle 26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on 30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you? 33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier 35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics 37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment 44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple? 46:56 The biggest mistake couples make == If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies: >> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship   >> Join Chiara's free live online workshop "How to share your fantasies without fear": register here == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com

>> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections. From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical. They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence. You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure. Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.   TIME STAMPS  00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working? 00:48 Let's Talk About Erections 02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You 03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking" 05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra? 08:40 More Pressure On The Man 09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind 11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20) 12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance 15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings? 16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings 18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem 19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room 20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations 21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard" 21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys 22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...? 23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido 24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation 24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit! 25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation 26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure 26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity 27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice! 28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage? 30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse 32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe 34:19 Become A Better Lover 36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick! == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com == YOUR GOODIES: >> Get 20% off your Mojo membership – forever – using our discount code: DEEPERSEX20 | Sign up for the Mojo App   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”   >>Next FREE LIVE workshop on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

>> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" << REGISTER HERE This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms. Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is: Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women? And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa? Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women. Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.   TIME STAMPS 01:00 Let's talk about orgasms 01:22 How many types of orgasms are there? 04:34 Female orgasms 07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy 08:17 Leave the clit alone! 09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you 11:33 What are you doing to me? 13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience 17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other 18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next 21:22 Best practices for men 21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice 22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms 25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed 26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life 26:37 What is our primal need? 28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure 29:37 The secret club of pleasure 32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack 33:21 The 21 days challenge 34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction 35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her 37:11 If you are her 37:28 If you are him 37:51 How you can better communicate your needs 40:14 I feel pain during intercourse 42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap) 42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit 42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm) 42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge 43:21 4. Drop the blaming == Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman == The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra == Free guide download: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == Send us your questions here

Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender. They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease. In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together. == TIME STAMPS 00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2 01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships 02:31 What Women Blame Men For 03:38 What Men Blame Women For 06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless 10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits? 13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple 15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity? 17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy 24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner 25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side 28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe 32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today? 36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive" 38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender) 43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper? 43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two 43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner 44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid 45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief 45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For? 46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner 46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions == Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” == Next FREE LIVE workshop on sharing secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

FREE LIVE workshop on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT Guess what! We’ve been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you! We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo.  We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow.  What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. If this is calling you, join our next workshop. == Meanwhile, don’t miss:   >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)   >> Catch up on these episodes   13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.   6: There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify   5: From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it (via ENM and sex positive spaces) Learn more about the hosts’ conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify == Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == TIME STAMPS 01:54 You Helped Us Grow 03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2 04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth 05:25 A Surprise For You 07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner 08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2 www.deeperlovers.com

Next FREE LIVE workshop on sharing secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.  They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it!  They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else. On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting. The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out! Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons. == To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify. And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) == To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify == TIME STAMPS 01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach 02:26 Download Our Free Guide 03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships 06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has 09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching 14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy 18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too 21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making 22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us 24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra 25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality 25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help? 26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane 34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image 40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear ==  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel? Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear? While reflecting on our peculiar summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom. There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body. If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived. !! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !! == TIME STAMPS 1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love 03:04 A Music Festival As An Open Love Experience 03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom 07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked 08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident 09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them 13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open 15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger 18:22 Yo Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love 19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE GUIDE FOR DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Recommended book: “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you - thanks in advance for your support!) == Deeper Lovers on the web: www.deeperlovers.com   >> Register for Chiara's FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" (limited spots available)