HOW TO GET UNSTUCK with DANIEL MATÉ: RE-RELEASE

You have one job in life. ONE. So why is life so overwhelming? Well, there is a way to stop that. You need to decide to stop being overwhelmed. Easier said than done, I know - especially as a professional Overwhelmy McOverwhelmerton. Look, I’m in this with you. Right now. And I’ve really been working on it and have learned something key I want to share with you. So, today, you will find out that one job you have in life. Our goal? To make you feel whelmed. Well, you don’t want to be underwhelmed! You definitely don’t want to be overwhelmed. So let’s work at being just … whelmed. And maybe next episode we’ll work on my vocabulary. IN EPISODE 35 YOU WILL LEARN:• Your one job in life.• The physical and emotional side effects of being overwhelmed.• How to stop feeling overwhelmed.• Why risk-taking is essential to your happiness.• You are not alone.You are loved.~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this.Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

As I sit here in the final throes of editing my upcoming book, I’m worried what you’ll think if I don’t give you another podcast this week. That’s when I thought this is the perfect episode to re-release … Why do other people’s opinions about you matter so much to you? Or, well, to us? (Because you’re not the only one.) Why do we need to define our self-image through others people’s eyes? Someone says you have a big nose, and suddenly, “I have a big nose.” Someone calls you stupid, and suddenly, “I’m stupid.”You’ve lived with yourself your entire life. Shouldn’t you know who you are? Why do you let others define you?This stops, today.In this episode, you will learn the three science-backed reasons why other people’s opinions about you seem to matter so much. And you will get three tools to disarm these opinionated weapons people toss at you. (Don’t worry, NONE of these tools say, “Just stop caring about what others say.”)Have you ever heard that Aristotle quote, “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” You can do that. It will keep you safe. Maybe. But, if you do, I’ll give you the for-sure part right now …If you don’t know who you are - here are two guarantees: 1. Someone’s gonna tell ya.And,2. That won’t be who you are or what you want to be.IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:• 3 science-backed reasons why you put so much value into what other people say.• 3 ways to change that.• Why you should NOT develop a thick skin - and how to protect yourself instead.• The important difference between self-esteem and self-worth.• How to understand your cognitive distortions (faulty wiring).• At least a couple of embarrassing (or embraceable) stories about me.• You are not the only one. And if you feel like you don’t fit in, remember this: Maybe that’s because you’re not meant to fit in. You’re meant to stand out! You are loved.Back next week!~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this.Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

Don’t think. If you’re hesitating to text - text. If you’re hesitating to call - call. If you’re hesitating to take that leap of faith - leap. Nope. That’s not how to trick yourself into succeeding - (for the science-based explanation to that, simply listen to this episode). That’s just how all of those wildly, wealthy people, who are successful by whatever stereotypical standards of success we measure become successful. Successful people have one stand-out commonality: they act. They do it. They do not bend over backwards for others to please them. They please their desires. They turn their desire into action. What’s more, it’s not about how well they do something. They simply do it. You don’t need skill. You need action.So, while today you will learn the science behind success (and failure), you will also learn a personal story of mine - because I’m going through all of this with you …IN EPISODE 34 YOU WILL LEARN:• The science behind success and failure.• Why pleasing people is holding you back.• When you’re most likely to give up and how to avoid that.• What is exposure and how can it help you succeed?• You are not alone.You are loved.~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this.Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

We’ve had so many new people join our community here, so I thought this would be a good time to revisit one of the most-listened to episodes from this podcast.Do you feel stuck? Well, then you are meant to be here. And my two-part conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté was meant to bring us to this place …Now, the last question I asked Gabor was: “What’s your biggest failure?” And he told me that his greatest failure in life was himself as a parent. (By the by, many parents would probably say the same of themselves.) So I had to ask his son Daniel to talk about that. Give his perspective.And, boy did he give it - and a whole lot more.Daniel shares his personal stories, growth, and gives insight into the father-son best-seller, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture. The result is an enlightening conversation about childhood trauma, narcissists, dealing with rifts in parent-adult-child relationships and sibling relationships …And - really - all of this comes down to - getting stuck - AND unstuck - in life.We also talk about Daniel’s work as a mental chiropractor - who helps people get unstuck, and the genesis of the two Matés’ HELLO AGAIN PROJECT, which offers a fresh start for parents and their adult children.IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN• How childhood trauma could get you stuck as an adult. Daniel and I share some deeply personal examples. (NOTE: Gabor, Daniel really loves you! And, papa, I really love you!)• Where to start when you want to get unstuck.• Your superpowers are born of a wound.• Why you’re probably looking in the wrong place to fix - or deal with - that rift with your parent or sibling.• Where to look to heal that family relationship - or to move forward.• What to do when a family member has an addiction.• You are not the only one. Also, please make sure you subscribe and follow along with our journey on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. I just want to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well.You are loved.~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this.Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

On this International Holocaust Remembrance Day, I wish you joy. But how can I begin this day by wishing JOY?Because I can begin this day.Because my grandparents survived the Holocaust - without which I wouldn't be here.Because my grandparents survived the Holocaust by finding any bits of joy they could to keep going.Yes, my grandmother and grandfather were Holocaust survivors. But I still lost them to it. Their minds were casualties well after their bodies continued. Then, as a very young child, each of them passed within months of each other. I never had the chance to speak to them about it, so I’ve been on a quest to speak to as many survivors as possible. Especially now that so few remain. But imagine being able to share your experience - vividly - with your photographic memory. Today, you’ll meet a survivor who can: Pinchas Gutter - a Holocaust survivor of 6 concentration camps.What grips my heart even more is how Pinchas chooses to continuously relive his trauma - including in a virtual reality exhibit, where he entered the very gas chamber in which his twin sister and parents were barbarically taken. Why? He tells me he does this in hopes that it will help stop the spread of hate and prevent horrors for others.It is a privilege to have Pinchas share his story with us … What’s more, he shares the secret of his survival. Hopefully, it will help you, too.This episode is dedicated this show to my Bubby Rose and Zaidie Sander.It’s because of them I could do it.They were strong enough to survive the Holocaust. You're strong enough to learn about it.Never forget. Never again.~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this.Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

Whether or not you battle depression, this super quick episode will be the most important thing you hear today.You’re about to discover the 6 Truths About Depression that people don’t talk about. And one of them proves how depression is a sign of strength. I have never seen this many people struggling this much. And I’m afraid. Afraid because I’ve lost too many people - and afraid because I don’t want to lose anymore. Not even a stranger. So what you’re about to hear is coming at you from the observation, from experience, and straight from the heart …IN EPISODE 32 YOU WILL LEARN:• The 6 truths about depression that science doesn’t talk about. • Why depression seems unending.• How to battle through depression if you’re in out - and what to do if someone you love is fighting that battle.• You are not alone.You are loved.~ dahlia xoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDon’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Dahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat!DAHLIA is powered by you. There’s no media machine funding this. To support these podcasts, posts, and videos, please choose a paid subscription. Or you can just keep offering that support to big media corporations. Either or! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

You are not disordered. According to Dr. Jessica Taylor, you are likely one of the millions of people who have been abused and traumatized only to be diagnosed as mentally disordered. But, Dr. Jess says, these so-called disorders? They are actually completely normal reactions to the disordered situations you’ve had to endure.Dr. Jess is a chartered psychologist with a PhD in forensic psychology - and she is turning the idea of mental illness on its head.As she’ll explain, trauma needs to be validated and seen for what it is - without having a mental illness diagnosis attached to it.So get ready, because everything you've been told about mental illness is about to be blown up.And just wait ‘til you hear what she says about medicating “so-called” disorders.Oh - and if you're into attachment theory, she turns that on its head too. Dr. Jess has helped thousands of people through her work and as director of VictimFocus. But more than that, she is proof of the power of one. If you’re not in the United Kingdom, maybe you haven’t heard of her - yet. But the world will … soon.And just wait ‘til you find out how the adversity she’s overcome, including the visceral hate - from thousands, which actually ignited her career. And now the bestselling author behind “Sexy But Psycho” and “Why Women Are Blamed For Everything” is also part of shows on Discovery and Netflix. But it’s her mission that will hopefully change yours - and the way you see yourself and others. So get ready to share this episode with everyone you know because there is no way you can keep groundbreaking information like this to yourself. But first, come on in and join Dr. Jess and me as we dig straight into her life, and yours - as it were. And learn about the power of one with what she's done. And the power you have.Because as she'll tell you, there's nothing wrong with you …IN EPISODE 31 YOU WILL LEARN:• Why at any one time if you're distressed you could be diagnosed with at least 14 psychiatric disorders.• The confusion between mental illness and trauma • How to become trauma-informed.• The relationship between validation and self-diagnosis.• The 3 myths we believe when it comes to mental illness.• Why Dr. Jess wants a medication-free 2023 and how that can happen• How attachment theory has been misused, twisted, and dumbed-down.• What to do if you feel lonely and depressed and think you’re helpless.• Oh, and the rat experiment I mention (but forgot its name) that explains addiction? It’s called The Radical Addiction Experiment.• You are not alone.The full video conversation of my chat with Dr. Jess will be coming soon to my YouTube Channel. Also coming soon to my YouTube Channel, the full video conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it! (The audio of that conversation can still be found in the podcast archives: Dr. Gabor Maté - Part 1 and Part 2.)Don’t forget to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. You won’t want to miss future episodes and incredible guests like Dr. Jess!~ LoveDahliaxoLINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speakerDahlia delivers compelling messages and incites positive intrapersonal shifts – in leadership, inspiration, and activism. Her mission is to help you shine brightly and use your light to help others shine as well. If you are interested in booking her to speak at your event, customized keynotes, or multi-date series on the topics of Change, Motivation, Leadership, Confidence, Women and Business, Management, and Influence – let’s chat! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

Why are we hoarding kindness? Especially when kindness brings you luck. Yes, there’s a science to kindness - and very small acts of it can bring you luck. And today, I will prove this to you.PART 1 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉYou see, luck doesn’t really come from manifestation, it comes from appreciation and gratitude … to others.While this may seem like a rudimentary lesson, think about how much you don’t think about giving away your kindness.You know that sweet-as-pie cashier at the grocery store who always greets you with a smile? Did you give them a commendation? You know that customer service worker who went out of their way to give you a better experience? Did you give them a commendation? But you don’t have time, right? Well, what about that video you watched online that made you laugh or made you think or made you feel something at a time when it’s been hard to feel … Did you give that person a commendation - with a like? A like that takes less than a nanosecond to give.PART 2 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉWHY ARE YOU HOARDING YOUR KINDNESS? WHY ARE WE HOARDING KINDNESS?So here’s the plan for this episode: I will share a real-life, real-time, successful experiment I did on kindness - a decade-long experiment. But I won’t just tell you about this, you will get to re-live a piece of it (calm down - not all 10 years)  and experience it with me. Most importantly, I will tell you right now, the best way to head into the new year: It’s not about weight loss. It’s not about saving more money. It’s not about any resolutions.IN EPISODE 30 YOU WILL LEARN:• Why you have the power to create your own luck.• How a $3-of-kindness turned into too many dollars to count. • The science behind why giving (even a smile) gets you even more in return.• You are not alone.Oh, and next week … you’ll meet someone who is disrupting the world of mental health more than most anyone on the planet. So, please make sure to follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Because you won’t want to miss Dr. Jessica Taylor - especially if you’ve been diagnosed with any mental health “disorder.” ~dahlia xoP.S. By popular demand, the full video conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté is coming soon to my YouTube channel. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it! (The audio of that conversation can still be found in the podcast archives: Dr. Gabor Maté - Part 1 and Part 2.)LINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahliaBook Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speaker This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

We’re about to start your 2023 off right. This will set you up for maybe one of the best changes of your life. But, yes, I know it’s also a very challenging time. Look, January is scientifically the most difficult time of year for most people. And as someone who suffers from the January Januscaries, I can empathize.So here’s the plan for this episode: I will share a personal story - to show you where I’m coming from. BUT - I will also give you six simple, researched-backed questions to help change your life.Most importantly, I will tell you right now, the best way to head into the new year: It’s not about weight loss. It’s not about saving more money. It’s not about any resolutions.It’s about resolve.If you don’t want something to continue, don’t allow it.Resolve to stand up for yourself. And for others. Because if you allow it to continue. It will.But you want to know where that resolve comes from, especially when you feel like you’ve got nuttin’. You’re spent.Well, there’s a science to that too. And I’m not wasting another second of 2023. So let’s get right to it … IN EPISODE 29 YOU WILL LEARN:• Why January is - scientifically - the hardest month. • Six, research-backed questions proven to help you through the toughest times.• Why you don’t need resolutions and the importance of resolve. • How to find that resolve to change your life.• You are not alone.• Plus, you’ll discover the identity of our next guest.Also, please leave a review on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Really, it just makes it easier for other people to find this podcast, which is truly growing into a supportive community so much faster than I imagined.~dahlia xoP.S. By popular demand, the full video conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté is coming soon to my YouTube channel. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it! (The audio of that conversation can still be found in the podcast archives: Dr. Gabor Maté - Part 1 and Part 2.)LINKSPodcast Archive: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/podcastYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/dahliakurtzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dahliakurtzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dahlia Book Dahlia to speak at your next event: https://www.dahliakurtz.com/speaker This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com

If you want a jump start on 2023 - and your life - this is for you. In this final release of 2022, I share the most-listened to episode of the year. Well, second most, because it’s not fair to count the two super-viral episodes with Dr. Gabor Maté: Part 1 and Part 2. (And in case you missed any, find three more must-listen-to-episodes of 2022 below.)Gabor will help you heal from trauma. So, make sure to check that out if you haven’t already. But looking to those at the end of their life - and their deepest regrets - will help you live a more fulfilled and meaningful life. I promise.Imagine it’s your last day on Planet Earth, and I introduce you to the person whom you’ve always wanted to meet. You.Well, the person you would have become had you done all of those things that you always wanted to do. But didn’t… What a pang in the stomach, right. What does this tell you?You see, you’re not stressed about all of those things you have to do. You’re stressed out about all of those things that you haven’t done. That you still haven’t done. That you have yet to do.So how do you avoid those top-5 regrets? Embrace the 10 things that you really need in life (that are either science-backed or experienced-back). IN EPISODE 25 YOU WILL LEARN:• The top-5 regrets of people in their last days.• 10 things you can start right now to avoid those regrets. (This will come with science-backed evidence - but most importantly, it will come from my heart.)• Self-compassion.• Why science says you try to fill the “happiness void” with all of the wrong things.• You are not alone.As this community grows, we are growing and evolving. So big changes are coming in 2023. Make sure you’re subscribed and following this podcast. You don’t want to miss what’s next - considering you’re a part of this. And why don’t you join me over Instagram while you’re at it?But you’re kinda always with me already. In the episodes I create, the videos I make, even the keynotes I speak. You inspire me. And your support inspires. So thank you.Your 2023 will be better. I will make sure of it. ~dahlia xoMISS ANY OF THESE FAV EPISODES OF 2022?DO YOU OVERTHINK AND PROCRASTINATE? HERE'S THE SOLUTION FOR PROCRASTINATION: Learn the 6 things you need to know to overcome procrastination - from science-backed research - and from my confessions.3 REASONS WHY YOU TAKE PEOPLE'S OPINIONS TOO SERIOUSLY - AND 3 WAYS TO STOP THAT: And you’re not the only one. There’s a science behind this…DEAR DOVE: My open letter to Dove. Why it’s time to wash the beauty’s company’s mouth out with soapAlso, please leave a review on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Really, it just makes it easier for other people to find this podcast - which is truly growing into a supportive community so much faster than I imagined. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dahliakurtz.substack.com